Tag Archives: COMMUNICATION

Feb 23 2011

Communication Nation~

The very first words spoken on the telephone by Alexander Graham Bell to his assistant in 1876 were “Mr. Watson, come here I need you.”  In 1928 my Grandfather, Maurice Bank, completed a design for the first two-way speaker system then invented and held the first patent for the intercom in 1933.  “Press a button and you’re there” was the ad. These things along with many others were invented to make communication easier and more efficient. Of course, we’ve come a long way since then. Now if you need someone or something, you simply send a text from your phone! Our world has truly become one big communication nation.

Although we have the ability to connect and communicate with people in ways we never thought possible this has also moved our attention and focus outside of ourselves. We have become a world nation of “first responders” instead of responding to ourselves first! Communication is easier but we are now more disconnected than ever. There are more filters in place and it is easy to misunderstand someone or be misunderstood. With so much of our time communicating through something else we have moved away from our most valuable connection; the connection that creates body/spirit communication.

When was the last time you said “Hello” to yourself and asked YOU how you are doing? The simple act of saying hello to yourself  opens a line of communication within. It starts a process of you discovering who you really are. When you  acknowledge yourself as spirit, you pave the way to give and receive a spirit to spirit hello from others! The best way I know to begin re-connecting is with meditation.

Meditation is a time for you to communicate with YOU.  It’s about re-booting, so to speak; separating from those other things shouting for your attention and discovering not only what your spirit wants you to know but what your body needs. It is a time to connect to and be in communication with the earth and the God of your heart. A time to connect with your body. A time to listen quietly for the messages you receive on a daily basis. How you communicate with others is directly related to how you communicate with yourself. Can you hear you?  Do you take time out of your day to find out how you are and what YOU need? If you ever have communication challenges with others, take a moment to look at how you are communicating with yourself.

It is said that necessity is the mother of invention but to be in communication with YOU there is nothing to invent! There are no filters, no waiting for response, nothing to buy, no misunderstandings. There is however, clarity, awareness and a sense of peace.  All that is necessary is for you to turn you attention within. Think of it this way; no one has ever said it’s dangerous to have clarity, awareness and a sense of peace while driving. :-) .~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2009-2011 All rights reserved 

Note: This post was written and initially published as a guest blog post on Kris Cahill’s Psychic Everyday . Thanks for inviting me to be a guest blogger Kris!

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Debra is a gifted clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer and intuitive coach providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. Based in Chicago, Debra also leads meditation workshops that help people awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts. To schedule a session or for more information on readings and workshops please visit her website or send an email request to Debra@SpiritLightInsight.com .

Jun 3 2010

Can you hear me now?

Remember the game “telephone” from when you were a child? That’s the game where one person whispers a sentence or two to another, then they whisper it to someone else and so on, until finally when everyone has told everyone else, the last person says the words out loud.

Perhaps I even as I described the game it gave you a chuckle. No matter what was whispered in the ear of the first person, the last person rarely had the words correct. If you remember, sometimes the sentence was complete gibberish and made no sense at all! :-)

At the end of the game, everyone usually laughed as the person who made up the sentence(s) stated what it was supposed to be in the first place. Although it is a fun game, it clearly illustrates some of the challenges one can encounter in daily communications.

Have you ever had someone completely misunderstand something that you clearly stated? Of course there is the obvious thought that maybe you didn’t communicate clearly. It could also be based on the intent of the communication itself.

BUT it is also possible that the person HEARING what you were trying to say was hearing you through the “filters” of their own personal experiences! If this happens, not only are they are no longer “hearing” YOU but the communication stops.

Just like in the telephone game, they are hearing what they “think” they heard and while they are processing whatever button you inadvertently pushed, they can’t hear anything else. 

When you are aware that this has happened, the tendency is to try to fix it or heal them to clear it up. The other thing that may happen is that you blame yourself. Either way, if someone can’t hear what you are trying to communicate, there isn’t anything you can say or do to clear it up in that moment.

So, what do you do if you feel someone has misunderstood you? Well, you can begin by forgiving yourself. :-) This is particularly important if you think you said something wrong! It is possible that you didn’t say anything wrong per se but that you hit an already tender spot (a picture they are working on clearing.)

The next thing you can do is to allow that person the space they need to process. If you try to heal them or fix it, in effect it’s like digging a hole for yourself. Keep in mind that whatever button you pressed, it’s theirs and you don’t have to be responsible for someones else’s ”stuff”. :-)  

All in all just remember that you communicate based on your own personal experiences and others hear you through theirs. Be kind to yourself and those you are communicating with. Come from a place of loving intent and forgive yourself and others if things go amiss. Shine Your Light~Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping people heal their spirit so they can create and live the life they choose. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts. For more information or to schedule a reading please send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com or visit her website.

Nov 14 2009

Your Inner Sanctuary~

imagesThe famous philosopher Socrates said “Beware the barreness of a busy life”. I think that’s a very interesting quote! Have you noticed these days how busy we all are? Much of our attention is focused on the outside, what needs to be done today, tomorrow…or right NOW.  

Our brains are moving in a thousand different directions. How do we mangage our jobs (or lack thereof), families and responsibilities? How can we create and manifest more money? Find the love of our lives? Be FREE? Why is this or that happening in our lives?

As the holiday’s are quickly approaching we find ourselves with even more “busy-ness” and yes, stress! Wouldn’t it be great if we could all experience a peaceful, Norman Rockwell painting type of holiday? Or how about  just have a moment  when the world wasn’t buzzing in our heads so loud it’s almost deafening? I call that ‘loud head’ btw…not exactly a psychic term but I think it describes it pretty well! :-)

It seems to me that the “barreness” Socrates is talking about is in many ways our own spirit. The joy of being safe in the body, at peace and in alignment with the earth, the universe and our very own selves. Occupying the space of our INNER SANCTUARY!

There is much talk about centering, alignment, creating (manifesting), being in the body etc. There are different beliefs & modalities as to how to get there, how to BE and how to manage it all in this world of “busy-ness”.  It can also feel very unsafe to be in the midst of it. The reality is that it is a challenge at best with our busy lives to merely sit down, let alone quiet the mind and be still.  After all there’s so much we need to DO! So what’s the bottom line? Well, read on dear ones!

All of this has to do with YOU taking CARE of YOURSELF! Actually taking the time to heal yourself, rejuvinate and bring back YOUR energy so you have access to it! :-) This of course means ALL OF YOU! MIND, BODY, SPIRIT AND SOUL!

 Not only CAN you do this but WHEN you do this, you will find you have more energy, less effort and things will begin to manifest themselves. Here are some interesting questions for you to ponder…. Do you care for yourself, answer to your own needs, nurture yourself and take as much time for YOU as you do for others? Do you take the time to quiet your mind, make your body safe, focus on your essence and what makes YOU happy? Do you feed your spirit & soul just as you feed your body?

For me, the answer lies in finding my INNER SANCTUARY. It’s really amazing how your “reality” will shift when you take time out of your day to access your inner sanctuary. It is a place of peace, a time to step out of the “busy-ness” of daily life. A place of safety where you can begin to clear whatever you have taken on from others. It is a place to re-discover all that is YOU and get in alignment with the flow of your desires & dreams.

Getting grounded and making the body safe is the first step. When you are grounded, releasing all you have taken on and focusing on the flow of energy you can effortlessly move into your INNER SANCTUARY. Your own personal place of peace & calm. There is a true joy in feeling YOUR energy flowing in YOUR body! This is how you care for your spirit! It’s how you heal, rejuvinate and access the unique essence that is your true self.

As I mentioned in the beginning, the holiday’s are quickly approaching (in the States Thanksgiving is merely 2 weeks away) and it will be even more important to find time to care for ourselves.  We will be inundated with  added obligations from family & friends. It can be an overwhelming and stressful time for many. When you have the tools* and take time to care for your spirit, you will experience more joy and the true spirit of the holidays!~Shine Your Light~Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010 All rights reserved 

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, intuitive coach and teacher helping people worldwide to awaken to their truth and heal the human spirit. For more information, to schedule a reading/coaching session and information on upcoming workshops & events please visit her website or send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com.

Aug 12 2009

You had me at HELLO!

HelloHELLO! Greetings and salutations! Hey! Hi! Howdy and Hello! What simple, yet powerful words these can be! How can a simple “hello” be powerful you may ask? The answer is that a hello acknowledges and validates the very existence of another human being! We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. We are living in a time of wonderful transformation yet in my readings and indeed in my daily life, I see people are literally craving a very simple concept. A spirit to spirit hello.

Have you ever felt invisible? I remember as a child I felt that way many times.  It seemed as if adults were talking and I wasn’t even there. There were times I was in a room and not even acknowledged. You’ve heard the saying “children should be seen and not heard” but I felt like I wasn’t being seen either. It’s been many years since I’ve felt  invisible. In fact I haven’t even thought about it since taking my very first meditation class in the early ’90′s. That is, until last week….

Last week I woke up a bit out of sorts. I wasn’t quite feeling ‘in my body’ and real. Normally I go out for a run to get in my body. (Exercise is a great way to feel your body.) When I finished I went to Starbucks as usual. I look forward to seeing the baristas and no matter my mood, for some reason I feel better when I leave. They always say good morning, ask me how the run was, how far, how’s work going.  They smile, look me in the eye and always greet me and acknowledge my presence…not to mention they know my coffee order. :-)  Anyway, you get the picture.

Normally my Starbucks is a buzz of communication. However on this day as I looked around me I noticed that no one was smiling or looking at anyone else. People were listening to Ipods, working on computers, talking on cell phones, reading the newspaper. For the most part it was as if people weren’t aware of the others in the room. Other than a few tables of people actually talking with each other, NO ONE was interacting! I was in a room full of people and felt totally alone. I watched as customer after customer placed their orders never noticing or acknowledging the person taking their order. Some barely paused their cell phone conversation to place their order. 

I was standing at the counter and placing my order when a man walked up behind me began to give his order. I was in mid sentence with the barista who was looking directly at ME. When I turned around and said hello to this man his response was “oh, sorry I didn’t see you there”. I was standing right in front of him!  As I continued looking around it was as if I was watching a scene in a play from the audience. For the first time since I was a child, I felt invisible!

Then something miraculous happened. Walking home,coffee in hand kind of feeling sorry for myself in that invisible mode, a complete stranger looked me in the eye, smiled and said HELLO. A simple hello instantly changed me from being invisible to being SEEN! This immediately brought a smile to my face. Then the homeless person on the corner said good morning. I looked her in the eye smiled and replied “good morning”…then SHE smiled. I watched her aura get brighter the moment I looked her in the eye! When I give a clairvoyant reading, I can clearly see the impact of spirit to spirit communication. The person I’m reading gets validated by communication to their spirit and of course I find my validation from seeing them get brighter! What I learned on this particular day was how a simple smile, good morning & hello can have an impact on your life.

So how can you give and receive spirit to spirit communication? Well, of course you can get a clairvoyant reading :-)  but in the meanwhile, you can  practice this in your everyday life! Think of it as a little game of playing with energy. The essence of spirit is playful so this shouldn’t be so hard to do. :-) When you go out into the world today, put on a smile, look someone in the eye and say HELLO. Do this with strangers, the homeless person on the street, your neighbors and even the grocery store check out person! Don’t just merely pause your cell phone conversation to place an order at Starbucks…or where ever. Notice what happens when you do this! The simple act of saying hello can change a grimace to a smile, make a sad person feel better,  perhaps give someone hope, or validate the beautiful existence of spirit in someone who feels invisible! You may be surprised at what you get back!  I guarantee as you notice the reaction you receive, it will brighten your day and validate you in spirit as well! I welcome you to post your comments about what YOUR experience was! HELLO!