Love – Page 42 – Daily Muse

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”~Anais Nin

Finding safety and feeling safe is different from playing it safe. If you are not thinking outside of the box, creating new things and you expect things to change without opening up to new possibilities you are playing it safe! If your focus remains on one thing and one thing only, you are playing it safe!

If you wish to grow and expand you must open up, put yourself out there and take a chance. It does you no good to sit at home and wish for things to change if you are not willing to create that change. No one is going to do it for you nor can they put you out there…only you can do that. When you take steps to find the areas in your life where you are playing it safe because of fear, past hurt or invalidation you clear those limits. Yes, playing it safe is limiting yourself!

Trying new and different ways of doing things might even change your perspective on those things you’ve been safely holding on to! Opening the Pandora’s box of limiting beliefs and finding out if what you believe to be true really is your truth can be daunting to say the least. It is difficult because generally speaking one plays it safe because of an underlying pain which must be acknowledged before it clears.

Being the good little girl or boy (no matter how old you are) so people like you doesn’t serve you or anybody else. Everyone has a comfort zone and if you are operating and staying within that comfort zone everything will remain just as it is! Just because it’s called a comfort zone doesn’t mean it’s comfortable to be there. Oddly sometimes the pain of where you are is more comfortable than taking the risk of putting yourself out there because unconsciously, or consciously, there is a fear and the potential of more pain.

At some point it does become more painful to remain tight in the bud hiding so take a risk and bloom in all your glory! This might mean that everyone in the world might not like you or think you are nice but if you are doing the right thing, you are a good person at heart and treat others as you should, does that matter? If you are happy, owning who you are and living from your truth isn’t that the most important thing?

Scary as it might be, stop playing it safe and bloom! If things go horribly, horribly wrong find your amusement that at least you put it out there! Better to put it out there, have a new experience and learn than to never know in the first place!

Show the world your glorious being-ness! If you feel the need to go bungee jumping or skydiving it might be the very thing that brings you alive and I will guarantee it will move a lot of energy and programming out of your space! Come alive, take a risk and bloom!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Best friends are wonderful to have in your life. They are people with whom you confide your deepest darkest secrets, your fears or joys and those you share your experiences with. They are the ones with whom you can go on a rant then forgive, those you laugh or cry with and it’s always fun to go on a new adventure with your BFF.

No matter what it is, you always feel safe telling your best friend something. A true best friend doesn’t judge, criticize and will often tell it like it is whether you like it or not. They love you for who you are and visa versa. There is give and take, you listen to their advice….ok you don’t necessarily take it but you’ll listen to it, 🙂 and you value their friendship.

What do you look for in a best friend?

Would you choose a best friend that you didn’t trust or feel safe with? Would you choose a best friend who lies to you or beats you up? How about a best friend who is negative and criticizes you for everything? Of course you wouldn’t choose a best friend who is like that! You want a best friend who lifts your spirits, dries your tears and is there for you through thick and thin. Now begs the question…

Are you your own best friend?

Being your own best friend is having a forever friend! It means getting honest with and caring for yourself. It is about trusting yourself and owning the choices you make. It is knowing that you have the ability to heal yourself, lift your spirits, go on new adventures and treat yourself kindly. When you are your own best friend you listen to your intuition, follow your heart AND your own council. You forgive your mistakes, and you feel safe & comfortable in your own company and in your own skin!

Believe it or not your best friend in the world, the one who is with you for a lifetime is YOU! Think of how many ‘best friends’ have come and gone out of your life. To be sure there are some that are with you for a lifetime and this is great but some of your best friends are there for a time and then you both move on. It might be that one of you gets married, divorced, one of you moves or you just grow in different directions.

If you are not already your own best friend, it’s never to late to start the process. It all begins with getting to know yourself from the inside out; Who you are now, where you’ve come from and honoring what you’ve been through in life. It means ending the cycle of punishing yourself because you are not perfect; You’ve probably been trying to live up to a picture that someone else handed you at some point in your life.

Becoming your own best friend is a journey of loving yourself and letting go of trying to be someone you are not and never will be. Say hello to being your own best friend. It is a friendship that will truly last a lifetime!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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