Feb 9 2012

Are you an Energy Sponge? Protect your space by defining it…

Years ago loft spaces were reserved for artists, dancers, and the avant-garde. A few years after the movie “Flashdance” came out (1983) people started asking me about purchasing those very cool loft spaces to live in or as a live/work space. They wanted open space with no walls so they could define individual spaces with nothing more than furniture and their imagination. What’s so cool about a traditional loft (as opposed to a soft loft with walls defining the bedrooms) is that those big open spaces give you a feeling of well, space. Although completely open, there are no walls to walk around and once defined creates the illusion of seperate areas while at the same time offering a sense of openess. It is totally up to you how you want to divide and define the space. Since it is your home or work space it’s also up to you who you’d like to invite in.

You have an energetic space….Do you define it?

Much like a loft space needs you to define the space, your energy body does as well. If you don’t know where your space is, any old thing can get in. This is why you might have days that leave you feeling like you were hit by a truck. Healers and empaths are particularly vulnerable to energy and if you don’t define your personal space you are going to soak up everyone else’s problems, emotions, and pain like a sponge. I’m frequently asked how to keep out energy vampires who suck the life right out of you. When you define and occupy your space this simply cannot happen. It’s not your responsibility to soak up or hold on to other peoples ‘stuff’. I’m sure you have more than enough of your own to deal with. So how do you protect your space by defining it?

Putting up walls….

Walls are a way to define space however they can be closed in. We put a wall up here and a wall up there and pretty soon those walls actually point us in a different direction because we have to walk around them. Protecting your energetic space is very much the same thing. If you put up walls to protect yourself it doesn’t just keep out the negative, it keeps out the positive too! Putting up walls puts you in effort and resistance. It may also be that someone has created those walls for you. Are you walking around any walls which someone else built? Again think of it like a home. Have you ever wanted to open up a wall that was already there so you could open up the space? Are the pre-defined walls you must walk around possibly changing your direction? You don’t have to put up walls to protect your space!

Draw a line in the sand!

Protecting your space is much like drawing a line in the sand. You create a space (or boundary if you’d prefer to call it that) which defines where you are. You allow others to come in by agreement. When you’re in a relationship for instance you WANT to share intimate space with a special person but you can still own your space within the relationship. Picture yourself in a gold bubble of energy which comes out about 3 feet all around you. Fully occupy the gold bubble and fill it with your happy thoughts. Consider it a safe, peaceful place. Fill yourself up with gold and allow everything else to fall away. Defining your space energetically tells YOU where it is. I can tell you from personal experience it is possible for personal energy to take up a whole room. I will also tell you that it doesn’t feel good when you do that! When you clearly define your space not only will you feel more comfortable but you won’t be affected by the energies of everyone in the room.

Practice makes perfect

Imagining yourself walking around in a bubble of energy takes a bit of practice but don’t just use it when you are with those who push your buttons and get to you. Practice when it doesn’t count! Think of it as a fun game just to see what happens! There are many ways to define your space and this is just one of them. No matter which method you decide to use, take time to practice until it becomes natural. Effort doesn’t work but your imagination and vision does. Define and create a beautiful space that you enjoy being in. Protect yourself by being in your happy place!~Shine Your Light Debbie

Note: Want to learn how to protect your space? “Protecting Your Space” meditation workshop is now available for purchase on my website.

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Jan 25 2012

Twinkle, twinkle little star, you light the darkness from afar…

In this vast universe of many galaxies, we are but a small blip on the radar. We are merely a pinpoint of light in our own galaxy yet there are times when our personal world feels larger than life, unmanageable and out of control. It is those dark, out of control times when it’s time to our realign yourself and find a star to light your way.

Everything that happens in life happens for a reason even if you don’t see what it is at first. It might take years before you put together the pieces of the puzzle but when you are finally able to fit those pieces together you find clarity and understanding. Clarity and understanding is only the beginning. Just like everything else understanding why is a process of clearing which leads to self forgiveness and healing.

When you are ready to heal you see a twinkling star in the darkness and experience the world as a bright magical place. When you are ready to heal you forgive yourself and call back your energy and power. When you are ready to heal you allow inspiration to guide you and end identifying with yourself as a victim. When you are ready to heal you free yourself from the past and take a stand in the present. When you are ready to heal you reconnect with your childlike spirit who at one time, looked up and wondered what the beautiful twinkling light is in the sky….Inside of you is that innocent child who sees the world with wonder and finds magic in a simple flower along the path. Is it time to heal your inner child and have a play date or two? Is it time to let go of a past full of memories that no longer serve your highest good? Only you can answer the question; Are you ready to heal?

The twinkling star in the sky lights your way and is there to remind you that you are not alone in the world. A twinkling star reminds you that there is a beautiful spark of light inside you. There is inspiration and light all around you when you are ready to see it. While it is true all your answers lie within, every now and again we need to look up, give our inner child a hug and point out the twinkling lights.

“Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.

When the blazing sun is gone,
When he nothing shines upon,
Then you show your little light, Twinkle, twinkle, all the night.

Then the traveller in the dark,
Thanks you for your tiny spark,
He could not see which way to go,
If you did not twinkle so.

In the dark blue sky you keep,
And often through my curtains peep,
For you never shut your eye, Till the sun is in the sky.

As your bright and tiny spark,
Lights the traveller in the dark.
Though I know not what you are,
Twinkle, twinkle, little star.

Twinkle, twinkle, little star.
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.

Twinkle, twinkle, little star.
How I wonder what you are. How I wonder what you are.”
~Jane Taylor 1806 (English Poet)

Did you know there are 7 verses to that song? Full of wonder, full of light, full of passion in full sight. You once saw the world through innocent eyes full of hope. You can have that back when you are ready to heal. Connect with your inner child. See how they are doing and give them a hug. Find the star that lights your way and….~Shine Your Light~Debbie

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Jan 17 2012

On the road to success do you get in your own way? (Part 1)

It goes without saying that we all want to be successful. We dream big, imagine what life would be like and sometimes we even start building a foundation for success yet for some reason there are times we become stuck or blocked on the way. The people who we perceive as successful were not without challenges and pitfalls; they persevered, climbed out of the pit and turned stumbling blocks into stepping-stones. How did they do it you might ask. The answer to that question is simple. They got out of their own way by focusing on success instead of the energies which come up time and time again as they moved closer to their goal.

Of course there are many reasons why you get close to success and movement seems to abruptly stop just short of your goal. This is precisely the time to take time in meditation to see what’s happening. I’ve listed here the top four energies which I continually see come up during reading sessions and workshops. It’s interesting to note how easily it these 4 energies take over. If you don’t take time to acknowledge and clear them out it is YOU who get in the way of your own success.

Fear of Success

In a recent workshop on creating one of the students left trembling and in tears. I spoke with her a few days later and asked about her experience. She told me that in the workshop she created something so BIG that she became overwhelmed with what she had just put into motion and it frightened her to the very core. The truth of what happened was that all the energies about how much her life would change, what she would have to let go of and who she might have to leave behind in the process came up. At any point on your road to success pictures and energies will get stimulated and you can move through them and let them go or you can hold on tightly. Worrying about ‘what’s next’ is also a fear which should be addressed. Once you’ve put into motion your success it’s in motion! If you allow the fear to control the outcome, you’ve gotten in your own way. Let go of the fear and allow success to unfold before your very eyes!

Limiting Beliefs

Is there a limit to how successful you can be? Did someone once tell you that for some reason you weren’t good enough or smart enough to be truly successful? Were you programmed to believe your life should unfold in a certain order or what your particular role should be Did you identify with what they told you and at some point it became your truth? I see this a lot when I read women. They are in a struggle to meet the programming of being a wife and mother vs. a successful business woman following their dreams. In a sense they are limiting their experience to one or the other. There are many people, not just women, who hold on to the belief that life is supposed to be a certain way. If you believe what others have told you about what your role should be or you put limits on your success you are getting in your own way. Turn your attention within and discover what makes you tick, what YOU believe about yourself and know that you indeed can succeed no matter what. Find those things YOU are enthusiastic about creating in your life. Your idea of success might very well be completely different from someone else’s. Welcome support from others, ‘divorce’ the naysayers in your life and in the words of a dear friend ‘believe you can achieve’ and you will! Read More

I have split this post into Part 1 & Part 2 to go into more detail . Part 2 is about raising your havingness, clearing resistance and measuring success. CLICK HERE for Part 2.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Jan 17 2012

On the road to success do you get in your own way? (Part 2)

This is Part 2 of “On the road to success do you get in your own way.” CLICK HERE for Part 1.

No matter where you are on your road to success there will always be something that comes up. This is what growth and expansion is all about. You do not need to allow the energies or pictures which inevitably surface to stop you. It is the steps you take when these energies get stimulated that makes the difference between staying stuck and moving forward again. Getting out of your own way is about taking back your power and creativity from those places you’ve given up space to in the past.

Raise your havingness!

Havingness is about how much can you have. It may be that although you dream it and wish it your ‘havingness quotient’ doesn’t allow you to have your success. One can see what I’m talking about clearly if you take a look at how many lottery winners end up broke after a few years. While one could argue that they made poor decisions it is more about how much they could have and felt they deserved. On the other side of the equation you see people who came from humble beginnings become VERY successful. They stopped identifying with their past and found value in what they could bring to the table. Chris Gardner, portrayed by Will Smith in the movie Pursuit of Happiness, struggled financially and then was homeless before he took charge of his life. By raising his havingness he created (and attracted) opportunities. If he didn’t recognize and connect with his intrinsic value and continued to identify himself as a hopeless, homeless man he would not be where he is today. Raising your havingness can be as simple as connecting with your value and that you deserve all you are receiving. Have gratitude and give thanks every step of the way.

Resisting the process

Every journey to success is a process. There is no way around it. Resisting the process not only makes the journey longer it can also cause it to be painful and frustrating. Until you clear the resistance to the process itself, whether it is yours or anothers, you will remain exactly where you are. In spirit there is no time or space. What you create, dream and imagine is already out there waiting for you to clear enough space (and raise your havingness) for it to come in. In the physical realm things take time. Get out of your own way by clearing resistance. There is plenty of resistance and competition in the world today. Step out of it. Take time each day to find peace and neutrality within. Allow everything that comes up or at you to gently fall away.

Measuring Success

Each of us has a different measure of success. For some it is money, for others it is fame. Some measure success by number of pounds lost on the scale while others by what they see in the mirror. Some measure success by their number of Facebook friends or Twitter followers and others by the quality of people in their life. However you measure your success be sure to be specific and include more than one thing. In fact take a moment now to think of at least 3 things that will clearly let you know you’ve arrived at a particular destination. Make one your real goal and the other two from other areas of your life. Picture yourself basking in the glow of success and measure it to YOU not someone else.

Every journey has its pitfalls and challenges but with strength of spirit and perseverance you can succeed. Success comes in CANS so don’t believe anyone who tells you, you can’t. No one is immune to challenges and is happy and successful all the time. Not everyone will embrace your success or support you on the way. It might feel like an uphill battle at times but in the end it is all worth the journey. There are plenty of energies and naysayers that get in the way so don’t YOU be one of them!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Dec 17 2011

Tis the Season for Miracles & Light!

The miracle of a container of oil that should have only lasted one day and burned for eight. A bright star lit the way for three wise men to witness a miracle birth. The miracle that the sun will shine & days become longer after the darkness of winter are some of the celebrations that go back thousands of years to mark the month of December.

No matter which holiday you celebrate, the common thread is MIRACLES & LIGHT! A miracle occurred and we honor those miracles by lighting a menorah, placing twinkling lights on a Christmas tree and to this day there are still winter solstice celebrations with bon fires. We may not think about each and every miracle as we illuminate our celebrations, but we look towards the light with hope and faith.

The ”spirit of the season” is in the very air that surrounds us! This truly is a time to celebrate spirit. When you allow your own light to shine it is a miracle. YOU are a miracle to celebrate! It is the spark of spirit that lies within you that when allowed to shine in all its glory illuminates your path with clarity.

Even a tiny spark can grow into a bright beautiful flame. Where there is light there can be NO darkness for darkness simply CANNOT exist in the presence of light. Honor yourself and your spirit within! Embrace all that you are and all you are becoming. Celebrate the miracle of your own birth. Find your passion and follow your hearts desire. YOU TRULY ARE A MIRACLE TO BEHOLD!

Now, in the spirit of the season, I would like to honor YOU and the miracle that you are! I want to thank you for touching my life and inspiring me to continue my work. I’m grateful and feel blessed to have so many angels that walk the earth in my life.

Our connection whether it be in the physical or in spirit is greatly appreciated and brings light to my life as I hope I’m able to do for you. I would like to share with you something I received from one of my earth angels. Odo Tinteri is an Italian artist and wrote the words below. Although I am not the author of these beautiful wishes, they are my wishes for you as well. I have copied his message and not made any changes to the English translation:

“I wish you Health, which is the most precious thing. I wish you a smile with open arms to receive friendship, like the most beautiful flower, needs to be watered with the basin of the hands. I wish that the sun always enters your home window to illuminate your kind thoughts and that the wind brings away your fears and anxiety.

I wish that love embraces your soul in a continuing dance, remembering that love needs big eyes and careful ears….or else it disappears with the light of the day. I wish you the world and the will to look at it in the face with great pleasure…”

May you ignite your spark to create a flame that shines brightly upon the world! May you find an infinite abundance of peace within. May you access your passion and love so when illuminated, passion and love will find you!

Wishing you a glorious and miraculous holiday season filled with divine light, peace, love and many blessings! With much Love~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Dec 7 2011

Healing those who don’t want it….

Healing others is a natural ability and something you may have done your whole life. Perhaps you have recently found a technique that not only helps you heal yourself but others as well. VOILA! you’ve found THE answer you’ve been looking for!

You can heal yourself AND someone else! You feel great and want to share what you’ve learned and shed light wherever and whenever because it feels good to help and you CAN! You can’t even imagine why someone wouldn’t want to heal. After all it’s simple, easy and you definitely have the ability to help. Of course, why wouldn’t you want to share and heal those closest to you?

So there you are, shining your light and healing yourself. A friend comes along and is sad, working through a problem, is depressed, sick or even merrily on their way but you can see, sense and feel something’s not right. You are so enthusiastic about healing, that you jump in with both feet. You’re going to help them! It could be an energy healing, reading or just sending out all the light and love you can. Whatever you use you’re going to make them feel better using your healing ability!

This is very noble…it’s also called being a friend However, before you jumped in, did you ask if them if they wanted the healing? Did you “read” them without permission? I can tell you from personal experience that when you are a healer and do what comes naturally to you it may not always be welcome.When you ‘come to the rescue’ particularly in matters of the heart, without permission you can get punished on an energetic level. The person will go into resistance, put a wall up and run for the hills.

A very dear friend of mine wrote me the perfect metaphor for describing what happens. If you are an out of control healer like I can sometimes be, I think you’ll find a great deal of information in what he wrote!

“You know how if you’re in a dark place, and someone turns on a light when they’re not expecting or wanting it, and they feel blinded? And they need the light turned off NOW because their eyes haven’t adjusted yet? Well I think there’s an analogy to be made when it comes to matters of the heart. Sometimes you need to give people time for their hearts to adjust. Sometimes it’s better to knock on the door and open it sloooowwwwly, letting little bits of light in at a time. You may know they’re better off with lots of light, but that’s not always the point. They might need time to acclimate. And you might need to ask why they were in the dark. That might give you lots of information about how to give them light.”~SBS (reprinted with permission)

Each person knows whats best for their own healing and heals in their own time. In fact, as pointed out to me, you can get so attached to the outcome of the healing that you forget there is a very sensitive human being going through something that may be very painful to shed light on all at once.

Shine your light from within and heal yourself. Allow others to come to you to bathe in your light when THEY are ready. Be a good friend and not only listen, but hear what someone is telling you. They may have a very good reason they want and need to go slooooowwwwly. ~Shine your light~ Debbie

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Oct 21 2011

SPECIAL ARIZONA WORKSHOP 11/06! Celebration of the Divine Feminine Women’s Workshop & Labrynth Walk

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Sep 14 2011

Tell Someone You Love Them; You Never Know What Tomorrow Brings…

Today I found out that one of my friends who was in fact my next door neighbor growing up, passed away suddenly at age of 50. We had just recently re-connected on Facebook and he took the time to reach out to me via private email. He asked me to call him to catch up which I very much wanted to do.

I never made that phone call. Not because I didn’t want to but I was in the middle of a dark moment of my own and needed to keep busy and to heal. A sad excuse to be sure. I’ll call tomorrow, I told myself, but after a few months I still hadn’t made the call.

Life is too short to dwell on the past or worry about the future. Imagine if you logged the time spent not living life to its fullest. How much time do you spend worrying about things that you have no control over? How much time do you spend lamenting about something in the past that you can’t change? How many times were you just ‘too busy’ to make the call? How much time do you spend worrying about a future that is only yours to create from the present?

This reminds me of the Harry Chapin song “Cats in the Cradle”. All those times we intend to re-connect, spend time with someone, tell someone we love them or forgive them are merely intention and while the intention is there unless you act on it, your moment might just pass; You never know if tomorrow you might not be able to do it.

Back in 1980 there was a man I re-connected with after living out of the country. It was a beautiful night, the moon was bright and the stars were shining. I so wanted to tell him I loved him but was afraid of his reaction. That night he asked me to call him in the morning. On my way home that night I decided to tell him when I saw him the next day. I called in the morning. His father answered the phone and told me he had been shot and killed after I left him. To this day if there is something I want to tell someone I tell them without fear or regret.

Life is much to short to spend it worrying. There should never be a time when you are too busy to pick up that phone and make amends, tell someone you love them or go on that lunch date. Don’t let time slip between your fingers until it’s too late. You never know what tomorrow will bring.

Live well, follow your passion, laugh often and spend real TIME with those you love. If you’ve intended on doing it, make time in your busy schedule to re-connect, reach out, forgive and tell someone you love them. How about right NOW? ~Shine Your Light Debbie

This blog is dedicated to and in memory of Alan Wolkoff. Rest in peace my friend.

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Sep 9 2011

Commemorating 9/11

As the stories and images from 9/11 fill the airwaves we reflect upon not only the events of that day but how those events touched each of our lives in some way. Each and every one of us was affected in some way shape or form and each of us has a personal story about that day….

It was a beautiful sunny day in Chicago on September 11, 2001. I went out for a run and remember how the sun was playfully dancing on the grass, reflecting the crisp blue sky in the mirrored buildings and on the lake. Glancing up at the skyline and marveling at its magnificence I remember feeling happy yet at the same time, there was this nagging feeling I had to get home….

I cut my run short that morning. When I got home, I went into the kitchen ignoring the beeping of my answering machine, grabbed a cup of coffee and came back into the living room where I had left the TV on before I left. Charlie Gibson was on Good Morning America showing a clip of a plane hitting the first World Trade Center building. I thought they were showing a trailer for a new movie coming out. “Are you kidding?” I thought, “Who would make a movie like that?”

In this case, truth is clearly more horrible than fiction. I sat down and watched live as the second plane hit. I went completely numb! This was no movie! It was happening and happening NOW! I sat in stunned silence watching the events in New York, DC & Pennsylvania unfold. Yes, I remember that morning clearly even 10 years later and I’m sure I’m not the only one. All over the world people came together. There was an outpouring of love and it seemed for a moment the world came together as a family.

We honor the victims, survivors and everyone who rose in service on that day and in the days to follow. Our heroes are the firefighters and police who went well beyond the call of duty to save lives. Many of them made the ultimate sacrifice…their lives. We feel connected in some way as Americans and it does not matter if we personally knew anyone involved. We grieve and wrap our arms around all who were directly affected yet who among us was not affected?

It saddens me that in the last few weeks I’ve read about conspiracy theories and more recently that first responders, Police, Firefighters etc were not ‘invited’ to Ground Zero memorial ceremonies. I agree with the outrage. As one article put it “they weren’t invited on that day in 2001 either. They just showed up”. What would have happened if they didn’t respond until September 12th? How many more lives would have been sacrificed?

That said, this is not about a rant because I seriously think all of that must be put aside and our focus should stay on healing. It is time to put aside the judgements or we are no better than the terrorist who planned the attacks. It is time to stand tall and become a family again. For on that day in 2001 we were a family, grieving together, mourning together and watching a real life horror story.

This is a time to honor those who died and thank those in law enforcement, the Fire Department, the Military and anyone else who stepped up to go beyond the call of duty for their contributions and sacrifice on that day and since that day. It is time to embrace our loved ones and teach tolerance and love. It is a time to find peace within as we remember~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Sep 1 2011

The Risk of Shining Outweighs the Risk of Blending In!

Photo Courtesy of Lake County Forest Preserve

Making the decision to live from the truth of who you really are verses blending in with the status quo is indeed risky. It might mean people will see ALL of you even those parts where you feel you are imperfect. It might mean everyone won’t like you for speaking your mind or not giving up space to their dramas.

You can blend in, going with the flow of others instead of your own but in the end, you’ll find you are asking yourself why. When you blend in, you lose a part of yourself. For some, blending in is the very thing they need and want to do. They don’t want to upset the apple cart so to speak. They are content living their lives from the programming set up for them by parents, teachers or society. They are not wrong for wanting this and you are not wrong for wanting something different!

The rare pink katydid shown in the picture is beautiful! She runs the risk of being seen and eaten by any number of predators. Unlike the other katydids she does not blend in with the leaves for safety. She shows herself. What a shame it would be if we did not have a chance to see her! This katydid is rare and unique…just like YOU! There is no one like you anywhere and you have a contribution to make. You might not realize it but you do. We ALL do!

When you bring your rare, unique energy in to your body you stand out in a crowd. There is no camouflage and it might feel uncomfortable at first. Although standing out in a crowd, living life to the beat of your own drum is risky you will find great value in doing so. It allows you to bring forth and create a life you are passionate about living! What’s the point of living a day-to-day existence if you are not living your dream?

Deciding to be your own person may take some healing in areas of your life where you’ve lived from someone else’s picture of what or who you are. You might need to clear pain, heal past wounds or let go of being responsible for someone else’s pain. There is nothing noble or enlightened about carrying around other peoples pain and not shining so others are comfortable. You have a divine right to be here and you have a divine right to shine.

Choosing to show your true colors to the world opens up a whole new world for you! Isn’t it interesting that the rare pink katydid flourishes despite the risk of showing herself? She might be rare but she exists, proudly showing her bubblegum pink self for all to see. So to you I say; Show yourself and make your contribution to the world! Come out, come out wherever you are!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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