Have you found your “V” spot?

Did I get your attention with the title of this post? I hope it doesn’t disappoint you to find out that what I’ll be talking about is VALIDATION! Specifically, your ability to validate YOURSELF.

Several years back actor (now Senator) Al Franken did a sketch on Saturday Night Live called “Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley.” 

At the end of the sketch Stuart looks into the mirror and says, “I’m GOOD enough, I’m SMART enough and doggone it, people like me!”

Although the sketch was written as a spoof of self-help groups, there may be a great deal of insight in it. When was the last time you VALIDATED yourself like that?

I’ll take it even one step farther and ask; When was the last time someone validated YOU and you said something to the effect of “Thanks! But…..”?

In day-to-day life many people are looking outside themselves for validation. Then when someone finally validates them, they put a negative on it. The minute they say “but”, they’ve completely negated the validation and INvalidated themselves!

I also notice people constantly beating themselves up. They don’t think they have the perfect body or perfect relationship. They feel they are doing something wrong if someone doesn’t like them or someone doesn’t agree with how they are handling a situation.

The reality is that there is PLENTY of invalidation floating around out there  and if you don’t validate yourself, guess what? On an energetic level the invalidation sticks like glue and you actually ATTRACT more of it too you!

Have you done something brilliant, won an award or had an amazing breakthrough and you still don’t feel it’s good enough? Do you beat yourself up for one thing or another? Are you constantly looking for validation from another for your creations?

Is there something you’d like to create but have decided you’re not good enough to do it? Do you have a great idea but are concerned you’ll be laughed at or ridiculed if you present it?

Do you beat yourself up because you feel you are too fat, too thin, too tall or short? It may even be that ‘you’ve never been successful at it before’ so you invalidate all the GOOD steps you are taking NOW. 

I know this wouldn’t apply to any of you…but then again, there may be a line or two that resonates with you. 🙂 If so….FIND YOUR “V” SPOT!

What do I mean by that? Well, there are several ways to do it. One thing you can do while meditating is to imagine in your mind’s eye the color of your own self validation. It’s OK to make it up, it will still work!

Allow that color to grow & expand then bring the image in through the top of your head until you are sitting in a bubble of it. Feel the vibration throughout your body, filling up every cell.

Notice any INvalidation effortlessly falling away as you do this. Sit and BE in the flow of your own validation! Validate all those wonderful things about you! Your beautiful spirit, loving heart, creative mind and immortal soul!

Now, look in the mirror and smile as you look into your own eyes and say, “I’M GOOD ENOUGH, I’M SMART ENOUGH AND DOGGONE IT, PEOPLE LIKE ME!” 

When you do this you have truly found your “V” spot! Your ~V~alidation ~V~ibration! Shine your Light~Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010


Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping people heal their spirit so they can create and live the life they choose. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts. For more information or to schedule a reading please send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com or visit her website.

6 thoughts on “Have you found your “V” spot?

  1. This is really wonderful. As I sat and meditated right after reading this I found myself filled with all these thoughts thatI use to invalidate myself all the time, everyday. And in seeing that for what it really is there is a peace about this. That I alone have the power to change these thoughts and begin to valiadate myself and stop seeking others to do it for me. Thanks Debbie I love you

  2. That is a great post! It’s amazing how little it can take to go from feeling happy about an accomplishment to feeling not good enough. I plan to take your meditation advice to heart!

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