Forgiveness Divine

Forgiveness is a “giving” space…

Forgiveness Divine

“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”~Alexander Pope

I recently received an email from a client asking how we can energetically ask for forgiveness from others.

The example she cited was about overreacting and using harsh words with a colleague while under pressure. To add to her angst she lost touch with colleague years ago. She wanted to say she was sorry even though she apologized after the incident because she still felt bad about what happened. She was also concerned that even if she did find them they may not want to talk to her at all let alone about something that happened years ago.

We’ve all been there…

What a great question and example! We’ve all been in that position at one time or another, haven’t we? We hold on to “feeling bad” about something we did or said for hours, days or, in some instances, years. We want to talk about it and keep apologizing to that person or for the situation ad nauseam waiting for someone else to forgive us and we just can’t let it go even if they do.

The reason we hold on to that less than loving feeling is not that the other person hasn’t forgiven us (maybe they have or maybe they haven’t…that’s for another blog) but because at some level, we can’t or don’t want to forgive ourselves.

Here’s the thing, on an energy level there is no asking from others. It’s about forgiving ourselves. Once we forgive ourselves it’s even possible that we cross paths with the other person so we can apologize. Isn’t it wonderful when the universe works that magic? If it does happen you see them let’s be clear it is never about “asking” for forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a “giving” space, not an “expecting” or needing a “response” space…

Others don’t have to forgive you. It’s not up to them. If you apologize wanting a particular response that is not forgiveness. That is an expectation which is a form of resistance. Also, why would someone else forgive you for that which you cannot forgive within yourself? Even if they do forgive you or they forgave you long ago that “feeling” will still linger because YOU still have to forgive YOU.

It doesn’t even matter if the other person accepts your apology. Forgiving is a giving space and when and if they choose to forgive they are giving and allowing a space for themselves as well.

I once had an ex who, after 18 years with no contact, called me to apologize “for everything” he ever “did” to me in our relationship. In fact, his first words were “please, don’t hang up.” While I appreciated the call to no end all I could do was laugh.

For the most part, I had forgiven him, and myself, long before that call. He held on to the guilt all those years. I will say it there was deep healing that happened on that call for both of us. I watched his energy and subsequently my energy completely shift as we released the remaining karma that at some level we both held on to.

Forgiveness is not a thing you “do”…

It’s a space you create FOR giving. You’re giving yourself space to make mistakes and to be less than perfect. A space to be where you are. A space to learn and heal. A space to recognize where you are and are not aware. A space to let go. and most importantly you’re giving yourself space to love again.

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”

~Steve Maraboli

The truth is that any “non-forgiveness” is about you. It’s also where your energy is stuck in the past. How can you move forward with your energy stuck in the past? If you’re one of those people who cannot forgive yourself take a moment to really break it down to the bare bones. Why can’t you forgive yourself? Is there guilt or shame or some other emotion that causes you pain? What’s really going on?

It’s important to note that we do not go into a state of harsh words or react in a less than loving way without some sort of picture or energy that got lit up. Maybe you lost your awareness or someone pushed a button and triggered something deep within your psyche. Maybe you experienced fear or a threat. Maybe someone jumped in your space or tried to control you or the situation.

Maybe all of it happened at once but none of it matters. It’s important to recognize what really happened and forgive that too. Not one of us is perfect so let’s stop blaming ourselves and holding on things in the past that hold power over us in the present.

Make your apologies to others and yourself by creating a space of love and forgiveness. That’s the only way to release and clear the Karma.~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2019 All Rights Reserved

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Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant, Energy Healer, Spiritual Teacher, Mentor and Guide providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. Her ultimate goal and soul’s purpose is to guide people to connect with their own truth, vision, purpose and spiritual gifts. For more information, please visit her website. To schedule a session: Click Here

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Is “Struggle” your Default Comfort Zone?

“Energy rightly applied and directed will accomplish anything.”~Nellie Bly

A few weeks ago I told my Mom I was changing up my diet routine and, in response, she asked me a couple of interesting questions. The questions were simple but thought-provoking. “Is it sustainable?” and “are you going to spend your whole life counting macros?” When I thought about those questions I realized that most of my life I’d been focused on losing or maintaining my weight loss.

The questions also reminded me of how many clients get so close to their goals then backslide or stall. What happens is that they (we) get stuck in the fear picture of what happens next? Most times the fear is not in our conscious awareness.

Why does this happen? Because just like me, many people spend a good deal of their attention, time, energy and often times, money in effort “trying”. It doesn’t matter if it’s losing weight or some other life-long struggle. There is so much effort going into the perceived problem that there is no vision as to what we would do with our energy once we actually reach our goal.

Think of it this way: When so much energy is poured into a problem, in addition, to constantly trying to figure it out there is the distress and frustration of not getting what we want and not knowing why. What also makes it so challenging is that the day-to-day struggle eventually becomes our default comfort zone.

Where’s your energy?

Here are a couple of questions to explore. What is/are the thing(s) you struggle with? What are the things you worry about or intensely focused on for so long that you can’t even picture life without that intense focus? How much of your energy is being taken up by trying to solve, fix or change things?

For some, it’s energy tied up in searching for a relationship. For others, it’s their weight or how they look and, for others, it’s lack of money or resources. To be clear, none of this is wrong or bad. It doesn’t really matter what it is. All of us have something in our lives we’ve intensely dreamed of, wanted or focused on so much that we throw all of our energy and into it.

Where you place your energy and attention has everything to do with how much energy you have for creating.

Ok, so you’ve put all your energy and attention into “fixing” this thing and can’t seem to get there. Have you ever stopped to look at how much of your creative energy you’re pouring into fixing the problem, getting what you want or changing your circumstance? Have you ever taken a breath, stepped back and looked at how much you’ve identified who you are with the thing you’re in effort worrying about? Most importantly, how much energy would you free up?

What would you do with your energy and who would you be if you actually got what you wanted?

When I ask that question I’m not asking how you would spend your money if you won the lottery, or what would life look like if you were in that perfect relationship. I ask so you can begin to think about what you want to create and where you’d put even a portion of your energy if it was available to you. It’s also important to explore how much of what you focus on has defined your direction.

So, where would you put your energy? What comes next? What’s your vision? Who would you be? How would you (re)define yourself? It’s not that you have to abandon or give up on those things you want. It’s about calling back your energy and, in your mind’s eye, have a vision for beyond the goal once you get there.

What you see is what you get!

Everything we want can happen when we focus our energy in the right places. It’s about creative vision, stepping out of the effort and, in some cases, totally shaking up our world to go beyond our default comfort zone. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2019 All Rights Reserved

SpiritLightInsight.com

Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant, Energy Healer, Spiritual Teacher and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her readings, healing work and consulting Debra also offers one-to-one mentoring sessions to guide people to their own truth, vision and spiritual gifts. For more information, please visit her website. To schedule a session: Click Here