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Did I get your attention with the title of this post? I hope it doesn’t disappoint you to find out that what I’ll be talking about is VALIDATION! Specifically, your ability to validate YOURSELF.

Several years back actor (now Senator) Al Franken did a sketch on Saturday Night Live called “Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley.”

At the end of the sketch Stuart looks into the mirror and says, “I’m GOOD enough, I’m SMART enough and doggone it, people like me!”

Although the sketch was written as a spoof of self-help groups, there may be a great deal of insight in it. When was the last time you VALIDATED yourself like that?

I’ll take it even one step farther and ask; When was the last time someone validated YOU and you said something to the effect of “Thanks! But…..”?

In day-to-day life many people are looking outside themselves for validation. Then when someone finally validates them, they put a negative on it. The minute they say “but”, they’ve completely negated the validation and INvalidated themselves!

I also notice people constantly beating themselves up. They don’t think they have the perfect body or perfect relationship. They feel they are doing something wrong if someone doesn’t like them or someone doesn’t agree with how they are handling a situation.

The reality is that there is PLENTY of invalidation floating around out there and if you don’t validate yourself, guess what? On an energetic level the invalidation sticks like glue and you actually ATTRACT more of it too you!

Have you done something brilliant, won an award or had an amazing breakthrough and you still don’t feel it’s good enough? Do you beat yourself up for one thing or another? Are you constantly looking for validation from another for your creations?

Is there something you’d like to create but have decided you’re not good enough to do it? Do you have a great idea but are concerned you’ll be laughed at or ridiculed if you present it?

Do you beat yourself up because you feel you are too fat, too thin, too tall or short? It may even be that ‘you’ve never been successful at it before’ so you invalidate all the GOOD steps you are taking NOW.

I know this wouldn’t apply to any of you…but then again, there may be a line or two that resonates with you. 🙂 If so….FIND YOUR “V” SPOT!

What do I mean by that? Well, there are several ways to do it. One thing you can do while meditating is to imagine in your mind’s eye the color of your own self validation. It’s OK to make it up, it will still work!

Allow that color to grow & expand then bring the image in through the top of your head until you are sitting in a bubble of it. Feel the vibration throughout your body, filling up every cell.

Notice any INvalidation effortlessly falling away as you do this. Sit and BE in the flow of your own validation! Validate all those wonderful things about you! Your beautiful spirit, loving heart, creative mind and immortal soul!

Now, look in the mirror and smile as you look into your own eyes and say, “I’M GOOD ENOUGH, I’M SMART ENOUGH AND DOGGONE IT, PEOPLE LIKE ME!”

When you do this you have truly found your “V” spot! Your ~V~alidation ~V~ibration! Shine your Light~Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping people heal their spirit so they can create and live the life they choose. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts. For more information or to schedule a reading please send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com or visit her website.

I’m going to begin this blog with one simple statement: YOU ARE A MAGNIFICENT BEING! When you were conceived there was an explosion of light! You fit all that brilliance into a tiny fertilised egg! I don’t know about you but I consider conception one of the most amazing things in the world! It is truly a miracle in and of itself!

Several years back I was blessed with the opportunity to be in the room during an IVF procedure to transfer the fertilised egg from test tube to future Momma. Now as if it isn’t amazing enough that an egg can be fertilised outside the body, what I witnessed was even more so.

The monitor flashed a bright light as they implanted the egg and the nurses explained to me that it happens every time and they are not exactly sure why. Being a clairvoyant I could absolutely see why! The spirits (I saw 2 distinct beings) entered the physical! Frankly I was in awe of the miracle that was happening right before my eyes!

OK, so you were conceived then you were born into a really cute baby body! You all know how cute EVERY baby is! When you laughed, that first little baby laugh, the whole room lit up and everyone smiled and laughed with you! You may not have noticed it then (or remember it), but no matter what was going on, everyone stopped to make you laugh and raised their own vibration to come up to yours!

You were ~BEING SEEN~! And not only were you being seen but everyone around you got a healing! Now, the question becomes, right now, in present time, are you being seen or are you hiding?! Are you shining your bright self or have you toned it down? Are you hiding in lonely isolation or are you out there being seen?

So why is it that we turn down our light? While I don’t think there is any one answer to that question, it IS worth exploring. I’m sure you all know at least one person, if not yourself, who is isolated in some form or fashion. People hide behind their work, computer or cell phone so as not to be seen and this isolates them.

Sometimes you hide because of not feeling worthy or that someone might not like you. Maybe you are feeling insecure or think you have “bad” energy. Sometimes it’s because you don’t want to have that uncomfortable conversation and other times, you are simply isolating yourself because you are in pain or unhappy.

It may be that you lower your vibration and hide so that others feel comfortable being around you. After all you don’t want to shine if someone around you is hurting. The last one is actually BIG! 🙂 It may be that you bring down your vibration or dim your light because you don’t want to “stand out”. It could also be just plain FEAR!

~BEING SEEN~ and shining brightly is not always easy…especially when you are going through a difficult time. On the other hand it’s also not easy if you are feeling GOOD and others around you are having a rough time. In either case when you get yourself grounded & centered, begin to shine and see the bright side of YOU, you heal! When you raise your vibration even in the midst of a difficult time, the energy starts to clear and you can once again begin living from your bright self!

Healing others is all about you healing yourself first. How often have you turned down your HAPPY waiting for someone else to heal so they can come with you on your journey? This is very common thing to do in fact. Well, here is another fact….you can’t heal someone else if they don’t want to heal! They may not be ready or even want to step up and really that’s OK. It is their choice to make but you don’t have to let THEIR choice become YOUR choice!

There is a wonderful excerpt from Return to Love by Marianne Williamson that I would like to share as it gets to the heart of what I’m talking about. I know it’s a bit long but very much worth reading:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is out Light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the Glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own Light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Why not take a moment right now to heal and liberate yourself? Close your eyes and turn your attention within. Allow your light to shine as brightly and brilliantly as when you came into your body! Find your inner spark of light! Release that baby giggle from those adult lips! Allow the fear to fall away and shine your “BRILLIANT, GORGEOUS, TALENTED and FABULOUS” light upon the world! ~Debbie

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