Evolve – Page 5 – Daily Muse

I’m sure you will agree that it’s important to care for and honor your closest relationships. Whether it is with a friend, a lover, a spouse, or significant other, take time to acknowledge and let those people know how much you value and appreciate having them in your life.

While telling them in words how important they are to you, it is your actions and what you do that are more telling. A kind word, tender touch, a sweet little text or email, an unexpected gift or just listening and not trying to ‘fix’ everything. Perhaps they don’t need fixing as much as they need listening. 🙂

It’s clearly important to care for and nurture every relationship and not take it for granted or that relationship will soon deteriorate and wither away because there’s no energy in caring for it. If not cared for it could become buried under a sea of outer circumstances which takes away from the relationship and shifts your attention on things outside of the relationship itself.

Do you care for and honor your most intimate relationship…the one you have with YOU?

Just as important as your relationships with others is the one you have with yourself! In fact it is THE MOST IMPORTANT relationship in your life. Your mental, physical and spiritual space ARE relationships and need just as much care as your relationships with others. If you are living with someone or in a relationship, you spend time apart but you are with YOU 24/7!

What have you done for YOURSELF lately?

Do you speak kind words to yourself or do you beat yourself up? Do you forgive yourself for your indiscretions and seek to learn from your mistakes? Do you nurture and honor who you are? Do you pamper and give to yourself? Some of the most loving & giving people I know spend so much time giving, healing and sharing their energy with others they feel depleted. In the privacy of their home they wonder why their relationships don’t work or they are not in good health or they always seem to feel stressed out.

Replenish and give to yourself!

Loving and giving to others is wonderful but if you don’t love and give to yourself you won’t have a lot of energy to give! It’s also important to remind yourself that you can give without giving it away. There IS a difference. Replenishing energetically means filling up with your energy! It means calling back all you’ve given away and being in your flow. It means reconnecting with the earth & the God of your heart. It means letting the sunshine in, filling up with joy, happiness and the energy you were born with.

The best way I know how to do this energetically is through meditation. A grounded, in the body, balanced meditation. One that makes you feel present and connected with your body. Next treat your body with kindness! Notice how you talk to and feel about yourself. Do you speak kind encouraging words to yourself? Notice the foods you eat. Are those foods healthy for your body? When was the last time you had a massage and really pampered yourself?

Caring for others is important but so is caring for yourself. Take time each day to give to yourself and care for the person you are inside. Honor all that you know, feel, & do. Honor and love yourself. Nurture your mind, body, spirit and soul.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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In a conversation with a very wise friend I mentioned that I’m a completely different person today than I was, say, 10 years ago. I see and experience the world differently, spend time daily in meditation, write this blog and do a myriad of other things which frankly I never in a million years thought I’d be doing.

Yes, I was truly confident that I’ve completely changed and in many ways that is really true. How interesting that his response to my statement was ‘no, you haven’t changed. you’ve grown and expanded’. The comment sent me into a bit of a tailspin. He was absolutely right! With all the changes I’ve made, as well as the inner work of self-healing, the core of who I am hasn’t changed! In fact, I’m more ME then ever before!

Yes, there have been monumental changes in my life. My perspective has shifted, I have cleared out toxic relationships, lost weight and stopped living from other people’s picture of who they think I am. So I (with a capital I) haven’t changed. My life has changed because I’ve created change through healing, growth and expansion as spirit! Like peeling back the layers of an onion, layer by layer I uncovered ME.

Living up to someone else’s expectations doesn’t work. If it doesn’t come from your heart it comes across as inauthentic. Living to validate and heal others so they validate you doesn’t work. Those people will merely ‘take’ all you have to give and then eclipse out of your life! Living your life constantly trying to be the person you think someone else wants you to be doesn’t work. Who you think they want you to be is more than likely a picture steeped in invalidation that says who YOU are and what you bring to the table isn’t good enough.

If you’ve ever asked why someone can’t see you for who you really are then it’s time to peel back some layers. They certainly can’t see you for who you are if the YOU, you’d like them to see is buried under layers of other stuff. There can only be one YOU and ultimately you can’t keep up trying to be someone you are not. It is exhausting, frustrating and it will never get you where you want to go.

In essence, you can change your thoughts and actions. You can alter your life’s path. You can learn to love yourself. You can heal your spirit, uncovering the true you. You can grow and expand your confidence and have the courage to show yourself to the world. The cathartic events that ‘forever’ change you are learning experiences which allow for growth and expansion. You can create and BE the change you wish to see but that comes from strength within. The strength that is already there!

Take a journey within and look at yourself! Find the pearl that was created from those challenging experiences! Get in alignment with your passion and what you’d like to create. Bring more of YOU in and allow everything else to fall away. Find your ‘happy place’ inside and allow it to grow and expand! When you do this your life will truly be changed forever because your true spiritual essence shines through!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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