#OCCUPYWITHIN – Page 6

Are you a people pleaser? Are you always in giving and healing others mode? Are you inclined to say YES every time someone asks you for a favor or to do something for them? Do you take time for yourself or are you always responding to other people’s needs and wants? Do you give away your valuable time and services because you can’t say NO? If so, you are a healer and it might be time to explore the Tao of NO!

A friend recently told me he was in a “receptive NO mode” and frankly I completely understand what he is saying. For the most part I do believe most of us are givers. We take on and solve problems for our friends, family, bosses, clients and customers. No one likes conflict and so in the essence of keeping the peace and helping we try to make everyone happy.

In business there are times we give away our services to those perhaps less fortunate and on a personal level it feels pretty good to help or give advice to a friend. We do this out of love and/or because we strive to be responsible for our own actions and enjoy giving. There is nothing wrong with doing any of those things BUT if you lose yourself in the process, there is nothing loving, giving or valiant about it!

In fact when you give or give away your most valuable resource (ie your energy) because you can’t say NO you are training people to continue asking for more. In essence you allow them to become senior (more important) in your space and eventually whatever has become senior will take its toll. It might be that your work life is thriving but your relationships suffer. It could be that your caring for others affects your health and well-being or leaves you with little time for yourself. It is possible that you are struggling financially yet someone else needs your product or services and can’t afford to pay you so you give it away to help them out.

The Tao is the flow of the universe

It is the “pattern behind the natural world that keeps the universe balanced and ordered.” (via Wikipedia) Always saying YES is an ‘absolute’ which creates an imbalance and takes you out of your flow. Keep in mind this is about YOU taking care of YOU and your needs. It’s about re-establishing balance and creating boundaries by connecting with your inner NO!

It IS ok to say no!

Do you give yourself permission to say no? I promise your life will not spontaneously combust if you say it every now and again. 🙂 What I loved about my friends comment about being in a receptive NO mode is that he is taking back his seniority and no longer allowing others to TAKE his time and energy. He is receptive to what is asked of him yet at the same time he is realizing how important it is to take care of himself by occasionally saying no. He is choosing to give instead of always being at the ‘beck and call’ of others.

Check in with yourself and evaluate who or what has become senior to you. You have a right to take time for and care for yourself. You have a right to make a living but be sure to include having a life. Givers and healers you have a right to create boundaries. This is what balance is all about and sometimes saying NO frees up your time and energy so you can be in your flow and say YES to YOU and the things that are important to you!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Within each of us there is an inner artist who has access to an abundance of creativity just waiting to be unleashed! Your inner artist has the ability to create beautiful thoughts, stunning vibrations and is the catalyst for creating a rich, abundant life!

“Artist is a descriptive term applied to a person who engages in an activity deemed to be an art. An artist also may be defined unofficially as “a person who expresses him- or herself through a medium”~ via Wikipedia

Your medium is your life and you express yourself through your words, thoughts, deeds and vibrations. Creating your life IS an art form and because you are a unique individual, no one else does it exactly the same way you do. When was the last time you consciously created something with reckless abandon? Is your creativity limited by fear, invalidation or someone else’s opinion whether it be real or perceived? Do you feel blocked from creating in certain areas of your life?

Unleashing your creativity means clearing the limits placed on you by well-meaning family, friends or society at large. It means allowing your inner artist to take a risk and burst forth with joy and enthusiasm. It also means getting in touch with who you are and what you are passionate about. Your passion fuels your creativity. If you don’t like what you are doing or the situation you are in take a step back and ask yourself are you passionate about it.

Your creativity goes well beyond painting a painting, writing a paper or building a building. Creativity is a vibration and infinitely abundant within you. There is nothing you cannot create when your creativity is flowing. Your creativity is a part of your energy. When your energy is flowing freely it feels good, things are usually going well and you make things happen like magic!

If your creativity feels blocked or you just can’t seem to bring that thought of something you’d like to create to the forefront. This is because there is another energy (usually not yours), a thought , opinion or programming that what you want or do isn’t important. If you don’t take time to allow your creativity to flow you diminish your own importance and certainty. In essence you dull your light.

When your creativity is unleashed your light is shining brightly, you are happy, enthusiastic and you really are stunning to look at and be around. There is a spring in your step, a sparkle in your eye and the brightness is attractive and is seen by others. To re-start and unleash your creativity begin by coming back to you. For a few precious moments, make yourself the most important person in your world. Remember who you are and connect with your unique vibration of energy.

Realize that there is more to you than meets the eye. There is more to you than your current situation. Connect with your value and all you have to give to the world. Your creativity is an inspiration which not only feels good to you but inspires and leads others to their own unique creativity. This is the greatest way of paying it forward. Imagine a world filled with people shining their light and inspiring others to shine theirs. Imagine a world full of inspiration and flowing creativity. Imagine it all starts with you…because it does!

Unleash your creativity! Allow that vibration to reverberate through your life. Use passion and love to fuel your creativity. Find inspiration and value in all that you do and let it flow through you. Allow your inner artist to come out and play!! Come out come out where ever you are! 😉 ~Shine Your LightDebbie

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