#OCCUPYWITHIN – Page 3

Letting go in many ways is the same as planting seeds for success. It has its own growth period which, not unlike planting a tulip bulb months in advance takes time to process. It might take hours, days, months and in some cases even years to process the growth you put in motion by even merely thinking of letting go!

There is always a growth period that accompanies letting go so it’s best to be ready for the growth process. It’s not advisable to resist the process as it will take longer if you do. Just be aware that the ‘events’ which occur before you actually let go, while you are letting go and after you’ve already let go are all a part of the natural process of growth and expansion as a being.

You wouldn’t hold on to something if it was causing a great deal of pain would you?

Letting go is difficult because there’s always a reason you held on in the first place. It’s important to get to the root of what you’re really letting go of. Many times the reason it’s so challenging to let go is because of resistance. If you are holding on to painful thoughts, energies or false hopes it’s a good idea to get to the bottom of it. What are you really letting go of? I can tell you with a great deal of certainty that there’s always another reason you have difficulty other than the one you see on the surface. Delving deeper into your psyche and why you hold on to energy not your own more often than not uncovers more to let go of. All letting go is a process of cause and effect. Once you discover the real cause or reason it changes your perspective and directly affects your life because of the growth period that ensues. Many times it can feel like your whole life has gone topsy turvy.

If you hold on to something for long enough won’t it turn out the way you want it to?

When you begin to see letting go as a process for growth and not as an event that happens in one fell swoop you will indeed become aware of things you weren’t aware of before. Those things were always there but you might not have been aware of them. If you really get honest with yourself (and it takes a lot of courage to do this) you may find that what you have difficulty letting go of is an expectation or outcome. I see this most often when I work with women letting go of relationships. They just can’t seem to let go of that guy (or gal) they fell madly in love with even though the relationship itself was miserable.

What do you use to fill up the emptiness?

The process and growth that goes along with letting go is different for everyone but there is usually some form of grief in the beginning. Be extra gentle with yourself. When you’ve had an energy taking up space for a long (or even a short) time there is a feeling of emptiness. When what you thought you wanted really isn’t what you wanted, you may have to let go of a dream that no longer applies. Fill up those empty spaces with YOUR ENERGY and new dreams! Your energy feels good to you and having more of your own energy allows you to shift gears, expand as a being and move forward with your life. Letting go and filling up with YOU brings joy and a sense of feeling alive to body and spirit!

Although letting go of energies takes milliseconds, your body needs time to process these spiritual changes and you will experience a new awareness of the growth you’ve probably already been going through. In other words, it starts to make sense. 🙂 In the process of letting go give yourself time to grieve. Allow it to BE a process and not a one time event. Allow the process to happen without resistance or fighting it. Keep in mind you are IN a growth period but you are NOT your growth period. Once the energies have cleared, like the tulip bulbs planted in the cold bare days before winter you will once again feel alive as you experience a beautiful blooming in spring!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Does the sun politely ask the darkness if it can shine or does it just rise and shine?

Love thy neighbor as thyself. Be polite. Say thank you. Mind your manners. Use common courtesy. Of course these are things we learn as children and as each of us strives to be a better person it is possible to try so hard to be “nice” and “polite” that we occasionally get hurt in the process. In the world of politeness and common courtesy the question posed (along with a few others) are good ones to ponder. Is the fear of being impolite stronger than doing what is best for you? Is being polite more important than your feelings? Are you so afraid of being seen as impolite that you disregard your own truth and do the polite thing even if it causes you pain?

Common courtesy and living from the golden rule is a given. Everyone should practice those on a daily basis but when your intuition kicks in and there are danger signals it is conceivable that the “polite” thing to do is not the right thing for you. A great example of this is when you are going through a tough time and a friend calls to tell you all their problems and you become a dumping ground for their pain. Normally you would probably listen intently and lovingly try to help them however what if doing that means you put aside caring for yourself and your own needs? If you happen to take on their problems and pain you are causing yourself more pain in the process. If you simply must be polite how about speaking from your heart and telling them you really need your space and can’t help them right then? If they continue on with no regard for what you need they are really not listening to YOU or care about what you need. At that point perhaps you don’t have to be nice about it.

If someone offered you drugs would you take them because want to be polite? If you have a food allergy would you eat foods which would harm you? Of course not! It is no different with what you take on energetically. Emotional pain is generally someone else’s energy in your space and it possibly manifests as illness in your body. When the fear of being impolite is stronger than your needs and causes you more pain it’s time to take notice! If being polite is more important than your own self-worth and you politely take whatever is thrown at you it’s time to re-evaluate. If negativity surrounds you yet you’re still being ‘nice’ to those negative people instead of distancing yourself perhaps it’s time to look deeper to find out why it is that this happens. Don’t allow fear to run your life and take over even if it means someone might not like you. They may not like you but what’s the cost to you if they do?

Listen to your intuition and feel your feelings. If your gut is screaming at you to get out of there….get out of there! You don’t have to make excuses or be polite. Here’s the part you’ll like; You don’t have to be rude or impolite to stand your ground! Politely go ahead and excuse yourself. Politely tell someone you’re not feeling up to it (whatever ‘it’ is). It is possible to stand up for yourself by speaking from your heart with graceful, loving intent. If someone or some thing is not healthy or in your best interests maybe it’s time to clear the fear, stop being polite and speak your truth whether someone likes it or not. Rise and shine! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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