TRUTH – Page 18 – Daily Muse

Once again I find it’s time to write about a particular energy trend emerging in reading sessions. That trend is validation or perhaps more to the point, why are we so invalidated that we seek validation outside of ourselves? In a vast world full of competition it’s difficult to validate our own self. Seeking recognition from others is looking outside yourself. There’s nothing wrong with wanting validation but it’s important to be able to validate YOURSELF so you can accept and ‘have’ the validation you receive from others.

Why is it so hard to validate ourselves?

Validating ones self is not easy because you’ve simply been taught from a very young age not to. It’s ok to validate someone else but it’s considered egotistical if you validate yourself. Why is it ok to validate and recognize others but not yourself? Validating yourself is not about praising yourself publicly. It’s ok to be proud of what you’ve accomplished and there’s nothing wrong with telling people BUT constantly shouting your good deeds from the rooftops and telling others how amazing you are time and time again is actually you wanting others to validate you. Validation like everything else is an energy and sometimes the invalidation you carry causes you to see things and react through the filters caused by that invalidation.

How much validation can you have?

Perhaps you’ve been recognized but in your heart you don’t feel like you deserve the recognition because in your eyes it wasn’t good enough. I’ll bet that some time in your past you did, said or created something you were proud of and felt good about only to have someone else invalidate it. If that happened and you owned what they told you as truth at some level you’re holding on to the energy of invalidation and it has had an effect on everything you’ve done since that time. In order to have validation from others you must be able to validate yourself and know inside that what you do or say has value to YOU.

Until you can validate yourself it will never be enough….

No matter how much recognition you receive or from whom, until you can validate yourself it will be fleeting at best. Receiving an award (or recognition) is wonderful but what happens after your 15 minutes of fame is over? Can you validate yourself for it or do you find yourself trying to figure out how to do it again? Have you spent your life trying to get validation from a particular person yet you are ignored or you feel like you always say the wrong thing and try to correct it? Do you feel like nothing you do or say is good enough in the eyes of another? Are you validating yourself with food or sex or shopping or some other addiction which makes you feel good for merely a moment? Some people shop so they have lots of “things” but do those “things” really validate you? Some people validate their bodies with food only to beat themselves up later for gaining weight or feeling awful. Some are in effort trying to be the “top dog” who makes the most money so all they do is work. None of those things work.

Recognition and validation from others is a beautiful thing but so is validating yourself and accepting validation from others humbly and with grace. It is up to you to find what validates you. Does a job well done make you stand back and smile without someone else telling you? Can you graciously accept and know with all your heart that you deserve validation from others? Can you give to others without expectation of receiving anything in return and you feel good about it? In the world today it’s difficult even under the best of circumstances to receive a spirit to spirit HELLO. If your spirit does not get a HELLO it causes you to feel empty, alone, ignored and invalidated. A simple hello while looking into someones eyes is a huge validation for both of you. You saying hello to your own spirit validates you.

Finding validation in an invalidating world means you validate yourself as well as others. It’s also important to be aware of the validation you receive every day. If you’re looking for validation scroll down to the end of this post and enjoy one of my favorite videos on the subject. This short film called VALIDATION does show how a bit of validation can change your inner and outer world. Let me finish by saying….HELLO! YOU ARE AMAZING! YOU HAVE VALUE! Can you see these things about you for yourself?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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There are miracles happening every day in every corner of the world. Put down your worries and stress. What you carry with you is a burden. It weighs you down and stops you from experiencing and seeing the miracles unfold before your very eyes. Living your own miracle is simple because YOU are the miracle; the extraordinary event considered divine. Every birth including your own is divine and a miracle! Think about it. You are not just particles and molecules. You are energy vibration made solid.

In fact YOU and your energy system are a world in and of itself. You have energy centers (chakras) which spin and generate energy creating an aura of colors that surround you. As spirit you have a beautiful energy and knowledge beyond this current lifetime. You have power and strength. What you seek outside of you is already inside of you if you choose to look. Inside of you there are miracles to behold! The question becomes do you truly want to see? Do you truly want to know yourself and what you are capable of? Do you truly want to wake up?

If the answer is ‘yes’ I must caution you that once you awaken to your true nature and abilities you can’t turn them off. You might be able to turn away from what you find for a time but as they say ‘you can run but you can no longer hide’. Awakening means facing reality, clearing resistance and taking responsibility for yourself, your actions and words. You will find you are not crazy, broken, damaged or need fixing. You will find the energy of forgiveness and the power it has to heal.

I say these things not to stop you but so you understand that if you’ve lived your entire life a certain way your awakening might feel a bit uncomfortable at first. You may have identified with or have been living from someone else’s pictures of who you are. It’s very much like waking up after a nightmare. What you experienced in your sleep might linger and disturb you for a time but you’re happy to be awake and back to the reality of life. Remember Scrooge in “A Christmas Carol”, Dorothy in “The Wizard of Oz” or George Baily in “It’s a Wonderful Life”? Although they are fictional characters there is a part of watching them wake up that we all relate to.

BEHOLD THE MIRACLE WITHIN!

As we entire into 2012 it is time. It is time to wake up. Step into yourself and feel solid. Feel the miracle of your heart beating. Step into your knowledge and see. Speak and live being true to yourself. Honor and follow your passion, hopes and dreams. Step into the core of your being the source for creativity and your power. Step up and forgive yourself and others. It is a new day full of clarity. Step into your body, care for it AND your energy system. Generate energy full of love, peace and compassion. Nestle yourself in the center of a universe filled with joy and happiness.

As you awaken to the miracle that lies within and step into it you no longer need to look outside yourself for answers. You will see life and nature and others as miracles. Living and seeing yourself as a miracle full of love attracts those doing the same and heals (if they want the healing) those who wish to be a part of your life. See yourself standing as a blaze of color in all your glory. This is not selfish for the miracles you see within are the miracles you will see in others but the only way to do this is BEHOLD THE MIRACLE OF YOU! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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