On the road to success do you get in your own way? (Part 1)

It goes without saying that we all want to be successful. We dream big, imagine what life would be like and sometimes we even start building a foundation for success yet for some reason there are times we become stuck or blocked on the way. The people who we perceive as successful were not without challenges and pitfalls; they persevered, climbed out of the pit and turned stumbling blocks into stepping-stones. How did they do it you might ask. The answer to that question is simple. They got out of their own way by focusing on success instead of the energies which come up time and time again as they moved closer to their goal.

Of course there are many reasons why you get close to success and movement seems to abruptly stop just short of your goal. This is precisely the time to take time in meditation to see what’s happening. I’ve listed here the top four energies which I continually see come up during reading sessions and workshops. It’s interesting to note how easily it these 4 energies take over. If you don’t take time to acknowledge and clear them out it is YOU who get in the way of your own success.

Fear of Success

In a recent workshop on creating one of the students left trembling and in tears.  I spoke with her a few days later and asked about her experience. She told me that in the workshop she created something so BIG that she became overwhelmed with what she had just put into motion and it frightened her to the very core. The truth of what happened was that all the energies about how much her life would change, what she would have to let go of and who she might have to leave behind in the process came up. At any point on your road to success pictures and energies will get stimulated and you can move through them and let them go or you can hold on tightly. Worrying about ‘what’s next’ is also a fear which should be addressed. Once you’ve put into motion your success it’s in motion! If you allow the fear to control the outcome, you’ve gotten in your own way. Let go of the fear and allow success to unfold before your very eyes!

Limiting Beliefs 

Is there a limit to how successful you can be? Did someone once tell you that for some reason you weren’t good enough or smart enough to be truly successful? Were you programmed to believe your life should unfold in a certain order or what your particular role should be  Did you identify with what they told you and at some point it became your truth? I see this a lot when I read women. They are in a struggle to meet the programming of being a wife and mother vs. a successful business woman following their dreams. In a sense they are limiting their experience to one or the other. There are many people, not just women, who hold on to the belief that life is supposed to be a certain way. If you believe what others have told you about what your role should be or you put limits on your success you are getting in your own way. Turn your attention within and discover what makes you tick, what YOU believe about yourself and know that you indeed can succeed no matter what. Find those things YOU are enthusiastic about creating in your life. Your idea of success might very well be completely different from someone else’s. Welcome support from others, ‘divorce’ the naysayers in your life and in the words of a dear friend ‘believe you can achieve’ and you will! Read More

I have split this post into Part 1 & Part 2 to go into more detail . Part 2 is about raising your havingness, clearing resistance and measuring success. CLICK HERE for Part 2.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Shatter the Glass Ceiling!

Generally what you believe to be true, becomes truth but what if somewhere embedded deep in that belief is a limit of some sort? What if there is a ceiling that stops you from living to your full potential? You may not even realize there is a limit because you see your dream so clearly. If you can see it but can’t figure out why you can’t get there you could call it a glass ceiling. The interesting thing about a glass ceiling is that you can see through and beyond it!

Throughout history dreamers have shattered the limits of what they were told to believe and have not only forged a new path for themselves but for the world  as well. All of our greatest politicians, inventors, scientists, sports legends, artists & performers disregarded the limits placed upon them either by themselves or by society.

They had a vision and had to let go of any doubt or thought that they couldn’t make a difference or achieve their dream. They have made what was once thought of as impossible, possible by believing in themselves, truth and justice. By believing against all odds and what others told them they could go beyond the limits and create great change not only for themselves but for others.

Can you imagine if Rosa Parks or Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. had a limiting belief and lived their lives based on the status quo? Or if Michael Jordan had the belief he was a failure because he failed so many times…or if Michelangelo thought that painting a fresco on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel was impossible.

I could go on and on with examples but you really want to know what this has to do with you don’t you? :-) Limiting beliefs energetically STOP you from moving forward. In many instances they create self sabotage in the sense that you defeat yourself before you even try. What you believe can help move you forward or stop you dead in your tracks! Many times you are not even aware of a limiting belief until you go looking for it.

If there is something you deeply desire in your life, whatever it is, take time to examine what you believe about it. Take time to look at what you believe about yourself! If there is something you think needs to happen before you move forward, that’s a limit! If you don’t think you are good enough, slim enough or valuable enough, THAT IS A LIMIT!

Sometimes it is as simple as raising the bar for how much you can have in your life. When you believe without any doubt that you can have it (or achieve it), that you deserve it, and your worthy of receiving it, you begin to clear the limits placed upon you. When you stop believing and worrying about what everyone else thinks about you and begin living your best you, the limits clear.

Dream your Impossible Dream, clear the limits held in your beliefs, shatter the glass ceiling! Go beyond what you believe to be true, believe in YOU and reach for the stars! You are worthy! You deserve it! There’s nothing that can hold you back but what you believe you can achieve!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Immediate Gratification?

In this time of fast foods, bigger better and faster I started to wonder what role  immediate gratification has played. You all know what I’m referring to and it’s interesting to look at in terms of creating change in your life.

We want the newest styles, gadgets & toys,  better cars and technology that works at the touch of a button. There is an expectation that the economy can be ‘fixed’ overnight. If we join a WEIGHT LOSS program we expect like magic to lose the excess pounds by tomorrow morning yet if we see something that looks really yummy we eat it to gratify our taste buds on the spot.

People wait in line to be the first ones to get that new cool item using credit cards without a thought about paying for it in the future. Think on that for a moment. If you really want something you go out and get it. OK there might be a passing thought that crosses your mind but by golly you do it anyway!

Our society has indeed become one of immediate gratification whether it is to make us feel better or to take our attention off our day-to-day troubles. Certainly there are things that will truly make life easier and we all want those but the challenge comes in when we not only want those things but we want them TODAY….NOW.

We have gotten used to getting what we want when we want it yet in a not so distant past, we had to make our own clothes and grow our own food. We waited patiently for the seeds we planted to grow. There is no possible way to rush a seedlings growth to HARVEST.  We were all responsible for the essentials we needed. To be sure I’m not saying we should go back to that time! The point is we had no choice but to be patient and trust the process. :-)

The reason I bring this up is for you to take a moment to look at what you expect from your meditation practice and journey into awareness. Are you seeking immediate gratification? Do you meditate for a few days then give up or move on to the next thing because you don’t notice monumental changes?

In spirit there is no time or space. Things can and do happen instantly! That’s the good news. :-) The next part is bringing those spiritual changes into the body and making it real. Although everything begins with your ‘thoughts’ and focus the physical body exists in time and space. It takes time for those changes to manifest on the physical plane.

Becoming conscious of where your energy is and bringing YOU back to YOU is the first step toward creating the change that you seek. It is a continual process in which you grow and expand your awareness. Honor and trust that a process is indeed taking place whether you see it instantly or not.

On any journey it might be best to check immediate gratification at the door. If you question big changes are actually taking place notice the small details. Know that even the smallest change now can shape your future in ways you can’t even begin to imagine!….Shine Your Light!~Debbie

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Who wrote the script?

Wouldn’t it be great if we all had a team of writers working on the script of our lives? They would write, edit and re-write as needed to make it interesting. All of our interactions would be exactly as written so you would know not only how to respond but how the others will respond to you.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there was an award-winning director and producer? They would tell you where to stand, what to do and even HOW to say your lines so they are most effective.

Your dialogue and actions would be written BEFORE you receive the script but as with every masterfully written manuscript, once in motion, there are things that don’t  work or fit into the scene. This causes an on the spot change. Sometimes even the best laid plans don’t work as well as one would think.

Clearly life would be easier if it came with the perfect script but of course this is not the case. We all must walk our journey and although we have a vision, at times we must consider a re-write or re-direction on the spot.

Sometimes our choices are not thought out well the instant we need to make them and so we learn to make our way more delicately next time. There is no script or handbook for life especially when emotions take over. With no direction, rehearsal or ‘re-write’ we must live with our choices.

Good or bad, right or wrong there are times when what we do or say becomes less of a choice and more a reaction. Being human is just that, being human! Having emotions and feelings are two of our greatest gifts!

Consider for a moment forgiving yourself for those times when your humanity took over! It is OK to venture from the script, try something new and YES make a mistake! This is all part of being human.

If there is a script in place who wrote it? Was it you? It is indeed possible that the path you are following is someone else’s script! Your well-meaning parents (or someone else) could have written it or if you wrote it, check to see if it is based on someone else’s novel.

You cannot live an authentic life and be the best YOU if you are following someone else’s information no matter how well-meaning it is. No one knows how to be the best you except YOU!

If any aspect of your life feels scripted or controlled, take it as a clear sign that someone other than you may be producing & directing! If the script you have in hand doesn’t feel right it might be time for a re-write or perhaps a brand new script altogether! :-)

To be sure, it is not easy to play yourself! Especially if you don’t know who that self is! You may have lived by someone else’s script or direction for so long that your ‘role’ has become your truth.

The most rewarding role you play in this lifetime is one of being the best YOU. If you are not happy with the way things are going, maybe it’s time to change direction!

The production and direction of your life comes from finding the passion that burns within. Discover and awaken to that passion and BE the best YOU living your own script.~Shine Your Light Debbie

A special shout out and thanks to a dear friend who repeatedly reminds me to be the best ME I can be. :-)

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping to heal the human spirit. For more information, to schedule a reading, coaching or find out about upcoming workshops & events please visit her website or send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com.

The Autumn Equinox-It’s Harvest Time!

In the northern hemisphere September 23rd marks the vernal, or autumnal equinox; The beginning of fall and the autumn harvest.  Have you ever heard ’you reap what you sow’? Fall is a wonderful time to take a closer look at life’s harvest.

Did you plant any seeds in your garden of life that are ready for harvest? Is some of your crop still in a growth cycle and not quite ripe enough to pick? Are there bulbs you’d like to plant so they can flower in the future?

Harvest and planting is a perfect metaphor for life. It gets one to thinking about what it is that we are reaping NOW in our lives, what is still in process and what seeds we would like to plant for the future. :-)

If you are focused on things that happened in the past, worrying about the future or current  problems, you are not planting seeds for the future. All creating happens in the present and your ‘vision’ is the seed to plant. If you don’t have a dream, you can’t plant the seed!

“My mind is a garden. My thoughts are the seeds. My harvest will be either flowers or weeds.”~Mel Weldon

Whatever you are harvesting now, take a moment to reflect on what type of seeds you planted and all that happened after you planted them. Did you water the garden? Clear out the aphids? Fertilize?

Once you plant the seeds for what you want, if you are aware and paying attention, you are given information on the steps you need to take to reap a bountiful harvest. This information is useful and can point you in the right direction! Are you heeding the signs?

It may be as simple as your intuition telling you to take a different route home or something more profound like getting the flu so you have to stay home and care for yourself. It could also be a nagging feeling that doesn’t go away until you pay attention to it.

The universe works in collaboration with you and you really do reap what you sow! If you are not happy with your harvest, what steps are you willing to take so that once you plant the seeds you are able to recognize what your garden needs to nurture it? There is no quick fix!

While there are instances of immediate gratification, growth takes time and care. It may be that you don’t really want to take the steps and that’s OK. It’s where you are. BUT if you aren’t happy with the way things are going, take some time to turn within to look at what type of seeds you planted and how you cared for your garden.

Whether you are reaping the rewards of your harvest or deciding to plant different seeds it’s time for your garden to flourish! Harvest then plant new seeds to move on! “Fall” in love! “Fall” into a fresh cycle! “Fall” into fun! “Fall” into a new YOU reaping a bountiful harvest!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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DRESS IN YOUR FINEST and RING IN THE NEW YEAR!

The New Year is almost upon us! Where did the time go? Every year it seems as if time is moving faster. Wasn’t it just yesterday we were celebrating 2009? For me, the week between Christmas and New Years is one of reflection and calling back my energy from the past year. This year with Mercury in Retrograde there is even greater opportunity to revisit  and gain a deeper insight from past experiences. Admittedly I’m no expert on Mercury Retrograde but it definitely effects technology, communication and allows us to reflect on the lessons we might have missed so we can begin to move forward again. Then, of course, it’s time to CELEBRATE AND RING IN THE NEW YEAR! So…let go of the old, call back energy from the past year (or even the past decade :-) ) and ring in the NEW with style!

Now I know you’re planning to be dressed in your finest! Dressed to the 9′s to usher in a new decade!  What if I told you that you can also be cloaked in the most beautiful bright multi colored gold you’ve ever seen?! Like the Kings & Queens of old, you can make your appearance surrounded in gold! Yes, you heard me, the most flattering and beautiful thing you can do is to get a hold of one of these gold bubbles! I’m going to pass along the information as to where to get this…and I can assure you that supplies are NOT limited! Here’s the best part…..IT’S FREE!! Not only that…I suspect you already have one! Yes, my friends, I’m talking about YOUR ENERGY BUBBLE! You guessed didn’t you? :-) Although I’m doing a bit of “musing” here, it’s really true! When you are in a bubble of your own energy there is NOTHING more attractive! With your energy flowing in and around you, you are a vision to behold!

Whether your going out or staying in this New Year’s eve, before you dress, take a moment to turn your attention within and reflect on 2009. I know ringing in a new year is exciting but this only takes a moment! :-) Whatever comes up for you LET IT GO! It’s in the past! No time like the present to lighten your load! As an aside, if you are making a  resolution to lose weight this can be particularly effective. Once you let go, you can bring back all that is YOURS! Your energy is light and bright! Begin to call back any of your energy that may have been left behind and surround yourself in a gold bubble of light. Expand that bubble and see it get brighter! Feel the light around you! If you choose, you can even allow all those gold sparkles to flow through you! Feel the excitement in the air as you prepare to move forward into A BRAND NEW YEAR! Fill up every fiber in your being! The more of your energy you have, the more you will have to CREATE MORE! While you’re doing this, why not have a look at something AMAZING you’d like to create for the year! See it in all its beauty and perfection! Surround that in a gold bubble as well! From your own bright bubble let your creation float off into the universe and see what happens! Wow! Check YOU out…you’re all gold & sparkly AND you’ve already started creating for the New Year!

In 1850, Alfred, Lord Tennyson wrote “Ring out the old, ring in the new. Ring, happy bells, across the snow: The year is going, let him go; Ring out the false, ring in the true.” Your energy and all that you are IS true! So, before you dress in your most elegant clothes, dress yourself in your energy! The explosion of light you will be sporting will be brighter than the fireworks! Celebrate the New Year by celebrating and honoring YOU and your beautiful spirit!
 
Happy New Year! May your year be filled with truth, light and an infinite abundance of good health, prosperity, love, peace,  and many blessings! Thank you for reading this blog :-) Shine your light~Debbie
 
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Are you waiting for Godot….?

waitingThis blog was inspired by several lovely women whom I’ve recently had the opportunity to read. These profound readings brought to mind the Samuel Beckett play, “Waiting for Godot”. ”Waiting for Godot follows two days in the lives of a pair of men who divert themselves while they wait expectantly and unsuccessfully for someone named Godot to arrive. They claim him as an acquaintance but in fact hardly know him, admitting that they would not recognise him were they to see him. To occupy themselves, they eat, sleep, converse, argue, sing, play games, exercise, swap hats, and contemplate suicide — anything “to hold the terrible silence at bay”.  The play opens with the character Estragon struggling to remove his boot from his foot. Estragon eventually gives up, muttering, “Nothing to be done.” ( reprinted from Wikipedia) and thus, they spend the rest of their time “doing nothing” but waiting. I encourage you to Google the play as it is very thought provoking….That said, I was inspired by the readings AND the play…perhaps you will be too! :-)

In the readings there seemed to be a theme that these women were “waiting” for something. In fact, each of these women validated that they were indeed “waiting” for the perfect moment, perfect relationship and to move forward at just the right time. As in the play they felt “Nothing to be done”  until everything lined up perfectly and matched exactly what  they had imagined. And so they did nothing but wait. I asked one woman if she knew what she was waiting FOR. Her answer was that she had always imagined a perfect life, with the perfect husband, the perfect family and to be perfectly happy.  She was waiting for perfection and in many ways invalidated or discounted anything that didn’t “match” that expectation of what it would look like.  In fact much of the time she couldn’t have the beautiful life she had already created for herself because it wasn’t the perfection she thought she was seeking. Again, “nothing to be done” but wait.

So is there somthing YOU are WAITING for? It could be a relationship, the perfect job,  the kids to go off to college so you can begin a new chapter in your life, for that perfect guy or woman to call, for someone to validate you. Are you waiting for ‘just the right time’? Those are just a few examples but you may have something else in mind. Now I ask you…what does whatever it is YOU are waiting for look like to you and is it what’s called a PERFECT PICTURE or ideal? You could actually have so much of your energy focused on the PERFECT that you have stopped creating and have little energy for anything else except your day-to-day “chores” and responsibilities! Have you stopped experiencing , allowing and living life in the present? Are you having what you already have? What might you have missed WHILE  you were waiting and focusing on that PERFECT PICTURE to manifest itself? It may be that the very thing or answer you are waiting for is right in front of you but your attention is somewhere else so you’ve missed it! The interesting thing is that it’s possible some of these PERFECT PICTURES that you so dearly hold on to AREN’T EVEN YOURS!

Of course you have dreams and imagine how you want your life to be.  BUT when you turn all of your focus and attention to matching something perfect, you can get a bit stuck. If you are WANTING in many ways it is like lacking something not to mention it ties up your energy! If your attention is focused on or actually IN someone else’s picture…say something your Mom wanted for you as an example, you are not even focusing on your own TRUTH.  When your energy is focused on or even caught up in a picture it’s difficult to create, you can lose motivation or give up altogether!

Well guess what? When you pull your energy and focus out of the pictures you have MORE to create WITH!  ALLOW the process to just happen! When you are allowing there’s no need to be DOING. :-) Manifesting your dreams can be as simple as imagining the dream, letting it go and allowing it to come back to you. NO EFFORT! :-) You don’ t need to focus outside yourself ON or IN the picture.  You don’t have to wait for Jupiter to be aligned with Mars. All your answers are within that beautiful, creative, BRILLIANT, loving YOU! Look inside yourself to find your PASSION. What YOU really dream of! It may be different from what think you SHOULD be doing, or what you always thought you WOULD be doing! It’s about BEing:-)

You have the ability and power to change your life by bringing your very essence home, so to speak. Much of what you need to do is SIMPLY bring your attention back to you and be in present time. Call back your energy from the pictures! I know it seems simple and it really is…your intent goes a long way!  Notice how it feels as you fill up with YOUR ENERGY. When your own very personal, unique energy is in your body you vibrate and shine brightly.  Your motivation comes back, you see possibilities where you thought none existed and all the things you were waiting for will begin to appear in present time. Waiting for something implies the future yet creating  happens in the here and now. So what are you waiting for? Look inside yourself! Meditate! Instead of waiting at a bus stop, passing the time, waiting for some sort of perfection focus on the feeling of YOU within YOU! Focus on how good it will FEEL when your dreams become reality! Take a moment right now, create the intent to call back all your energy and fill up with it! Just for fun repeat after me: ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO ME! :-)

Thanks for taking a moment to read this! As always, your comments are appreciated. If you’d like a reading on this or any other subject of your choosing, contact me at Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com. For more information on Clairvoyant Readings, feel free to visit my website Spiritlightinsight.com

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SIMON SAYS! WHO IS ‘SIMON’ ANYWAY?

Remember the game “Simon Says” from when you were a child? Follow these steps just for fun!  Come on it’s just a game:-) Simon says raise your left hand. Simon says put your hands on your hips. Simon says touch your toes. Simon says touch your nose.  Simon says clap your hands. Simon says blink your eyes. Touch your head. Simon says wiggle your toes. Simon says “say HOORAH!” Wasn’t that fun?! :-) Did you do everything Simon said? Maybe you found it silly or perhaps it made you smile to think of how it fun it was when you were little!

Now let me ask you something….did you touch your head? Did Simon say to do it? Of course if you didn’t touch your head OK, you know the game! If you did touch your head, well it’s just a game isn’t it? Or is it? :-) Practically from the time you are born you are “taught” to follow the rules, do what you’re told, mind your manners, don’t speak until you are spoken to etc.  You have to ask permission to do something or someone has to tell you to do it before you do.  Now of course, this is good for children but what happens when that energy carries over to your adult life?

The game Simon Says is actually a good example of programming and how it can control YOU. Simon, the control, tells you to do something and you do it. If Simon doesn’t say it…well, YOU LOST. You failed! You’re out of the game! No one WANTS to lose and not be a part of the game anymore! After all, your FRIENDS are still playing and YOU lost! :-( Early on you figure out that the next time you play the game, all you have to do is make sure that you don’t do ANYTHING unless Simon Says you should do it.

Do you or did you have a “Simon” in your life? Are you waiting for Simon to say you can DO something? Or the flip side….are you spending so much time responding to all the rules and responsibility heaped upon you that you forget about creating your dream? Do you have a passion for something but find yourself waiting until….(you fill in the rest there)? Did someone at some point in your life tell you “YOU CAN’T DO THAT”? Are you waiting to be validated for your brilliant idea before you move forward with it? More importantly did you follow someone else’s “rules” about how your life should be up to this point?

Perhaps you answered “yes” to one or more of those questions. Well, I don’t know who Simon is but from a clairvoyant perspective I see controls and programming at work all the time. Many of the people I read are living their lives as “they are supposed to”.  Think about it this way, did anyone ever say to you “you’re out of control!” Now I ask you whose control are you out of? Can you imagine how my parents would have reacted if I responded to the question “what do you want to be when you grow up?” with “I WANT TO BE A CLARIVOYANT HEALER!” Call me kooky but I’m pretty much thinking that might not have gone over too well!

When you become aware of and release the “Simon says” pictures that are indeed a part of all of us, you begin to heal the part of you that stops you from being who you truly are. The more of your own energy you bring in, and the more you focus on your own dreams….the more can create!

A wonderful friend of mine, Hemal Radia, Manifesting &  Law of Attraction,  has written this lovely quote “When we are doing what we are doing for the love of doing it, very present moment oriented, we are creating magic.” There’s a lot of truth in those words. When you become your own “Simon”, you can create your own magic! Follow your dreams & passions and come alive with the possibilities! Do what you love for the love of doing it, not because it’s what you “should” do. There is no time like the present to take a moment, look inside yourself and find your magic! If you’re having a challenge with this…I’ll help you out:-) SIMON SAYS FIND YOUR MAGIC!

As always, you are free to post your comments here, send an email with your questions, Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com and/or visit my website Spiritlightinsight.com  Shine your light! Debbie