SPIRITUALITY – Page 10

“Destiny grants us our wishes, but in its own way, in order to give us something beyond our wishes.”~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Destiny is in YOUR hands! You have the power to create it but perhaps what you think your destiny is and the vibration you put out is merely a small piece of your soul purpose! What if your destiny is BIGGER and more wonderful than you are imagining and you are limiting your creativity by trying to control the outcome?

Control over your destiny comes in many forms. It could be constantly worrying or dwelling on past failures. It comes in the form of those little thoughts of doubt and fear that creep in. It might even be that at some point in your past you decided you couldn’t ‘have’ anything more than what you have. The negative thoughts which run through your head have the power to limit your destiny and take you off your path just as positive thoughts have the power to help in manifesting your dreams.

It doesn’t really matter what form it comes in or where the control comes from; Controlling your destiny does not work. It is steeped in resistance, effort and well, control. It is precisely that control that causes you to get stuck and feel like a hamster on a wheel going round and round. Your spirit knows where you are going and having a stranglehold on your growth merely prolongs you getting there and often times limits creativity and takes you off your path completely. Imagine what could be if you didn’t limit yourself! Imagine if you let go of HOW to get there and instead followed your intuition and inner guidance allowing things to effortlessly unfold? What if the “destiny” you “think” you’re headed towards is actually more profound, expansive and beautiful than you are imagining?

Your Spirit Knows!

“…you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”~ Steve Jobs

Beyond logic and thought there is your spirit and spiritual essence. You came here with a purpose and your spirit knows how to fulfill that purpose. You must trust that your spirit knows and will guide you. Why limit yourself by trying to control what is infinitely more than what you could imagine? All it takes to create your destiny is to put it out there! It takes trust, a bit of healing and allowing your creativity to flow freely. Your spirit knows this. In fact YOU know your spirit knows this! How do you know you know? When you’ve been knocked off your true path, there is effort, negativity and the feeling of being stuck. You know you are headed in the right direction when it feels good. You know when it feels right. You know it when you stand bold and tall with confidence. You know when you feel like nothing can stop you!

Let go of trying to control your destiny. Put the dream of what you want out there with the intent that whatever happens is for your highest good. Dream it, will it, let it go and allow it to unfold. Follow your intuition and trust in spirit. Let your destiny come to you by allowing it to unfold! Embrace your true purpose and let it shine! Embrace your goodness and know that all things happen for a reason. Imagine what life would be like if your destiny is actually MORE than what you imagine!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Once again I find it’s time to write about a particular energy trend emerging in reading sessions. That trend is validation or perhaps more to the point, why are we so invalidated that we seek validation outside of ourselves? In a vast world full of competition it’s difficult to validate our own self. Seeking recognition from others is looking outside yourself. There’s nothing wrong with wanting validation but it’s important to be able to validate YOURSELF so you can accept and ‘have’ the validation you receive from others.

Why is it so hard to validate ourselves?

Validating ones self is not easy because you’ve simply been taught from a very young age not to. It’s ok to validate someone else but it’s considered egotistical if you validate yourself. Why is it ok to validate and recognize others but not yourself? Validating yourself is not about praising yourself publicly. It’s ok to be proud of what you’ve accomplished and there’s nothing wrong with telling people BUT constantly shouting your good deeds from the rooftops and telling others how amazing you are time and time again is actually you wanting others to validate you. Validation like everything else is an energy and sometimes the invalidation you carry causes you to see things and react through the filters caused by that invalidation.

How much validation can you have?

Perhaps you’ve been recognized but in your heart you don’t feel like you deserve the recognition because in your eyes it wasn’t good enough. I’ll bet that some time in your past you did, said or created something you were proud of and felt good about only to have someone else invalidate it. If that happened and you owned what they told you as truth at some level you’re holding on to the energy of invalidation and it has had an effect on everything you’ve done since that time. In order to have validation from others you must be able to validate yourself and know inside that what you do or say has value to YOU.

Until you can validate yourself it will never be enough….

No matter how much recognition you receive or from whom, until you can validate yourself it will be fleeting at best. Receiving an award (or recognition) is wonderful but what happens after your 15 minutes of fame is over? Can you validate yourself for it or do you find yourself trying to figure out how to do it again? Have you spent your life trying to get validation from a particular person yet you are ignored or you feel like you always say the wrong thing and try to correct it? Do you feel like nothing you do or say is good enough in the eyes of another? Are you validating yourself with food or sex or shopping or some other addiction which makes you feel good for merely a moment? Some people shop so they have lots of “things” but do those “things” really validate you? Some people validate their bodies with food only to beat themselves up later for gaining weight or feeling awful. Some are in effort trying to be the “top dog” who makes the most money so all they do is work. None of those things work.

Recognition and validation from others is a beautiful thing but so is validating yourself and accepting validation from others humbly and with grace. It is up to you to find what validates you. Does a job well done make you stand back and smile without someone else telling you? Can you graciously accept and know with all your heart that you deserve validation from others? Can you give to others without expectation of receiving anything in return and you feel good about it? In the world today it’s difficult even under the best of circumstances to receive a spirit to spirit HELLO. If your spirit does not get a HELLO it causes you to feel empty, alone, ignored and invalidated. A simple hello while looking into someones eyes is a huge validation for both of you. You saying hello to your own spirit validates you.

Finding validation in an invalidating world means you validate yourself as well as others. It’s also important to be aware of the validation you receive every day. If you’re looking for validation scroll down to the end of this post and enjoy one of my favorite videos on the subject. This short film called VALIDATION does show how a bit of validation can change your inner and outer world. Let me finish by saying….HELLO! YOU ARE AMAZING! YOU HAVE VALUE! Can you see these things about you for yourself?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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