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“The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.”~Steve Maraboli

Have you ever had trouble clearing an energy or letting something or someone go? If so, you are not alone! My email box is filled almost daily with letters from clients and colleagues alike asking why it’s so hard to let go of certain things. Whether it is an emotion, an energy, a memory or a person sometimes we focus so much on letting go and pushing it out we forget what’s holding it there in the first place; Resistance and control.

Resistance in the form of not wanting it there and “working” to move it out; Control in the form of trying to control the energy, the outcome or the emotion that comes along with having to look at whatever it is you want to let go of. You may not even realize resistance or control is in play but if you can’t let go of something you can be sure there is. It’s important to remember that if you can’t let go you are holding on and what you hold on to takes up space and keeps you stuck. There are several steps you can take to clear the energy, pictures or programming taking up space and the first step is….

LET IT BE!

Let the energy be and let yourself be. Give yourself the space to feel what you feel and see what you see. Many of our memories are full of pain or fear. In real life if you don’t want to see something you can scrunch your eyes tightly shut. When you are trying to clear energy you must face all of it and it will, not maybe, it WILL bring up a lot of emotion. Give yourself space and give the memory, picture or energy a space to be. Just notice it. See it for what it is, acknowledge it, forgive yourself for your part in it, give it a space then….

STOP thinking of it as “letting go” and start thinking of it as RELEASE!

I admit in the past I’ve been a big proponent of letting go but in a recent workshop I attended I learned and experienced first hand how easy it is to clear energy when you shift from ” letting go” of energy to “releasing” it. This subtle shift in how one thinks of it is not only quite powerful but simple. Thinking of clearing as a release allows it to be. Release sets the energy free. Release sets YOU free!

During the workshop I pictured everything I was ready to clear as butterflies. When I released those butterflies and watched them fly away it brought me a sense of joy. Whatever image you choose to use to help you clear, put the energy and pictures into those images and release them to free up more space in your world.

Letting it BE and Releasing puts YOU in control!

Isn’t it interesting how much time and energy we spend trying to control what is outside of our control? Isn’t it interesting how much time and energy we spend trying to bully or blame or push out the energy in our space? If you’re struggling to let go of something keep in mind you are trying to control it and it’s taking up space; Space you no longer have available for creating. The more you struggle the more power it has over you! Letting an energy be is very much like saying “Hey I see you there and you have no power over me!” Letting it be allows you to take ownership of the energy you’ve held on to and therefore gives you the freedom and, in essence, the power to release it!

“Speaking words of Wisdom LET IT BE…”

As Paul McCartney sang “speaking words of wisdom, let it be…” Listen and read the words to that song in the video below. They are a true and beautiful reminder of how “letting it be” helps in the healing process. Let it be, release it and create more space for YOU to be YOU!~Shine Your Light

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Are you an out-of-control healer? Do you find you become responsible or blame yourself for other people’s feelings, reactions or experiences? Do you go into automatic healing mode with others who may not actually want it?

I stand before you with a confession; I am an out of control healer. Being an out of control healer was, and still is, very much a part of my own personal healing journey. Each time it happens I look inward to find the energy picture that causes me to get stuck in that space time and time again so I can I peel off yet another layer of “stuff” that I’ve taken responsibility for which is not mine.

How do you know if you’re an out of control healer?

Healing others and offering help is not necessarily being an out of control healer but you may be an out of control healer if:

you give away your energy and attention to those in need at the expense of your own needs
you become responsible for another’s experience, growth period, feelings or reactions
you blame yourself and constantly try to “fix” things outside of your control
you become an energy sponge for others pain
you try to “solve” everyone else’s problems or dramas
you continue to heal those who don’t want it and you go into effort trying to heal them
you only hear from so-called friends when they are having a crisis
you befriend every hurting soul you see

Those are just a few of the ways you can tell if you’re an out of control healer but why one does this is also important to look at. All healing is self-healing and there are those who don’t wish to take responsibility for their part in the drama or situations they find themselves in. If you continue to heal or give your energy and attention to them, they will become angry because in essence you are trying to “show them” and heal what they don’t want to look at within themselves. If you find yourself in a situation when you are doing this, look within yourself to see what it is within you causing you to snap into healing mode.

Use your experiences for self-healing

Every person will have a different set of energies or pictures but I wanted to share a recent discovery on my part after I was “blamed” for making someone feel inadequate. In a conversation I made an innocent comment about how I was “used to doing it differently” than how they did it. I then asked a question to clarify the different style. I was not trying to invalidate in any way yet I noticed the person’s pictures get lit up and I quickly went into healing mode. I took responsibility for everything she was feeling, blamed myself, decided I was a horrible monster of a person for lighting up her pictures in the first place then tried to fix it which of course didn’t work.

No one can “make” someone feel inadequate (or feel however they are feeling.) It is those places where they already feel inadequate that are coming up for them. One also can’t be responsible for lighting up the energies or pictures someone else is working on. It doesn’t mean I didn’t feel bad about causing someone pain because it, in fact, affected me rather deeply and it took hours before I was finally able to forgive myself and let go. I had to turn my attention within to find those places where I felt “inadequate”. I had to find those places within where I felt like I’d said something wrong and forgive myself for being human and occasionally saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I had to turn within, take responsibility and forgive myself for whatever part I played in it.

Life is not always about smooth sailing on calm waters and each of us can learn from every situation that is presented to us. If you are an out of control healer you are being shown all those places you can work on within yourself. Dig deeper into your inner world and uncover that which has been hidden or you haven’t wanted to look at until now. Forgive yourself for the part you played in the past and allow yourself and others to be where they are. How someone else is feeling is beyond your control. How someone hears you is out of your control. Someone who doesn’t want to heal is beyond your control. Taking responsibility and forgiving yourself for whatever part you played IS in your control and is also a part of your own healing process.~Shine Your Light

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