3 Truths about why we don't meditate as often as we want to

4 Truths about Why We Don’t Meditate as Often as We’d Like to…

3 Truths about why we don't meditate as often as we want to“Half an hour’s meditation each day is essential, except when you are busy. Then a full hour is needed.”~Saint Francis de Sales

Have you ever wondered why it’s so challenging to meditate as often as you might want to? It may not be what you think!

In 1992 in addition to my clairvoyant readings I started teaching meditation to awaken people to their own clairvoyant abilities.

In my career I’ve heard every reason you can possibly think of for why someone doesn’t meditate as often as they want to. Of course I’m mainly talking to those who are on a spiritual journey and consciously making the choice to incorporate meditation into their daily life.

Now, I totally understand if meditation is not for you BUT if you’re ‘meditation curious’, want to commit to increasing your awareness by adding (or resetting) a daily meditation practice read on! There might be an answer or three for you about why you meditate on and off,  why it’s hard to start, or even continue the process!

Why is it so “hard” to meditate?

If you think about it, that question is not only funny but it’s an oxymoron. The simple answer to the question is…It’s NOT hard to meditate in fact it’s really EASY to meditate. There are many types of meditation. Some meditate sitting on the floor, in some special yoga posture, or laying down. I teach a specific type of meditation where you sit in a chair with your feet firmly planted on the floor.

The reason I bring up different types of meditation is because one of the reasons it might feel “hard” to meditate because we have a concepts of what it should and shouldn’t be. Different types of meditation feel different to our bodies and what might be right for one, may not be right for someone else.

Meditation Tip:

  1. Choose a meditation that works for YOU.
  2. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Your willingness and curiosity is all you need.
  3. Put a smile on your face and laugh. The moment you laugh at thinking it’s hard, it won’t be hard anymore.

But I can’t empty my mind.

You’re absolutely right, you can’t! What if instead of always trying to empty your mind you simply sat down in your chair and allowed all those thoughts to have their own space? Allow them to meander hither and thither.

When you center your awareness and allow those thoughts just to BE, you will find you’re no longer in effort “trying”. The more we fight against what we’re experiencing, the more stuck we become and the harder it is.

Meditation Tip:

  1.  Notice if you’re “trying” to empty your mind. If you’re “trying” you’re in effort. Allow your thoughts, feelings and emotions to be there. Give them a space to simply BE.
  2. Give yourself a breath, return to center and watch as your thoughts meander hither and thither then give yourself another breath and return to center once again.
  3. Simply decide you’re going to give yourself a breath and listen to it or connect with your heartbeat. You can even use your imagination to tap into the flow of the earth with curiosity. Note: When you do this you’re directing your thoughts instead of being consumed by them.

I don’t have time to meditate.

I hear this ALL the time. Now clearly there are many reasons for this and I get it but I’m going to ask you a question: How will you have time if you don’t make the time?

If you’re not scheduling it, you’re choosing not to make time. Now, I have no investment in your schedule, in fact I’m completely neutral with your choices. You can schedule or not schedule. That said,  when it’s on your schedule there’s a greater chance you’ll actually move forward to attend to your daily practice.

Meditation Tip:

  1. Give yourself quiet time. You’ll have more energy to tackle the rest of your day. If it’s really challenging for you, start by checking in with yourself every hour for a few minutes. Just see how you’re doing and where you are. Give yourself a gentle breath and return to center. Note: This simple exercise will help shift your energy and attention which will make it easier to finally sit down in that chair.
  2. Give yourself a BREAK! If you consider meditation “hard” why would you make time for it? I mean who wants to spend time struggling and in effort? Give yourself a break and think of it as giving a gift to yourself. 
  3. Give yourself a daily gift and actually add meditation to your schedule.

It’s not you it’s the energy.

Have you ever considered that it’s the energy that you want to step out of or release that is the cause of your inability to keep up your practice? It’s true! The energy and attention from others, the energy of doubt, the energy of all you’ve become responsible for does NOT want you to release it!

If I can guarantee one thing about meditation it’s that taking time for yourself might turn your world upside down. This is especially true if you’re always giving to others but not to yourself. It means you won’t be available to energy vampires or the ones who like to dump their problems or pain into your lap. 

Meditation Tip:

  1. The more you meditate the more you have a space to be. The more space you have to BE the LESS you are effected by the energies you encounter every day!
  2. Take baby steps and make it a game. Tell yourself you’re only going to sit down for 5 minutes. Keep doing it until your able to find some amusement with all the distractions trying desperately to keep you from moving out whatever you’ve become responsible for.

So there you have 4 truths (out of hundreds if not thousands more reasons) as to why it can be challenging. I included meditation tips to to help you connect more with your “happy place.”

If you’re interested in learning the fundamentals of meditation, you’re interested in resetting or jump starting a meditation practice or would like to add new techniques to your current practice please join me for one of my monthly on-line workshops or schedule a one-to-one mentoring.

No matter what you choose to do be sure to enter the space with curiosity and willingness to explore!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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All healing is self-healing: You can’t “do it” for someone else

All healing is self-healing and no matter how much you want a friend, lover or family member to heal there are just some healing journeys that you are not meant to take with or for someone else.

While it is in your control to hold space, send healing light, understand, empathize, listen and be a good friend it is not necessary, nor should you, actually do it for them.

If you’re one of those healers or empaths that takes on someone else’s pain  you may find yourself in pain and getting angry because you’re not validated for what you have done.*

*As an aside, it is not recommended you heal others in this way but it does happen. You never have to take on someone else’s pain.

What’s right for you or me is not necessarily right for someone else. Healing someone who doesn’t want to do it themselves or the same way as you do will not only lead to frustration but it’s possible that your attention and energy will be in their space.

As a being, that person might be working to empower themselves. If you try to take away their pain you are, in essence, invalidating their ability to heal themselves and it’s very likely they will become uncomfortable or angry. If they do become uncomfortable or angry it is a guarantee they will resist even the best of intentions.

In this situation, it is better to find your neutrality and heal yourself first. Seek to understand what it is within YOU that:

1. is a ‘match’ to the other person (there is always an energy within you that, at some level, matches the person you’re trying to heal)

2. wants to control someone else’s healing process. The difficulties and challenges that one person faces are very different from those of another and who is to say what internal process another person is going through.

Everyone heals in their own time…

To you it may not look like someone is healing if they are taking longer to do it than you would. Each of us makes our way as it is meant to be and the process takes as long as it takes. There is no time frame. It may take a day for one person, a week for another or a lifetime for someone else.

The most loving thing you can do is take a step back to honor and respect where someone is on their healing journey. Allow them the space to go through whatever it is they need to. There may be a very good reason they are taking their time.

It’s also important to recognize that the answer YOU found to heal a similar pain is not necessarily someone else’s answer. If you have judgement about how to do it or how long it should take, it invalidates the person AND the healing that is already in process. Take a step back to really see how much progress has been made.

Each of us must take responsibility for our own energy and healing process. Each of us has the ability to find our own answers. Heal yourself and honor the journey of others without judgement. Support and love those who are in process.

Be there to offer a kind word, a warm hug, or an ear to listen. Show or teach them how to heal with grace. The BEST way to help someone heal is to lead by example; Heal yourself. It shows others it is possible to heal and gives them permission to do the same.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant Visionary, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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