Years ago loft spaces were reserved for artists, dancers, and the avant-garde. A few years after the movie “Flashdance” came out (1983) people started asking me about purchasing those very cool loft spaces to live in or as a live/work space. They wanted open space with no walls so they could define individual spaces with nothing more than furniture and their imagination. What’s so cool about a traditional loft (as opposed to a soft loft with walls defining the bedrooms) is that those big open spaces give you a feeling of well, space. 🙂 Although completely open, there are no walls to walk around and once defined creates the illusion of seperate areas while at the same time offering a sense of openess. It is totally up to you how you want to divide and define the space. Since it is your home or work space it’s also up to you who you’d like to invite in.
You have an energetic space….Do you define it?
Much like a loft space needs you to define the space, your energy body does as well. If you don’t know where your space is, any old thing can get in. This is why you might have days that leave you feeling like you were hit by a truck. Healers and empaths are particularly vulnerable to energy and if you don’t define your personal space you are going to soak up everyone else’s problems, emotions, and pain like a sponge. I’m frequently asked how to keep out energy vampires who suck the life right out of you. When you define and occupy your space this simply cannot happen. It’s not your responsibility to soak up or hold on to other peoples ‘stuff’. I’m sure you have more than enough of your own to deal with. So how do you protect your space by defining it?
Putting up walls….
Walls are a way to define space however they can be closed in. We put a wall up here and a wall up there and pretty soon those walls actually point us in a different direction because we have to walk around them. Protecting your energetic space is very much the same thing. If you put up walls to protect yourself it doesn’t just keep out the negative, it keeps out the positive too! Putting up walls puts you in effort and resistance. It may also be that someone has created those walls for you. Are you walking around any walls which someone else built? Again think of it like a home. Have you ever wanted to open up a wall that was already there so you could open up the space? Are the pre-defined walls you must walk around possibly changing your direction? You don’t have to put up walls to protect your space!
Draw a line in the sand!
Protecting your space is much like drawing a line in the sand. You create a space (or boundary if you’d prefer to call it that) which defines where you are. You allow others to come in by agreement. When you’re in a relationship for instance you WANT to share intimate space with a special person but you can still own your space within the relationship. 🙂 Picture yourself in a gold bubble of energy which comes out about 3 feet all around you. Fully occupy the gold bubble and fill it with your happy thoughts. Consider it a safe, peaceful place. Fill yourself up with gold and allow everything else to fall away. Defining your space energetically tells YOU where it is. I can tell you from personal experience it is possible for personal energy to take up a whole room. I will also tell you that it doesn’t feel good when you do that! When you clearly define your space not only will you feel more comfortable but you won’t be affected by the energies of everyone in the room.
Practice makes perfect
Imagining yourself walking around in a bubble of energy takes a bit of practice but don’t just use it when you are with those who push your buttons and get to you. Practice when it doesn’t count! Think of it as a fun game just to see what happens! There are many ways to define your space and this is just one of them. No matter which method you decide to use, take time to practice until it becomes natural. Effort doesn’t work but your imagination and vision does. Define and create a beautiful space that you enjoy being in. Protect yourself by being in your happy place!~Shine Your Light Debbie
Note: Want to learn how to protect your space? “Protecting Your Space” meditation workshop is now available for purchase on my website.
©Debra Taitel 2012 All Rights Reserved
8 thoughts on “Are you an Energy Sponge? Protect your space by defining it…”
Hi, thanks for liking my blog ‘everyday spiritual wisdom’ 🙂 I don’t have great success finding other blogs on spiritual things but thanks to your like, now I’ve found you,x
Hi Fiona! Yes we have found each other. 🙂 I’m writing a blog now and including your post on Your Unique Energy Signature as a related article link. You should be receiving a pingback shortly 🙂 xo ~Debbie
I often find myself having this conversation with people!!
It’s such an important distinction!! Thank you for addressing it,xx
I teach people a few energetic tools in meditation workshops. So many put the blame on others. It’s not really up to anyone else to stay out of your space. It’s up to you to be IN it 😉always a good conversation! You’re welcome!
🙂 totally agree!!
I upset a spiritually aware person the other day when I said exactly that, almost exactly using the words blame & ownership etc. Perhaps not my most tactful moment, I think I let my passion for this override my compassion for her perspective in the moment.
However a painful truth is better than a comforting lie in my books,xx
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