Destiny is yours to create! Are you trying to control it?

“Destiny grants us our wishes, but in its own way, in order to give us something beyond our wishes.”~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Destiny is in YOUR hands! You have the power to create it but perhaps what you think your destiny is and the vibration you put out is merely a small piece of your soul purpose! What if your destiny is BIGGER and more wonderful than you are imagining and you are limiting your creativity by trying to control the outcome?

 Control over your destiny comes in many forms. It could be constantly worrying or dwelling on past failures. It comes in the form of those little thoughts of doubt and fear that creep in. It might even be that at some point in your past you decided you couldn’t ‘have’ anything more than what you have. The negative thoughts which run through your head have the power to limit your destiny and take you off your path just as positive thoughts have the power to help in manifesting your dreams.

It doesn’t really matter what form it comes in or where the control comes from; Controlling your destiny does not work. It is steeped in resistance, effort and well, control. It is precisely that control that causes you to get stuck and feel like a hamster on a wheel going round and round. Your spirit knows where you are going and having a stranglehold on your growth merely prolongs you getting there and often times limits creativity and takes you off your path completely. Imagine what could be if you didn’t limit yourself! Imagine if you let go of HOW to get there and instead followed your intuition and inner guidance allowing things to effortlessly unfold? What if the “destiny” you “think” you’re headed towards is actually more profound, expansive and beautiful than you are imagining?

Your Spirit Knows!

“…you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”~ Steve Jobs

Beyond logic and thought there is your spirit and spiritual essence. You came here with a purpose and your spirit knows how to fulfill that purpose. You must trust that your spirit knows and will guide you. Why limit yourself by trying to control what is infinitely more than what you could imagine? All it takes to create your destiny is to put it out there! It takes trust, a bit of healing and allowing your creativity to flow freely.  Your spirit knows this. In fact YOU know your spirit knows this! How do you know you know? When you’ve been knocked off your true path, there is effort, negativity and the feeling of being stuck.  You know you are headed in the right direction when it feels good. You know when it feels right. You know it when you stand bold and tall with confidence. You know when you feel like nothing can stop you!

Let go of trying to control your destiny. Put the dream of what you want out there with the intent that whatever happens is for your highest good. Dream it, will it,  let it go and allow it to unfold. Follow your intuition and trust in spirit. Let your destiny come to you by allowing it to unfold! Embrace your true purpose and let it shine! Embrace your goodness and know that all things happen for a reason. Imagine what life would be like if your destiny is actually MORE than what you imagine!~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2012 All rights reserved

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The Healing Power of Love

Love is a vibration that resides within you and lives on forever. It is timeless and has the power to heal. Love, in fact, allows the most powerful healing one can receive to happen.  Once you have shared your love with another human being, if it is true unconditional love,  it is shared forever whether you are together or not.While your highest vibration of love doesn’t change, the circumstances around how you love and who you love do. For those hurting I want you to know it is possible to use the power of love to heal.

Your expression of love and how you love changes over time. Case in point, you loved your teddy bear when you were three. If you still have that bear it warms your heart and brings you comfort every time you pick it up. At one time you loved that bear so much you wouldn’t let go but now you wouldn’t bring that teddy bear out on a romantic evening with your significant other.  You express  love differently than when you were in the 3rd grade or middle school or even in college. As you grow older you realize (hopefully) that it isn’t necessary to hold on for dear life for true love endures and never dies. It never dies because it is a part of you and it is in fact who you are. YOU ARE LOVE!

I rarely write in first person because frankly I find it challenging but this is a personal experience which I want to share so that you too can harness your own personal power of love and use it to heal. That said, here we go! I can honestly say that now in this very moment I’ve never been more IN love. No, I don’t have a new boyfriend. I haven’t gotten together with an ‘ex’ either. I am, in fact, still a single woman making her way in this glorious world; And yet I’m completely, unequivocally IN love! What prompted this love moment? Oddly it came after a phone call from an old flame who I haven’t heard from in more than 10 years. Now I admit that I’ve been blessed with ex boyfriends and lovers who still call me but this call was special because it took him 10 years to actually make the call. 🙂 What happened as we caught up with our lives and took a brief trip down memory lane was that despite having fond memories I was still holding on to a whole lot of ‘wrong’ and not acknowledging the ‘right’.

Here’s what I mean by wrong: I always choose the wrong guy. What went wrong? What’s wrong with me? What am I doing wrong? Now I want to be clear that these things weren’t specific to this particular ex but nonetheless it became all to clear to me that I’ve had those pictures for a very long time and although I honestly thought I’d let go of them there was another layer to clear. During that very phone call I realized I don’t choose the wrong men! The men I was with were the perfectly right men for me at the time. The ex who called was the perfectly right man for me back then. We had fun, our love was true and the crazy experiences we shared will be cherished forever  by both of us. We learned a lot from each other. I affected his life just as he had affected mine and prior to that phone call I always wondered if he got as much out of it as I did.

Once the realization hit that these were the right men THEN but not the right men NOW my entire perspective changed. All my questions about “wrong” turned into “what did I learn”. I began to see all my past relationships in terms of the LOVE I experienced. I was not wrong; There’s nothing wrong with me! I wasn’t perfect but I wasn’t wrong either. I was learning and loving and reacting based on where I was then. I forgave myself and as I did, every single relationship literally flashed before my eyes. Any lingering hurt disappeared and all I felt was LOVE and appreciation for every relationship in my life. This is what happens in a healing! Finding just one piece of the puzzle can heal years of ‘wrong’.

Now I do realize that not everyone is blessed with an ‘ex’ who will call them and actually verbalize how much a past relationship meant to them but that doesn’t mean you can’t validate the relationship and heal. The healing begins when you stop seeing yourself as unloveable and wrong. Your relationship was not wrong when you entered into it. When you fall in love, you are IN love…. YOUR vibration of love.Validate the LOVE and the fact that you have the capacity to LOVE that much!

Focus on the love and the good instead of focusing on what went wrong. Maybe you were learning and weren’t wrong! Maybe you were the best thing that ever came into that person’s life (or visa versa) but it wasn’t meant to be. Maybe in time they will be able to call you to tell you how much you meant to them but if not, it’s up to you to forgive yourself, let go of any ‘blaming’ and reconnect with your highest vibration of love.

LOVE! Shower in it! Surround yourself with it so you can finally see through filters of LOVE that there’s nothing wrong with you. You ARE loveable when you are IN love. Love is your natural state of being-ness and sharing that love by being IN it is the greatest gift you could ever bestow upon another human being AND yourself!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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