#OCCUPYWITHIN – Daily Muse

“My destination is no longer a place, rather a new way of seeing.”~Marcel Proust

There are personal messages in all that you see and all you are aware of. Your growth and expansion as a being is about increasing awareness and learning how to use what’s going on “outside” of you to heal and release those things “inside”.

Growth and expansion is really a “clearing out” to making more room for you come IN. The more of your energy you’re able to bring IN the more growth and expansion.

Recognizing those areas where you are growing and expanding as well as those messages which help guide your direction are found in your day-to-day circumstances and what you are attracting into your life at any given moment. You can also choose to use every outer circumstance for inner growth.

For example: They are replacing the windows in my building. The replacements are thicker, sturdy, a different style and of course, they are new and totally clean. The project will be messy, inconvenient, at times uncomfortable, and I will have to actually leave my home for at least one day while they take out the old and replace with the new.

Now that is enough in and of itself however it’s not just the window replacement. The condo next to me recently purchased and gutted it for renovation. Hmmm more construction. Add to that the building next door is in process of being torn down to make room for a new store and 40 story building. Hmmmm more construction! I’m surrounded by major construction projects all of which are in process of tearing everything down to make space for sparkly, new.

“Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.”~Heath L. Buckmaster

How do we use the construction to recognize and confirm our growth and expansion? Well, for starters, we are all construction projects. We start asking questions. Where are our walls? What are the limits that stop us from building a beautiful new building. What are we in the middle of now? What walls and limits are solidly in place either by our choosing or because, at some level, we consciously or unconsciously agreed to not go beyond those walls?

When we speak of windows we are reminded of seeing with more clarity and certainty. What if we viewed our inner and outer world with an expanded perspective? What if we choose to see beyond our current horizons? What if it’s more about building upon a more solid foundation and emerging?

Growth and expansion is rarely convenient, comfortable, neat and tidy. More often than not, as with all construction projects, it is not only the opposite but just like construction projects, there are twists and turns and possible delays!

“I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”~Rainer Maria Rilke

Recognizing your growth and expansion is no different from asking questions, reviewing where you’ve been, what you’ve learned and acknowledging how far you have already come. Life is about becoming. It is a learning experience always under construction.

Live your questions and be aware of the answers you are receiving. Growth and expansion is not necessarily about a bolt of lightning or an epiphany, although it could be. Most times you don’t have to go any farther “than your own backyard” as Dorothy states in the Wizard of Oz.

What you attract, the thread of commonality that runs through your day-to-day life, is how you start to recognize where you are and what you’re working on. What you are going through shows you what you CAN and probably are, working on to move forward.

See through new eyes! Build upon a new foundation! Live your questions! Emerge and embrace the person you are meant to be.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Do you have a challenge when it comes to asking for what you want? Do you feel like you have to do everything alone? Do you “hint” at your wants and needs hoping someone “picks up on them?

More importantly do you refrain from bringing up what you want and need because you don’t want to “bother” or “burden” someone else?

“From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us–it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.”~Amanda Palmer

It takes a great deal of courage to be direct and ask for what we want and need. The Amanda Palmer quote really sums it up nicely. Many of us are challenged asking for help. We don’t want to be a “bother” but there is also another side of the equation to consider and, aside from needing to ask for help; Are we being clear and expressing to our loved ones and friends what we want and need from them day-to-day?

We move through our lives thinking people are going to figure us out. We hint, we hope and we think we are being clear but, and this is a BIG but, we may not be communicating as clearly as we think we are. Sometimes we circle round and round like a labyrinth until we finally arrive at our destination. Well my friends, the distance between two points does not have to include walking a maze with only one way in and one way out.

I admit I’m not always the best at voicing my wants and needs. What if I sound silly? What if someone doesn’t like what I’m saying? What if I’m perceived as not being a strong woman or the opposite, too pushy or bossy? No one wants to be perceived as “needy or weak, pushy or bossy” and sometimes it takes all I have to speak my truth and allow my vulnerable self to be seen.

We cannot be afraid of how we “think” others will perceive what we are saying. We should not ‘decide’ what someone else thinks, or what they will or won’t do, or how they will or won’t react to what we’re saying because the reality is we will, more than likely, be wrong.

To me asking for what I want and need, not in terms of needing help but sharing with others my vulnerabilities, is much like cracking open a closet filled to the brim. I’m afraid everything will come spilling out and I will be seen as incompetent, high maintenance or “less than” I am. The beauty of asking for what we want and need is that it is not only brave and vulnerable in that it tells someone about us it hopefully opens up a conversation so they can do the same with us.

Asking for what we want and need is not about demands, expectations or ultimatums. What I’m referring to is taking the guesswork out of the equation. While we can hope our loved ones and friends are aware and paying attention, people cannot read minds nor do most pick up on our so-called “cues” and hints. This is also not to say others can fully hear us and/or are open and available to give us what we want or need; But the fact is, at least we’ve verbally, to the best of our ability, communicated our wants and needs.

We can all use work on our communication and listening skills. We can all increase our awareness and pay more attention. If you are saying nothing then expecting something in your relationships you might want to have a look at the part YOU play in not having your wants and needs met.

If you happen to be blaming someone for not meeting your wants and needs ask yourself if you clearly and verbally communicated what they are. It seems more commonplace to let people “guess” and “assume” what we want than to speak from our heart and share what’s in there. Maybe we’re just afraid we’ll be disappointed if we speak up. Maybe we have in some way devalued our wants and needs and made others the priority.

Whatever stops you from clearly communicating your wants and needs, release it. You are important and your wants and needs have value. Be direct. Be brave. Be vulnerable. Be fearless. Be strong. Express what you want and need. Speak from the heart with love.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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