Have you found your “V” spot?

Did I get your attention with the title of this post? I hope it doesn’t disappoint you to find out that what I’ll be talking about is VALIDATION! Specifically, your ability to validate YOURSELF.

Several years back actor (now Senator) Al Franken did a sketch on Saturday Night Live called “Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley.” 

At the end of the sketch Stuart looks into the mirror and says, “I’m GOOD enough, I’m SMART enough and doggone it, people like me!”

Although the sketch was written as a spoof of self-help groups, there may be a great deal of insight in it. When was the last time you VALIDATED yourself like that?

I’ll take it even one step farther and ask; When was the last time someone validated YOU and you said something to the effect of “Thanks! But…..”?

In day-to-day life many people are looking outside themselves for validation. Then when someone finally validates them, they put a negative on it. The minute they say “but”, they’ve completely negated the validation and INvalidated themselves!

I also notice people constantly beating themselves up. They don’t think they have the perfect body or perfect relationship. They feel they are doing something wrong if someone doesn’t like them or someone doesn’t agree with how they are handling a situation.

The reality is that there is PLENTY of invalidation floating around out there  and if you don’t validate yourself, guess what? On an energetic level the invalidation sticks like glue and you actually ATTRACT more of it too you!

Have you done something brilliant, won an award or had an amazing breakthrough and you still don’t feel it’s good enough? Do you beat yourself up for one thing or another? Are you constantly looking for validation from another for your creations?

Is there something you’d like to create but have decided you’re not good enough to do it? Do you have a great idea but are concerned you’ll be laughed at or ridiculed if you present it?

Do you beat yourself up because you feel you are too fat, too thin, too tall or short? It may even be that ‘you’ve never been successful at it before’ so you invalidate all the GOOD steps you are taking NOW. 

I know this wouldn’t apply to any of you…but then again, there may be a line or two that resonates with you. 🙂 If so….FIND YOUR “V” SPOT!

What do I mean by that? Well, there are several ways to do it. One thing you can do while meditating is to imagine in your mind’s eye the color of your own self validation. It’s OK to make it up, it will still work!

Allow that color to grow & expand then bring the image in through the top of your head until you are sitting in a bubble of it. Feel the vibration throughout your body, filling up every cell.

Notice any INvalidation effortlessly falling away as you do this. Sit and BE in the flow of your own validation! Validate all those wonderful things about you! Your beautiful spirit, loving heart, creative mind and immortal soul!

Now, look in the mirror and smile as you look into your own eyes and say, “I’M GOOD ENOUGH, I’M SMART ENOUGH AND DOGGONE IT, PEOPLE LIKE ME!” 

When you do this you have truly found your “V” spot! Your ~V~alidation ~V~ibration! Shine your Light~Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping people heal their spirit so they can create and live the life they choose. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts. For more information or to schedule a reading please send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com or visit her website.

STOP, LOOK, & LISTEN…Be Aware!

When we were children we were taught to STOP LOOK & LISTEN before we crossed the street. When we got older and learned to drive we were told to do this before driving over the railroad tracks.

I think this is a VERY good thing to be reminded of NOW! What it comes down to is AWARENESS! Awareness of both body AND spirit.

On a daily basis, I routinely see people on their cell phones, walking and talking, driving and talking, texting and walking….driving and talking, driving and texting…..I’m sure you get the idea and have seen or maybe even done this yourself!

Just yesterday I saw someone crossing the street while texting, not paying attention to the traffic signals, and they walked right into oncoming traffic. 

A minute later I watched as someone drove through a red light while talking on the phone almost hitting another car!  They had little to no awareness of what they were doing or where they were going!

Awareness encompasses many things and sometimes one can spend a lot of time with their attention on everything and everyone else.  When was the last time you checked in with yourself?

Where is your attention and where has it been? Are you aware of what your body and spirit have been trying to communicate to you? When was the last time you took a moment to STOP, LOOK AND LISTEN with awareness to yourself?

You have internal “stop lights” that tell you many things. At times you are prompted to stop and look both ways before you proceed. Other times it will tell you to proceed with caution and yet at other times you just know you have the green light go ahead!

This internal traffic light is your intuition! When you turn your attention and awareness within, YOU are in the driver’s seat! Being aware of your physical body and its surroundings IS a part of your energetic awareness!  

If you don’t feel like you are in the driver’s seat, take note that you may be following someone else’s traffic signal! If you are stopped and feeling stuck in your life, it may mean that you just need to clear out all the “traffic”! 🙂

Trust yourself and your intuition! You know where you want to go and how to get there! So take a moment to STOP “doing”. LOOK to see where your awareness is and LISTEN to what your mind, body, spirit and soul is communicating to you! Shine your light~Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010

For nearly 20 years Debra has been doing clairvoyant readings, spiritual healings/coaching and teaching meditation workshops. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts and will soon be available to follow on Twitter! (Don’t know about you but I Tink dat’s Tweet!) 🙂

For more information on Debra’s readings please visit her website at Spiritlightinsight.com You may contact her or schedule a reading by sending an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com