All healing is self-healing: You can’t “do it” for someone else

All healing is self-healing and no matter how much you want a friend, lover or family member to heal there are just some healing journeys that you are not meant to take with or for someone else.

While it is in your control to hold space, send healing light, understand, empathize, listen and be a good friend it is not necessary, nor should you, actually do it for them.

If you’re one of those healers or empaths that takes on someone else’s pain  you may find yourself in pain and getting angry because you’re not validated for what you have done.*

*As an aside, it is not recommended you heal others in this way but it does happen. You never have to take on someone else’s pain.

What’s right for you or me is not necessarily right for someone else. Healing someone who doesn’t want to do it themselves or the same way as you do will not only lead to frustration but it’s possible that your attention and energy will be in their space.

As a being, that person might be working to empower themselves. If you try to take away their pain you are, in essence, invalidating their ability to heal themselves and it’s very likely they will become uncomfortable or angry. If they do become uncomfortable or angry it is a guarantee they will resist even the best of intentions.

In this situation, it is better to find your neutrality and heal yourself first. Seek to understand what it is within YOU that:

1. is a ‘match’ to the other person (there is always an energy within you that, at some level, matches the person you’re trying to heal)

2. wants to control someone else’s healing process. The difficulties and challenges that one person faces are very different from those of another and who is to say what internal process another person is going through.

Everyone heals in their own time…

To you it may not look like someone is healing if they are taking longer to do it than you would. Each of us makes our way as it is meant to be and the process takes as long as it takes. There is no time frame. It may take a day for one person, a week for another or a lifetime for someone else.

The most loving thing you can do is take a step back to honor and respect where someone is on their healing journey. Allow them the space to go through whatever it is they need to. There may be a very good reason they are taking their time.

It’s also important to recognize that the answer YOU found to heal a similar pain is not necessarily someone else’s answer. If you have judgement about how to do it or how long it should take, it invalidates the person AND the healing that is already in process. Take a step back to really see how much progress has been made.

Each of us must take responsibility for our own energy and healing process. Each of us has the ability to find our own answers. Heal yourself and honor the journey of others without judgement. Support and love those who are in process.

Be there to offer a kind word, a warm hug, or an ear to listen. Show or teach them how to heal with grace. The BEST way to help someone heal is to lead by example; Heal yourself. It shows others it is possible to heal and gives them permission to do the same.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Energy Work: The reward outweighs the risk

Energy Work: It’s messy…and totally worth it!

Energy Work: The reward outweighs the risk“What are you going to do? Everything, is my guess. It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications.”~Nora Ephron

Energy Work is Messy

Those who have chosen a healing path know that doing energy work is not glamorous. It’s just the opposite. It’s messy, extremely painful (at times) and the more you uncover the ‘truth’ of who you are, the more you begin to see clearly why and how things unfolded in the past.

One of the hardest pieces to wrap our heads around is when we finally open our psychic eyes to see how we co-created particular, and often painful, situations in our past. It isn’t an easy thing to see the truth because we must face the fact that at the time we (probably) knew or sensed something was off but didn’t listen to our inner voice. Hindsight at it’s finest. Oh yes, things seem to get ‘complicated’ and messy.

There’s no mistake I used the word ‘seem’ to describe the chaos that usually ensues once we discover that perhaps what we were noticing was correct! Things aren’t really complicated; they’re just painful. When we open up to truth our mind will go in a thousand different directions to think about anything and everything other than the pain we are about to feel when we open Pandora’s box. However, with acceptance of what was and loving ourselves in the present we WILL get through it.

Have you ever wondered why painful situation from the past seem to hold our attention as if a vice-grip has them firmly in place? It happens because they are “super-charged” with energy. If we don’t let go of past experiences we begin fueling or feeding the memory but here’s the thing, memories are illusions. They are pictures in our mind and the more we feed them with our present-time energy the bigger they become and the bigger they become, the farther away from the truth they are.

Embellishing expands the illusion

The more we “feed” or embellish our pictures the easier it is to get stuck. The reason it happens is because our ego minds take hold and act as defense mechanisms. Of course we don’t do this consciously but conscious or unconscious, the fact remains, the more we dwell in the past, the more we embellish and give power to the illusion and the less of our energy we have in the present for creating.

“And this mess is so big
And so deep and so tall,
We cannot pick it up.
There is no way at all!”
~Dr. Seuss

Deep energy work isn’t always smooth and graceful. For the most part we are not going to do one or two meditations and wake up without a care in the world. I know we all want it to be that way but it’s a process. A peeling back of the layers. It is a process of showing up as we are. It is a process of loving ourselves so much that we go beyond the fear of being heard, seen and vulnerable. To show up as we are, not who others want us to be.

It’s a risk to show up because when we do this work, those around us may not be comfortable with the changes we’re making. We also may see the mess as so big, deep and tall we don’t even want to attempt to clear it out.

Here’s where the reward far outweighs the risk because this is where we connect at such a deep level with ourselves there’s no going back.

“Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.”~Brené Brown

It’s takes courage to enter the realm of our own psyche. It takes courage to look; to see. It takes courage to accept and accept responsibility for what we have co-created by our lack of awareness or non-acceptance of past experiences.

Yes, it gets messy. Yes, there is a possibility you will feel crazy or out of control and yes, there is the possibility that your growth period will be painful BUT…. there is also a greater potential for healing and transformation.

There is greater potential for growth and expansion and FOR SURE you will be clearing a space for love, and truth and more of YOU to be present…in the present. What a gift!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Trust your PGS – Michael Tamura

Trust your intuition always! #Trust #MichaelTamura #PGS #LivingLovingLearning

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During the making of my intuition film I’ve been fortunate to make some good friends all around the world.
Amongst them is the remarkable Michael Tamura, the famed psychic healer from Mt. Shasta.
Michael and I communicate regularly, and I will sometime phone him out of the blue for a chat – and each time we communicate he teaches me something new, and wonderful.
We swapped emails just before I left for Portugal, and, having received his permission to do so, I am publishing the first of two parts here now.
MICHAEL TAMURA – from an email to Bill Bennett, April 17 ~
(Responding to an email where I am told him of my struggles with my film, thrashing around wondering if it should be didactic or personal… I finally came to the conclusion that it should be personal.)L
I agree that your film has to be personal and…

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How to Shift Ordinary to EXTRAORDINARY!!

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“Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.” ~L.R. Knost

There is something about that quote that touches the very core of my soul. Lately I’ve asked the question “is this all there is?”. I never thought at this time in my life I’d be asking that question. Even though that’s the question of the day (I tend to ask a lot questions in a day) maybe “is this all there is?” is more about being in a transitional place of deciding what comes next.

Maybe I’m simply in the “ordinary, mundane and routine” place of going through the motions, working (almost) all the time just to stay ahead of the bills and not taking enough time for myself because I haven’t yet chosen what I’d like to create.

Or maybe asking the question “is this all there is?” is what prompts me (us) to look at life as a series of adventures which includes the ‘amazing, awful, ordinary, mundane and routine. Or MAYBE what I consider ordinary, mundane or routine is considered EXTRAORDINARY by someone else. Or MAYBE what I consider ordinary, mundane or routine really is extraordinary!

Not one of us is living a perfectly charmed life that doesn’t include a bit of awful, heartbreaking, ordinary mundane and routine. No matter what you think you see or know about someone, we all have good days, bad days, ordinary days, mundane days and routine, business as usual, days.

Seriously though, how boring would it be if we were never challenged? How would we recognize the miraculous, soul-healing, amazing without having anything to compare it to? The bottom line here is life really is amazing and breathtakingly beautiful. The good, the bad, the boring, the messy, the uncomfortable; All of it is breathtakingly beautiful!

From Ordinary to Extraordinary!

What’s interesting about the different ‘phases’ or growth periods we experience is how we perceive them. What is ordinary to me might seem extraordinary to you. The mundane for me might be exhilarating for you. Have you ever considered the mundane moments are about taking a breather in preparation for the excitement?

There will be a time, not so far from now, that you will look back on this phase of your life and instead of condemning it or beating up on it… Instead of blaming or guilting, you will feel appreciation for it, because you will understand that a renewed desire for life was born out of this time period that will bring you to physical heights that you could not have achieved without the contrast that gave birth to this desire.”~Abraham Excerpted from Boston, MA – October 4th, 1997

Yes, we all go through phases but those phases are not who we are. We are the spirit and soul who lives those experiences and those experiences are to be embraced and appreciated and yes, sometimes even forgiven.

I don’t know. Maybe this really is “all there is” but if it is, I’m good with it because it’s all beautiful. Each phase, every ‘awful’, ‘mundane’, ordinary, and routine turns beautiful. It’s all beautiful really.

Each is an integral part of a breathtakingly beautiful life….so   “Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. [Because] That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.”~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Is There Illegal Dumping Going On in Your Space?

wasteIs someone mistaking your kindness for an agreement to dump their problems and/or pain into your space? Do people come into your life, hand you their problems then disappear as if they were never there? If you’ve been dumped on, are you OK with that?

My guess is that your probably NOT ok with someone dumping their pain into your space or running it through you.

The disturbing part of being dumped on is when we wake up to the fact that at some level we were taught (or programmed) to allow it and we, whether knowingly or unknowingly, are agreeing to it. Healers are particularly susceptible to this programming.

These “give me your pain” or as I like to call them “pass the pain” agreements exist between friends, lovers, family members and colleagues. Of course we want to “problem solve”. Of course we want to lend a compassionate ear. Of course we want to help others through difficult times. Of course we are there to support and heal those we love BUT that doesn’t mean we have to take on their pain or run it through us.

Why and When did we Agree?

I know you’re thinking (not because I’m clairvoyant but because I’ve pondered the question myself) “no way did I agree to take on that pain”. I’m their friend, lover, family (fill in the blank) and agreed to help them, heal them or hold their hand but I DID NOT agree to actually take that pain into me. Well my friends, at some level you did and it may simply be you are such a capable healer that you can.

It could be a Karmic agreement or quite possibly you want someone to love or like you. You may have been taught to do this to make others more comfortable or you may have learned it was more comfortable for you. Counter-intuitive I know but sometimes it’s easier for us to clear the pain for others than to actually watch them be in pain. There are as many reasons for the agreements we make as people on the planet. Every one is different and in a lifetime of pasts, presents and futures it’s up to each of us to uncover our truth about why and when.

What About Energy Vampires?

There is a lot of talk about energy vampires and less about getting dumped on although if you really take a long hard look,  those we consider the “Energy Vampires” sucking our energy dry, are the ones doing some of the dumping.

Funny thing is, we wouldn’t allow a stranger to dump on us now would we? Isn’t is interesting that those who “dump” are usually the ones closest to us at some level. The ones who know exactly how to push our buttons and the more we resist, the easier it is for them to dump!

One of the reasons we allow them to do it time and time again is because we love them. We don’t want to see them in pain. Many times I see healers who would rather be in pain themselves than allow another to be in pain. In the case of co-workers, colleagues and bosses we allow it so we are accepted as a part of the team or to keep the peace and our jobs.

Dumping Awareness

The dumpers aren’t necessarily aware they are dumping, and we may not be aware we’ve been dumped on until after the fact. Do you notice people or connections who come into your life then, in the blink of an eye, they leave and you don’t know why? Does your business go up and down or you go through periods of feast or famine? Guess what? Those are PRIME indicators you’ve been dumped on!

Stop the Madness!

It’s time we all stop the “pass the pain” “give it to me” syndrome. We don’t have to run others pain through us. The secret is to simply end the agreement. Clear the programming that says we should allow another to dump or run their pain through us.

Own your space by filling it with you. Fill it with compassion and love. Radiate from a place of your being. Be love and compassion. That, my friends, is what allows others to heal. Clean up the resistance and mess. Plant new seeds to grow. Create new thought processes and consciously decide to do it differently.

Treat those who dump with love and compassion. Just as you learned to allow the dumping, they learned it’s ok to do it AND just by you acknowledging and not taking on their pain, you are teaching them not to dump but to heal. We all have the ability to heal ourselves and we are here to help each other but that doesn’t mean we have to take on the pain of others to do it.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Shake it Up Challenge!

Shake it Up, Try Something New Challenge!

Shake it Up Challenge!“As long as habit and routine dictate the pattern of living, new dimensions of the soul will not emerge.”~Henry Van Dyke

When was the last time you tried something new? When was the last time you stepped outside of your comfort zone by simply changing the route you walk (or drive) to work? Went to see a play or movie? Visited a friend you haven’t seen in a while? Went to a new restaurant, visited an art museum or took a walk in nature? When was the last time you did something you used to enjoy but, due to the busy-ness of life, haven’t done it in a long time?

Maybe your “routine” has become a habit and maybe that very routine is keeping you from flourishing and moving forward! How about shifting that routine from the unaware mundane to the aware and exciting?!!! How about shaking it up a bit to increase your awareness?!!

Our routines become our habits and our habits become those areas where we have the least awareness! If you’ve felt stuck, depressed, you’re having a challenge releasing energy and/or it feels like there’s no forward movement in your life maybe it’s time to try something new and exciting!

“I wasn’t losing my focus but I was getting tired of focusing. What I was focusing on was becoming too routine, too ritual, not something that was interesting, new and exciting.”~Picabo Street

When we get used to focusing on the negative and releasing the same things over and over we are actually causing a habit to be born. Anything we do day in and day out, in other words our routine, leads us to go on auto pilot. Of course there are times when this works in our favor like flossing and brushing your teeth every day or choosing healthy foods. Those are for sure good habits to have BUT when it comes to energy work the routine becomes the mundane and no longer feeds your spirit and soul.

The more comfortable in our routines the harder it is to create change and transformation. No matter how much we want things to change there is an element of fear that comes up. We even get comfortable in our pain. Why? Because it’s all too familiar! We know how to deal with it. The reality is that “life begins at the end of your comfort zone”~Neale Donald Walsh

There are empirical studies that show if you repeat a behavior often enough, your “synaptic pathways are going to get worn.” Well, what if we consciously, mind-fully and gently re-energize our synaptic pathways?

“The less routine the more life.”~Amos Bronson Alcott

How about we shake things up a bit? How about we stop “waiting” for things to clear, “waiting” for inspiration or “waiting” for someone else to give us a break? How about we “shift” our routine, “shift” the mundane, get un-stuck and bring a little excitement into our lives? The “Shake it Up, Try Something New Challenge” is easy. All you have to do is commit to doing something new, or something you haven’t done in a long time, every week for the next couple of months.

The new (or renewed) can be a simple as moving your mat to the other side of the room in yoga class or getting up early to go for a walk. Maybe discover a new restaurant or try a new food. Take an art class, visit a museum, or schedule lunch with a friend. It can also be more daring and out of the box like skydiving or climbing a mountain. Whatever it is for you that’s new or something you’ve wanted to do for a long time…go ahead. DO IT!

You can do this any time but I’m creating a Facebook Event on my Clairvoyant Readings by Debra page and you are welcome to join us! Feel free to leave your comments or post pictures about what you’re doing on the “Shake it Up, Try Something New Challenge” event on Facebook or just add your comments, thoughts or pictures here.

It’s time to get excited about doing something new! It helps shift your energy, feeds your spirit, gives you something to look forward to and will “shake you” out of your routine! Join us! Your spirit will thank you!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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We Are All One in Love

See What Connects You; Not What Separates You!

We Are All One in LoveToday’s Healing Message: See What Connects You; Not What Separates You!

Have you ever felt alone, isolated and separate? Have you ever felt unloved or like everyone else is having all the fun and you’re not? Have you ever asked the question ‘what’s wrong with me?’ then focused your attention on all those things you think are wrong with you?

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of those questions you may want to shift your focus and awareness into the present moment. Connect with yourself and the universe as it IS.

You are connected when your energy and awareness is in the present with yourself and all that is around you. What separates you are those thoughts that keep you in the past or worrying about the future. In essence you lose your connection with yourself and your surroundings and go right into the pictures and illusions your mind has created.

When you are living or stuck in a picture of illusion it not only takes on a life of its own but it grows. You are actually fueling the illusion thereby separating yourself from the present and more than likely the facts. This also separates you from your connections with others because you’re “lost in thought”and not connected with the present and what’s going on right in front of you. It’s also possible you isolate yourself from others because you don’t feel you’re “in a good place” or “happy enough” or you’re “bad”.

If you truly take a few moments to see where those feelings are coming from you will find pictures from the past or worry about the future. When you begin to re-connect with the present moment, you are not only pulling your energy from the illusions of the past but you are acknowledging the here and now.  You are connecting with all that IS not what WAS or is YET TO BE.

In the present there is no guilt from the past. In the present there is no worry about the future. Connecting with yourself is as simple as sitting in a chair, feeling the earth beneath your feet and breathing in the glorious air. It is as simple as feeling the warmth of the sun on your face. It is as simple as feeling the love that comes from within you.

With every step and breath you take you are connecting with the earth and universe. Your awareness connects you with YOU.  You connect with others by remaining present with yourself and them. Why separate yourself with thoughts of the past or dreading a future which has not unfolded? You, WE are all connected as unique individuals.

See and know what connects you with yourself. What are you passionate about? What do you love? How does it feel when the warm sun shines on your face as it brightens the world around you? See and know the love of friends and family. It is there but you may not see it in your separate state of mind. Connect with the present and see what is indeed already there. You don’t have to separate when you are in the here and now.

See and focus on your connections and watch your world and the world around you transform!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Spirit Knows No Time or Space

“The more we speed up, the more reality slows us down. However, circumstances prevent us from retreating.”~Leo Horoscope by Jeff Lawler

On my journey of healing I seek to find answers in all that I see and experience. Lately I’ve looked at the energy of those dreams I wish to manifest and the “fantasies” or illusions which hold my attention and take up the space where my REAL dreams could manifest IF there was a space for them. As I read the words from my horoscope (quoted above)  it occurred to me what a great answer they hold.

In spirit there is no time or space and during this time of rapid shifting of energies, it may feel like reality is slowing us down or nothing is happening. We may be feeling stuck, stagnant or as if for every two steps forward we are pulled four steps back. Let me assure you nothing is further from the truth! There is truth in the words “the more we speed up, the more reality slows us down” and I don’t know about you but I’ve felt the effect of those words for some time. Everything is in motion, I feel like I’m moving forward then WHAMO the energy hits and it feels as if wasn’t going anywhere after all or more to the point, it feels like I was yanked back to square one. I’m sure at one time or another you have experienced your own version of what I described.

Is ‘reality’ really slowing you down?

As with all things to do with energy and healing there are several explanations for what you are feeling. The meaning for each of us will be completely different. One person might be experiencing control energy. For another it might mean there is more to heal before they can take their step. Regardless of the meaning it’s important to know what is really happening; You are growing and changing as spirit which knows no time  yet your body exists in time and needs time to catch up! It’s not that you’re slowing down as much as you are incorporating and integrating the spiritual changes into your body. When you feel a slow down or you get hit with a massive growth period as more energy clears there is often a tendency to go into resistance to the slow down itself. It’s important to remember that any time you go into resistance you really will slow the process and possibly get stuck in it.

Go With the Flow!

Time is an illusion created by man. What’s the rush? If you are in a place of feeling like you’re not moving but you are meditating, releasing, taking the steps to heal, and grow and expand as spirit with the intent of bringing it into the body; Instead of focusing on the delay, shift your focus to the small things that are moving you toward manifesting your goal. Shift your focus to the space you are creating for yourself with all the release. Allow the growth period that comes along with any and all growth to simply BE. Notice it without resistance and begin validating yourself for the steps you are taking. That small shift in focus helps to clear the resistance to any delay.

When you are doing spiritual work you cannot take back or retreat from what you put in motion. It doesn’t always feel good but know this; The moment you find that uncomfortable place you are in EXACTLY the right place to heal it and create space for your “reality” to change. Is it reality really slowing you down or are you in a growth period? Is your reality really reality or merely an illusion of time?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Confessions of an Out of Control Healer; Can you relate?

citywavesAre you an out of control healer? Do you find you become responsible or blame yourself for other people’s feelings, reactions or experiences? Do you go into automatic healing mode with others who may not actually want it?

I stand before you with a confession; I am an out of control healer. Being an out of control healer was, and still is, very much a part of my own personal healing journey. Each time it happens I look inward to find the energy picture that causes me to get stuck in that space time and time again so I can I peel off yet another layer of “stuff” that I’ve taken responsibility for which is not mine.

How do you know if you’re an out of control healer?

Healing others and offering help is not necessarily being an out of control healer but you may be an out of control healer if:

  1. you give away your energy and attention to those in need at the expense of your own needs
  2. you become responsible for another’s experience, growth period, feelings or reactions
  3. you blame yourself and constantly try to “fix” things outside of your control
  4. you become an energy sponge for others pain
  5. you try to “solve” everyone else’s problems or dramas
  6. you continue to heal those who don’t want it and you go into effort trying to heal them
  7. you only hear from so-called friends when they are having a crisis
  8. you befriend every hurting soul you see

Those are just a few of the ways you can tell if you’re an out of control healer but why one does this is also important to look at. All healing is self-healing and there are those who don’t wish to take responsibility for their part in the drama or situations they find themselves in. If you continue to heal or give your energy and attention to them, they will become angry because in essence you are trying to “show them” and heal what they don’t want to look at within themselves. If you find yourself in a situation when you are doing this, look within yourself to see what it is within you causing you to snap into healing mode.

Use your experiences for self-healing

Every person will have a different set of energies or pictures but I wanted to share a recent discovery on my part after I was “blamed” for making someone feel inadequate. In a conversation I made an innocent comment about how I was “used to doing it differently” than how they did it. I then asked a question to clarify the different style. I was not trying to invalidate in any way yet I noticed the person’s pictures get lit up and I quickly went into healing mode. I took responsibility for everything she was feeling, blamed myself, decided I was a horrible monster of a person for lighting up her pictures in the first place then tried to fix it which of course didn’t work.

No one can “make” someone feel inadequate (or feel however they are feeling.) It is those places where they already feel inadequate that are coming up for them. One also can’t be responsible for lighting up the energies or pictures someone else is working on. It doesn’t mean I didn’t feel bad about causing someone pain because it, in fact, affected me rather deeply and it took hours before I was finally able to forgive myself and let go. I had to turn my attention within to find those places where I felt “inadequate”. I had to find those places within where I felt like I’d said something wrong and forgive myself for being human and occasionally saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I had to turn within, take responsibility and forgive myself for whatever part I played in it.

Life is not always about smooth sailing on calm waters and each of us can learn from every situation that is presented to us. If you are an out of control healer you are being shown all those places you can work on within yourself. Dig deeper into your inner world and uncover that which has been hidden or you haven’t wanted to look at until now. Forgive yourself for the part you played in the past and allow yourself and others to be where they are. How someone else is feeling is beyond your control. How someone hears you is out of your control. Someone who doesn’t want to heal is beyond your control. Taking responsibility and forgiving yourself for whatever part you played IS in your control and is also a part of your own healing process.~Shine Your Light

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The Healing Power of Hello…The Eyes Have It!

EyesWhen was the last time you received a spiritual HELLO? When was the last time you connected, and I mean REALLY connected, with another person?  When was the last time you acknowledged the divinity in yourself and another?

Our lives our so busy and we’re around people every day. We pass them on the street, we have work colleagues, friends, family, clients and of course the grocery clerks, waiters and friendly Starbucks Baristas but  are you connecting and acknowledging each other as spirit?

Now, there’s nothing I enjoy more than finding an answer and I found that answer in the form of a simple HELLO! I recently taught a meditation workshop in Chicago and what happened in that workshop reminded me of how powerful and healing a spirit to spirit HELLO is.  Although this was a wonderful experience for the 16 beautiful souls who attended, you can practice it for yourself every day!

There is always a lot of energy around teaching any sort of workshop involving love and the heart center and this workshop definitely lived up to task. I had already guided the participants through their first meditation to shift them into present time but I noticed they were having difficulty connecting with their bodies. They seemed to be hovering just above their heads. Several were clearly isolated,  hiding and swimming in painful memories. The energy in the workshop was so intense that I deviated from my notes and had the participants stand up, take the hands of someone else, look directly into their eyes, smile and simply say “hello,  (insert name) it’s so nice to meet you, I’m (insert name)”.

What I saw and experienced next was truly amazing. In fact I would have to say the miracle of  healing was clearly alive and well! Almost immediately after the exercise started the room got brighter! I stood back and watched as the energy that once loomed like a dark cloud over the room lifted and was replaced by a beautiful golden light. By the end of the exercise  not only did everyone have their space but they were shining from a place of validation! Everyone’s eyes were sparkling and every single person had a smile on their face!

The eyes are the window of the soul…

What happened in the workshop is very simple. When you look directly into the eyes of another and say hello you are acknowledging their spirit. The human touch and simple hello told that person ‘Hey, I see you! I know your name! You are not just some anonymous person in the room.’ You simply cannot look deep into someone’s eyes and say hello without validating them. A simple in the moment “hello” also brings you right into present time not only with the person you’ve said hello to but with your surroundings as well.

So often we go about our days with our head in the clouds. Our thoughts are somewhere else. We could be in a room full of people and feel totally isolated and alone. We are so busy doing and thinking about the next thing that needs to be done or worrying about this or that, that we sometimes brush off (not necessarily intentionally) those who are right in front of us and some of those are the ones we love the most. We are not “present and accounted for” and grounded in the moment.

Of course it is not always be proper to take both someone’s hands in yours but a handshake works and you can always look into someone’s eyes as you say hello even when casually passing on the street. There is so much you can see when you look into a persons eyes and a simple hello with a smile has the power to heal a hurting, isolated person including yourself.  As an added bonus to saying hello while looking into someone’s eyes while saying their name; You remember their name. This is my favorite party trick! Go ahead and try it! Even if you have difficulty remembering people’s names you will remember because you are not only saying hello to a body in front of you, you are connecting spirit to spirit.

Practice looking into someone’s eyes, smiling and saying hello. You are not merely using the words when you look deeply into someone’s eyes. You are acknowledging and validating the divinity, spirit and soul essence of another and yourself. You bring yourself and that person into the present moment and in the process shift your energy. So HELLO! I SEE YOU! And of course, practice makes perfect! HELLO!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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