All healing is self-healing and no matter how hard you try there are just some journeys that you are not meant to walk with someone else. You can understand, empathize, listen and be a good friend but you can’t heal everyone nor can you do it for them.
Taking on someone else’s pain and getting angry because they can’t or don’t want to heal in the same way as you will only make you frustrated not to mention, your attention and energy will be in their space. It will not only make them uncomfortable but they will resist even the best of intentions.
In this situation, it is best to find your neutrality and heal yourself first by seeking to understand what it is within YOU that wants to control someone else’s healing process. The difficulties and challenges that one person faces are very different from those of another and who is to say what internal process another person is going through.
Everyone heals in their own time…
To you it may not look like someone is healing if they are taking longer to do it than you would. Each of us makes our way as it is meant to be and the process takes as long as it takes. There is no time frame. It may take a day for one person, a week for another or a lifetime for someone else. Taking a step back to honor and respect the healing journey of another is the most loving thing you can do.
It’s easy to see the answer for someone else if you have not walked in their shoes. There may be a very good reason they are taking their time. Furthermore if you had a similar experience the answer YOU found to heal is not necessarily THEIR answer. If you have judgement about how to do it or how long it should take, it invalidates the person AND the healing that is already in process! Always take time to really see how much progress has been made.
Each of us must take responsibility for our own energy and healing process. Each of us has the ability to find our own answers. Heal yourself and honor the journey of others. Support and love those who are healing without judgement. Be there to offer a kind word, a warm hug, an ear to listen. Heal yourself to show someone else it is possible to heal. That my friends is how you CAN do it for someone else!~Shine Your Light Debbie
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