Are you standing in your own way?

Are there things you’d like to create or changes you’d like to make in your life and no matter what you do, focus on or think about nothing seems to change?

If things aren’t moving along the way you’d like them to, it is time to take a look at where you are standing in your own way! You may even be asking how is it or why you would be standing in your own way.

There are many instances where it is possible to stand in your own way and not even realize it. One of them is wanting things to change but not taking responsiblity for where you are and what you can do to create that change. Whatever your situation, you are never powerless!

In some cases you may be holding on to an ideal (perfect picture) and not willing to let it go. I see this a lot when it comes to relationships or lack thereof. When you hold on to something (or someone) for dear life, you are standing in your own way by not allowing the potential of something you really want to come in!

It is also time to let go of the blame game. You know that game. It’s your mother’s or father’s fault, it’s how you were brought up, it’s someone else doing it to you etc.

I don’t mean this to be harsh and that you should blame yourself but here’s the reality, if you want to create change, it is time to become conscious of those things that you have a stranglehold on.

What you choose to hold on to is you getting in the way of where you want to go. It is a choice to hold on. It is a choice to blame. It is a choice not to quiet your mind or take time to meditate and allow your life to unfold.

One of the most difficult things about ”waking up” is that you begin to recognize the part that you have played in being where you are. It so many ways it is easier not to be aware.

On the other side of the spectrum, when you open up and recognize who you are there is no need to stand in your own way. Fear dissipates, forgiveness reigns and stumbling blocks become stepping-stones!

If you have a pattern of getting involved in the wrong relationships, where might you be standing in your own way? Are you trying to control something or someone? If so you are standing in the way of your own freedom!

If you are blaming, you have self-defeating thoughts or you are hiding, you are blocking the way for ease, happiness and success! How about a different choice…starting today!

Wake up! Change the dynamic! Get out of your own way and allow all those things you are wishing and dreaming, dreaming and wishing to become reality by merely stepping aside and allowing those magical moments to happen!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Oct 13 2010

PRIDE~OWNING WHO YOU REALLY ARE

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In light of recent events in the news and National Coming Out day I decided to take a clairvoyant look at the energy of pride and owning who you are.

This is not about ‘ego’ but in being proud of who you are, standing tall in the face of adversity and ‘coming out’ in the sense of showing your true self to the world.

St. Augustine refers to pride as ”the love of one’s own excellence”. I want to be clear that I’m NOT talking about pride as competition or being better than someone else.

I’m looking at the energy of pride with neutrality sans judgment. What I AM referring to is loving yourself for who you are and all you are; Mind, body, spirit and soul.

‘Coming out’ is not reserved for a select group of people. There are many who have hidden themselves and dimmed their light because of embarrassment, shame or the perception that if they truly show themselves it will embarrass or shame someone else.

Some hide or hold their heads down as they walk down the street. They might feel ugly, fat, maybe they are homeless, or feel they are not worthy in some way to look up.

In today’s economic climate maybe they are embarrassed or ashamed because they don’t make as much money as someone else…or even enough to make ends meet.

Some try to blend in because of sexual orientation; Going about their day being who they think others should see merely to be accepted in today’s society. They don’t want to shame themselves or others and sadly, there are a few who decide to end their life over it.

I’ve even seen people with an illness who didn’t want to show themselves, feeling that in some way they weren’t ‘whole’ or that the illness (dis-ease) somehow made them less competent in the eyes of others.

It may be that someone is going through a difficult time in their personal life, a relationship or lack thereof, a divorce or suffered at the hand of abuse.

There is no shame in not making enough money, whom you choose to love, your sexual orientation, being too fat or too thin, your relationship status or having an illness! There is no shame because inside of you there is a light that has perhaps been dimmed by the judgements of others.

I’m not suggesting that you open yourself up and tell all to the world. What I am suggesting is that you take pride in yourself and begin to shine your light with pride! You are worthy of standing tall in this world so raise your head and stop looking down or isolating!

Coming out doesn’t necessarily mean declaring it, bearing your naked soul and shouting it from the rooftops, although it is your choice to do that if you wish. It means knowing who you are on the inside, that you have value and that who you are does matter!

It means knowing that your very presence, what you have to offer and your divine inner light is worthy of shining in this world. Take pride in who you are! Hold your head high, be proud and come out, come out, wherever you are!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Jul 17 2010

Energy & Weight Loss~Part 1

Each one of us is an eternal spirit in a human body. Our bodies are precious and in this lifetime you have only one! Not only is it something to be to cared for, but loved as well.

While most of my blogs address the spiritual aspect of our lives, that is only half the picture. There is also this wonderful thing called your body!

It is possible that you are not happy with your body and you are interested in losing weight. Whether you want to lose a pound/kilo/stone (or more) it IS all about energy! This is part 1 of a clairvoyant look at body weight from an energetic perspective.

As a Weight Watcher meeting leader, having personally gotten rid of 86 lbs in 1996, I have not only experienced the weight loss process but have the opportunity each week to motivate and watch others on their journey.

Losing weight can be a daunting task. Anyone who’s ever tried to get rid of even a few pounds knows how difficult it can be. There is a process and of course everyone knows that it’s about calories taken in vs. calories burned.

That said, there is another piece to the puzzle and that piece is the energy that you hold in your spiritual body AND at a cellular level. When you clear the energy it makes the process of losing a lot smoother.

Physical body weight is actually there for a reason and it’s different for each person. There are people who want to cover up their pain or not be seen. Some have so much attention on them and/or are so sensitive to energy that they use it to protect their inner self.

People use food to comfort their hurts and then hold on to the weight like a warm blanket. Some use food to fill a void. For some food= love, happiness and family, while others use the weight to become grounded and make the body feel real.

Of course those are not ALL the reasons but they are what I see most consistently. So why keep on the weight? Well, at an unconscious level it can be a protection, a way to feel safe like being in a cocoon and/or can act as a ‘buffer’ between you and others.

No matter ’why’, becoming conscious & aware of your body and what’s going on INSIDE is an important step! There is always a healing of the inner self in the process of losing weight and keeping it off.

Take time to care for you! Close your eyes, take a deep breath. Be aware of your body and how it feels. Wiggle your fingers and toes! Ask your body what it wants or needs. Thank your body for all it does for you! You may put your body through a lot each day!

Now, stop beating yourself up if you aren’t perfect! ENERGY & WEIGHT LOSS ~Part 2 is full of practical tips to help your process along.

Loving & caring for body AND spirit is an empowering journey that I guarantee will change your life! Who knows, you might even be a BIG FAT LOSER…but in terms of weight loss, that makes you a WINNER! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Mar 2 2010

~BEING SEEN: Shining brightly is not always easy~

I’m going to begin this blog with one simple statement: YOU ARE A MAGNIFICENT BEING! When you were conceived there was an explosion of light! You fit all that brilliance into a tiny fertilised egg! I don’t know about you but I consider conception one of the most amazing things in the world! It is truly a miracle in and of itself!

Several years back I was blessed with the opportunity to be in the room during an IVF procedure to transfer the fertilised egg from test tube to future Momma. Now as if it isn’t amazing enough that an egg can be fertilised outside the body, what I witnessed was even more so.

The monitor flashed a bright light as they implanted the egg and the nurses explained to me that it happens every time and they are not exactly sure why. Being a clairvoyant I could absolutely see why! The spirits (I saw 2 distinct beings) entered the physical! Frankly I was in awe of the miracle that was happening right before my eyes!

OK, so you were conceived then you were born into a really cute baby body! You all know how cute EVERY baby is! When you laughed, that first little baby laugh, the whole room lit up and everyone smiled and laughed with you! You may not have noticed it then (or remember it), but no matter what was going on, everyone stopped to make you laugh and raised their own vibration to come up to yours!

You were ~BEING SEEN~! And not only were you being seen but everyone around you got a healing! Now, the question becomes, right now, in present time, are you being seen or are you hiding?! Are you shining your bright self or have you toned it down? Are you hiding in lonely isolation or are you out there being seen?

So why is it that we turn down our light? While I don’t think there is any one answer to that question, it IS worth exploring. I’m sure you all know at least one person, if not yourself, who is isolated in some form or fashion. People hide behind their work, computer or cell phone so as not to be seen and this isolates them.

Sometimes you hide because of not feeling worthy or that someone might not like you. Maybe you are feeling insecure or think you have “bad” energy. Sometimes it’s because you don’t want to have that uncomfortable conversation and other times, you are simply isolating yourself because you are in pain or unhappy.

It may be that you lower your vibration and hide so that others feel comfortable being around you. After all you don’t want to shine if someone around you is hurting. The last one is actually BIG! It may be that you bring down your vibration or dim your light because you don’t want to “stand out”. It could also be just plain FEAR!

~BEING SEEN~ and shining brightly is not always easy…especially when you are going through a difficult time. On the other hand it’s also not easy if you are feeling GOOD and others around you are having a rough time. In either case when you get yourself grounded & centered, begin to shine and see the bright side of YOU, you heal! When you raise your vibration even in the midst of a difficult time, the energy starts to clear and you can once again begin living from your bright self!

Healing others is all about you healing yourself first. How often have you turned down your HAPPY waiting for someone else to heal so they can come with you on your journey? This is very common thing to do in fact. Well, here is another fact….you can’t heal someone else if they don’t want to heal! They may not be ready or even want to step up and really that’s OK. It is their choice to make but you don’t have to let THEIR choice become YOUR choice!

There is a wonderful excerpt from Return to Love by Marianne Williamson that I would like to share as it gets to the heart of what I’m talking about. I know it’s a bit long but very much worth reading:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is out Light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the Glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own Light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Why not take a moment right now to heal and liberate yourself? Close your eyes and turn your attention within. Allow your light to shine as brightly and brilliantly as when you came into your body! Find your inner spark of light! Release that baby giggle from those adult lips! Allow the fear to fall away and shine your “BRILLIANT, GORGEOUS, TALENTED and FABULOUS” light upon the world! ~Debbie

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