All healing is self-healing: You can’t “do it” for someone else

All healing is self-healing and no matter how much you want a friend, lover or family member to heal there are just some healing journeys that you are not meant to take with or for someone else.

While it is in your control to hold space, send healing light, understand, empathize, listen and be a good friend it is not necessary, nor should you, actually do it for them.

If you’re one of those healers or empaths that takes on someone else’s pain  you may find yourself in pain and getting angry because you’re not validated for what you have done.*

*As an aside, it is not recommended you heal others in this way but it does happen. You never have to take on someone else’s pain.

What’s right for you or me is not necessarily right for someone else. Healing someone who doesn’t want to do it themselves or the same way as you do will not only lead to frustration but it’s possible that your attention and energy will be in their space.

As a being, that person might be working to empower themselves. If you try to take away their pain you are, in essence, invalidating their ability to heal themselves and it’s very likely they will become uncomfortable or angry. If they do become uncomfortable or angry it is a guarantee they will resist even the best of intentions.

In this situation, it is better to find your neutrality and heal yourself first. Seek to understand what it is within YOU that:

1. is a ‘match’ to the other person (there is always an energy within you that, at some level, matches the person you’re trying to heal)

2. wants to control someone else’s healing process. The difficulties and challenges that one person faces are very different from those of another and who is to say what internal process another person is going through.

Everyone heals in their own time…

To you it may not look like someone is healing if they are taking longer to do it than you would. Each of us makes our way as it is meant to be and the process takes as long as it takes. There is no time frame. It may take a day for one person, a week for another or a lifetime for someone else.

The most loving thing you can do is take a step back to honor and respect where someone is on their healing journey. Allow them the space to go through whatever it is they need to. There may be a very good reason they are taking their time.

It’s also important to recognize that the answer YOU found to heal a similar pain is not necessarily someone else’s answer. If you have judgement about how to do it or how long it should take, it invalidates the person AND the healing that is already in process. Take a step back to really see how much progress has been made.

Each of us must take responsibility for our own energy and healing process. Each of us has the ability to find our own answers. Heal yourself and honor the journey of others without judgement. Support and love those who are in process.

Be there to offer a kind word, a warm hug, or an ear to listen. Show or teach them how to heal with grace. The BEST way to help someone heal is to lead by example; Heal yourself. It shows others it is possible to heal and gives them permission to do the same.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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SIMON SAYS! It’s a control game….

simonsaysRemember the game “Simon Says” from when you were a child? Would you like to play? Come on, humor me, it’s just a fun little game.

The rules of the game are simple. You can only do what “Simon” tells you to do.

Simon says raise your left hand. Simon says put your hands on your hips. Simon says touch your toes.

Simon says touch your nose.  Simon says clap your hands. Simon says blink your eyes. Touch your head. Simon says wiggle your toes. Simon says “say HOORAH!”

Wasn’t that fun?! Did you do everything Simon said? Maybe you found it silly or maybe you simply smiled as you reconnected with a bit of your inner child. (If you didn’t play that’s ok, read on anyway.)

Now let me ask you something, did you touch your head? Did Simon say to do it? If you didn’t touch your head you get to stay in the game. If you did touch your head, you’re out. Bye. Don’t feel bad though. You were just humoring me right? It’s just a silly game….or is it?

From the time we are born we are “taught” to follow the rules, do what we’re told, mind our manners, don’t speak until we are spoken to.  We asked permission to do something or we waited for someone to tell us what to do.  Of course, this is good for children but what happens when the control programming carries over into our adult life?

The game “Simon Says” illustrates how easily we can be programmed to follow the rules and allow others to control us. Simon, the control, tells us to do something and we do it. If Simon doesn’t say it…well, we lost. We failed. We’re out of the game and effectively out of the group.

No one WANTS to lose when their FRIENDS are still playing and so, early on, we figure out that the next time we play the game, all we have to do is make sure that we listen intently to “Simon” the control. We don’t do anything unless Simon Says we should.

Do you, or did you, have a “Simon” in your life? Are you waiting for Simon to say you can DO something? Do you find yourself following the leader so you are part of a group?  Do you spend time responding to rules that may not even apply in present time?

Did you, or are you currently, following someone else’s “rules” or, more importantly, are you still following imaginary rules and playing the game therefore allowing yourself to be controlled by them? If you answered “yes” to any of those questions or you recognize there has been a control at work in your life, maybe it’s time to clear the energy.

If you’re not clear on what I’m taking about think back to a time when an authority figure said to you “Stop it! You’re out of control.” (If no one has ever said that to you, or you haven’t felt that way at some point consider yourself lucky.)

Once you remember that moment ask yourself whose control were you out of? (That’s a hint that maybe the person who said you were out of control meant you were out of their control.) When you become aware of and release the control or “Simon says” pictures that are indeed a part of all of us, you begin to heal a part of you that stops you from being who you truly are.

As you release more “Simons” and stop playing the game you find your freedom and become senior in your space. You are present and in charge as the authority and creator. You come alive with possibilities!

We’ve all allowed ourselves to be controlled or programmed at one time or another but when we start living a more awakened life, those controls hinder and instead of help. If you’re having a challenge with this…I’ll help you out. SIMON SAYS find your freedom!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Trust your PGS – Michael Tamura

Trust your intuition always! #Trust #MichaelTamura #PGS #LivingLovingLearning

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During the making of my intuition film I’ve been fortunate to make some good friends all around the world.
Amongst them is the remarkable Michael Tamura, the famed psychic healer from Mt. Shasta.
Michael and I communicate regularly, and I will sometime phone him out of the blue for a chat – and each time we communicate he teaches me something new, and wonderful.
We swapped emails just before I left for Portugal, and, having received his permission to do so, I am publishing the first of two parts here now.
MICHAEL TAMURA – from an email to Bill Bennett, April 17 ~
(Responding to an email where I am told him of my struggles with my film, thrashing around wondering if it should be didactic or personal… I finally came to the conclusion that it should be personal.)L
I agree that your film has to be personal and…

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Thanksgiving and Giving Thanks

Thanksgiving“Gratitude  is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse  to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.”~Henry  Van Dyke

Giving thanks is not the same as having gratitude and appreciation. Having gratitude and appreciation is your inner embracing, owning and “having” those things which have manifested in your life.

Gratitude is an inner feeling. The acknowledgement for those things you already have. Having gratitude and appreciation is an inner expression of peace and contentment. In every sense gratitude and appreciation are vibrational messages felt deep in your soul that have the ability to shift your perception from negative to positive.

Giving thanks differs in that by giving thanks you are expressing in words or deeds the inner feeling. By giving thanks in any form whether it be a simple, heartfelt, verbal “thank you”, shouting it from the rooftops, writing a note, donating your time or money to help those less fortunate or saying prayer you are showing and giving gratitude and appreciation.

Do you EXPRESS your gratitude and appreciation to your loved ones?

Often we remain silent and do not express  our inner feelings to those for whom we have the deepest gratitude and appreciation. We might hold them dear on our hearts but do not express it as often as we should. Why do we hold back? Are you thanking those who mean the most?

Thanksgiving is wonderful time to visit your inner world to find gratitude and appreciation for all that you are, all that you have, and for those who helped you with valuable lessons (and even challenges) along the way. Once you connect with your inner gratitude it is time to express what is in your heart.

Say thank you to those who may not know how grateful you are. Don’t assume they know. Give thanks for your abundance by giving back. The greatest expression of living in abundance is giving. Many are struggling right now and your thanks-giving might be the very thing they need to find hope and a moment of peaceful joy.

Silent giving (on an energetic level) says thank you but your soul will burst with contentment when you express it in physical form.  Follow the “impulse” to express your heartfelt thanks. Allow what is inside to be seen and heard by word or deed. Why not make it a daily practice? Start now and by the end of the year you will create a beautiful habit of thanking those you are grateful to!

I would be remiss if I did not say thank you to all of YOU. To my family, friends and readers, my gratitude and appreciation is endless. I thank you for filling my heart with love. Your kind notes, love and support lives with me daily. Thank you for reading and sharing and caring. We are creating a healing vibration that cascades out and touches others. Thank you with all my heart! Happy Thanksgiving! Bountiful blessings to you and yours!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Reflections of 9/11/2001… #NeverForget

 As the stories and images from 9/11 fill the airwaves we reflect upon not only the events of that day but how those events touched each of our lives in some way. Each and every one of us was affected in some way and each of us has a personal story about that day…. #NeverForget

It was a beautiful sunny day in Chicago on September 11, 2001. I went out for a run and remember how the sun was playfully dancing on the grass, reflecting the crisp blue sky in the mirrored buildings and on the lake. Glancing up at the skyline and marveling at its magnificence I remember feeling happy yet at the same time, there was this nagging feeling I had to get home….

I cut my run short that morning. When I got home, I went into the kitchen ignoring the beeping of my answering machine, grabbed a cup of coffee and came back into the living room where I had left the TV on before I left. Charlie Gibson was on Good Morning America showing a clip of a plane hitting the first  World Trade Center building. I thought they were showing a trailer for a new movie coming out. “Are you kidding?” I thought, “Who would make a movie like that?”

In this case, truth is clearly more horrible than fiction. I sat down and watched live as the second plane hit. I went completely numb! This was no movie! It was happening and happening NOW! I sat in stunned silence watching the events in New York, DC & Pennsylvania unfold. Yes, I remember that morning clearly even 10 years later and I’m sure I’m not the only one. All over the world people came together. There was an outpouring of love and it seemed for a moment the world came together as a family.

We honor  the victims, survivors and everyone who rose in service on that day and in the days to follow.  Our heroes are the firefighters and police who went well beyond the call of duty to save lives. Many of them made the greatest sacrifice…their lives. We feel connected in some way as Americans and it does not matter if we personally knew anyone involved.

We grieve and wrap our arms around all who were directly affected yet who among us was not affected? ALL of us were affected and it is time to put aside our differences and wrap our arms around each other. It is time to stand tall and not turn a deaf ear when we hear stories of terrorism “someplace else in the world” because “someplace else” was New York in 2001. On that day in 2001 we were a family, grieving together, mourning together and watching a real life horror story.

Let us honor and say a prayer for those who died senselessly at the hands of terrorists.  Say a prayer and send love and light to those who lost family friends and co-workers. Let us thank and honor those in law enforcement, the Fire Department, the Military and anyone else who stepped up to go beyond the call of duty for their contributions and sacrifice on that day and since that day. It is time to embrace our loved ones, teach tolerance and love and pray for PEACE ON EARTH. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Are Your Eyes Wide Shut?

eyesclosedWhen it comes to healing I think we all like to “say” we are aware and we’ve dealt with things but have we really? Are your eyes wide open or wide shut? Have you really examined and cleared out the energy signatures that  remain? There is more to healing than simply “putting it behind you” and moving on.

I find many “self-aware” people are the ones with their eyes tightly shut and for good reason. Why would a loving, good person want to look at and acknowledge pain? Why would anyone for that matter? There are just some things we have difficulty or don’t want to look at.

To truly heal and put it behind you, you must acknowledge, forgive, and clear out the painful memory or energy that has affected your growth and changed you forever. You must allow your feelings to bubble up and flow freely no matter what they are.

Energy Signatures & Imprints

Putting something behind you is definitely a great step to take but there are energy signatures or imprints which remain until the energy is released from the physical body or from a different level in the energy body.  Those who are healers or who do psychic work are particularly vulnerable.  Having your eyes wide shut doesn’t mean you are not aware. In fact you are probably acutely aware of energy, spirit and the like but when it comes to looking at energy left behind, uncovering another layer or clearing filters within yourself, that’s another matter.

If you experience and notice repeating patterns in your life, the energy is still there. If you identify with a past trauma and allow it to shape your life, the energy is still there. What keeps it there you may ask? Most times it is due to an unconscious fear, resistance or it’s just to painful to look at. Those energies get in the way of having your eyes wide open and seeing it for yourself. You can resolve a matter in your head but if the energy is not released it will continue to come up time and time again.

Keep in mind that it may not have been you that shut your eyes! Sometimes there is an energy that comes in that will push your panic button, send you running for the hills and cause you to clamp your eyes shut. It is also possible that someone didn’t want you to see clearly.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship, got blindsided with a break up and said “I didn’t see it coming” that’s a hint that your eyes were wide shut or they were shut for you. Have you ever not gotten on the bathroom scale because you didn’t want to see what you weighed or put bills in a drawer because you couldn’t look at them? Nothing changes until you find acceptance and deal with the energy at hand.

Acceptance and Forgiveness

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.”~Serenity Prayer

You can’t change the past but you can accept and acknowledge that something happened to possibly change your life forever. Accept and acknowledge you may have taken on energy from others. Forgive yourself if you continue to heal the past. Forgive yourself and release any guilt for not being able to heal someone. Not everyone wishes to be heal themselves the way you wish to heal.

Open your eyes with forgiveness and love in your heart. For yourself, for others and for whatever happened. Allow yourself time to grieve, get angry and then let it go. Breathe, acknowledge, forgive, release then fill up with your energy and the love you are. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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It’s a Beautiful Night for a Moon Dance!

full moon“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.”~Buddha

When the full moon shines it illuminates the earth and sky. What a wonderful reminder to use her gentle energy to heal and replenish! In an all to often harsh world I find that the challenge many people have does not lie in “getting rid of” energy but the forgetting to replenish and return to their natural flow after everything has been released.

Whether scientific or energetic everything has its own balance and the moon affects us just like the sun. The sun is a powerful energy; The moon is a much more gentle energy and we need both in our lives to help us keep in balance and harmony. I think the full moon’s gotten a bit of a bum rap. From movies about werewolves and vampires to the myth that people go a little crazy during a full moon. There are those who cringe or prefer to stay inside and not go out to simply gaze at the beauty of a full moon sky.

Many years ago I went on a women’s camping retreat in Death Valley and we decided to go on a night hike in the Mojave desert. Since the moon was full we didn’t take flashlights. The excitement was palpable as we left our cars and walked into the sand dunes. We stopped to have a ceremony of sorts. There was a gentle breeze blowing thorough the quiet desert and we took time in silent meditation, honored the moon and then as a group of psychic women might do, we started howling and giggling at the bright orb in the sky. It was probably one of the most healing moments I’ve every experienced.

Grounding in the desert under a full moon with desert flowers in bloom has such a peaceful energy about it; That is until you get so absorbed in the beauty and celebration of the moment, you realize you didn’t pay attention to the direction you took while walking IN! Yes, about 20 of us were lost in the desert with only the full moon to light our way. No sign of our cars, the parking lot nothing! Just the endless sand dunes and the light of the moon.

We started walking and trying to find our original trail in but to no avail. The fear lit up, past lives lit up and each person wanted to control the direction we would go. Finally we grounded, cleared the fear, control and female competition (again something that a group of powerful psychic women will do) and allowed our situation to simply BE. Then like the Phoenicians, Greeks and many of our ancient ancestors who traveled to new lands, we navigated back with guidance from the moon.

What probably surprised me the most was how calming and healing the moon’s energy is even though it is a very different from that of the sun. The moon has a quiet way of guiding you back to yourself.  In contrast to the sun, the moon’s shimmery glow gently illuminates the darkness and, if you let it, allows you to open your eyes to that which you haven’t wanted to look at quietly and with little drama. Using the energy and glow of the moon to guide you back “home” brings a sense of serenity and peace within.

When was the last time you howled at the moon?  When was the last time you allowed the moon to guide you? When was the last time you took a few moments to gaze into the sky to admire the moon and stars? When was the last time you did a full moon meditation and used that energy to heal? When was the last time you….“danced by the light of the moon“?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Commemorating 9/11/2001

 As the stories and images from 9/11 fill the airwaves we reflect upon not only the events of that day but how those events touched each of our lives in some way. Each and every one of us was affected in some way shape or form and each of us has a personal story about that day….

It was a beautiful sunny day in Chicago on September 11, 2001. I went out for a run and remember how the sun was playfully dancing on the grass, reflecting the crisp blue sky in the mirrored buildings and on the lake. Glancing up at the skyline and marveling at its magnificence I remember feeling happy yet at the same time, there was this nagging feeling I had to get home….

I cut my run short that morning. When I got home, I went into the kitchen ignoring the beeping of my answering machine, grabbed a cup of coffee and came back into the living room where I had left the TV on before I left. Charlie Gibson was on Good Morning America showing a clip of a plane hitting the first  World Trade Center building. I thought they were showing a trailer for a new movie coming out. “Are you kidding?” I thought, “Who would make a movie like that?”

In this case, truth is clearly more horrible than fiction. I sat down and watched live as the second plane hit. I went completely numb! This was no movie! It was happening and happening NOW! I sat in stunned silence watching the events in New York, DC & Pennsylvania unfold. Yes, I remember that morning clearly even 10 years later and I’m sure I’m not the only one. All over the world people came together. There was an outpouring of love and it seemed for a moment the world came together as a family.

We honor  the victims, survivors and everyone who rose in service on that day and in the days to follow.  Our heroes are the firefighters and police who went well beyond the call of duty to save lives. Many of them made the ultimate sacrifice…their lives. We feel connected in some way as Americans and it does not matter if we personally knew anyone involved.

We grieve and wrap our arms around all who were directly affected yet who among us was not affected? ALL of us were affected and it is time to put aside our differences and wrap our arms around each other. It is time to stand tall and not turn a deaf ear when we hear stories of terrorism “someplace else in the world” because “someplace else” was New York in 2001. On that day in 2001 we were a family, grieving together, mourning together and watching a real life horror story.

Let us honor and say a prayer for those who died senslessly at the hands of terrorists.  Say a prayer and send love and light to those who lost family friends and co-workers. Let us thank and honor those in law enforcement, the Fire Department, the Military and anyone else who stepped up to go beyond the call of duty for their contributions and sacrifice on that day and since that day. It is time to embrace our loved ones and teach tolerance and love. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Meditation: What’s the Purpose & Benefit?

InnerselfHave you ever asked yourself why meditate and turn your attention within? What’s the purpose of quieting the mind, getting grounded and centered? Why meditate at all? Do you use meditation to solve your problems? Why bother meditating when things are going well? What’s the benefit? These are interesting questions to ponder!

Often times I come across people who only meditate when they are going through tough times. Other times I hear from people that they are going through tough times and they can’t meditate. It does surprise me that the simple act of quieting the mind is so difficult when the drama and chaos of life, in other words ‘a growth period’, stops us from doing the very thing that is needed to get through it!

Meditation helps you get through a growth period FASTER!

It allows you to find answers by listening, changes your vibration and gives any energy or problems that you’ve taken on from others to gently fall away. A grounded meditation and release actually gives the energy a place to go. Meditation helps you access your inner sanctuary and is a safe place to get away from the swirling chaos. It’s very much like taking a vacation from your life for a few moments.

Meditation doesn’t solve problems.

You don’t need to “solve” anything! In fact, you are not a problem, your life is not a problem and NOTHING needs solving! You were born into your body to learn and experience exactly what you are learning and experiencing! It would be wonderful if our lives were all perfect with nary a stumbling block but that is not the case. Meditation doesn’t make your life perfect and bring you everything you want. It does however, bring you into present time and might even allow an answer or two to sneak in! Trust me, your problems will still be there when you finish meditating but perhaps they won’t seem as monumental as beforehand.

Meditation creates a sense of peace.

It allows you to change your perspective about what’s going on. Much of the time you will notice that most of the chaos has nothing to do with you personally, however it also allows you to own the part you played…and there is always some part you played. If you find it difficult to quiet down your thoughts, just allow them to float by, acknowledge them and the fact that you have that much going on then bring your attention back to the peace and safety of your inner sanctuary.

Why meditate when things are going well?

When everything is happy and moving along smoothly taking the time to meditate not only helps keep things moving along smoothly but when (not if) you run into a road block you will handle it more easily. It is a great time to dream, create something new and focus on your passion. It is a time to validate all that you are and shine your light even more brightly.  Each time you do this when you are feeling good, your body will remember what it feels like and make it easier to come back to that space other times!

The great thing about meditation is that by changing your vibration and releasing that which isn’t you, you change your life and heal. You change how you view life with its many obstacles AND find answers for how to handle them. You don’t need anyones permission and you may even heal those areas of your life where you feel stuck! Don’t believe me? Goggle it and check out the latest scientific research on the benefits of meditation. Why not start today and create a whole new world?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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A Message to Heal Your Heart….

Today’s healing message is about love and healing your heart. All of us have had our hearts hurt at one time or another and it sometimes causes us to retreat and hide. There are those longing for love yet have been so hurt in the past they bury it deeply within the heart. They are no longer able to bare their soul, be who they are and shine from within lest they be hurt again.

Love makes you vulnerable but it is that very love, the love you have in your heart, which has strength beyond measure. Love allows your soul to “crawl out from its hiding place”.  Although we love others and wish to be loved, love is not anything outside of you. Love is within you. You came from love and you ARE love. Your soul IS love!

The best way to heal a sad heart is to find that love within and start loving yourself again. Surround yourself in the love you are. Embrace the love in your heart. Love is never ‘not good enough’. Love is never ‘wrong’. What makes one feel that way is the ego and mind thinking love is outside of you. Love is not a thing to be chased after because it’s already inside you. Love is a vibration that brightens your spirit allows you to shine.

Close your eyes for a moment. Imagine yourself radiating and sitting in the middle of a place of pure love. Breathe in the love that is surrounding you and allow it to transform any pain you feel. Exhale what has now been transformed into love to send love out into the world. If someone has hurt you, allow yourself to bring in the light of forgiveness and imagine them in a bubble of love outside of you then bring your attention back to radiating and surrounding yourself in your own love vibration.

If you are seeking love, you must find it within yourself lest you find yourself in a game of hide and seek. Perhaps it’s not someone else who is “it” in the game. What if the “it” who is seeking is you and what if your soul came out of hiding? Imagine the possibilities of shining instead of hiding. Bare your soul by radiating love! Allow your soul to come out play for awhile!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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