SPIRITUALITY – Page 13

WHO AM I?

Each one of us at one time or another has asked this question and then experienced a spiritual identity crisis. A spiritual identity crisis is when you take on an identity which is not your own and when you ask “Who Am I” you discover that how you’ve lived and/or the path you’ve been on is not really your own. You created a persona and lived an inauthentic life based on what you needed (or thought you needed) at the time. This is not wrong or bad it is what you needed at the time. It may take time not only for you to discover what has happened but to recognize and accept that the person you thought you were is not really you. Let me add here that when you receive that epiphany it’s not always easy to accept!

As human beings we identify with and play many roles in our lives. Like an actor we ‘become’ what/who we think we are supposed to be at any given time or in particular situations. We are employees or employers, brothers or sisters, daughters or sons, parents or children, husbands or wives, lovers or friends. I could go on listing the various roles that others see us as but I think you get the idea. If there was any invalidation thrown at you in the form of ‘not doing it right’ or ‘you’re wrong’ or ‘not good enough’ it makes sense you would try out something else. When you identify with invalidation (any type) and accept it as truth you may spend a good deal of time in effort trying to fix it by being someone you are not and never were.

Others see you and you even may see yourself in the roles you play but they are only seeing one very small part of you and what you DO is not who you are! There are even roles one takes on based on what we THINK they should be, how we should act (ect.) or we become the person we think someone else wants us to be. We create a picture in our minds then emulate and bring that picture to life. Having an identity crisis is when you falsely identify yourself with a particular role or are living by someone else’s tenets of who you should be and you have mistaken them for your true self.

Growing up I identified myself as the fat girl, the outcast and the rebel undeserving of love. As I immersed myself in energy work and healing I began to see myself as much more. I am more than just my body and circumstances. YOU are much more than your body or circumstances! You are a spiritual being with abilities which go far beyond this current lifetime. You have many lifetimes full of knowledge and experience and if you choose, you can tap into all that you are to create infinite possibilities. Asking yourself ‘who am I?’ starts the process of peeling back layers of who you are not.

I’ve been very amused at the new internet sensation spreading like wildfire: What People Think I do. (meme) There is a lot of truth to those posts. Each of us is perceived as doing or being a certain way yet how others perceive us and possibly how we see ourselves is not who we are. You are not what you DO! You are not your growth period or circumstances! Who you are is so much more. You are an infinite being of light who has taken a body to have a human experience. If you identify solely with one particular role or only as a body or as your growth period you are limiting yourself!

A spiritual identity crisis is not really a crisis. It is the conscious self coming to terms with the spiritual self being in a material world, encountering external forces, pressures and influences. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and it is possible to change the experience by recognizing how much more there is to you than meets the eye! WHO ARE YOU?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Years ago loft spaces were reserved for artists, dancers, and the avant-garde. A few years after the movie “Flashdance” came out (1983) people started asking me about purchasing those very cool loft spaces to live in or as a live/work space. They wanted open space with no walls so they could define individual spaces with nothing more than furniture and their imagination. What’s so cool about a traditional loft (as opposed to a soft loft with walls defining the bedrooms) is that those big open spaces give you a feeling of well, space. 🙂 Although completely open, there are no walls to walk around and once defined creates the illusion of seperate areas while at the same time offering a sense of openess. It is totally up to you how you want to divide and define the space. Since it is your home or work space it’s also up to you who you’d like to invite in.

You have an energetic space….Do you define it?

Much like a loft space needs you to define the space, your energy body does as well. If you don’t know where your space is, any old thing can get in. This is why you might have days that leave you feeling like you were hit by a truck. Healers and empaths are particularly vulnerable to energy and if you don’t define your personal space you are going to soak up everyone else’s problems, emotions, and pain like a sponge. I’m frequently asked how to keep out energy vampires who suck the life right out of you. When you define and occupy your space this simply cannot happen. It’s not your responsibility to soak up or hold on to other peoples ‘stuff’. I’m sure you have more than enough of your own to deal with. So how do you protect your space by defining it?

Putting up walls….

Walls are a way to define space however they can be closed in. We put a wall up here and a wall up there and pretty soon those walls actually point us in a different direction because we have to walk around them. Protecting your energetic space is very much the same thing. If you put up walls to protect yourself it doesn’t just keep out the negative, it keeps out the positive too! Putting up walls puts you in effort and resistance. It may also be that someone has created those walls for you. Are you walking around any walls which someone else built? Again think of it like a home. Have you ever wanted to open up a wall that was already there so you could open up the space? Are the pre-defined walls you must walk around possibly changing your direction? You don’t have to put up walls to protect your space!

Draw a line in the sand!

Protecting your space is much like drawing a line in the sand. You create a space (or boundary if you’d prefer to call it that) which defines where you are. You allow others to come in by agreement. When you’re in a relationship for instance you WANT to share intimate space with a special person but you can still own your space within the relationship. 🙂 Picture yourself in a gold bubble of energy which comes out about 3 feet all around you. Fully occupy the gold bubble and fill it with your happy thoughts. Consider it a safe, peaceful place. Fill yourself up with gold and allow everything else to fall away. Defining your space energetically tells YOU where it is. I can tell you from personal experience it is possible for personal energy to take up a whole room. I will also tell you that it doesn’t feel good when you do that! When you clearly define your space not only will you feel more comfortable but you won’t be affected by the energies of everyone in the room.

Practice makes perfect

Imagining yourself walking around in a bubble of energy takes a bit of practice but don’t just use it when you are with those who push your buttons and get to you. Practice when it doesn’t count! Think of it as a fun game just to see what happens! There are many ways to define your space and this is just one of them. No matter which method you decide to use, take time to practice until it becomes natural. Effort doesn’t work but your imagination and vision does. Define and create a beautiful space that you enjoy being in. Protect yourself by being in your happy place!~Shine Your Light Debbie

Note: Want to learn how to protect your space? “Protecting Your Space” meditation workshop is now available for purchase on my website.

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