All healing is self-healing: You can’t “do it” for someone else

All healing is self-healing and no matter how much you want a friend, lover or family member to heal there are just some healing journeys that you are not meant to take with or for someone else.

While it is in your control to hold space, send healing light, understand, empathize, listen and be a good friend it is not necessary, nor should you, actually do it for them.

If you’re one of those healers or empaths that takes on someone else’s pain  you may find yourself in pain and getting angry because you’re not validated for what you have done.*

*As an aside, it is not recommended you heal others in this way but it does happen. You never have to take on someone else’s pain.

What’s right for you or me is not necessarily right for someone else. Healing someone who doesn’t want to do it themselves or the same way as you do will not only lead to frustration but it’s possible that your attention and energy will be in their space.

As a being, that person might be working to empower themselves. If you try to take away their pain you are, in essence, invalidating their ability to heal themselves and it’s very likely they will become uncomfortable or angry. If they do become uncomfortable or angry it is a guarantee they will resist even the best of intentions.

In this situation, it is better to find your neutrality and heal yourself first. Seek to understand what it is within YOU that:

1. is a ‘match’ to the other person (there is always an energy within you that, at some level, matches the person you’re trying to heal)

2. wants to control someone else’s healing process. The difficulties and challenges that one person faces are very different from those of another and who is to say what internal process another person is going through.

Everyone heals in their own time…

To you it may not look like someone is healing if they are taking longer to do it than you would. Each of us makes our way as it is meant to be and the process takes as long as it takes. There is no time frame. It may take a day for one person, a week for another or a lifetime for someone else.

The most loving thing you can do is take a step back to honor and respect where someone is on their healing journey. Allow them the space to go through whatever it is they need to. There may be a very good reason they are taking their time.

It’s also important to recognize that the answer YOU found to heal a similar pain is not necessarily someone else’s answer. If you have judgement about how to do it or how long it should take, it invalidates the person AND the healing that is already in process. Take a step back to really see how much progress has been made.

Each of us must take responsibility for our own energy and healing process. Each of us has the ability to find our own answers. Heal yourself and honor the journey of others without judgement. Support and love those who are in process.

Be there to offer a kind word, a warm hug, or an ear to listen. Show or teach them how to heal with grace. The BEST way to help someone heal is to lead by example; Heal yourself. It shows others it is possible to heal and gives them permission to do the same.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Seasons Greetings + A Message for 2017 from My Heart to Yours!

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Dear Beautiful Souls,

What a year it’s been. I don’t need to remind you that 2016 was truly a year of the unexpected. If the world feels upside down or inside out, you are right. Yes, it’s much like the cat was let out of the proverbial bag. As we all prepare to say good-bye and good riddance to 2016 there is much to reflect upon.

We experienced exciting highs and challenging lows but through it all, there are those who began separating from the ego and connecting as souls. We will continue to experience a spiritual revolution in 2017. We will see some unlikely souls who were previously silent step forward. We will also experience the emergence of light beings as we open our minds and hearts with expanded awareness.

The New Year will bring many opportunities and each of us will be called on to do our part. It’s time to find neutral, step up and shine from the inside out.

In times of great change there are always blessings. Now is the time to count those blessings. As you reflect upon 2016 be sure to take special note of your blessings. It is remembering those blessings and moments of joy that help us move through any sorrow or pain.

In the hustle bustle of the parties and over indulgence make sure to take time to relax, reflect, regroup and refocus. Connect with your blessings and literally breathe them into your soul. Imagine bathing yourself in gentle waves of  God’s golden light.

Wishing you and your families a beautiful season filled with miracles and light. I hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated! With Much Love, Light and Laughter Debbie

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Thanksgiving and Giving Thanks

Thanksgiving“Gratitude  is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse  to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.”~Henry  Van Dyke

Giving thanks is not the same as having gratitude and appreciation. Having gratitude and appreciation is your inner embracing, owning and “having” those things which have manifested in your life.

Gratitude is an inner feeling. The acknowledgement for those things you already have. Having gratitude and appreciation is an inner expression of peace and contentment. In every sense gratitude and appreciation are vibrational messages felt deep in your soul that have the ability to shift your perception from negative to positive.

Giving thanks differs in that by giving thanks you are expressing in words or deeds the inner feeling. By giving thanks in any form whether it be a simple, heartfelt, verbal “thank you”, shouting it from the rooftops, writing a note, donating your time or money to help those less fortunate or saying prayer you are showing and giving gratitude and appreciation.

Do you EXPRESS your gratitude and appreciation to your loved ones?

Often we remain silent and do not express  our inner feelings to those for whom we have the deepest gratitude and appreciation. We might hold them dear on our hearts but do not express it as often as we should. Why do we hold back? Are you thanking those who mean the most?

Thanksgiving is wonderful time to visit your inner world to find gratitude and appreciation for all that you are, all that you have, and for those who helped you with valuable lessons (and even challenges) along the way. Once you connect with your inner gratitude it is time to express what is in your heart.

Say thank you to those who may not know how grateful you are. Don’t assume they know. Give thanks for your abundance by giving back. The greatest expression of living in abundance is giving. Many are struggling right now and your thanks-giving might be the very thing they need to find hope and a moment of peaceful joy.

Silent giving (on an energetic level) says thank you but your soul will burst with contentment when you express it in physical form.  Follow the “impulse” to express your heartfelt thanks. Allow what is inside to be seen and heard by word or deed. Why not make it a daily practice? Start now and by the end of the year you will create a beautiful habit of thanking those you are grateful to!

I would be remiss if I did not say thank you to all of YOU. To my family, friends and readers, my gratitude and appreciation is endless. I thank you for filling my heart with love. Your kind notes, love and support lives with me daily. Thank you for reading and sharing and caring. We are creating a healing vibration that cascades out and touches others. Thank you with all my heart! Happy Thanksgiving! Bountiful blessings to you and yours!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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Do You Act Upon Your Miracles?

Miracle & Light“There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.”~Albert Einstein

Does a miracle change things by the notion that it appears and “poof” everything changes or is it a matter of acting on the miracle that presented itself? Is it “enough” that you recognized the miracle or will you take action with the knowledge that an amazing opportunity just opened a door for you and all you need do is act upon it by simply taking a step forward to walk through the door?

There’s no better time to reflect upon miracles, spirit and freedom than this holy week of Passover and Easter. From the miracle of the parting of the Red Sea to the miracle of spirit appearing after death, this is a week to reflect upon what we actually DO with the miracles that occur in each of our lives.

It might be a thought, an opportunity or you just might have an epiphany which in an instant helps you change direction. After all aren’t those the miracles you pray for? An answer is just as much of a miracle as anything else if you’ve asked a question (or prayed for it) long enough. What you do with your miracle is up to you but first you must start to see those miracles and find freedom by making the impossible, possible with your choices.

Back in 1980 I was living in Israel on Kibbutz Ha’Ogen. During the time I was there I had the opportunity to part take of a Passover Seder on the Kibbutz. The Seder was very different from the one I experienced growing up. At the time I spoke semi-fluent hebrew and was struck at the core of my being when the words (loosely translated here) were “It is what we did for ourselves with the help of God’s miracles that brought us out of Egypt.” Wait a second! It wasn’t all about what “God did for us (‘us’ meaning the Jewish people) that brought us out of Egypt.”

It made so much sense to me. If the Red Sea parted but the people were too afraid to step forward and actually walk the path that was miraculously created  the story of Exodus would be very different. In fact the story of Exodus might not exist at all. Can you imagine if the people said “ok God, you parted the sea, cool trick. Now what? Can you tele-port me to the other side.” I realized back then that if you don’t act on miracles or opportunities or the answers to your prayers you will still be in a place of waiting for miracles, opportunities or your prayers to be answered. You need to act upon the miracles presented to you at any given moment and in many ways, acting upon your miracles is another miracle!

The definition of a miracle is that which cannot be scientifically explained or otherwise attributable to the “laws of nature” but who of us has not experienced or seen some sort of miracle? The birth of a baby, the seeds sprouting in spring, or waking up in the morning after a devastating storm when you thought you would surely parish. The fact that you are a divine spirit and that you made the choice to live in a human body is a miracle. The sun rising and setting is a miracle.

So as in the opening Einstein quote; “There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.” Each day presents you with miracles and perhaps the real miracle is the choice you have to act upon those miracles. It is YOU and what you choose to do for yourself when you are given a miracle that makes all the difference!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Super (New) Moon + Solar Eclipse + Equinox! Ride the Wave on March 20, 2015!

Super Moon, equinox, solar eclipse. Ride the waves on March 20As if it’s not enough to handle the energy of a super moon, a new moon, an equinox or a solar eclipse individually we will have a rare opportunity to experience all three, in the same week, on the same day!

Hold on to your hats folks the wave of energy is on its way! Actually the energy is already effecting us but with a bit of self-care you will successfully ride the wave of this energetic tsunami!

First let’s look at the energy of the Super Moon. A super moon occurs when the moon is at or closest to the earth in a particular orbit. In short, what’s going to happen during this eclipse is the Earth, Moon and Sun will all be in a line, with Moon in its nearest approach to Earth. This is a great time to look at your spiritual alignment between body and spirit as well as your alignment with the earth.

Riding the energy wave doesn’t mean you let go of your grounding! In fact it’s just the opposite. With all the energy stirred up and getting ready for release it’s important you re-ground and center yourself in present time. You may have already noticed your meditation space shifting in the past couple of days (I know I have.) If you’ve noticed a shift or you find it difficult to meditate just remind yourself you’re feeling the approach of the energy wave.

Another aspect caused by a Super Moon is heightened emotions. If you’ve found yourself extra emotional and there’s no reason for it, this might be why. Again, check your grounding and give those emotions space to flow. Like the tides, our emotions ebb and flow. Let them.

Now, let’s look at the energy of a solar eclipse. A solar eclipse occurs when the moon passes directly in between the earth and the sun. It momentarily blocks out the light from the sun.

Eclipses signify endings and beginnings. They literally ‘eclipse out’ things in your life that no longer serve you and free up your energy to create anew. The equinox is a wonderful time to create and grow new experiences, ideas and to finally start those projects you’ve been ready to put into motion.

The eclipse will help you move out anything that’s been standing in your way but as with all healing energy work, you have to WANT to release what no longer serves you or gets in your way. There’s power in this eclipse but you don’t have to get steam rolled under it. Choose to ride the wave and enter a new beginning for yourself!

Another important note is this particular cosmic event (according to NASA) will have an effect on the power systems; It will have a direct effect on everyone who is sensitive to energy. Keep breathing and take solace that after this 2015 equinox eclipse, the next solar eclipse at the March equinox will happen on March 20, 2034. Then there will only be two more in this century: 2053 and 2072.

The energy of the Spring Equinox is all about planting the seeds, growth and renewal. The energetic combination will truly offer us a gift. We all can change directions, illuminate the darkness, release that which no longer serves and warm our hearts and minds with the coming sun.

So grab your surf board, give yourself a new grounding cord and lets ride the wave of this one! Nothing but leaving the past behind, opening up your creativity, and riding off into new, brighter horizons!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Seasons Greetings with Infinite Love and Gratitude!

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It is with deep gratitude in my heart I say thank you for your inspiration and support. I write this blog for you and it is my sincere hope that by reading these simple words, you find strength within and love in your heart.

2014 was a challenging year of profound change for many. We experienced love, loss, learning, challenges and letting go. At the same time we rallied around each other to lift up those who needed our love. As we move forward into 2015 let us continue to share and care for each other.

My holiday wish for you and your loved ones is that your hearts find peace and your homes be filled with light, love and laughter during the holidays and beyond.
From my heart to yours with infinite love~Shine Your Light, Debbie

Reflections of 9/11/2001… #NeverForget

 As the stories and images from 9/11 fill the airwaves we reflect upon not only the events of that day but how those events touched each of our lives in some way. Each and every one of us was affected in some way and each of us has a personal story about that day…. #NeverForget

It was a beautiful sunny day in Chicago on September 11, 2001. I went out for a run and remember how the sun was playfully dancing on the grass, reflecting the crisp blue sky in the mirrored buildings and on the lake. Glancing up at the skyline and marveling at its magnificence I remember feeling happy yet at the same time, there was this nagging feeling I had to get home….

I cut my run short that morning. When I got home, I went into the kitchen ignoring the beeping of my answering machine, grabbed a cup of coffee and came back into the living room where I had left the TV on before I left. Charlie Gibson was on Good Morning America showing a clip of a plane hitting the first  World Trade Center building. I thought they were showing a trailer for a new movie coming out. “Are you kidding?” I thought, “Who would make a movie like that?”

In this case, truth is clearly more horrible than fiction. I sat down and watched live as the second plane hit. I went completely numb! This was no movie! It was happening and happening NOW! I sat in stunned silence watching the events in New York, DC & Pennsylvania unfold. Yes, I remember that morning clearly even 10 years later and I’m sure I’m not the only one. All over the world people came together. There was an outpouring of love and it seemed for a moment the world came together as a family.

We honor  the victims, survivors and everyone who rose in service on that day and in the days to follow.  Our heroes are the firefighters and police who went well beyond the call of duty to save lives. Many of them made the greatest sacrifice…their lives. We feel connected in some way as Americans and it does not matter if we personally knew anyone involved.

We grieve and wrap our arms around all who were directly affected yet who among us was not affected? ALL of us were affected and it is time to put aside our differences and wrap our arms around each other. It is time to stand tall and not turn a deaf ear when we hear stories of terrorism “someplace else in the world” because “someplace else” was New York in 2001. On that day in 2001 we were a family, grieving together, mourning together and watching a real life horror story.

Let us honor and say a prayer for those who died senselessly at the hands of terrorists.  Say a prayer and send love and light to those who lost family friends and co-workers. Let us thank and honor those in law enforcement, the Fire Department, the Military and anyone else who stepped up to go beyond the call of duty for their contributions and sacrifice on that day and since that day. It is time to embrace our loved ones, teach tolerance and love and pray for PEACE ON EARTH. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Do You Really Want to “Settle” for Good Enough?

bubbletree“Take your victories, whatever they may be, cherish them, use them, but don’t settle for them.”~Mia Hamm

Is good enough REALLY good enough or has accepting good enough created a limit to what you can have? An interesting concept to ponder. If you are feeling stuck or in a place where you don’t feel you are putting your wildest dreams in motion maybe it’s time to shift the dynamic and let go of any thought patterns which, out of habit, lowers your vibration and limits your creations!

In a conversation with a friend she was telling me about the hopes and dreams she had in the past and how they actually turned out. I loved hearing about her hopes and dreams. Her eyes sparkled as she described the dream but then the sparkle dimmed as she sighed and described how it actually turned out. Let’s just say several of her life long dreams didn’t turn out the way she wanted them to. She kept saying everything “turned out ok” and was “‘good enough” even though she didn’t get what she really wanted.

“The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.”~Maureen Dowd

OK so it’s true we don’t always get exactly what we want. It’s important to have gratitude and celebrate when some of it comes our way but the danger lies in continuing to settle. What happened to my friend after so many disappointments is she stopped dreaming BIG. She lowered her vibration and did not feel worthy or deserving of anything more. At some level she decided things would NEVER turn out the way she wanted them to so at some point she stopped putting into the universe exactly what she wanted.

“Every day, people settle for less than they deserve. They are only partially living or at best living a partial life. Every human being has the potential for greatness.”~Bo Bennett

Each and every one of us has the potential for greatness but if you don’t see it, imagine it, dream it and raise your having-ness for it, it will never come to pass. Use your victories as a foundation and never give up on those dreams. Even if you’re disappointed and feel like you’ve settled or failed, use it as a learning experience and raise your vibration again.

You deserve to life a FULL life! If you are stuck in a place where everything is always “just ok” or “good enough” take a few moments to explore the pivotal moment in your past when you gave up on your potential. Look within your soul to see if at some point you decided that “it’s always been this way so why bother”.

Have you considered that those moments were more about how much you could have at the time or that it just wasn’t the right time? What if all this time you’ve lowered your vibration and settled for less because you couldn’t have it then and it’s just around the corner now?!

Accept what is, celebrate your victories, lay a foundation and put it out there again! With all you’ve learned you may find you are creating a different and brighter picture. All things happen for a reason in their own time and maybe, just maybe, it wasn’t about settling but it wasn’t the right time! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Happy St. Patrick’s Day from SpiritLightInsight!

Happy St. Pat’s Day!

“May your days be many and your troubles be few. May all God’s blessings descend upon you. May peace be within you may your heart be strong. May you find what you’re seeking wherever you roam.”~Irish Blessing

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Shine Your Light~Debbie

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