It Takes Courage to Heal…

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It takes courage to heal with conscious awareness. When you choose to heal yourself and create change in your life you are choosing to uncover the truth and face your fears. You are choosing to face old hurts, invalidation and pain. You are choosing to peel back layers of other people’s ‘stuff’ that you’ve taken on as your own truth.

It takes courage to find freedom and be who you are because it means that you must face the fact that everyone in the world might not like you and you can’t heal or please everyone. It takes courage to decide to end taking responsibility for other people’s pain and healing process. You only have to be responsible for the choices you make, your energy and personal growth. This doesn’t make you a bad person! If someone doesn’t want to take responsibility and take the steps to heal themselves, there is really nothing you can do to help.

Those who don’t want to heal may criticize and invalidate you without ever having done the very thing that they are criticizing you for doing. They don’t know what they’re talking about because they haven’t ever had the, “courage of their convictions.” They have not taken responsibility for their own healing and are content to live their lives in drama, judgement and according to the ‘status quo.’ It takes courage to stand out and be different; To shine and be happy; To stand up and say, “I have great value.”

When you take the steps to heal yourself you will find that any fear, invalidation, pain, failure and even sadness that you’ve held on to is full of resistance. You may also find that you haven’t wanted to fully face it. If you hold on and resist you fuel and give power to the pictures of your past which then leads to fearing what comes next and/or getting stuck.

Newsflash! Those images in your head have no power over you unless you give them power! It takes courage to face up to the fact that you have been giving power to the very thing that causes pain. It takes courage to let go of how you’ve lived and what you’ve based your life on up to this point. Healing shatters the limits and uncovers ‘lies’ that at times are difficult to acknowledge.

Healing is a process and it takes a tremendous amount of courage to continue the process, BUT it is not so much the courage to get through the process as much as having the courage to start! Healing clears a space for you to bring more of your spirit and creativity ‘home’ into your physical body. In doing this you will have more energy AND more space to create in!

You don’t need anyone else’s permission to heal, it is your choice! All it takes is the courage to begin the process. There is great value to taking the path of self-healing and the process is worth it. YOU are worth it! Be brave, have courage and you’ll awaken to a whole new world; A world you call home. Home of the free and the brave!~ Shine Your Light Debbie

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Apr 17 2011

Are You an Energetic Punching Bag?

Have you ever felt like a punching bag or magnet for punishing energy? You know what I’m asking here! It’s those times when you were feeling pretty good, went into a meeting or family gathering and walked out like Muhammed Ali just delivered a knock-out punch and laid you out in the boxing ring.

Your head is ringing, eyes are blurry, everything seems to overwhelm you and all you want to do is curl up in a corner and take a nap even though nobody actually touched your physical body. I’m pretty clear that at one time or another each of us has experienced this or something like it! When you finally get back into your own space, you are left wondering what happened, if it was you that caused it or you get angry and blame the person (or group) who ‘did it to you’. Often it causes you to feel like a powerless victim.

If you have ever asked why you feel punished like this, you might want to take a look at what it is that you are resisting! Resistance is an interesting energy to explore. Energy gets thrown around all the time and you can’t control what others do whether it be in the body or energetically. The reason energy ’sticks’ or feels like a knock-out punch (whack) has everything to do with how much you are resisting!

In fact, resistance acts as a magnet for punishment and what you resist, persists! The same goes for if someone ‘pushes your buttons’ (this is a figure of speech). When a sensitive spot is hit, if you resist it’s going to feel like someone just stuck a knife in you. The good news is when you clear the energy of resistance the punishment begins to clear as well.

You are not powerless nor do you have to fight or try to control the energy of others. Your power lies in the ability to neutralize resistance to the energies or pictures that YOU are working on in your own life. The first thing to do when you experience a knock-out punch is to take time in meditation to find those places you resist. Be extra gentle with yourself and bring in lots of forgiveness.

A windmill does not resist the wind! It allows the wind to spin its sails and converts it to energy that is generated. You too can stand tall like a windmill allowing the winds to blow and not resisting. You can use the winds as a learning experience and renewable resource to transform yourself!

You too like the windmill can use what you learned to further you on your life’s path so you are generating energy instead of being the effect of it! You can also resist and fight the winds…it’s YOUR choice~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Mar 14 2011

A Legacy of Love:Sara Bank~Sept 25, 1908-March 12,2011

In Loving Memory of my Grandma Sara Bank

“Before descending into this world, the soul is emanated from the mystery of the highest level. While in this world, she is completed and fulfilled by this lower world. Departing this world, she is filled with the fullness of all the worlds, the world above and the world below.” The Essential Kabbalah

On Friday September 25, 1908 as the Kaufman family was preparing for Rosh Hashana which would begin at sundown, Clara, my Great Grandmother, at 7 months pregnant was scrubbing the floors and went into labor. There was no time to get the Doctor so my Great Great Grandmother, Viniziana, delivered a miracle into the world. A little baby girl, her Grandaughter, my Grandma, Sara Bank (nee Kaufman.) As the story goes, being premature my GG Grandma knew the baby needed to stay extra warm so she wrapped her in cotton batting, put her in a roasting pan and into the oven. On her way to get the Doctor she ran down the street screaming “Clara had her baby, Clara had her baby!” I’ve never tired of hearing that story.

What makes the beginning of her story so poignant is that my Grandma could not wait to begin her journey of life & love and therefore it’s fitting that she wanted to stay for as long as possible on this earth. For well over 102 years my Grandma graced us with a beautiful presence. I feel very fortunate and blessed to have a Grandma whose spirit wanted so much to be a part of living, loving, sharing and caring for so long. In my Grandma’s eyes I could do no wrong. In fact, in her eyes, I’m perfect in every way and walk on water! I can’t even imagine what life will be without hearing “OOOOOO Debbie, I love you so much!’

I could tell you stories about sleep overs, going to see the Christmas lights and the live sheep in the nativity scene then McDonalds. I could tell you about the little game we played every Passover when she would sneak me pieces of my favorite Pastel then yell at me to stop eating it or there wouldn’t be enough, yet she’d actually made a smaller 2nd one. I could tell you how only a few month’s ago we were having breakfast and she said “Debbie, you know what I need? I need a boyfriend. A younger man cause anyone my age is just too old.” Yes I could go on and on with wonderful stories but what they all come down to is LOVE. Pure, all-encompassing LOVE!

My Grandma taught us how to love so deeply that it transcends everything. Her whole life was a love story. She taught us about the power of love. Not just any love but that unconditional love that we search for and is written about in sonnets. Of course she was human and bickered, held grudges, and there were some people she just plain didn’t like but lady that she was, she was always cordial; BUT when it came to the grandchildren and great-grandchildren, well, we walked on water. and we ALL were her favorites. Personally, I think this is how a Grandma is supposed to be. Grandma’s understand unconditional love when it comes to their Grandchildren and Grandchildren experience and learn this love from their Grandma’s. It is the grandest legacy anyone can leave. The legacy of love.

These last few years I loved watching Gram watch US at family gatherings. She would sit and look around at all of us talking and just beam with joy. This past month I went to see her every other day and honestly I wouldn’t give back one moment of that time. I will cherish the day after we were told she probably wouldn’t make it until morning and I arrived to find her sitting in a chair smiling. That very day she beat me at gin….twice! Those Doctors didn’t know my Grandma!

We got to ‘hang out’ and had some very special loving moments. Those moments allowed us many many kisses and time to tell each other I love you and that everything would be OK when she decided to leave. In the end, no regrets, nothing left unsaid, only LOVE.

The earlier quote from the Kabbalah said that the soul is emanated from the mystery of the highest level. That mystery is LOVE. Grandma lived that love and passed it on to US and to all who knew her. My Grandma left fulfilled, loved and complete. She departed this world filled with the fullness of all the worlds, the world above and the world below….the world of love.

In loving memory of my Grandma Sara. She is dancing with the angels and walking hand in hand with her beloved, my Grandpa. I love you Grandma!

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Nov 13 2010

Patterns

Have you noticed any recurring patterns in your life? Patterns are those experiences in life that play out much like an old record album going round & round, over & over again. In other words you find yourself in the same situations responding in a similar way time and time again.

Patterns are different for each person but I’m guessing there are at least one or two that you’ve noticed in your life. It could be in the realm of relationships and love, giving up on something right before complete success, bringing in money only to get hit with an unexpected expense almost immediately, or it could be that you find extreme moments of happiness only to get slammed moments later.

If you take a moment to think about it, you might find that in each instance you were literally waiting to be invalidated or for something to go wrong. While waiting for some disaster to strike, you didn’t truly get to enjoy what came in for you!

If you have convinced yourself that you choose the wrong relationships, have negative people or drama in your life and/or you will never have what you want…guess what? There’s a good chance your prophecy will come to pass! This is part of a pattern!

Patterns do happen and once you become aware of a particular pattern you can clear it. When I look at the energy clairvoyantly there are often symbols, agreements or energy cords involved. The challenge in clearing patterns is being able to find the underlying ‘picture’, if you will, vs getting caught up in the drama of WHY it’s there and WHY it keeps happening.

Patterns are almost always connected to lessons you want to learn or old energies you want to clear. If you continue to ask WHY or you are waiting for the proverbial shoe to drop, the universe is going to grant your wish by bringing the lesson to your attention once again so you can find your answer! It is when you look deeper to find the underlying energy and lesson you are learning that things will begin to change in a major way for you.

Clearing patterns in your life is a matter of getting to the heart of it all. Think of it like peeling an onion. You peel off one layer then there’s another layer than another until finally you get the middle. Life is like that too.

How about getting to the heart of it first? What if instead of asking WHY you looked for the ANSWER!? In life many answers are actually found when you ask the right question. Ask the right question to dissolve and dismantle patterns from the past that don’t serve you.

Begin with a new question and thought process to forever change your life! Starting today ask for answers and create a brand new, brighter tomorrow! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Sep 9 2010

It’s ALWAYS Darkest Before the Dawn~

Have you noticed as you walk the path of conscious evolution how those seemingly darkest moments in time are always followed by a time of great joy & happiness? In life there are certain truths and this is one of them. Everything has its own cycle. There is a reason and season for everything!

In terms of energy and spiritual growth the same is true. You are taking steps to heal, focusing on all things positive & loving, trying to be a good person then suddenly you find yourself in darkness and despair! Why does this happen when you are clearly doing what is necessary to find peace & calm within?

With each step you take to raise your vibration you are releasing more and more of the ‘stuff’ that you have taken on that really isn’t YOU. In the middle of this release all the energy, invalidation, programming and pain that is clearing is swirling about in your aura and it may be all that you can see!

What you see, feel and experience is filtered through the energy you are releasing. Think of it like looking through sunglasses. Things don’t look the same!

Another way to look at it is to think of it in terms of the dawn. There is the darkness of night and as the sun begins to shine her light on the horizon, it doesn’t light up everything, yet moment by moment more is revealed. The mist that appears to blanket the earth slowly gets burned off by the sun, finally revealing with clarity the surrounding landscape.

Thus it is the same with your energy! Those moments of darkness are a clearing, a lesson to be learned, a step you are taking or a raise in your vibration. It could be all the aforementioned at once! If all you are seeing is the dark, it’s time to remember that you have within you the ability to bring in the sun and CLEAR THE MISTS.

Each one of us experiences darkness & pain at one time or another. It’s not about NEVER going through those moments because so many times those moments are the ones that truly make us appreciate the light of awareness that much more. It is, however about how you handle those moments and what you take from them.

Whenever you experience a darkest of dark moment remember that it is there for you to learn, grow and evolve as spirit. Those moments are the perfect time to find your strength & resolve. Yes, you do have that within when you choose to find it!

Remember you are always evolving and this is part of your journey! Remember to have hope, faith and trust in the process. Most of all remember that it’s always darkest before the dawn and this too shall pass! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Aug 4 2010

Hey! Where’s the remote?

In this wonderful age of technology there are remote controls for everything. There are even remotes that control ALL the remotes so you only need one rather than one for each item.

They take care of changing channels, music, turning on your lights, and you can even start your car from the comfort of the chair you are sitting in!

I had to laugh when the new air conditioner in my bedroom came with a remote. Really now! My bedroom is only 16 feet across! Needless to say, I love using it.

I can lie in bed, change the temperature or turn it off without moving. I also get a kick out of it because it’s just plain ridiculous! Have we really turned into a society based on comfort and remote controls?

How about your life? Have you ever felt like someone had control over your life? If you’ve ever felt out of control, you may want to ask yourself; Whose control are you out of? Who holds the remote and changes the channel? Is it you?

Have you noticed that when you try to take time for yourself, meditate or god forbid create something new, how much energy there is that says you can’t change the program? Are there energies or emotions in your life that seem to take over?

If you feel as if something is controlling you, you might very well be right! There are many things that have been programmed into our lives. Some of those things are so ingrained within that it’s a challenge to distinguish what is programming and what is our truth.

As you awaken and open up more to separating your truth from say, your mother’s or father’s programming, it can be uncomfortable. It can be especially difficult when it comes to relationships, jobs or even how you choose to live your life.

In many ways the economy is helping people change the channel to the program THEY want to watch. I’ve seen attorneys become massage therapists, executives deciding to choose quality of life over bringing in money, and on an even broader scale, people are deciding to create or work on something they are passionate about rather than go back to a job that controlled them each day.

Earlier I mentioned that I thought my remote was ridiculous. On second thought, maybe it’s not! When you have a remote, it’s easy to change the channel! You just push the button and it instantly clears the old program to the one you want to see! Perhaps life is much the same.

When YOU hold the remote YOU are in control! You can change the program at will and with ease! Why not take a moment to see if YOU hold the remote. If not, take it back! Then if it’s time to change the channel, go ahead! There’s nothing stopping you when YOU are in control! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010

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Jul 27 2010

What’s behind the facade?

A Facade is typically one side of the exterior of a building, usually the front, but also sometimes the sides and rear that shows the most prominent and detailed architectural features.

The structure is breathtakingly beautiful with its detailed craftsmanship from the outside, but what’s on the inside can be very different.

What was once a beautiful interior may be in need of a bit of rehab if no one’s lived there or taken care of it for a while. It may be outdated. There could be cobwebs, layers of dust, and the need for some new paint! You get the idea here.

Appearances can be deceiving! Some people spend their lives making sure the details are perfect on the outside, yet neglect the very thing that needs a little rehab and holds the key to true happiness. Maybe it’s time to open the door to the inside!

There is really nothing outside of you that is going to make you happy on the inside. Not material things, not the perfect lover, not your friends. An energetic facade is occasionally put up to show others how ‘happy’ you are but if you are hurting inside it actually takes a good deal of effort to hold up!

Perhaps it’s difficult to look behind the facade if there is garbage piled up, or storage boxes of pain you’ve been meaning to unpack but still carry with you. If so, get out your broom and dustpan, gold cloth and start sparkling up the inside! No time like the present to clean it out and clear the “stuff” piling up in the corner!

Keep in mind that it’s not always easy to unpack the boxes. There can be painful memories that come up. If your energy is stuck in these memories you have less of it present to create with in the NOW but once you start, like any rehab project, there’s no turning back and the results will be STUNNING!

Here’s where it gets fun! YOU are the general contractor! YOU are the designer! You get to sweep out, sparkle up and create your space with awareness! By shining and bringing your light inside, any darkness instantly disappears! Your bright shiny spirit acts as a new coat of paint on the walls!

In essence your rehab is really about clearing a space for YOU to come home to YOU! When you decorate your interior with YOU it shows on the outside as well! It isn’t necessary hold up a facade because the beautiful details on the outside ARE you!

In the Wizard of Oz Dorothy says “there’s no place like home.” When you are home and in your flow there is peace, happiness and comfort. Being aware and in the body IS your HOME SWEET HOME! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010

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Jun 29 2010

Tis a gift to be SIMPLE;Tis a gift to be FREE….

At times life can be complicated and full of drama. This can lead to becoming overwhelmed and looking outside yourself for answers or spending a good deal of time responding.

Much of what feels ‘complicated’ or ‘dramatic’ is really about trying to solve problems….yours or someone else’s! It also means that your energy is invested in a past or future ‘picture’ which complicates matters even more.

Have you ever noticed that when things are feeling out of control, complicated and dramatic that your attention seems to go toward wondering what someone else is thinking? What’s the hidden agenda? How might they react if you do this or that?

What if you returned to the innocence of kindergarten in present time? What if finding an answer was as simple as finding the nose on your face? What if finding that answer led to your freedom?

What if I told you that having awareness of the simple things around you could allow you to free yourself from the drama? Well….it CAN! It’s just a matter of going back to basics and appreciating the little things going on around you.

As you shift your awareness out of the drama, it might not seem so dramatic after all! Once you shift your awareness, you are no longer in the complicated web of ‘figuring it out’ and you begin pulling your energy out of the pictures you may be stuck in.

When was the last time you stopped to smell the roses? When was the last time you found joy in hearing a baby’s giggle or the laughter from child playing? When was the last time you watched the clouds as they drifted through the sky? When was the last time you took a walk along a seashore and merely listened to the seagulls?

How about a simple meditation of returning to your flow rather than using it to solve all your problems! Many times I see people using the great techniques they have learned to solve problems. I can tell you, it doesn’t work because the focus is on solving as opposed to clearing and creating change by shifting vibration.

Today as my mind was going in a thousand different directions a beautiful butterfly just about landed on my arm. As it flit about me I was reminded of the simplicity of freedom. I received a wonderful healing gift from that little butterfly!

Take a few moments each day to recognize the beauty and simplicity of nature around you. Step out of the drama and busy-ness of life long enough to smell the roses that exist around you and go about their own business of just being!

The simple things are gifts to remind us of what it’s like to be free. A rose is just a rose BEING a rose! A butterfly is just a butterfly BEING a butterfly! YOU can be YOU uncomplicated and free! ~Shine your Light Debbie

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Jun 23 2010

ALL FOR ONE & ONE FOR ALL?

Yes, you do see a question mark after the title! Is it really “all for one and one for all” in the quest for ‘oneness’? The answer…yes AND no.

You can find literally thousands of quotes, blogs and postings about how we are all of one universal mind, one universal consciousness, and that we should strive to connect, return to and become part of the one. In fact when I googled it there were over 2 BILLION search results that came up!

What about becoming “one” with yourself? It’s very noble to send out love and light, heal the world and be a part of the divine sea of consciousness but when was the last time you gave yourself the same amount of love, light and healing that you are sending out?

One of the best things you can do is heal and become one with yourself first. You are a divine, unique spirit and when you bring all that back to you, you ignite a flame within. Your creativity as an individual adds to the whole and enriches everyone you come in contact with!

If you want to touch the life of another, touch your own life. If you want to send out love & light, the best way to do this is to turn it around and shine it on you! Everything you do for YOU will affect and change the world around you.

Many find this concept selfish but really it has the opposite effect! When you allow yourself to bring all that love, light and healing into your body and life, you will have more to give. You create for yourself the healing you wish to see in the world.

Your divinity and higher consciousness resides within you. It is not something that you have to search for outside of you. Each of us is a unique, divine being with a right to shine, create and live a purposeful life filled with happiness, love & peace.

Turn your attention within to find your inner peace, divinity and uniqueness as spirit. The next time you want to send out healing love & light, first take a moment to give that to yourself. Next time you are praying for someone, first say a prayer for you.

Embody and BE in “oneness” with the love & light you wish to share with the world and watch not only the transformation around you but the transformation of YOU! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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May 3 2010

Permission to Heal?

Are you seeking permission to heal yourself? Interesting question isn’t it?! I ask because it really IS worth taking a look at if you are taking steps to clear out old energies and programming that have defined your life to this point.

Much of how we have shaped our lives was ‘programmed’ in from a very young age. Remember the game “Mother may I….”? How validating when “mother” said you could take 2 steps forward!

Asking ‘permission’ was literally programmed into our reality! You had to get permission from your teachers to speak by raising your hand and if you were going on a field trip (ie something different from the normal) you needed a permission slip from your parents! You asked permission to go out and play or get up from the dinner table. In your adult life, you need to get permission from your boss to merely take a day off.

I’m sure at some point in your life you’ve heard; “We love you just the way you are…” or “I love you, don’t ever change…” or how about this little ditty=>”You’re doing a great job! Keep doing what you’re doing…”

Now it’s great to hear those things BUT those statements can actually get in the way of your growth if YOU want to create something different or expand your life experience. You may find yourself in fear of letting go or creating something new unless you get permission to do so.

Seeking permission is really looking outside yourself to validate that you are taking the right step. You are asking for someone else’s permission to validate that what YOU want to heal or create is the right choice.

Well here’s the deal. NO ONE KNOWS BETTER THAN YOU WHAT THE RIGHT CHOICE IS FOR YOU! Yes, I put that in caps to make the point:-) When you take the time to look within to find what you really want, it is your truth and you don’t need anyone else’s permission to grow, change and create! SOOO write yourself a permission slip! Trust in YOU and your choices! Give YOURSELF permission to heal and transform!

Now… in the grand scheme of things if you are STILL looking for permission to heal, grow, create change and live from your true authentic self==>>PERMISSION GRANTED! Shine your Light~Debbie

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