“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”~Washington Irving
I often get asked after deep reading/healing sessions if it’s “normal” to experience grief, deep sadness and fear. My answer is always the same…yes. The truth is that grief, sadness and fear are a very normal and natural part of the letting go process.
Those emotions may come up only for a moment or, if you’re releasing (letting go) of energies, beliefs, a relationship or a dream you’ve held on to for a long time, it may take some time and a growth period for the process to fully integrate. Everyone experiences letting go in a different way and each experience will differ with each release.
Letting Go is a Process…
For whatever reason you decide to let go, be it a decision you made consciously by design or out of necessity, the moment you make the choice to let go, various emotions start to come up. Emotions are the body’s way of communicating with you and although you can clear energy instantly in spirit, the body needs time to adjust. It’s important to remember your body needs time to heal in “real-time” and letting go is a process not an event. Allow your body to process whatever emotions come up for you. Letting go can be a major life changing experience and just like grieving a loved one who has transitioned, you are grieving for the self you are leaving behind.
There’s no shame in tears!
Crying is one of the ways to cleanse, release energy and process emotions. It is your body’s natural response to overwhelming emotion. There is no shame in crying! In fact there’s nothing better than a good cry to make you feel better. If you feel like crying, go ahead and do so. Allow your emotions to come up. Really FEEL them. Any time you try to “control” what you’re feeling, you’re either in resistance or there’s an energy (usually someone else’s) blocking the cleansing process.
Stay With It!
When we experience overwhelming emotion the tendency is to push it away, not feel it, stop ourselves from crying. Perhaps you were told crying is a sign of weakness? Perhaps you were not allowed to cry. the ability to “be” with our emotions and just ‘let them be’ by acknowledging we are indeed feeling an intense emotion, is the first step towards letting go because we’re not in resistance.
Letting go is not giving up nor giving in! Sometimes staying with it means we have to let go of other emotions like shame, pride and ego. Other times we have to let go of feeling like a failure or trying to control and bend a situation so it fits what we want. No matter what comes up, stay with and acknowledge it because that is when you will be able to release and let go.
Grief, sadness and fear are part of the natural letting go process. It is how you handle those emotions that make the difference in how quickly you will process and move through the energy. Allow your emotions to come up, be with them, acknowledge them and then gently release. Recognize that what you are feeling is a natural part of the growth period and don’t resist. It’ll do your body good. ~Shine Your Light Debbie
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