How do you want to be loved?

lovemoon“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”~Oscar Wilde

As human beings we all seek to love and be loved. Love cannot be explained, measured or seen. It is a feeling that comes from deep within our soul.

There is no greater power in the world than love. It makes us feel alive, makes our hearts sing and brings a sense of purpose and contentment.

We seek love and yet it sometimes eludes us. We have thoughts of what we think love IS. We have thoughts about what we think it should be but when was the last time someone asked you the question “how do you want to be loved?” Better yet when was the last time you asked yourself “how do ‘I’ want to be loved?”

I must admit that I’ve never asked myself this question. I know “who” and “what” I’m looking for but never have I explored HOW I want to be loved. When this very question was brought to my attention in a recent dance performance I attended called “The Seventh Love” (an original work written and directed by David Kersnar, performed by Natya Dance Theater)  I realized not only how important it is to ask but how profound and powerful it is in the asking.

How can you love someone the way they want to be loved without asking them the question “how do you want to be loved?” How will someone love you the way you want to be loved if you haven’t first asked yourself this question to really know how it is you want to be loved? How can someone possibly love you the way you want to be loved if you don’t first love yourself how you want to be loved?

The “act” of loving is different than the pure vibration of love that resides within each of us. Accessing our own unique vibration of love, being that love and allowing it to pour forth allows us to “actively” love ourselves and others. We show others how we want to be loved by loving ourselves how we want to be loved.

Pure unconditional love is a vibration filled with acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing. It is not until we connect with ourselves and the vibration that we can even begin to answer the question. The answer in “The Seventh Love” was as profound as the question. “By allowing me to love the way I want to be loved”.  Expression of divine inner love comes from a place of allowing yourself to love and be loved freely without judgement, attachment to an outcome or expectation.

How do I want to be loved? I want to be accepted for who I am and allowed to express that love without reservation. I want to be loved with respect and affection and allowed to love with respect and affection.  I want to be loved for the divine spark that resides within. I want to be loved freely, without judgement or expectation. As I love myself in this way I show others and it tells others how I want to be loved.

Romance your soul. Explore and discover how you want to be loved. Ask another how they want to be loved and allow them to love the way they want to be loved. Love YOURSELF the way you want to be loved and have a lifelong romance!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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See What Connects You; Not What Separates You!

We Are All One in LoveToday’s Healing Message: See What Connects You; Not What Separates You!

Have you ever felt alone, isolated and separate? Have you ever felt unloved or like everyone else is having all the fun and you’re not? Have you ever asked the question ‘what’s wrong with me?’ then focused your attention on all those things you think are wrong with you?

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of those questions you may want to shift your focus and awareness into the present moment. Connect with yourself and the universe as it IS.

You are connected when your energy and awareness is in the present with yourself and all that is around you. What separates you are those thoughts that keep you in the past or worrying about the future. In essence you lose your connection with yourself and your surroundings and go right into the pictures and illusions your mind has created.

When you are living or stuck in a picture of illusion it not only takes on a life of its own but it grows. You are actually fueling the illusion thereby separating yourself from the present and more than likely the facts. This also separates you from your connections with others because you’re “lost in thought”and not connected with the present and what’s going on right in front of you. It’s also possible you isolate yourself from others because you don’t feel you’re “in a good place” or “happy enough” or you’re “bad”.

If you truly take a few moments to see where those feelings are coming from you will find pictures from the past or worry about the future. When you begin to re-connect with the present moment, you are not only pulling your energy from the illusions of the past but you are acknowledging the here and now.  You are connecting with all that IS not what WAS or is YET TO BE.

In the present there is no guilt from the past. In the present there is no worry about the future. Connecting with yourself is as simple as sitting in a chair, feeling the earth beneath your feet and breathing in the glorious air. It is as simple as feeling the warmth of the sun on your face. It is as simple as feeling the love that comes from within you.

With every step and breath you take you are connecting with the earth and universe. Your awareness connects you with YOU.  You connect with others by remaining present with yourself and them. Why separate yourself with thoughts of the past or dreading a future which has not unfolded? You, WE are all connected as unique individuals.

See and know what connects you with yourself. What are you passionate about? What do you love? How does it feel when the warm sun shines on your face as it brightens the world around you? See and know the love of friends and family. It is there but you may not see it in your separate state of mind. Connect with the present and see what is indeed already there. You don’t have to separate when you are in the here and now.

See and focus on your connections and watch your world and the world around you transform!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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