How to Practice Radical Forgiveness…

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” ~August Wilson

The first time I heard the phrase “radical forgiveness” I wasn’t sure what to make of it. There’s really nothing “radical” about forgiveness. It’s a beautiful vibration that lovingly releases you and another person from an endless loop of energetic punishment, guilt and karmic ties.

I tend to connect the meaning of the word “radical” to “extreme”. It feels harsh, hard, unbalanced and ungiving; but there is another, and more gentle way of looking at it. “Profound”.

Forgiveness is always profound for both the forgiver and the one who is being forgiven and yet it’s rarely an easy task. In order to forgive, we must look into our hearts to see and accept how we added to the situation.

What we cannot forgive holds us hostage and it’s much easier to blame something or someone outside of ourselves than admit we played a part in the scenario. We must open our eyes to the truth, take ownership of our part and shine a loving light on whatever needs to be forgiven.

No matter what needs forgiving, the moment we decide to forgive ourselves and accept the part we played is the moment the vibration of forgiveness gracefully enters our hearts and minds.

We can’t pick and choose.

While there are many things we get to choose like our thoughts, our direction, and our friends we cannot sort through and say ‘I’ll forgive this but I won’t forgive that’.

We can certainly pick and choose the order in which we forgive something or someone in the past but if we get angry and decide “never to forgive”, a part of us will remain in the dark.

Forgiveness is a state of grace and it takes practice and awareness. Deciding to forgive really is divine. It frees us and gives us an opportunity to live in a loving, giving, state of grace every day.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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SIMON SAYS! It’s a control game….

simonsaysRemember the game “Simon Says” from when you were a child? Would you like to play? Come on, humor me, it’s just a fun little game.

The rules of the game are simple. You can only do what “Simon” tells you to do.

Simon says raise your left hand. Simon says put your hands on your hips. Simon says touch your toes.

Simon says touch your nose.  Simon says clap your hands. Simon says blink your eyes. Touch your head. Simon says wiggle your toes. Simon says “say HOORAH!”

Wasn’t that fun?! Did you do everything Simon said? Maybe you found it silly or maybe you simply smiled as you reconnected with a bit of your inner child. (If you didn’t play that’s ok, read on anyway.)

Now let me ask you something, did you touch your head? Did Simon say to do it? If you didn’t touch your head you get to stay in the game. If you did touch your head, you’re out. Bye. Don’t feel bad though. You were just humoring me right? It’s just a silly game….or is it?

From the time we are born we are “taught” to follow the rules, do what we’re told, mind our manners, don’t speak until we are spoken to.  We asked permission to do something or we waited for someone to tell us what to do.  Of course, this is good for children but what happens when the control programming carries over into our adult life?

The game “Simon Says” illustrates how easily we can be programmed to follow the rules and allow others to control us. Simon, the control, tells us to do something and we do it. If Simon doesn’t say it…well, we lost. We failed. We’re out of the game and effectively out of the group.

No one WANTS to lose when their FRIENDS are still playing and so, early on, we figure out that the next time we play the game, all we have to do is make sure that we listen intently to “Simon” the control. We don’t do anything unless Simon Says we should.

Do you, or did you, have a “Simon” in your life? Are you waiting for Simon to say you can DO something? Do you find yourself following the leader so you are part of a group?  Do you spend time responding to rules that may not even apply in present time?

Did you, or are you currently, following someone else’s “rules” or, more importantly, are you still following imaginary rules and playing the game therefore allowing yourself to be controlled by them? If you answered “yes” to any of those questions or you recognize there has been a control at work in your life, maybe it’s time to clear the energy.

If you’re not clear on what I’m taking about think back to a time when an authority figure said to you “Stop it! You’re out of control.” (If no one has ever said that to you, or you haven’t felt that way at some point consider yourself lucky.)

Once you remember that moment ask yourself whose control were you out of? (That’s a hint that maybe the person who said you were out of control meant you were out of their control.) When you become aware of and release the control or “Simon says” pictures that are indeed a part of all of us, you begin to heal a part of you that stops you from being who you truly are.

As you release more “Simons” and stop playing the game you find your freedom and become senior in your space. You are present and in charge as the authority and creator. You come alive with possibilities!

We’ve all allowed ourselves to be controlled or programmed at one time or another but when we start living a more awakened life, those controls hinder and instead of help. If you’re having a challenge with this…I’ll help you out. SIMON SAYS find your freedom!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Ask Before You Heal Others….

looking-into-darknessAre you a healer or a psychic reader? Do you go around healing everyone and everything or giving “readings” to those who have not asked you directly to help them?

This is very common in the spiritual community as more people open up to their natural abilities and are looking to validate their experience.

“Some people walk through a hallway with covered mirrors– the hallway is lined with mirrors but there are blankets covering each of them. They go through life believing in an image of themselves that isn’t real, and an image of themselves standing in the world and relative to the world, that isn’t real.

If you happen to be in that hallway and pull the blankets off the mirrors, they’re going to think that you’re hurting them; but they’re actually just seeing their reflection for the first time. Sometimes the most horrendous thing a person can see, is all the hidden things inside them, the things they’ve covered, the things they choose not look at. And you’re not hurting them, you’re setting them free.”~C. JoyBell C.

Yes, some people do walk through a hallway with covered mirrors however I’d like you to consider asking yourself if it is truly your responsibility to uncover those mirrors without permission. For sure I am guilty of uncovering mirrors without permission but as I work to expand my awareness it happens less often if at all.

When you randomly uncover mirrors without permission, no matter how pure your intent, someone is going to get angry or feel like you hurt them. They may blast you with energy. They may project their inner pain on to you as if you were the original cause (this is very common) or you may find them running for the proverbial hills. What you consider ‘uncovering mirrors’ to set someone free might be the last thing THEY want for themselves and although it might not make sense they truly feel as if you hurt them.

Perhaps you’d like to ask why someone wouldn’t want to be free? As a spiritual seeker and visionary I can honestly tell you I ask all the time. I ask it of myself and I ask it when I see others walking through that hallway of covered mirrors.

While I don’t have a general answer for others, for myself the answer is to uncover every single mirror. I want to dig in and dig deep. I WANT to look at those things held deep inside to create change, growth and expansion. I WANT to be free.

Perhaps you feel the same as I do, however, others may not be ready or want to dig in to uncover and look at what they consider ‘horrendous’ things. What each of us has to recognize and respect is where a person is and what they are seeking may be very different from what WE are seeking or doing for ourselves.

It’s also important to recognize that what is really happening is the ‘perception’ that certain things buried deep inside are horrendous. I know some very lovely people who do amazing things on the outside yet think they are monsters and horrible people on the inside. What they don’t realize is that no matter what they do in the outer world, how they feel on the inside shows on the outside whether they choose to look or not.

The reality in all of this is NONE OF IT IS REAL! The only horrendous things in our reflections are the ones we’ve chosen not to forgive ourselves (or others) for. The only horrendous things that keep us from our freedom are illusions which are rarely based on facts. When we grow these illusions and believe them to be real we find ourselves “believing in an image [of OURselves] that isn’t real, and an image [ of OURselves] standing in the world and relative to the world, that isn’t real”

While at first one might uncover the mirror and see only pain and darkness, what lies beneath is pure spirit. The true healing is releasing the illusion. Once you see and open up to the spirit that you are you experience a world filled with light, curiosity, creativity and miracles.

All of that said, if you choose to uncover mirrors I highly recommend you choose to do so with your own mirrors first. Choosing a spiritual path is not an easy journey. It means choosing to look into the darkness. It means digging deep, letting go of ego and illusion, and forgiving yourself and others.It means seeing truth, acknowledging spirit and admitting (and forgiving yourself for) your ego getting in the way.

Regardless of how much you think you can help someone, all healing is self-healing. Allow others to be where they are. If you choose to help others with their growth, do so with full verbal permission as their guide and mentor.

What’s right for you may not be what’s right for others.Honor where they are and live your own miracle. I can tell you from personal experience that living the miracle of spirit is well worth it.~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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The Freedom to Choose Love

dewdropsThis is a guest post written by Chiron O’Keefe.

“Used to be I wore Rose-Colored Glasses. Had to, really. The early years were challenging, filled with drama, strife, agitation, and fear.

It would have destroyed my heart to recognize what my adult self would someday be able to properly assimilate. So I pretended, as many children do. A coping method. A means of emotional survival.

The Rose-Colored Glasses served my heart in many ways. I could *love* past the disdain or criticism or cruelty. I could pretend and close my eyes, and believe what served my heart even if it meant beginning a process of avoidance and self-deceit.

The souls who showed me affection and those who treated me poorly, both earned a fierce misguided loyalty. It was odd, looking back. Recognizing how I’d deliberately ignore bad behavior, or even pretend to myself that I didn’t notice.

Others fed into that. Guilt and Obligation were the go-to dynamic in my family and earliest friends. One trained me to never object by pushing my easiest button–my fear of being unkind. That one scolded me fiercely if I ever objected to being used or manipulated, if I dared to call her on her bad behavior or lies.

Objecting meant that I was Not Being Unconditionally Loving, which translates to “You’re a Bad Person.” In retrospect, it was classic psychological abuse, but what did I know? I wanted to love and so I did. My guilt filled in the empty slots where love belonged.

It took decades to allow myself to wake up. To gently remind myself that putting up with bad behavior is not kind but actually a form of enabling. All those buzz words to describe a simple truth: Letting others hurt or use you isn’t love. Guilt isn’t a natural response, and if that is the primary feeling, it’s not love. Unless you can say, “No,” instead of always feeling obligated to say, “Yes,” it’s not love.

However, those Rose-Colored Glasses served a valuable purpose. They taught me how to love. And without them, I felt colder and quite lonely. The world was starker in black and white, in lonely shades of grey.

It took years before I recognized the solution was not to discard them completely. Love is not a simple thing. People may hurt us and make mistakes, just as we hurt others. Sometimes the view is rosy, yet with a shade of another hue. All those colors require integration with an honest and compassionate heart. Sometimes love is messy, wild, like a tempestuous wave followed by a Chiron O'Keefe's photo.smooth pool of warmth and comfort.

There was one last step required. I had to make a promise to myself. I had to learn to say, “No.” To recognize that love is a choice, not an obligation. That promising to look for the best in another does not mean ignoring truth. So for me, having the ability to say “No,” meant I needn’t hide my eyes from what couldn’t be confronted. No longer did I have to don Rose-Colored Glasses to warm up a world of chill grey.

Today I view my world through a rainbow of emotions that stretch across my inner sky. The sunshine dances on the raindrops, and the occasional blustery storm encourages my inner trees to dance. I welcome all the colors of my emotions, grateful for my ability to feel without fear. I recognize my freedom to love or not as I choose. And in knowing I have this choice, I choose to love.”–Chiron O’Keefe

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Chiron O’Keefe is a writer, philosopher, and musician. Currently working on a book of essays focusing on reality creation and self-love, she is a life-long dreamer whose experiences have taught her the value of playfulness and self-accountability. You can follow her on Facebook .

Many thanks to Chiron for permission to publish this amazing and insightful post. May her journey inspire you to choose love and….Shine Your Light!~Debbie

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Free Yourself to BE Yourself

Free to be youEvery woman [and man] that finally figured out her [or his] worth, has picked up her [their] suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”~Shannon L. Alder

There comes a time in each of our lives when we must take a deep breath, hold our head high and free ourselves to BE ourselves.

There comes a time when we must recognize our value and instead of making ourselves small to accommodate others, we raise our head high and walk with dignity.

There comes a time when we must consider that our value is not, and will never be, determined by what someone thinks of us or how much money we make. Our value and worthiness is not, and will never be, determined by whether we are in a relationship and it will most certainly not be determined by someone who can’t “have” what we have to give.

Our value is determined by how we feel about ourselves. It is determined not by our outside circumstances but by how much we love and value ourselves. Dignity happens the moment we stop worrying about why someone does or doesn’t love us. It happens the moment we choose freedom and learn to love ourselves again.

“Dignity
/ˈdignitē/ noun

1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.

2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.

3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.

4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter.

5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.

6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.

7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don’t want you mucking up the family line with someone who acts anything less than honorable.

8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.

9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.

10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.”~Shannon L. Alder

The moment we decide to pick up our suitcases of pride and step out of the ego mind is the moment we take a step towards freedom. Free yourself and BE yourself. Hold your head high as you take one step, then another, then another, with dignity, towards a new future. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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For Happiness, Peace & Ease Surrender

For Happiness and Ease Surrender! Say YES to Life!

For Happiness, Peace & Ease Surrender“Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
~Eckhart Tolle

Are you saying “yes” to life or do you find yourself fighting for happiness, peace and ease at every corner?  If you are saying “yes” to life congratulations! Carry on! However, if you find yourself in an internal struggle and you’re ready to find happiness it’s time to SURRENDER and say YES!

Surrender is the intersection between acceptance and change. Many find themselves fighting and in effort as they search for mere nuggets of happiness, peace and ease. Doesn’t it seem odd to resist and fight what “is” to reach a place of ease? Each moment that is resisted translates into a feeling of being at war and the war is not based on outside circumstances. It is wholly based on illusion and internal dialogue.

When we surrender it doesn’t mean giving up or losing. Surrender does not make us a victim of our circumstances. Surrendering means putting down our weapons of resistance, ego and control that takeover the mind.  It means accepting that which IS, letting go and moving forward.

Accepting what “IS” in present time takes our energy out of the battle and frees us. It brings a sense of ease that allows us to say YES to life again. To be sure there will always be something we can go into battle for but when we surrender and let go of the fight we have actually just won the battle! When we are fighting, in resistance or struggling, the greater the chance to get stuck.

Now, I want to make it very clear here that I’m not referring to those who have an illness and doing everything possible to fight for their lives. That is a very different kind of fight. I’m also not referring to those things we must fight for globally like human rights, truth and justice. We all must take a stand up and speak out about injustices.

I’m referring to the  battles which exist in the ego mind that imprison us. I’m talking about those internal negative dialogues which take root and cause us to constantly feel like we are fighting to become visible, worthy and valuable in the outer world.

Keep in mind surrender is not giving up. It’s just the opposite. Happiness and ease comes from being one with our life in the present moment. Being one with our life is accepting what IS then doing something about it. It’s certainly difficult to create something new if you’re stuck and in the middle of fighting a battle!

If you are at war resisting your circumstances you’ll have very little energy left for anything else. Your circumstance (or growth period) is not who you are. It is when you give up trying to fight and control every little thing that comes up that you will feel a sense of ease.

Surrender! Make love not war!!!

“Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. the world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.”~ Marianne Williamson

Are you ready to say YES to life? Surrender! Put down your resistance and weapons of war. Let go of the negative internal dialogue and love yourself.The very second you decide to let go and surrender you WIN! Everytime you say YES you choose to make love not war.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Do You Act Upon Your Miracles?

Miracle & Light“There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.”~Albert Einstein

Does a miracle change things by the notion that it appears and “poof” everything changes or is it a matter of acting on the miracle that presented itself? Is it “enough” that you recognized the miracle or will you take action with the knowledge that an amazing opportunity just opened a door for you and all you need do is act upon it by simply taking a step forward to walk through the door?

There’s no better time to reflect upon miracles, spirit and freedom than this holy week of Passover and Easter. From the miracle of the parting of the Red Sea to the miracle of spirit appearing after death, this is a week to reflect upon what we actually DO with the miracles that occur in each of our lives.

It might be a thought, an opportunity or you just might have an epiphany which in an instant helps you change direction. After all aren’t those the miracles you pray for? An answer is just as much of a miracle as anything else if you’ve asked a question (or prayed for it) long enough. What you do with your miracle is up to you but first you must start to see those miracles and find freedom by making the impossible, possible with your choices.

Back in 1980 I was living in Israel on Kibbutz Ha’Ogen. During the time I was there I had the opportunity to part take of a Passover Seder on the Kibbutz. The Seder was very different from the one I experienced growing up. At the time I spoke semi-fluent hebrew and was struck at the core of my being when the words (loosely translated here) were “It is what we did for ourselves with the help of God’s miracles that brought us out of Egypt.” Wait a second! It wasn’t all about what “God did for us (‘us’ meaning the Jewish people) that brought us out of Egypt.”

It made so much sense to me. If the Red Sea parted but the people were too afraid to step forward and actually walk the path that was miraculously created  the story of Exodus would be very different. In fact the story of Exodus might not exist at all. Can you imagine if the people said “ok God, you parted the sea, cool trick. Now what? Can you tele-port me to the other side.” I realized back then that if you don’t act on miracles or opportunities or the answers to your prayers you will still be in a place of waiting for miracles, opportunities or your prayers to be answered. You need to act upon the miracles presented to you at any given moment and in many ways, acting upon your miracles is another miracle!

The definition of a miracle is that which cannot be scientifically explained or otherwise attributable to the “laws of nature” but who of us has not experienced or seen some sort of miracle? The birth of a baby, the seeds sprouting in spring, or waking up in the morning after a devastating storm when you thought you would surely parish. The fact that you are a divine spirit and that you made the choice to live in a human body is a miracle. The sun rising and setting is a miracle.

So as in the opening Einstein quote; “There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.” Each day presents you with miracles and perhaps the real miracle is the choice you have to act upon those miracles. It is YOU and what you choose to do for yourself when you are given a miracle that makes all the difference!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Forgive Them…It’s Not Who They Are

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“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.“~Marianne Williamson

As spirits in human form we came here to learn and experience something different.

Although spirit is bright, pure love there are some lessons that come from our all to very human choices and with those choices we occasionally get hurt.

I know it seems counter intuitive to most healers and those focused on healing themselves but there are some who take longer than others to awaken and heal themselves.

Sadly there are some so full of pain they cannot see who they are and they, consciously or unconsciously, inflict pain or cause conflict and drama. One of the reasons it’s so difficult to forgive those who have hurt us is there is something inside of us we need to heal or forgive ourselves for.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.~Martin Luther King, Jr.

There is power and freedom in forgiveness. There is healing and peace in forgiveness but the healing must begin with forgiving ourselves first. Those who have hurt us do so because there was a level of trust and expectation on our part.  We cannot control others. We cannot make them treat us fairly; Be honest with us or love us.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you allow people to continue to hurt you. You forgive them for what they did because they were not aware of themselves enough to recognize that what they did was because of deep-set fear or pain within themselves. You forgive yourself for allowing them to hurt you because you allowed yourself to be vulnerable, open and perhaps unaware they were not ready to “have” you as you are.

Most of us are not Gandhi, Amma, Rumi or Buddha and we are not exempt from having hurt someone in our world at some point. It is part of being human. All we can do is our best. All we can do is be the best and most loving creatures we can. It is why forgiveness is a part of love.

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.~Mark Twain

Take the path of forgiveness that comes directly from your heart and forgive those who have wronged you. Forgive those who have hurt you. Forgive yourself for making a mistake or judging.

You have it in you the ability emit a fragrance of love so powerful it causes peace and healing for you, for others and the world.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Stop Blaming. Start Forgiving and Healing

Stop Blaming Start Forgiving and Healing“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.~J. Michael Straczynski

Are you blaming someone or something for your current experience? Of course it’s THEIR fault! It’s the economy, family, your boyfriend or girlfriend, how you were brought up.. .who did it TO you. These are just a few of the “outer” situations or people we tend to “blame” when things become challenging in our lives. The problem is blame will never get you anywhere. Blame means a part of your valuable energy is stuck and holding on to the past. Blame means not taking responsibility for any part of the situation. It also takes forgiveness and healing out of the picture.

Blame is a way of rationalizing and making sense of chaos. It is far easier to blame others than to look inside and take responsibility for our part. The moment we stop blaming and start forgiving is the moment we start healing and moving on with our lives.

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”~Robert Anthony

In order to heal, create change, and move on with our lives we must take responsibility for our part. Now, I hear you saying you had no part in the creation of the problem (challenge or situation).  I may not be very popular the moment I say you ALWAYS play a part in it but it IS the truth. Maybe you were (are) afraid. Maybe you were (are) not fully aware of your impact on the situation. Maybe you saw, heard or felt something through your filters.

Blaming others is not the answer. Blaming yourself is not the answer. These are never the answers because blame holds on to the past. The longer you “blame” the more the past gets embellished and the more energy you have caught up in a past that is no longer truth but an illusion.

Your true power lies in the ability to forgive others for their part and forgive yourself for your part. It may mean you have to forgive yourself for zigging when you should have zagged. It may mean you must forgive yourself for something you did or said in the past. It may mean you have to forgive someone who deeply hurt you. It may mean you must forgive yourself for being afraid or in resistance.

Regardless of what you find yourself forgiving, you’ll know immediately when you are free because it will feel like a weigh is lifted off your shoulders. You are able to look at the situation or other person without anger, fear or blame and you begin creating things and moving forward again.

“Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”~Erica Jong

It’s interesting to note the word “blame”. As written it looks like B Lame or more to the point B (eing) Lame. It takes a strong and courageous person to end the blame game and take their life into their own hands. It takes a strong and courageous person to forgive. One of the bravest things you can do is look in the mirror, accept you played some part and forgive yourself. Look in the mirror! Be brave! FORGIVE!~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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Reorganizing Your Energy

Energy“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.”~Kristin Armstrong

Today I’m doing a much-needed “energy reorganiziation”. Won’t you join me in creating a new starting point for yourself? Let’s take pause, reset and open our hearts  and minds to new possibilities!

As you may or may not know in addition to clairvoyant healing work I’m a Real Estate Broker . Yesterday I closed a real estate deal that took a more than 10 months to complete. Once the transaction was officially ‘closed’ a wave of relief washed over me and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was at that very moment I realized how much of my energy I didn’t have access to because it was inextricably tied up in the deal.

What happened in those 10 months is a perfect example of what happens when we resist and try to control or heal those who are not only committed to holding on (not letting go), but choose to punish and blame everyone else in the process without taking any responsibility.

Here is a brief timeline of events. Put the 2 flat on the market in February and basically sold it in 7 days. Gave tenant legal notice to vacate even though at that point he didn’t have a lease. Although the tenant initially agreed to move prior to closing in March, he decided to stop paying rent and stay (as a squatter). Due to the tenant using the already lengthy system to extend his holdover it took more than 8 painful months (in court) to evict him.

Once the tenant was evicted, the buyer chose to punish the seller by not communicating for another month. Apparently she was “mad” it took so long to evict the tenant. (Eviction time-frames are up to the courts and totally out of the sellers control.)  After finally establishing communication, the buyer cancelled the deal. The crazy part is the seller repeatedly offered to let her out of the transaction yet she decided to move forward until our side was ready to close.

There were challenges and lessons in patience at every turn. I realized that for 10 plus months a lot of my energy was caught up in healing the seller, anger at the tenant for not leaving and abusing what is clearly a broken eviction process and frustration with a manipulative buyer who ignored attempts to communicate.

Yes I was angry, impatient, frustrated and in resistance. So much for my zen, peaceful self!

While in the middle of it, I recognized my frustration, anger etc however I did not realize how much of my energy was tied up. This is very common and most times it takes a step away to finally see it. Once it’s seen we have the opportunity to do a little energy reorganizing; including releasing and calling back energy.

For my reorganization, I’m going to call back all the energy that’s still caught up in the deal. I’m going to look at what else or who else I am still healing. I will look to see where I’m angry at not being able to control circumstances beyond my control. I will ask the questions what am I holding on to and/or how am I using the “system” to rationalize my actions? Am I trying to manipulate and control because I’m frustrated?

When you use your experiences to ask questions, you instantly create a shift in your perspective by making it more neutral. You take ownership through acceptance. Looking at yourself first allows you to understand where others might be coming from. It allows you to forgive others for their actions and to forgive yourself for your RE-actions. It allows you to release the energy and pictures that caused you to try and control people or events and go into resistance.

Is there something or someone in your life that’s taking up your energy? Are you in resistance? Are you healing, punishing or blaming others? Wouldn’t you like your energy back so you have more to create with? If so, do a little reorganizing around yourself!

It’s time to create a new starting point, take pause, reset, and open our hearts  and minds to new possibilities!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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