How to Practice Radical Forgiveness…

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” ~August Wilson

The first time I heard the phrase “radical forgiveness” I wasn’t sure what to make of it. There’s really nothing “radical” about forgiveness. It’s a beautiful vibration that lovingly releases you and another person from an endless loop of energetic punishment, guilt and karmic ties.

I tend to connect the meaning of the word “radical” to “extreme”. It feels harsh, hard, unbalanced and ungiving; but there is another, and more gentle way of looking at it. “Profound”.

Forgiveness is always profound for both the forgiver and the one who is being forgiven and yet it’s rarely an easy task. In order to forgive, we must look into our hearts to see and accept how we added to the situation.

What we cannot forgive holds us hostage and it’s much easier to blame something or someone outside of ourselves than admit we played a part in the scenario. We must open our eyes to the truth, take ownership of our part and shine a loving light on whatever needs to be forgiven.

No matter what needs forgiving, the moment we decide to forgive ourselves and accept the part we played is the moment the vibration of forgiveness gracefully enters our hearts and minds.

We can’t pick and choose.

While there are many things we get to choose like our thoughts, our direction, and our friends we cannot sort through and say ‘I’ll forgive this but I won’t forgive that’.

We can certainly pick and choose the order in which we forgive something or someone in the past but if we get angry and decide “never to forgive”, a part of us will remain in the dark.

Forgiveness is a state of grace and it takes practice and awareness. Deciding to forgive really is divine. It frees us and gives us an opportunity to live in a loving, giving, state of grace every day.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Eclipse * Comet * Full Moon Trifecta!

comet-jpg__800x600_q85_cropAn Eclipse, a Comet and Full Moon walk into a celestial bar…

The air is charged as we approach a weekend of energy events this weekend. This is truly a “trifecta” for spiritual seekers and awakening souls!

As with all astrological events we can use the powerful and exciting energies to help us on our journey.

Eclipse

Starting at 5:34 P.M. eastern time, people along the east coast will be able to see a penumbral lunar eclipse, when the sun, moon and earth all align. (via Weather.com). In this case there will be a subtle “overshadowing” of the moon. Lunar eclipses signify a time of great change and upheaval. Eclipses put us on the ‘right’ path as they illuminate truth and “eclipse out” that which no longer serves us.

“Eclipses shine the bright light of truth to the part of your life that is touched by the eclipse. Most of the time, eclipses act as brilliant illuminators, revealing a condition that you were unaware existed.”~Susan Miller

We are already feeling the effects of the eclipse so find some amusement, sit back and watch events as they unfold. Sometimes, we know that we are meant to make a change but we aren’t sure what to do. Allow the energies during an eclipse to help you.

Full Moon

Full Moons rule our emotions and pour down a tremendous amount of energy. Whatever is going on in our world will be greatly amplified. When we welcome the powerful lunar energies (instead of resisting them) we can use them to clear deeply stuck energy and emotions.

During the time of a Full Moon it is appropriate to celebrate life and light and to be mindful of all that we have, and all that we have created. It is a time to be curious, to open our hearts, count our blessings and feel the connection we have with ourselves and others.

Combining the energy of the Eclipse with that of the Full Moon, we have an opportunity to embrace and accept our truths as we release anything that was hidden.

Comet 45P

The energy of a comet affects us in many ways. A comet is formed by dust (earth element), ice (water element) and gases such as carbon monoxide and carbon dioxide (air element) in the ancient, distant region. Then they are given energy when they pass the sun (fire element), thawing and releasing the frozen air.

Comets symbolize frozen or stuck energy deep in the abyss of our consciousness such as suppressed emotions or fear. As they warm, they release toxic gases. So too, we are able to release toxic thoughts and the more we release, the more we are able to infuse a new zest for life.

Comets re-set the energy. They inspire new thoughts and new ideas. It’s interesting to note that the Chinese refer to comets as ‘the broom star’. Although they consider them ‘bad luck’ don’t forget that brooms are for cleaning and sweeping away debris. With a clean slate, we have room to bring in more wisdom.

According to Smithsonianmag.com Comet 45P has appeared to have lost it’s tail. That’s a lot of toxic energy release! As a planet (and personally) we have also released a lot of toxic energy. We are clearly coming to an end of an era but we are also bringing in wisdom and light as we birth new thoughts and ideas.

What a wonderful time we will have this weekend as we drink from the cosmic soup to re-boot and recharge. Be sure to pay a little extra attention to your mind, body and spirit. The energy is super-charged so you might need a little extra time in meditation, or extra rest. Give your body what it needs. Happy Healing!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Ask Before You Heal Others….

looking-into-darknessAre you a healer or a psychic reader? Do you go around healing everyone and everything or giving “readings” to those who have not asked you directly to help them?

This is very common in the spiritual community as more people open up to their natural abilities and are looking to validate their experience.

“Some people walk through a hallway with covered mirrors– the hallway is lined with mirrors but there are blankets covering each of them. They go through life believing in an image of themselves that isn’t real, and an image of themselves standing in the world and relative to the world, that isn’t real.

If you happen to be in that hallway and pull the blankets off the mirrors, they’re going to think that you’re hurting them; but they’re actually just seeing their reflection for the first time. Sometimes the most horrendous thing a person can see, is all the hidden things inside them, the things they’ve covered, the things they choose not look at. And you’re not hurting them, you’re setting them free.”~C. JoyBell C.

Yes, some people do walk through a hallway with covered mirrors however I’d like you to consider asking yourself if it is truly your responsibility to uncover those mirrors without permission. For sure I am guilty of uncovering mirrors without permission but as I work to expand my awareness it happens less often if at all.

When you randomly uncover mirrors without permission, no matter how pure your intent, someone is going to get angry or feel like you hurt them. They may blast you with energy. They may project their inner pain on to you as if you were the original cause (this is very common) or you may find them running for the proverbial hills. What you consider ‘uncovering mirrors’ to set someone free might be the last thing THEY want for themselves and although it might not make sense they truly feel as if you hurt them.

Perhaps you’d like to ask why someone wouldn’t want to be free? As a spiritual seeker and visionary I can honestly tell you I ask all the time. I ask it of myself and I ask it when I see others walking through that hallway of covered mirrors.

While I don’t have a general answer for others, for myself the answer is to uncover every single mirror. I want to dig in and dig deep. I WANT to look at those things held deep inside to create change, growth and expansion. I WANT to be free.

Perhaps you feel the same as I do, however, others may not be ready or want to dig in to uncover and look at what they consider ‘horrendous’ things. What each of us has to recognize and respect is where a person is and what they are seeking may be very different from what WE are seeking or doing for ourselves.

It’s also important to recognize that what is really happening is the ‘perception’ that certain things buried deep inside are horrendous. I know some very lovely people who do amazing things on the outside yet think they are monsters and horrible people on the inside. What they don’t realize is that no matter what they do in the outer world, how they feel on the inside shows on the outside whether they choose to look or not.

The reality in all of this is NONE OF IT IS REAL! The only horrendous things in our reflections are the ones we’ve chosen not to forgive ourselves (or others) for. The only horrendous things that keep us from our freedom are illusions which are rarely based on facts. When we grow these illusions and believe them to be real we find ourselves “believing in an image [of OURselves] that isn’t real, and an image [ of OURselves] standing in the world and relative to the world, that isn’t real”

While at first one might uncover the mirror and see only pain and darkness, what lies beneath is pure spirit. The true healing is releasing the illusion. Once you see and open up to the spirit that you are you experience a world filled with light, curiosity, creativity and miracles.

All of that said, if you choose to uncover mirrors I highly recommend you choose to do so with your own mirrors first. Choosing a spiritual path is not an easy journey. It means choosing to look into the darkness. It means digging deep, letting go of ego and illusion, and forgiving yourself and others.It means seeing truth, acknowledging spirit and admitting (and forgiving yourself for) your ego getting in the way.

Regardless of how much you think you can help someone, all healing is self-healing. Allow others to be where they are. If you choose to help others with their growth, do so with full verbal permission as their guide and mentor.

What’s right for you may not be what’s right for others.Honor where they are and live your own miracle. I can tell you from personal experience that living the miracle of spirit is well worth it.~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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Energy Work: The reward outweighs the risk

Energy Work: It’s messy…and totally worth it!

Energy Work: The reward outweighs the risk“What are you going to do? Everything, is my guess. It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications.”~Nora Ephron

Energy Work is Messy

Those who have chosen a healing path know that doing energy work is not glamorous. It’s just the opposite. It’s messy, extremely painful (at times) and the more you uncover the ‘truth’ of who you are, the more you begin to see clearly why and how things unfolded in the past.

One of the hardest pieces to wrap our heads around is when we finally open our psychic eyes to see how we co-created particular, and often painful, situations in our past. It isn’t an easy thing to see the truth because we must face the fact that at the time we (probably) knew or sensed something was off but didn’t listen to our inner voice. Hindsight at it’s finest. Oh yes, things seem to get ‘complicated’ and messy.

There’s no mistake I used the word ‘seem’ to describe the chaos that usually ensues once we discover that perhaps what we were noticing was correct! Things aren’t really complicated; they’re just painful. When we open up to truth our mind will go in a thousand different directions to think about anything and everything other than the pain we are about to feel when we open Pandora’s box. However, with acceptance of what was and loving ourselves in the present we WILL get through it.

Have you ever wondered why painful situation from the past seem to hold our attention as if a vice-grip has them firmly in place? It happens because they are “super-charged” with energy. If we don’t let go of past experiences we begin fueling or feeding the memory but here’s the thing, memories are illusions. They are pictures in our mind and the more we feed them with our present-time energy the bigger they become and the bigger they become, the farther away from the truth they are.

Embellishing expands the illusion

The more we “feed” or embellish our pictures the easier it is to get stuck. The reason it happens is because our ego minds take hold and act as defense mechanisms. Of course we don’t do this consciously but conscious or unconscious, the fact remains, the more we dwell in the past, the more we embellish and give power to the illusion and the less of our energy we have in the present for creating.

“And this mess is so big
And so deep and so tall,
We cannot pick it up.
There is no way at all!”
~Dr. Seuss

Deep energy work isn’t always smooth and graceful. For the most part we are not going to do one or two meditations and wake up without a care in the world. I know we all want it to be that way but it’s a process. A peeling back of the layers. It is a process of showing up as we are. It is a process of loving ourselves so much that we go beyond the fear of being heard, seen and vulnerable. To show up as we are, not who others want us to be.

It’s a risk to show up because when we do this work, those around us may not be comfortable with the changes we’re making. We also may see the mess as so big, deep and tall we don’t even want to attempt to clear it out.

Here’s where the reward far outweighs the risk because this is where we connect at such a deep level with ourselves there’s no going back.

“Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.”~Brené Brown

It’s takes courage to enter the realm of our own psyche. It takes courage to look; to see. It takes courage to accept and accept responsibility for what we have co-created by our lack of awareness or non-acceptance of past experiences.

Yes, it gets messy. Yes, there is a possibility you will feel crazy or out of control and yes, there is the possibility that your growth period will be painful BUT…. there is also a greater potential for healing and transformation.

There is greater potential for growth and expansion and FOR SURE you will be clearing a space for love, and truth and more of YOU to be present…in the present. What a gift!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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For Happiness, Peace & Ease Surrender

For Happiness and Ease Surrender! Say YES to Life!

For Happiness, Peace & Ease Surrender“Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
~Eckhart Tolle

Are you saying “yes” to life or do you find yourself fighting for happiness, peace and ease at every corner?  If you are saying “yes” to life congratulations! Carry on! However, if you find yourself in an internal struggle and you’re ready to find happiness it’s time to SURRENDER and say YES!

Surrender is the intersection between acceptance and change. Many find themselves fighting and in effort as they search for mere nuggets of happiness, peace and ease. Doesn’t it seem odd to resist and fight what “is” to reach a place of ease? Each moment that is resisted translates into a feeling of being at war and the war is not based on outside circumstances. It is wholly based on illusion and internal dialogue.

When we surrender it doesn’t mean giving up or losing. Surrender does not make us a victim of our circumstances. Surrendering means putting down our weapons of resistance, ego and control that takeover the mind.  It means accepting that which IS, letting go and moving forward.

Accepting what “IS” in present time takes our energy out of the battle and frees us. It brings a sense of ease that allows us to say YES to life again. To be sure there will always be something we can go into battle for but when we surrender and let go of the fight we have actually just won the battle! When we are fighting, in resistance or struggling, the greater the chance to get stuck.

Now, I want to make it very clear here that I’m not referring to those who have an illness and doing everything possible to fight for their lives. That is a very different kind of fight. I’m also not referring to those things we must fight for globally like human rights, truth and justice. We all must take a stand up and speak out about injustices.

I’m referring to the  battles which exist in the ego mind that imprison us. I’m talking about those internal negative dialogues which take root and cause us to constantly feel like we are fighting to become visible, worthy and valuable in the outer world.

Keep in mind surrender is not giving up. It’s just the opposite. Happiness and ease comes from being one with our life in the present moment. Being one with our life is accepting what IS then doing something about it. It’s certainly difficult to create something new if you’re stuck and in the middle of fighting a battle!

If you are at war resisting your circumstances you’ll have very little energy left for anything else. Your circumstance (or growth period) is not who you are. It is when you give up trying to fight and control every little thing that comes up that you will feel a sense of ease.

Surrender! Make love not war!!!

“Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. the world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.”~ Marianne Williamson

Are you ready to say YES to life? Surrender! Put down your resistance and weapons of war. Let go of the negative internal dialogue and love yourself.The very second you decide to let go and surrender you WIN! Everytime you say YES you choose to make love not war.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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Step Out of the Shadows! It’s Time to Shine!

Shadow“Man stands in his own shadow and wonders why it’s dark”~Zen Proverb

A shadow is caused by a shape or object placed in front of a light source. In fact without the light, there would be no shadow; It would simply be darkness.

How often does our attention go towards the shadow without a moments thought of the light that’s already there? How often do we get in the way of our light then find ourselves engulfed in the shadows,  never thinking we are good enough because we don’t see the light?

It’s easy to get caught up in the darkness and isolation of the shadow self; To hide and immerse yourself in the shadow of self-doubt, self-loathing or self-punishment and so I now ask….when was the last time you chose to look at your own light?

When was the last time you chose to see at all those places where you really shine? What if doing so was as easy as turning around to look at yourself? Think about it. Where there is a shadow, there is light yet how often do you find yourself staring at the darkness of the shadow? If you are only seeing the shadow side, you are denying the light.

loveshadow

Keep in mind I’m not suggesting shadows are bad. Shadows give us a beautiful perspective when we have our amusement and consider we are being illuminated from another angle.

Creating shadows is great fun! Remember how much you enjoyed making shadow animals on the wall or making shapes in the sunlight?

What I am encouraging you to do here is to turn around, so to speak. Look at your light and not only see it BUT STAND IN IT! See what is already there!

Once you decide to see your light you may even discover the shadow you were so focused on wasn’t even your shadow, it was someone else’s. If you’re trying to “solve” or “fix” something and things aren’t changing it’s a good bet IT IS NOT YOUR ENERGY! Simply allow whatever it is you’ve tried to solve simply ‘be’ then bid it a fond farewell as you let it go.

Are you ready to step out of the shadows? Are you prepared to see your light?  If so, grab your sunglasses because you will truly be in for a treat! You are light and bright and your shadow is fun to play with! Get ready! It is time to shine!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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New Moon, Solar Eclipse, New Beginnings!

Solar Eclipses are profound turning points that bring endings, new beginnings, and major changes.

New moons are all about making a “clean sweep” and creating new opportunities.

Separately these cosmic events pack a powerful punch. When they come together, we’re in for a few life-altering, power packed days!

Ready or not, eclipses have the power to literally ‘eclipse out’ things in your life that no longer serve you. In addition to the instant release, what you want and need is going to come crashing into your awareness with clarity. You can welcome these changes or resist them.

If you welcome the energy and rise to the challenges presented, you will maximize your potential to gently let go of what’s not working, live life on your own terms and flourish; You free up your valuable time and energy sooner. If you resist the challenges, the process could be painful and it’s going to take you a lot longer to move through them.

Everyone is being affected by this cosmic event so you are not alone! While I am not an astrologer I do read energy and in the days leading up to this eclipse I’ve been contacted by many people who are experiencing disturbing dreams, noticing unfounded fears and experiencing seemingly abrupt awakenings. “Instant awareness” can be a bit unnerving and disconcerting.

Since eclipses bring about endings and beginnings you may find clarity about past events. The answers you seek and those people or situations which are not in alignment with your path will become obvious. An eclipse will magnify and, in essence, show you the ‘cracks’ (and what seeped into those cracks) in your foundation.

As you find clarity during this powerful time you may step into your power and decide to embark upon a new path. Be aware that with every “step up” comes letting go and it may feel like you are grieving. This is a natural part of the process so embrace it and be where you are.

One more aspect to be aware of is Mercury begins its retrograde cycle in a few days. We are already feeling the effects of the slow down. There’s no better time for reflection and release. Resolve issues and end past agreements with love and forgiveness for yourself and others. Allow the powerful one two punch of the new moon and solar eclipse to give you strength and propel you into your new beginning!

Clarity is not only about seeing what has passed so you can resolve past issues. It is about seeing with clarity those things you wish to create. Having a clear picture of where you want to go and what you want to do helps you build a foundation for the future and there is no better time than today to harness the power of the eclipse to help you do that!

There are many more astrological aspects to this eclipse in Virgo but I’ll leave those to the wonderful star gazers and astrologers out there. The information presented is for you to know that eclipses cause abrupt awakenings and transformations. Take comfort in knowing the new moon helps you make a “clean sweep” and coupled with the eclipse, you are being offered the opportunity to create new beginnings.

Use today’s powerful conjunction of the new moon solar eclipse in Virgo to fling open new doors. Embrace and enjoy your clarity. Welcome new opportunities and beautiful new beginnings!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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How to Recognize Growth & Expansion as Spirit

Growth and expansion. Emerging.“My destination is no longer a place, rather a new way of seeing.”~Marcel Proust

There are personal messages in all that you see and all you are aware of. Your growth and expansion as a being is about increasing awareness and learning how to use what’s going on “outside” of you to heal and release those things “inside”.

Growth and expansion is really a “clearing out” to making more room for you come IN. The more of your energy you’re able to bring IN the more growth and expansion.

Recognizing those areas where you are growing and expanding as well as those messages which help guide your direction are found in your day-to-day circumstances and what you are attracting into your life at any given moment. You can also choose to use every outer circumstance for inner growth.

For example: They are replacing the windows in my building. The replacements are thicker, sturdy, a different style and of course, they are new and totally clean. The project will be messy, inconvenient, at times uncomfortable, and I will have to actually leave my home for at least one day while they take out the old and replace with the new.

Now that is enough in and of itself however it’s not just the window replacement. The condo next to me recently purchased and gutted it for renovation. Hmmm more construction. Add to that the building next door is in process of being torn down to make room for a new store and 40 story building. Hmmmm more construction! I’m surrounded by major construction projects all of which are in process of tearing everything down to make space for sparkly, new.

“Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.”~Heath L. Buckmaster

How do we use the construction to recognize and confirm our growth and expansion? Well, for starters, we are all construction projects. We start asking questions. Where are our walls? What are the limits that stop us from building a beautiful new building. What are we in the middle of now? What walls and limits are solidly in place either by our choosing or because, at some level, we consciously or unconsciously agreed to not go beyond those walls?

When we speak of windows we are reminded of seeing with more clarity and certainty. What if we viewed our inner and outer world with an expanded perspective? What if we choose to see beyond our current horizons? What if it’s more about building upon a more solid foundation and emerging?

Growth and expansion is rarely convenient, comfortable, neat and tidy. More often than not, as with all construction projects, it is not only the opposite but just like construction projects, there are twists and turns and possible delays!

“I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”~Rainer Maria Rilke

Recognizing your growth and expansion is no different from asking questions, reviewing where you’ve been, what you’ve learned and acknowledging how far you have already come. Life is about becoming. It is a learning experience always under construction.

Live your questions and be aware of the answers you are receiving. Growth and expansion is not necessarily about a bolt of lightning or an epiphany, although it could be. Most times you don’t have to go any farther “than your own backyard” as Dorothy states in the Wizard of Oz.

What you attract, the thread of commonality that runs through your day-to-day life, is how you start to recognize where you are and what you’re working on. What you are going through shows you what you CAN and probably are, working on to move forward.

See through new eyes! Build upon a new foundation! Live your questions! Emerge and embrace the person you are meant to be.~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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Stop Blaming. Start Forgiving and Healing

Stop Blaming Start Forgiving and Healing“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.~J. Michael Straczynski

Are you blaming someone or something for your current experience? Of course it’s THEIR fault! It’s the economy, family, your boyfriend or girlfriend, how you were brought up.. .who did it TO you. These are just a few of the “outer” situations or people we tend to “blame” when things become challenging in our lives. The problem is blame will never get you anywhere. Blame means a part of your valuable energy is stuck and holding on to the past. Blame means not taking responsibility for any part of the situation. It also takes forgiveness and healing out of the picture.

Blame is a way of rationalizing and making sense of chaos. It is far easier to blame others than to look inside and take responsibility for our part. The moment we stop blaming and start forgiving is the moment we start healing and moving on with our lives.

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”~Robert Anthony

In order to heal, create change, and move on with our lives we must take responsibility for our part. Now, I hear you saying you had no part in the creation of the problem (challenge or situation).  I may not be very popular the moment I say you ALWAYS play a part in it but it IS the truth. Maybe you were (are) afraid. Maybe you were (are) not fully aware of your impact on the situation. Maybe you saw, heard or felt something through your filters.

Blaming others is not the answer. Blaming yourself is not the answer. These are never the answers because blame holds on to the past. The longer you “blame” the more the past gets embellished and the more energy you have caught up in a past that is no longer truth but an illusion.

Your true power lies in the ability to forgive others for their part and forgive yourself for your part. It may mean you have to forgive yourself for zigging when you should have zagged. It may mean you must forgive yourself for something you did or said in the past. It may mean you have to forgive someone who deeply hurt you. It may mean you must forgive yourself for being afraid or in resistance.

Regardless of what you find yourself forgiving, you’ll know immediately when you are free because it will feel like a weigh is lifted off your shoulders. You are able to look at the situation or other person without anger, fear or blame and you begin creating things and moving forward again.

“Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”~Erica Jong

It’s interesting to note the word “blame”. As written it looks like B Lame or more to the point B (eing) Lame. It takes a strong and courageous person to end the blame game and take their life into their own hands. It takes a strong and courageous person to forgive. One of the bravest things you can do is look in the mirror, accept you played some part and forgive yourself. Look in the mirror! Be brave! FORGIVE!~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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Shift Your Attitude to Gratitude!

In honor of the upcoming Thanksgiving Holiday in the USA it is time to explore and tune into the energy of gratitude and giving thanks. Having gratitude for what you have and all that you are is a powerful energy that will change everything in your life!

When was the last time you took a moment to look around and appreciate, I mean REALLY appreciate, all that you already have? How about yourself? When was the last time you sat quietly to appreciate and give thanks to your body for all it does for you? Been a while? If so, it’s time to CULTIVATE your GRATITUDE!

Gratitude and giving thanks allows you to have more in your life  by healing what you wish to heal and creating a space for more! It takes your attention out of the past or future and into the present which is where all creating takes place.  It sends a message into the universe that you are grateful for everything you have NOW.

Think of it this way, if you brought a gift to someone and they didn’t say thank you, then you brought another and they tossed it aside with no acknowledgement, do you think you would continue to give them gifts? You are receiving miracles and gifts on a daily basis. Having gratitude for these gifts sends a vibration into the universe. What message are you sending?

As an energy vibration gratitude can heal a broken heart, clear communication or stuck energy, and brings awareness to the abundance you already have in your life. Gratitude is naturally open and full of forgiveness.

Gratitude and giving thanks is not mutually exclusive to the positive things in your life. It also means finding gratitude for those difficult lessons, people who have hurt, invalidated or annoyed you. It means finding gratitude for those challenging lessons we all face every now and again. These people and experiences help us heal at a deep level in often profound ways.

It may not be easy to find gratitude for someone who broke your heart but give thanks and be grateful for the beautiful moments they brought you. You wouldn’t have had those beautiful moments or the experience if they hadn’t come into your life. There is a lesson you learned and more often than not, you discovered how strong and capable you really are!

How do you begin changing and shifting your attitude to gratitude? Very simply start a gratitude journal and every day for the next 30 days (or longer) jot down at least 5 things you are grateful for. Take time to think about and embody your gratitude as you write. Be sure to include those circumstances or people  you are having a challenge with.

Have gratitude for the lessons you have learned and the people who brought you those lessons. There is always something to appreciate and be grateful for even if it’s a hard lesson. Don’t forget gratitude for all that YOU are and the abundance that already surrounds you. Notice how your mood changes the more you write!

Creating change is a process and initially change is invisible because it happens on a vibrational level.  That said, these changes ARE affecting your life. At first you will notice subtle changes, then as you continue the process, the changes you see and feel are more profound! You hold in your hands the power to cultivate the ATTITUDE of GRATITUDE! Take time each day to appreciate your loved ones, your body & spirit, ALL you are and ALL you have!

In the spirit of Thanksgiving I want to extend my deepest gratitude and appreciation to each one of you.  You touch my life with your light and inspire me to continue doing my work in this world. 🙂 BOUNTIFUL BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOURS!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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