Ask Before You Heal Others….

looking-into-darknessAre you a healer or a psychic reader? Do you go around healing everyone and everything or giving “readings” to those who have not asked you directly to help them?

This is very common in the spiritual community as more people open up to their natural abilities and are looking to validate their experience.

“Some people walk through a hallway with covered mirrors– the hallway is lined with mirrors but there are blankets covering each of them. They go through life believing in an image of themselves that isn’t real, and an image of themselves standing in the world and relative to the world, that isn’t real.

If you happen to be in that hallway and pull the blankets off the mirrors, they’re going to think that you’re hurting them; but they’re actually just seeing their reflection for the first time. Sometimes the most horrendous thing a person can see, is all the hidden things inside them, the things they’ve covered, the things they choose not look at. And you’re not hurting them, you’re setting them free.”~C. JoyBell C.

Yes, some people do walk through a hallway with covered mirrors however I’d like you to consider asking yourself if it is truly your responsibility to uncover those mirrors without permission. For sure I am guilty of uncovering mirrors without permission but as I work to expand my awareness it happens less often if at all.

When you randomly uncover mirrors without permission, no matter how pure your intent, someone is going to get angry or feel like you hurt them. They may blast you with energy. They may project their inner pain on to you as if you were the original cause (this is very common) or you may find them running for the proverbial hills. What you consider ‘uncovering mirrors’ to set someone free might be the last thing THEY want for themselves and although it might not make sense they truly feel as if you hurt them.

Perhaps you’d like to ask why someone wouldn’t want to be free? As a spiritual seeker and visionary I can honestly tell you I ask all the time. I ask it of myself and I ask it when I see others walking through that hallway of covered mirrors.

While I don’t have a general answer for others, for myself the answer is to uncover every single mirror. I want to dig in and dig deep. I WANT to look at those things held deep inside to create change, growth and expansion. I WANT to be free.

Perhaps you feel the same as I do, however, others may not be ready or want to dig in to uncover and look at what they consider ‘horrendous’ things. What each of us has to recognize and respect is where a person is and what they are seeking may be very different from what WE are seeking or doing for ourselves.

It’s also important to recognize that what is really happening is the ‘perception’ that certain things buried deep inside are horrendous. I know some very lovely people who do amazing things on the outside yet think they are monsters and horrible people on the inside. What they don’t realize is that no matter what they do in the outer world, how they feel on the inside shows on the outside whether they choose to look or not.

The reality in all of this is NONE OF IT IS REAL! The only horrendous things in our reflections are the ones we’ve chosen not to forgive ourselves (or others) for. The only horrendous things that keep us from our freedom are illusions which are rarely based on facts. When we grow these illusions and believe them to be real we find ourselves “believing in an image [of OURselves] that isn’t real, and an image [ of OURselves] standing in the world and relative to the world, that isn’t real”

While at first one might uncover the mirror and see only pain and darkness, what lies beneath is pure spirit. The true healing is releasing the illusion. Once you see and open up to the spirit that you are you experience a world filled with light, curiosity, creativity and miracles.

All of that said, if you choose to uncover mirrors I highly recommend you choose to do so with your own mirrors first. Choosing a spiritual path is not an easy journey. It means choosing to look into the darkness. It means digging deep, letting go of ego and illusion, and forgiving yourself and others.It means seeing truth, acknowledging spirit and admitting (and forgiving yourself for) your ego getting in the way.

Regardless of how much you think you can help someone, all healing is self-healing. Allow others to be where they are. If you choose to help others with their growth, do so with full verbal permission as their guide and mentor.

What’s right for you may not be what’s right for others.Honor where they are and live your own miracle. I can tell you from personal experience that living the miracle of spirit is well worth it.~Shine Your Light Debbie 
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Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant Visionary, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

You’ll Get Through It!

sandstormLast night a dear friend called and told me she didn’t ever think she would be happy again. She went through an epic betrayal which later led to her divorce.

It’s difficult to know what to say when someone is telling you they want to give up because they are convinced they will never be happy again. Especially when it’s clear they are still in the middle of the storm.

If you ARE in the middle of a storm, you can’t see or hear anything but the nasty loop that constantly runs through your head. You can’t hear or see anything but the “I should have, could have or why didn’t I” as you review each and every moment of your relationship. We’ve all been in that place to varying degrees at one time or another, myself included.

There is nothing you need to fix or solve. You are not wrong for feeling the way you do. Maybe you did or didn’t do anything wrong. You can only take responsibility and own your part….can you forgive yourself for not being aware? Can you forgive yourself for those times you didn’t hear, or weren’t paying full attention? Can you forgive yourself for having beautiful hopes and dreams? Can you acknowledge the hurt?

Despite all that is happening, the storm and the chaos has nothing to do with you! What happened, what is possibly happening now, while you’re in the middle of it, feels awful. There is seemingly no sun, no moon, no hope; and it feels as if it’s never going to end but let me assure you it will.

The past, the break-up, the separation, causes a hurt that you don’t feel will ever end yet the past is in the past. It’s already happened. You got through it day-by-day. You survived! Now it’s time to go inside and release all that was stirred up by the outside storm.

The storm can’t keep going unless you feed it with your thoughts. While this is true, I know it doesn’t offer comfort for the turmoil in your mind and the pain that it causes. Just because someone isn’t physically standing over you with a baseball bat hitting you over the head doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt as if they were.

I came across the following passage that directly speaks to what happens:

“Sometimes fate is like a small sandstorm that keeps changing directions. You change direction but the sandstorm chases you. You turn again, but the storm adjusts. Over and over you play this out, like some ominous dance with death just before dawn. Why? Because this storm isn’t something that blew in from far away, something that has nothing to do with you. This storm is you. Something inside of you. So all you can do is give in to it, step right inside the storm, closing your eyes and plugging up your ears so the sand doesn’t get in, and walk through it, step by step. There’s no sun there, no moon, no direction, no sense of time. Just fine white sand swirling up into the sky like pulverized bones. That’s the kind of sandstorm you need to imagine.

And you really will have to make it through that violent, metaphysical, symbolic storm. No matter how metaphysical or symbolic it might be, make no mistake about it: it will cut through flesh like a thousand razor blades. People will bleed there, and you will bleed too. Hot, red blood. You’ll catch that blood in your hands, your own blood and the blood of others.

And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”~Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore

While I don’t necessarily agree one should keep their eyes closed I read the passage as sometimes we must shut out all the extraneous noise to go within. To quiet the voices in our heads; the thoughts in our minds. To bring comfort and kindness to our bodies.

You are stronger than you think. Have courage, faith and hope because it’s really true that once the storm is over you will be forever changed and you won’t be the same person who walked in.~Shine Your Light Debbie

This is for my best girls K and L and D. I love you all and I’m here in spirit holding your hand every step of the way!

©Debra Taitel 2016 All Rights Reserved
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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.