How to Practice Radical Forgiveness…

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” ~August Wilson

The first time I heard the phrase “radical forgiveness” I wasn’t sure what to make of it. There’s really nothing “radical” about forgiveness. It’s a beautiful vibration that lovingly releases you and another person from an endless loop of energetic punishment, guilt and karmic ties.

I tend to connect the meaning of the word “radical” to “extreme”. It feels harsh, hard, unbalanced and ungiving; but there is another, and more gentle way of looking at it. “Profound”.

Forgiveness is always profound for both the forgiver and the one who is being forgiven and yet it’s rarely an easy task. In order to forgive, we must look into our hearts to see and accept how we added to the situation.

What we cannot forgive holds us hostage and it’s much easier to blame something or someone outside of ourselves than admit we played a part in the scenario. We must open our eyes to the truth, take ownership of our part and shine a loving light on whatever needs to be forgiven.

No matter what needs forgiving, the moment we decide to forgive ourselves and accept the part we played is the moment the vibration of forgiveness gracefully enters our hearts and minds.

We can’t pick and choose.

While there are many things we get to choose like our thoughts, our direction, and our friends we cannot sort through and say ‘I’ll forgive this but I won’t forgive that’.

We can certainly pick and choose the order in which we forgive something or someone in the past but if we get angry and decide “never to forgive”, a part of us will remain in the dark.

Forgiveness is a state of grace and it takes practice and awareness. Deciding to forgive really is divine. It frees us and gives us an opportunity to live in a loving, giving, state of grace every day.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Money. It's just paper...

A Book, A Coffee Cup or Money?

Money. It's just paper...

Photo Courtesy of Jonathan Pitts

“This planet has – or rather had – a problem, which was this: most of the people living on it were unhappy for pretty much of the time. Many solutions were suggested for this problem, but most of these were largely concerned with the movement of small green pieces of paper, which was odd because on the whole it wasn’t the small green pieces of paper that were unhappy.”~Douglas Adams

Is there something you see in the picture that holds more value to you than the other things? Which would you rather have? A Book? A coffee cup? Money?

As I was scrolling through my Facebook feed one day I came across this picture taken by my friend Jonathan Pitts with the words “Today, through my travels, I’ve got Dollars, Euros, and Pounds at the same time. Because of that I’m reminded that they’re just paper.”

A profound statement to be sure. Although he was referring to the ‘currency’ from different countries it struck me that ALL of the items pictured are made of paper and it is merely how we think about those items that gives them value.

If you could pick just one of the items pictured which one would you pick? While we most certainly (at least I sincerely hope we) value books, surely we don’t value a coffee cup the same way. While we might think highly of both the book or coffee cup if given a choice of all three items we would, more than likely, choose the money.

Why wouldn’t we? It has the most value right? I should also ask, which currency you chose because all of them have different values.  Unless you trade currency or are a world traveler or banker, you probably picked the one that has the most value to YOU.

As of today we would have to pay $1.09 USD to buy one Euro and $1.29 USD to buy one British Pound. The British Pound is more valuable according to currency markets. You did pick the British Pound right? Value is a funny thing when we realize it’s simply a piece of paper that we, as a society or country, have assigned a value.

At one time cattle and salt were extremely valuable. They were the currency of their time. Can you imagine if your employer told you they were going to give you a cow or pay you in salt instead of a paycheck? You’d be looking for another job post-haste.

As you can see, what we value is fluid, based on our collective agreement. How we think about and judge money is what gives it value. There are those who think about money as the end all, be all and spend a great deal of time trying to attain great wealth. There are those who reject money because of what it represents to them. There are those obsessed with it and those who couldn’t care less about it.

Many people carry a great deal of judgement about money. The reality is that it is not good or bad and yet we give up a great deal of our space to what we perceive as an almighty, powerful piece of paper. In and of itself, as Jonathan pointed out, money is “just paper.”

I’m not suggesting that money doesn’t have value or that we don’t need it in today’s society to live. We certainly need it according to societal norms. This, however, is simple food for thought as I get to the real point about value as it relates to our self-worth. You knew I’d get to the point sooner or later!

Is your self-worth connected or attached to money?

Does your perceived value (self-worth) go up or down depending on how much you have in the bank? Are you a book full of talent, knowledge and stories waiting for others to see your value before you see it yourself? Are you an empty paper cup waiting for someone to fill you up?

It’s fascinating how much of our space and power we give over to those things in the physical world. If we equate our value with income or how much we have in the bank we are looking outside of ourselves. In effect we are allowing some collective agreement to dictate our value.

What if instead of attaching our self-worth to money we turned our attention within to discover our REAL value? What would it be like if we determined our value and self-worth by connecting with who we truly are instead of attaching it to pieces of paper?

All the items pictured are “just paper” and their value is fluid. It is our judgment which gives them varying degrees of value. If your self-worth is attached to anything other than the magnificent being that you are, cut the cord, take back your power and connect with that which has real value. YOU!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Letting Go

Grief, Sadness and Fear are a Natural Part of Letting Go

Letting Go“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”~Washington Irving

I often get asked after deep reading/healing sessions if it’s “normal” to experience grief, deep sadness and fear. My answer is always the same…yes. The truth is that grief, sadness and fear are a very normal and natural part of the letting go process.

Those emotions may come up only for a moment or, if you’re releasing (letting go) of energies, beliefs, a relationship or a dream you’ve held on to for a long time, it may take some time and a growth period for the process to fully integrate. Everyone experiences letting go in a  different way and each experience will differ with each release.

Letting Go is a Process…

For whatever reason you decide to let go, be it a decision you made consciously by design or out of necessity, the moment you make the choice to let go, various emotions start to come up. Emotions are the body’s way of communicating with you and although you can clear energy instantly in spirit, the body needs time to adjust. It’s important to remember your body needs time to heal in “real-time” and letting go is a process not an event. Allow your body to process whatever emotions come up for you. Letting go can be a major life changing experience and just like grieving a loved one who has transitioned, you are grieving for the self you are leaving behind.

There’s no shame in tears!

Crying is one of the ways to cleanse, release energy and process emotions. It is your body’s natural response to overwhelming emotion.  There is no shame in crying! In fact there’s nothing better than a good cry to make you feel better.  If you feel like crying, go ahead and do so. Allow your emotions to come up. Really FEEL them. Any time you try to “control” what you’re feeling, you’re either in resistance or there’s an energy (usually someone else’s) blocking the cleansing process.

Stay With It!

When we experience overwhelming emotion the tendency is to push it away, not feel it, stop ourselves from crying. Perhaps you were told crying is a sign of weakness? Perhaps you were not allowed to cry. the ability to “be” with our emotions and just ‘let them be’ by acknowledging we are indeed feeling an intense emotion, is the first step towards letting go because we’re not in resistance.

Letting go is not giving up nor giving in! Sometimes staying with it means we have to let go of other emotions like shame, pride and ego. Other times we have to let go of feeling like a failure or trying to control and bend a situation so it fits what we want. No matter what comes up, stay with and acknowledge it because that is when you will be able to release and let go.

Grief, sadness and fear are part of the natural letting go process. It is how you handle those emotions that make the difference in how quickly you will process and move through the energy. Allow your emotions to come up, be with them, acknowledge them and then gently release. Recognize that what you are feeling is a natural part of the growth period and don’t resist. It’ll do your body good. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Please EXcuse the exCuse’!

How many times in your life have you asked someone to excuse you? How many times have you found yourself making an excuse for yourself or someone else?

Asking to be excused is a polite way of asking to be ‘released’ from a requirement.

A few examples: when you were in school and needed to be excused from class, you brought a note from your parents. Others are when you excuse yourself for bumping into someone or you are trying to get someone’s attention when they are doing something else.

What about the other definitions? The english language  is tricky if it is not your mother tongue but it IS interesting that the same word is used to pardon or release someone (or yourself) from blame as well as to offer a “reason” for something you cannot or choose not to do.

How many times a day do you make an excuse or excuse yourself?

Who or what are you exactly excusing and to whom? Are you somehow justifying  or rationalizing something to yourself in the process? Do you find yourself making excuses for someone else? More importantly are you being truthful when you are asking to be excused or are you simply making an excuse?

When you take ownership of the things you do or say there is no need for an excuse! Ownership means taking responsibility for your actions, words, and choices and how they may have affected someone else or possibly even how the excuses (or excusing yourself) affects your life.

Being polite is not just wonderful, it’s the right thing to do. Of course we try to be polite with each other but it’s a completely different energy when we ‘make excuses’  to assign blame,  or we choose not to take ownership of a decision that we (or someone else) has consciously or unconsciously made.

Oh yes. We not only make excuses for ourselves but we make excuses for others and sometimes we do this to assign blame or avoid the truth. When we make excuses for others we are, at some level, healing them but that, my friends, is a subject for another post.

Take a deep dive into “why”!

Don’t ask why, explore why. Exploring WHY you choose a particular word,  an action (or inaction), or why you made a certain choice leads you to learning more about yourself.

Taking an inner journey to explore the “why” opens the door to forgiveness and change.

What you notice in self-exploration is not to be judged. What you did or didn’t do in the past is probably not how you would handle it now. The important steps to this are to see what you see. Acknowledge what you see. Own what you see. Forgive yourself. Taking ownership has a great deal of freedom that comes along with it.

Every thought, deed or action has a learning experience tied to it. Your awareness and ownership of the choices you make (or made) can lead you on an interesting journey of the soul. You may even find that the choices you made in the past were laid on a foundation of programming built by someone else. If that’s the case, it’s time to build your own house on a foundation of ownership and truth.

This is not about being right or wrong in a situation. It’s about owning your choices and taking responsibility for them. If you make a mistake own it and learn from it. Clear the energy. Clear the guilt. Forgive yourself. Once the light of awareness  illuminates an excuse consider it an opportunity to learn and heal.

So please excuse the excuse! Take ownership of your life and stop making excuses! If you find yourself making excuses for someone else in your life forgive them for their lack of awareness. If you make excuses for yourself, forgive yourself.

YOU have the power to transform your life. You have the power to build a foundation without the need to make excuses. If you don’t want to start now, what’s your excuse? ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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To Heal Yourself and Others, Promise Yourself….

umbrellaToday’s post is a healing message. This morning while searching for a quote I came across a wonderful passage that truly captures self-healing as way of healing ourselves and others.

I was profoundly struck by the following words at the end; “To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. 

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”

In order to heal others, the best thing we can do is be true to ourselves and be the best we can be. It is a commitment or promise we must make with ourselves. Here is the full passage:

Promise Yourself

“To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”
~Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

Yes! “Think well of yourself and proclaim this fact to the world not in loud words but great deeds.” Be true to yourself. Be in alignment with your goals. Love yourself in this way and heal others in the process!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Eclipse * Comet * Full Moon Trifecta!

comet-jpg__800x600_q85_cropAn Eclipse, a Comet and Full Moon walk into a celestial bar…

The air is charged as we approach a weekend of energy events this weekend. This is truly a “trifecta” for spiritual seekers and awakening souls!

As with all astrological events we can use the powerful and exciting energies to help us on our journey.

Eclipse

Starting at 5:34 P.M. eastern time, people along the east coast will be able to see a penumbral lunar eclipse, when the sun, moon and earth all align. (via Weather.com). In this case there will be a subtle “overshadowing” of the moon. Lunar eclipses signify a time of great change and upheaval. Eclipses put us on the ‘right’ path as they illuminate truth and “eclipse out” that which no longer serves us.

“Eclipses shine the bright light of truth to the part of your life that is touched by the eclipse. Most of the time, eclipses act as brilliant illuminators, revealing a condition that you were unaware existed.”~Susan Miller

We are already feeling the effects of the eclipse so find some amusement, sit back and watch events as they unfold. Sometimes, we know that we are meant to make a change but we aren’t sure what to do. Allow the energies during an eclipse to help you.

Full Moon

Full Moons rule our emotions and pour down a tremendous amount of energy. Whatever is going on in our world will be greatly amplified. When we welcome the powerful lunar energies (instead of resisting them) we can use them to clear deeply stuck energy and emotions.

During the time of a Full Moon it is appropriate to celebrate life and light and to be mindful of all that we have, and all that we have created. It is a time to be curious, to open our hearts, count our blessings and feel the connection we have with ourselves and others.

Combining the energy of the Eclipse with that of the Full Moon, we have an opportunity to embrace and accept our truths as we release anything that was hidden.

Comet 45P

The energy of a comet affects us in many ways. A comet is formed by dust (earth element), ice (water element) and gases such as carbon monoxide and carbon dioxide (air element) in the ancient, distant region. Then they are given energy when they pass the sun (fire element), thawing and releasing the frozen air.

Comets symbolize frozen or stuck energy deep in the abyss of our consciousness such as suppressed emotions or fear. As they warm, they release toxic gases. So too, we are able to release toxic thoughts and the more we release, the more we are able to infuse a new zest for life.

Comets re-set the energy. They inspire new thoughts and new ideas. It’s interesting to note that the Chinese refer to comets as ‘the broom star’. Although they consider them ‘bad luck’ don’t forget that brooms are for cleaning and sweeping away debris. With a clean slate, we have room to bring in more wisdom.

According to Smithsonianmag.com Comet 45P has appeared to have lost it’s tail. That’s a lot of toxic energy release! As a planet (and personally) we have also released a lot of toxic energy. We are clearly coming to an end of an era but we are also bringing in wisdom and light as we birth new thoughts and ideas.

What a wonderful time we will have this weekend as we drink from the cosmic soup to re-boot and recharge. Be sure to pay a little extra attention to your mind, body and spirit. The energy is super-charged so you might need a little extra time in meditation, or extra rest. Give your body what it needs. Happy Healing!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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SIMON SAYS! It’s a control game….

simonsaysRemember the game “Simon Says” from when you were a child? Would you like to play? Come on, humor me, it’s just a fun little game.

The rules of the game are simple. You can only do what “Simon” tells you to do.

Simon says raise your left hand. Simon says put your hands on your hips. Simon says touch your toes.

Simon says touch your nose.  Simon says clap your hands. Simon says blink your eyes. Touch your head. Simon says wiggle your toes. Simon says “say HOORAH!”

Wasn’t that fun?! Did you do everything Simon said? Maybe you found it silly or maybe you simply smiled as you reconnected with a bit of your inner child. (If you didn’t play that’s ok, read on anyway.)

Now let me ask you something, did you touch your head? Did Simon say to do it? If you didn’t touch your head you get to stay in the game. If you did touch your head, you’re out. Bye. Don’t feel bad though. You were just humoring me right? It’s just a silly game….or is it?

From the time we are born we are “taught” to follow the rules, do what we’re told, mind our manners, don’t speak until we are spoken to.  We asked permission to do something or we waited for someone to tell us what to do.  Of course, this is good for children but what happens when the control programming carries over into our adult life?

The game “Simon Says” illustrates how easily we can be programmed to follow the rules and allow others to control us. Simon, the control, tells us to do something and we do it. If Simon doesn’t say it…well, we lost. We failed. We’re out of the game and effectively out of the group.

No one WANTS to lose when their FRIENDS are still playing and so, early on, we figure out that the next time we play the game, all we have to do is make sure that we listen intently to “Simon” the control. We don’t do anything unless Simon Says we should.

Do you, or did you, have a “Simon” in your life? Are you waiting for Simon to say you can DO something? Do you find yourself following the leader so you are part of a group?  Do you spend time responding to rules that may not even apply in present time?

Did you, or are you currently, following someone else’s “rules” or, more importantly, are you still following imaginary rules and playing the game therefore allowing yourself to be controlled by them? If you answered “yes” to any of those questions or you recognize there has been a control at work in your life, maybe it’s time to clear the energy.

If you’re not clear on what I’m taking about think back to a time when an authority figure said to you “Stop it! You’re out of control.” (If no one has ever said that to you, or you haven’t felt that way at some point consider yourself lucky.)

Once you remember that moment ask yourself whose control were you out of? (That’s a hint that maybe the person who said you were out of control meant you were out of their control.) When you become aware of and release the control or “Simon says” pictures that are indeed a part of all of us, you begin to heal a part of you that stops you from being who you truly are.

As you release more “Simons” and stop playing the game you find your freedom and become senior in your space. You are present and in charge as the authority and creator. You come alive with possibilities!

We’ve all allowed ourselves to be controlled or programmed at one time or another but when we start living a more awakened life, those controls hinder and instead of help. If you’re having a challenge with this…I’ll help you out. SIMON SAYS find your freedom!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Do You Live and EmbodyYour Spiritual Practice?

meditation-pool“Mindfulness practice means that we commit fully in each moment to be present; inviting ourselves to interface with this moment in full awareness, with the intention to embody as best we can an orientation of calmness, mindfulness, and equanimity right here and right now.”~Jon Kabat-Zinn

Do you have a spiritual practice like prayer, meditation, gratitude etc? What is yours and what is the purpose?

Everyone probably has a different answer because in addition to thousands of different types of spiritual practices there are equally thousands of different reasons. No matter how you practice I’d be willing to bet you feel better at some point afterwards. I say ‘at some point’ only because there are some practices that bring awareness to things that are initially disturbing to acknowledge. Otherwise, in general, most of us feel better afterwards.

We release resistance, we pray for ourselves and others, we work on gratitude, and practice however we do then, when we are feeling better and most pleased with ourselves, we get up and go about our day. The question of the day is this, once you’ve completed your spiritual practice do you embody the practice and incorporate it into your everyday life?

What if you went beyond the point of meditating or praying or gratitude (or whatever your spiritual practice) and decided to (as my mentor and spiritual teacher Michael Tamura says) “live the miracle”? This life IS a miracle to be enjoyed and lived to its fullest!

A friend of mine recently wrote about a profound realization she experienced. “I’m finding that my prayer, meditation, gratitude, and the other things I consider my “spiritual practice” are actually just preparations. And that the real spiritual practice is going out into the world and getting down in the dirt with mine and other’s character defects and the reality of life on life’s terms.”

She is so right. Your spiritual practice is not only practice but a preparation for you to go out into the world to embody and live it. It’s not a one and done proposition. We move through our world and face different challenges every day. Life is clearly about the journey not the destination.

We are growing and changing every day and our spiritual practice helps prepare us for the journey. It prepares us to uncover, accept and forgive things within ourselves and increase our awareness. It helps us accept and forgive others as a result of seeing ourselves (and them) in a different light.

My friend went on to say “Accepting that being in the world is practice makes the transition from quiet time feel less like a sharp edge in my chest!”. I loved that response because there are times it really does feel like a sharp blade cutting through us. For sensitive people, the world can feel like a harsh slap in the face after sitting home peacefully in meditation.

When you choose to “live the miracle” you move through the world differently. You are more aware and more prepared for what life brings you. You may not realize it but you already do bring a certain part of your spiritual practice with you AND it has an effect on every single person you meet even if you don’t speak with them.

A consistent spiritual practice helps us live our purpose and become the best person we can be.  Our practice grows a space to be more caring and compassionate with ourselves and others. It helps us open our hearts, move past inner pain and, most importantly, it prepares us to embody spirit and live the miracle we call life~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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Energy Work: The reward outweighs the risk

Energy Work: It’s messy…and totally worth it!

Energy Work: The reward outweighs the risk“What are you going to do? Everything, is my guess. It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications.”~Nora Ephron

Energy Work is Messy

Those who have chosen a healing path know that doing energy work is not glamorous. It’s just the opposite. It’s messy, extremely painful (at times) and the more you uncover the ‘truth’ of who you are, the more you begin to see clearly why and how things unfolded in the past.

One of the hardest pieces to wrap our heads around is when we finally open our psychic eyes to see how we co-created particular, and often painful, situations in our past. It isn’t an easy thing to see the truth because we must face the fact that at the time we (probably) knew or sensed something was off but didn’t listen to our inner voice. Hindsight at it’s finest. Oh yes, things seem to get ‘complicated’ and messy.

There’s no mistake I used the word ‘seem’ to describe the chaos that usually ensues once we discover that perhaps what we were noticing was correct! Things aren’t really complicated; they’re just painful. When we open up to truth our mind will go in a thousand different directions to think about anything and everything other than the pain we are about to feel when we open Pandora’s box. However, with acceptance of what was and loving ourselves in the present we WILL get through it.

Have you ever wondered why painful situation from the past seem to hold our attention as if a vice-grip has them firmly in place? It happens because they are “super-charged” with energy. If we don’t let go of past experiences we begin fueling or feeding the memory but here’s the thing, memories are illusions. They are pictures in our mind and the more we feed them with our present-time energy the bigger they become and the bigger they become, the farther away from the truth they are.

Embellishing expands the illusion

The more we “feed” or embellish our pictures the easier it is to get stuck. The reason it happens is because our ego minds take hold and act as defense mechanisms. Of course we don’t do this consciously but conscious or unconscious, the fact remains, the more we dwell in the past, the more we embellish and give power to the illusion and the less of our energy we have in the present for creating.

“And this mess is so big
And so deep and so tall,
We cannot pick it up.
There is no way at all!”
~Dr. Seuss

Deep energy work isn’t always smooth and graceful. For the most part we are not going to do one or two meditations and wake up without a care in the world. I know we all want it to be that way but it’s a process. A peeling back of the layers. It is a process of showing up as we are. It is a process of loving ourselves so much that we go beyond the fear of being heard, seen and vulnerable. To show up as we are, not who others want us to be.

It’s a risk to show up because when we do this work, those around us may not be comfortable with the changes we’re making. We also may see the mess as so big, deep and tall we don’t even want to attempt to clear it out.

Here’s where the reward far outweighs the risk because this is where we connect at such a deep level with ourselves there’s no going back.

“Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.”~Brené Brown

It’s takes courage to enter the realm of our own psyche. It takes courage to look; to see. It takes courage to accept and accept responsibility for what we have co-created by our lack of awareness or non-acceptance of past experiences.

Yes, it gets messy. Yes, there is a possibility you will feel crazy or out of control and yes, there is the possibility that your growth period will be painful BUT…. there is also a greater potential for healing and transformation.

There is greater potential for growth and expansion and FOR SURE you will be clearing a space for love, and truth and more of YOU to be present…in the present. What a gift!~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2016 All Rights Reserved

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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

When Going With The Flow Includes Rest….

Lake Michigan Peace“Sometimes I feel like if you just watch things, just sit still and let the world exist in front of you – sometimes I swear that just for a second time freezes and the world pauses in its tilt. Just for a second.”~Lauren Oliver

Sometimes ‘going with the flow’ means rest for your mind, body and spirit. Last night I went to bed at 9:30pm with every intention of reading. I almost instantly fell asleep with the book in hand.

This morning I noticed all the effort I’ve been experiencing. I was pushing to communicate with clients. Pushing to clear energy. Pushing to get my new website in order. Pushing to make time for meditation and beating myself up for not writing an inspiring blog post.

Lately I’ve been in a place of “hurry up and finish”, “just get it done now”. I’ve been in effort trying to make my lengthy “to do” list into a fully completed “tah dah” list. The problem is that most of the tasks I need to complete could not possibly get finished in one day. Pushing doesn’t help and all the effort (and resistance causing the pushing) is, quite frankly, exhausting!

I constantly hear those tiny but loud voices pulling me in this or that direction. I know you know of the voices I’m talking about. I’d even bet you’ve heard those voices every now and again! The voices are the dialogues in your head that keep you doing and acting instead of finding stillness and taking pause; the voices that tell you, you should be doing something other than meditating, or resting or really anything you are trying to do for yourself.

My tiny, loud voices acted as a control and because I listened to them, I was ungrounded, unbalanced and unable to focus on any task for very long. What happened was I allowed the energy THAT ISN’T MINE to control my experience (set the energy) instead of me taking charge (setting the energy for myself) and FLOWING IN MY CREATIVITY.

I recognized and acknowledged that the “push me, pull you” thoughts did not serve me well. I was exhausted and simply needed space to be. I needed to rest and relax instead of constantly pushing. With that in mind I decided to take a break from my usual morning routine.

One early morning instead of drinking coffee and scrolling through Facebook, I took a chair to the beach to meditate. I didn’t realize it then but my spirit was guiding me to the very thing I needed most. As the sounds of the city turned into the gentle sound of Lake Michigan waves lapping upon the shore I turned my attention within. (Click here to see the video I took.)

In my meditation I saw how much I’ve been controlled and, at times, consumed by the thoughts pulling me in every direction. Sitting in my beach chair I allowed the sound of the waves to envelop me in peaceful repose. I allowed stillness to replace the loud voices.

The 50 minutes I spent at Oak Street beach shifted my reality and it all happened before 8:30am! Right before the end of my meditation I chose the vibration I wanted for the day. (Trust me, if you’ve never done this before it’s a life changer!) I chose to “go with MY flow” instead of pushing or pulling or struggling. I gave myself permission to focus on finishing one thing at a time. Starting with this post!

The world has become loud and angry and it can be overwhelming. Our busy-ness can be overwhelming. Sometimes we need to take a moment to rest and recharge mind, body, spirit and soul.

Notice if the flow you’ve been going with is even yours. Take a moment to come back to yourself and say bye-bye little voices I’m in charge today.  Change things up and take a moment to rest, recharge and reset! I went to the beach. Where will you go to clear, rest and recharge?~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2016 All Rights Reserved

SpiritLightInsight.com
Daily Muse Home Page

Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.