Get Back on the Bike!

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” ~Albert Einstein

In the early morning ‘waking hours’ when I was aware but not fully in the body I clearly saw a bicycle leaning on a concrete wall.

I was a bit confused at the seemingly random image so I asked the question “what’s the bike doing there” and the reply came quickly “get back on the bike”.

Now I should probably explain that many years ago I taught myself to do what I call ‘dream walking’. The general idea is to have awareness in my dreams so I can observe, find meaning and ask questions. The only rules are while I can observe and ask questions I can’t change the direction or outcome of the dream.

The point is to open up to a deep level of consciousness and see what I’m processing and learning. You could say I’m observing and making conscious what is usually unconscious in the dream state. One of the many benefits of ‘dream walking’ is that I remember my dreams and the answers that I receive in those dreams.

In this particular dream seeing the bike leaned up against the wall didn’t seem all that profound. There wasn’t a lot of color in the image. It was just a bike leaning on a wall in what looked like a back alley of some sort. When I asked more questions (of myself) as I observed the scene I saw ‘the bigger picture’.

Around the corner from where the bike was positioned there were beautiful vistas, countless paths, bright orange sunlight glistening on fields and mountains. Everything was wide open. I, of course, asked the next logical question, “what’s this got to do with the bike?” and again I heard “get back on the bike”.

In those early morning hours before I was fully awake I looked back and forth from the dingy alley with little to no color, to the magnificent vistas filled with light. It was only then I remembered turning into the alley, falling off my bike and then propping it against the wall.

I was standing at the corner between the alley and the path for quite some time but all I could see was the small, dirty, grey alley. Apparently I became stuck in that little alley forgetting the bike was not only there to carry me out but to make the journey easier. A bike can surely take you farther with less effort that your legs right? It was a simple yet profound answer. “Get back on the bike”.

There’s a reason for the saying if you fall off a bike get right back on. The same applies if you get stuck in a picture. You don’t have to keep staring at a grey alley with the very means to continue right in front of your eyes possibly propped up against a wall.

Sometimes it simply takes recognizing you’re a bit stuck; then all you have to do is turn your head towards the light, step out of the picture, dust yourself off and “get back on the bike.”

So many answers in those waking hours put a smile on my face. In fact I woke up feeling refreshed and ready to greet the day. I’m not sure what you have planned for your day but me, I’m getting back on the bike. Won’t you join me? Shine Your Light~Debbie

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Letting Go

Grief, Sadness and Fear are a Natural Part of Letting Go

Letting Go“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”~Washington Irving

I often get asked after deep reading/healing sessions if it’s “normal” to experience grief, deep sadness and fear. My answer is always the same…yes. The truth is that grief, sadness and fear are a very normal and natural part of the letting go process.

Those emotions may come up only for a moment or, if you’re releasing (letting go) of energies, beliefs, a relationship or a dream you’ve held on to for a long time, it may take some time and a growth period for the process to fully integrate. Everyone experiences letting go in a  different way and each experience will differ with each release.

Letting Go is a Process…

For whatever reason you decide to let go, be it a decision you made consciously by design or out of necessity, the moment you make the choice to let go, various emotions start to come up. Emotions are the body’s way of communicating with you and although you can clear energy instantly in spirit, the body needs time to adjust. It’s important to remember your body needs time to heal in “real-time” and letting go is a process not an event. Allow your body to process whatever emotions come up for you. Letting go can be a major life changing experience and just like grieving a loved one who has transitioned, you are grieving for the self you are leaving behind.

There’s no shame in tears!

Crying is one of the ways to cleanse, release energy and process emotions. It is your body’s natural response to overwhelming emotion.  There is no shame in crying! In fact there’s nothing better than a good cry to make you feel better.  If you feel like crying, go ahead and do so. Allow your emotions to come up. Really FEEL them. Any time you try to “control” what you’re feeling, you’re either in resistance or there’s an energy (usually someone else’s) blocking the cleansing process.

Stay With It!

When we experience overwhelming emotion the tendency is to push it away, not feel it, stop ourselves from crying. Perhaps you were told crying is a sign of weakness? Perhaps you were not allowed to cry. the ability to “be” with our emotions and just ‘let them be’ by acknowledging we are indeed feeling an intense emotion, is the first step towards letting go because we’re not in resistance.

Letting go is not giving up nor giving in! Sometimes staying with it means we have to let go of other emotions like shame, pride and ego. Other times we have to let go of feeling like a failure or trying to control and bend a situation so it fits what we want. No matter what comes up, stay with and acknowledge it because that is when you will be able to release and let go.

Grief, sadness and fear are part of the natural letting go process. It is how you handle those emotions that make the difference in how quickly you will process and move through the energy. Allow your emotions to come up, be with them, acknowledge them and then gently release. Recognize that what you are feeling is a natural part of the growth period and don’t resist. It’ll do your body good. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Take Off Your Mask Challenge!

mask-challengeShe did not know yet how sometimes people keep parts of themselves hidden and secret, sometimes wicked and unkind parts, but often brave or wild or colorful parts, cunning or powerful or even marvelous, beautiful parts, just locked up away at the bottom of their hearts.

They do this because they are afraid of the world and of being stared at, or relied upon to do feats of bravery or boldness. And all of those brave and wild and cunning and marvelous and beautiful parts they hid away and left in the dark to grow strange mushrooms—and yes, sometimes those wicked and unkind parts, too—end up in their shadow.”~Catherynne M. Valente

I recently returned from a fabulous Mastery Retreat in Mount Shasta. As a Halloween party of sorts we were asked to put together a costume that will somehow show a deeper facet of our souls. A part of us we haven’t necessarily expressed in the world. For me, that meant having to look behind the mask I’ve always worn; the way I show myself to the world.

One would think it would be easy to create a costume of our own expression but for me it was quite difficult. Creating a costume to express who I am, meant I actually had to look at who I am and as you probably know, this is not an easy task.

Finally I decided to bring along a purple feather boa and 2 headbands. One headband had a halo and the other had devils ears attached. I wasn’t sure what I was trying to say but for whatever reason, those items seemed right. The best part about the story is after toiling and un-necessarily stressing I forgot to pack all the aforementioned items!

The night of the party, I showed up without a costume but with my amusement. A mic was set up for everyone to explain their fabulous and super creative costumes. There were inter-galactic light beings, emissaries of the universe, scribes, unicorns and spiritual guides. I watched and listened in awe of the creative expression! Since I didn’t have a costume, I was not going to approach the mic but then it hit me….

I have worn a mask all my life! I have hidden a part (not all but a part) of me, in essence, under a bushel, behind a mask, my entire life! I wasn’t supposed to wear a costume. I was supposed to take one off and be me. I was supposed to shine from the inside out.

I stood in front of the mic, with no costume and told everyone in the room I came as ME because I’ve worn a mask my whole life. I told them I finally took off my mask and here I am. I told them I took up personal narrative story telling to help me express not just stories of others, but to express MY stories.

It was very liberating to say “Hey, I’ve had this mask on and now I’m taking it off.” Did I feel vulnerable? Yes. Did I feel like I was standing up there naked with no costume? Yes, because it was the truth but it is also true it was the very thing I needed to do.

Dressing up and wearing a costume is fun! We can be someone we are not. We might even be able to express ourselves and share things too painful to express if we didn’t have that mask BUT at some point, it becomes more painful to live behind the mask; too painful to hide and disconnect from others and ourselves.

At some point we all need to take off our masks, express ourselves and show the world who we are. For every supposedly ‘wicked and unkind’ part we keep hidden there are brave, colorful, powerful, marvelous, and beautiful parts, just waiting to be expressed.

Are you willing, ready and able to take on a challenge? I challenge you to take off your masks and let the world see just a small hidden part of you. I know it will take courage so be bold and brave! In a world of so many masks, stand out by taking yours off and shining your light!~Debbie

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Full Moon Ritual

Full Moon Ritual: Make it simple and meaningful

Full Moon Ritual“And hand in hand, on the edge of the sand, they danced by the light of the moon.”~Edward Lear

The upcoming full moon on May 21, 2016 will emit a spirited frequency that will surely leave you feeling more playful than in recent weeks.

We can start to celebrate (nearing) the end of a tumultuous Mercury Retrograde by turning our attention within and taking those last few reflective moments as Mercury hangs in the sky preparing to move forward on May 22nd.

This is a time to literally “dance by the light of the moon” and if you happen to be lucky enough to live near a body of water you can do it “hand in hand, on the edge of the sand”. Full moon rituals don’t have to be complicated and there is no right or wrong way to do them.

A full moon ritual honors the cycles and so it’s best to follow your intuition and do what you are guided to do. Create your ritual consciously, with intent and add those elements that hold great meaning for you.

Spend a few days before the full moon thinking about what is meaningful for you. What is your goal? Are you looking to create space for manifesting love or money or beautiful moments? Are you looking to release that which no longer serves you?

“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.”~Norman Vincent Peale

The beauty of a full moon is it illuminates “the dark side” and therefore allows us to see with more clarity so we can heal those areas that we are now able to see. The energy of each full moon is different so each ritual might be slightly different depending on where your spirit takes you.

A full moon reflects light and with the tail end of Mercury Rx in our midst, we have a wonderful opportunity to truly light up what lights us up! We have an opportunity to connect with our spirit-self and our inner light in a new way.

“The moon is a loyal companion. It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light. The moon understands what it means to be human. Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.”~Tahereh Mafi

Embrace the moon and all it gives us. Honor the moon as the light in the darkness. Again, find what is most meaningful for you.

Years ago I was on a woman’s retreat near the Mojave desert and we decided to walk into the desert, form a circle and chant while each of us took a few moments to talk about what it means to be a part of a sacred circle. We didn’t know what we were doing. We didn’t follow a particular “ritual”.

We did what felt right to each of us. We created space for each woman to speak her truth and then we danced with playful abandon. We giggled and howled at the moon. We soaked up the energy of the moon all the while honoring each other in the process.

Just in case you’d like a bit of direction, here are a few tips to get you started:

  1. Ask yourself what your goal is for the ritual? Do you want to create space to heal? To manifest love or money or something else? Identify your goal and set your intent for the ritual.
  2. Mark the time you’d like to complete your ritual on your calendar. This helps ground the space AND it’s more likely you’ll actually do it.
  3. Honor the moon for it is there for your always. Honoring the moon can be as simple as looking up at the glorious ball of light and giving thanks to it. As long as you’re looking up, thank the stars too!
  4. Surround yourself with things that hold meaning. You can create an altar or hold in your hand one simple object that holds great meaning for you or simple “be” in a place you enjoy.
  5. Close your eyes and do a brief meditation to connect yourself (ground) with the earth and the cosmos.
  6. Create a space to release that which no longer serves.
  7. Let your mind playfully jump from thought to thought as you ground, center and release.
  8. With your eyes still closed and a smile on your face look up and feel the moon shining on your face. Literally soak up the energy of the moonbeams! You can even bring the energy in through the top of your head and allow it to gently flow through your entire body.
  9. Be sure to ask (or put into motion) your intent or your goal and let it go.
  10. Once you’re in the flow of the moon connected with the earth thank yourself and enjoy that space for however long you wish!

The most profound change happens when we do things that hold great meaning. Make your full moon ritual fun and meaningful. Allow it to change you so you have more space to create, more space to heal and more space to be happy!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Letting go is not about accepting defeat

Letting Go Isn’t About Accepting Defeat….

Letting go is not about accepting defeatHave you ever tried to let go and found yourself stuck in an endless loop of blame or continually asking “why, why, why” then wondering why you’re having difficulty letting go?

If you’re looking to make sense of things or waiting for an apology it simply may not happen. The fact is, it may never make sense and you may never get the apology you deserve.

Why is it so hard to let some things (or people) go?

Letting go has absolutely nothing to do with accepting defeat. It has nothing to do with failing. It’s difficult to let go when you are in resistance and if you truly break it down, trying to make sense of something is a form of resistance. Waiting for an apology or the truth or waiting for anything else you are waiting for, keeps you stuck waiting.

Maybe it’s time to open your heart, mind and soul to the lesson learned. Maybe it’s time to release the resistance and live again. You do have a choice in how you allow people to treat you. Maybe it’s time you forgive and love yourself.

Maybe it’s time to connect with God’s love. A love that “will bring people into your life that will love you, respect you, fight for you, show gratitude for your love and want to be a part of your life mission.”

“You might not get the apology you deserve. You might not get answers to explain the actions of others. You might not get truth that makes sense to you. You might not get people to understand what you went through because of them. You might not get communication.

You might not get maturity. You might not get mercy or even common decency. You might not get respect or the chance to explain your side of the story. However, you do get to choose how people treat you. God loves you enough to bring people into your life who won’t hurt you, abuse you, betray you, lie and gossip about you, psycho analyze you, break your heart or make you an option or choice.

He will bring people into your life that will love you, respect you, fight for you, show gratitude for your love and want to be a part of your life mission. The best part of this is you don’t have to convince them of your worth. They want to be there. They know your value. They know your struggles. They are in touch with their own faults and understand you struggle just like everyone else.

They won’t hold you to a greater standard then they do themselves. They care about you and don’t want to see you cry, feel discouraged or give up on this life. When you know the power of who you are and what you have to accomplish you will scratch your head in disbelief that you allowed other people to dictate who you are based on little knowledge of what God knows about you and your life purpose. Letting go isn’t about accepting defeat or acknowledging you were wrong. Sometimes letting go is realizing that God has something better in store for you.” ~Shannon L. Alder

“Sometimes letting go is realizing that God has something better in store for you.” Open your heart, mind and soul to that something better!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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The Power of Mercury Retrograde as a Self-Healing

The Power of Mercury Retrograde for Self-Healing

The Power of Mercury Retrograde as a Self-HealingIt’s that time again for the planet Mercury to do his little backward dance causing slow downs, mis-communications and technology break downs among other things.

If you’ve felt disoriented, mis-understood, confused or you are swimming in self-doubt this is the reason!

The good news about the retrograde phase is we have an opportunity to heal our deepest fears, bring conclusion to unresolved conflicts and release ourselves from past trauma or pain that limits our current experience.

When Mercury is in retrograde there are slow downs and delays which naturally guide us to review and reflect on different areas of our past. We are gifted with extra time to revisit projects that were started and never finished and we are urged to review and polish up current projects. The positives far outweigh the negatives here. As we revisit, we might find (and are able to correct) errors not previously noticed.

The retrograde phase gives us ample opportunity to re-kindle our inner flame and add passion and faith to our hopes and dreams. It also allows us to connect with people, places and joy-filled memories from our past.

So often we get caught up in the negative aspects of this particular time yet when we use it for self-healing by reflecting, re-grouping, re-vamping and re-kindling our passion, we are able to re-energize so we are ready to slowly move forward when Mercury goes direct on January 25. (Note: Be aware the effects of Mercury Rx will continue to a lesser degree for a few weeks after it goes direct)

Freedom begins with healing your past and Mercury Retrograde is the perfect time to do the work since the energy is naturally lit up and intensified. If you have the courage and awareness to look (from a neutral space) at the energy coming up it is easily released!

The reason many people have such a difficult time during Mercury Retrograde is not because of the slow down or the challenges presented. They have difficulty because they are resisting the intense, and sometimes painful, energy that is coming up for them.

If you find yourself resisting and in fear instead of embracing the time and using it as powerful time for self-healing simply take a breath and acknowledge what you are feeling then release it. It’s important to acknowledge how you are feeling. There is a lot of information in those feelings so notice and recognize them.

Everyone can use the power of Mercury Retrograde for self-healing. Take extra time in meditation. If you don’t have a ‘formal’ meditation practice, spend quiet time reflecting while focusing on your breath. Allow your mind to wander (and it will) then gently and effortlessly bring your attention back to your breath. (CLICK HERE for a free stress reducing meditation.)

Are you ready to say hello to Mercury Retrograde and use this time for self-healing? If the answer is ‘NOOOOO’ you are in resistance. Simply notice the resistance and let it go. If the answer is ‘YES’ you’re in for a time of life-changing, self-healing as you reflect, review, revise, rekindle, release and RE-ENERGIZE!

Happy Healing!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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The Truth About Walking a Mile in Someone Else’s Shoes…

Walking in another's shoes“People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for.” ~To Kill a Mockingbird

Everything in life is seen from our own perspective. No matter how much we want to walk in someone else’s shoes to understand them and the challenges they face, it is impossible.

Even if we do step into their shoes we will still see things through our own filters. The best thing any of us can do is to listen and hear as clearly as possible, without judgment.  The best thing we can do is to be kind and compassionate with each other. 

In order to heal or help someone else it’s important to recognize we see through filters based on our own experience. We must take a moment clear our own filters before we can move forward to help someone else. We don’t have to take on someone else’s energy and feel what they are feeling. We don’t have to run their pain through us to heal them. Doing that will only cause us discomfort or pain.

When you look at someone with a level of neutrality it helps you understand and it is that understanding that will allow you to comfort another. It is your compassion, neutrality and ability to hold a healing space that creates a healing. It is not necessary to actually “walk in” someone else’s shoes when you open your heart to know, and clearly see, their experience.

It is also important to realize that at some level each of us has chosen our journey and it is up to each of us, individually, to seek a level of understanding within ourselves. The true healing begins within. 

Acknowledge the journey of others with compassion and kindness. Find neutrality to clear your filters and see things in a different light, from a new perspective with a new level of understanding.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Be Direct! Ask for What you Want and Need….

LabrynthDo you have a challenge when it comes to asking for what you want? Do you feel like you have to do everything alone? Do you “hint” at your wants and needs hoping someone “picks up on them?

More importantly do you refrain from bringing up what you want and need because you don’t want to “bother” or “burden” someone else?

“From what I’ve seen, it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us–it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.”~Amanda Palmer

It takes a great deal of courage to be direct and ask for what we want and need. The Amanda Palmer quote really sums it up nicely. Many of us are challenged asking for help. We don’t want to be a “bother” but there is also another side of the equation to consider and, aside from needing to ask for help; Are we being clear and expressing to our loved ones and friends what we want and need from them day-to-day?

We move through our lives thinking people are going to figure us out. We hint, we hope and we think we are being clear but, and this is a BIG but, we may not be communicating as clearly as we think we are. Sometimes we circle round and round like a labyrinth until we finally arrive at our destination. Well my friends, the distance between two points does not have to include walking a maze with only one way in and one way out.

I admit I’m not always the best at voicing my wants and needs. What if I sound silly? What if someone doesn’t like what I’m saying? What if I’m perceived as not being a strong woman or the opposite, too pushy or bossy? No one wants to be perceived as “needy or weak, pushy or bossy” and sometimes it takes all I have to speak my truth and allow my vulnerable self to be seen.

We cannot be afraid of how we “think” others will perceive what we are saying. We should not ‘decide’ what someone else thinks, or what they will or won’t do, or how they will or won’t react to what we’re saying because the reality is we will, more than likely, be wrong.

To me asking for what I want and need, not in terms of needing help but sharing with others my vulnerabilities, is much like cracking open a closet filled to the brim. I’m afraid everything will come spilling out and I will be seen as incompetent, high maintenance or “less than” I am. The beauty of asking for what we want and need is that it is not only brave and vulnerable in that it tells someone about us it hopefully opens up a conversation so they can do the same with us.

Asking for what we want and need is not about demands, expectations or ultimatums. What I’m referring to is taking the guesswork out of the equation. While we can hope our loved ones and friends are aware and paying attention, people cannot read minds nor do most pick up on our so-called “cues” and hints. This is also not to say others can fully hear us and/or are open and available to give us what we want or need; But the fact is, at least we’ve verbally, to the best of our ability, communicated our wants and needs.

We can all use work on our communication and listening skills. We can all increase our awareness and pay more attention. If you are saying nothing then expecting something in your relationships you might want to have a look at the part YOU play in not having your wants and needs met.

If you happen to be blaming someone for not meeting your wants and needs ask yourself if you clearly and verbally communicated what they are.  It seems more commonplace to let people “guess” and “assume” what we want than to speak from our heart and share what’s in there. Maybe we’re just afraid we’ll be disappointed if we speak up. Maybe we have in some way devalued our wants and needs and made others the priority.

Whatever stops you from clearly communicating your wants and needs, release it. You are important and your wants and needs have value. Be direct. Be brave. Be vulnerable. Be fearless. Be strong. Express what you want and need. Speak from the heart with love.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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How to Find Time to Meditate AND Actually Meditate!

MeditateIf you have difficulty sitting down to meditate, you are not alone!

First there’s the time factor. Technology has made it easier than ever to schedule every moment of our day because we’re always connected.

Not too long ago if we were expecting a phone call, we sat at home or at the office waiting for it. Now we can take that call where ever we are.

With an ever-growing list of responsibilities at the forefront of our lives we schedule ourselves silly and unless we schedule in our meditation time or “me time” there won’t be any. We must MAKE the time just to sit down and focus on our breath. Is it just me or is something wrong with that picture? Now before you go thinking I’m some scheduling Guru, I can assure you I don’t always ‘schedule’ time for myself. 

The problem is, the less time I find to meditate, the less time it seems I HAVE to meditate; Or do anything else for that matter. In fact, on the days I make time to meditate I’m not only more effective and less overwhelmed completing my tasks, but I actually have MORE time (left over) in my day. I’m not really sure what this phenomenon is, but I can tell you from personal experience it’s true!

So you’ve scheduled in the time to meditate and now comes an even bigger challenge…actually meditating! I hear all the time from my clients, friends and energy worker colleagues how challenging it is to quiet the mind once you do sit down. I not only hear it from them but for as long as I’ve meditated there are times it’s challenging for me too.

Yes, I know what happens. You settle in, start to calm things down and then suddenly remember some task you forgot to complete or phone call that must be made or something that just has to be done right at that moment. Maybe you need to check Facebook or Twitter one last time…. Or you left the laundry in the washer….or you need to feed the cat or dog. Sound familiar?

We’ve become so used to “doing”, “responding” and not wanting to miss anything, it’s challenging even under the best of circumstances to quiet all of it down. What I’d like you to notice in all of that is the biggest challenge we have is bringing our attention back to ourselves. Tuning in to our breath. Focusing on OUR OWN needs.

One of the reasons (there are several but for the sake of keeping this less than a full novel I’ll only address one or two) it’s so challenging is because all our attention and energy is caught up in those things outside of us. It’s not that WE stop ourselves from inner peace and calm, it’s the energies we answer to that don’t want us to turn our attention inward.

Makes sense right? If we take a moment to get organized around our own energy, thoughts, wants and needs, who will take care of everyone else’s energy, thoughts, wants and needs? Once we start healing ourselves, others cannot control us, or get us to heal them, or give up our space to them so easily. Also, when you meditate consistently, your life begins to change rapidly.

You’ve heard the sayings “misery loves company” or “we love you don’t ever change”? Well, you can choose to be in that company or you can choose to move on. You can choose to stay the same and not change; Repeating the same patterns your whole life or you can acknowledge that when you sit down to meditate there may be other energies trying to stop you.

It’s important to recognize that in taking the path of healing and light, there are some that may not choose to go with you. They may not want to change and it may make them uncomfortable that you do. This doesn’t make them bad or unaware. It just might be they are on a different journey and not ready to step up in the same way, at the same time, you are. Acknowledge and validate where others are in their life. It’s ok for you to be where you are and it’s ok for them to be where they are.

Honor and respect others choices. The journey within is not about judging others or getting them to do it with you. It’s just the opposite. It’s caring for yourself and your needs. It’s about bringing your energy and attention back to you so you can be more of who you are and in doing so, by being around you, others have permission to (choose to) heal and be themselves.

If you find it difficult or downright impossible to sit down and meditate on any given day, try it for 5 or 10 minutes, then come back and do another 5 or 10 minutes later. In other words, give yourself a break. You might just be dealing with SO MUCH ENERGY that’s not yours it takes a while to clear.

So, schedule a meditation date with yourself and honor your “me time”. Although there are times when you need to break up the meditation (time), try to hang in there with a simple “breathe and release”. Break up the energy instead of the length of your mediation. How great is it to take charge of your life and create change on YOUR schedule?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Reorganizing Your Energy

Energy“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.”~Kristin Armstrong

Today I’m doing a much-needed “energy reorganiziation”. Won’t you join me in creating a new starting point for yourself? Let’s take pause, reset and open our hearts  and minds to new possibilities!

As you may or may not know in addition to clairvoyant healing work I’m a Real Estate Broker . Yesterday I closed a real estate deal that took a more than 10 months to complete. Once the transaction was officially ‘closed’ a wave of relief washed over me and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was at that very moment I realized how much of my energy I didn’t have access to because it was inextricably tied up in the deal.

What happened in those 10 months is a perfect example of what happens when we resist and try to control or heal those who are not only committed to holding on (not letting go), but choose to punish and blame everyone else in the process without taking any responsibility.

Here is a brief timeline of events. Put the 2 flat on the market in February and basically sold it in 7 days. Gave tenant legal notice to vacate even though at that point he didn’t have a lease. Although the tenant initially agreed to move prior to closing in March, he decided to stop paying rent and stay (as a squatter). Due to the tenant using the already lengthy system to extend his holdover it took more than 8 painful months (in court) to evict him.

Once the tenant was evicted, the buyer chose to punish the seller by not communicating for another month. Apparently she was “mad” it took so long to evict the tenant. (Eviction time-frames are up to the courts and totally out of the sellers control.)  After finally establishing communication, the buyer cancelled the deal. The crazy part is the seller repeatedly offered to let her out of the transaction yet she decided to move forward until our side was ready to close.

There were challenges and lessons in patience at every turn. I realized that for 10 plus months a lot of my energy was caught up in healing the seller, anger at the tenant for not leaving and abusing what is clearly a broken eviction process and frustration with a manipulative buyer who ignored attempts to communicate.

Yes I was angry, impatient, frustrated and in resistance. So much for my zen, peaceful self!

While in the middle of it, I recognized my frustration, anger etc however I did not realize how much of my energy was tied up. This is very common and most times it takes a step away to finally see it. Once it’s seen we have the opportunity to do a little energy reorganizing; including releasing and calling back energy.

For my reorganization, I’m going to call back all the energy that’s still caught up in the deal. I’m going to look at what else or who else I am still healing. I will look to see where I’m angry at not being able to control circumstances beyond my control. I will ask the questions what am I holding on to and/or how am I using the “system” to rationalize my actions? Am I trying to manipulate and control because I’m frustrated?

When you use your experiences to ask questions, you instantly create a shift in your perspective by making it more neutral. You take ownership through acceptance. Looking at yourself first allows you to understand where others might be coming from. It allows you to forgive others for their actions and to forgive yourself for your RE-actions. It allows you to release the energy and pictures that caused you to try and control people or events and go into resistance.

Is there something or someone in your life that’s taking up your energy? Are you in resistance? Are you healing, punishing or blaming others? Wouldn’t you like your energy back so you have more to create with? If so, do a little reorganizing around yourself!

It’s time to create a new starting point, take pause, reset, and open our hearts  and minds to new possibilities!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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