How do you want to be loved?

lovemoon“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”~Oscar Wilde

As human beings we all seek to love and be loved. Love cannot be explained, measured or seen. It is a feeling that comes from deep within our soul.

There is no greater power in the world than love. It makes us feel alive, makes our hearts sing and brings a sense of purpose and contentment.

We seek love and yet it sometimes eludes us. We have thoughts of what we think love IS. We have thoughts about what we think it should be but when was the last time someone asked you the question “how do you want to be loved?” Better yet when was the last time you asked yourself “how do ‘I’ want to be loved?”

I must admit that I’ve never asked myself this question. I know “who” and “what” I’m looking for but never have I explored HOW I want to be loved. When this very question was brought to my attention in a recent dance performance I attended called “The Seventh Love” (an original work written and directed by David Kersnar, performed by Natya Dance Theater)  I realized not only how important it is to ask but how profound and powerful it is in the asking.

How can you love someone the way they want to be loved without asking them the question “how do you want to be loved?” How will someone love you the way you want to be loved if you haven’t first asked yourself this question to really know how it is you want to be loved? How can someone possibly love you the way you want to be loved if you don’t first love yourself how you want to be loved?

The “act” of loving is different than the pure vibration of love that resides within each of us. Accessing our own unique vibration of love, being that love and allowing it to pour forth allows us to “actively” love ourselves and others. We show others how we want to be loved by loving ourselves how we want to be loved.

Pure unconditional love is a vibration filled with acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing. It is not until we connect with ourselves and the vibration that we can even begin to answer the question. The answer in “The Seventh Love” was as profound as the question. “By allowing me to love the way I want to be loved”.  Expression of divine inner love comes from a place of allowing yourself to love and be loved freely without judgement, attachment to an outcome or expectation.

How do I want to be loved? I want to be accepted for who I am and allowed to express that love without reservation. I want to be loved with respect and affection and allowed to love with respect and affection.  I want to be loved for the divine spark that resides within. I want to be loved freely, without judgement or expectation. As I love myself in this way I show others and it tells others how I want to be loved.

Romance your soul. Explore and discover how you want to be loved. Ask another how they want to be loved and allow them to love the way they want to be loved. Love YOURSELF the way you want to be loved and have a lifelong romance!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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A Message to Heal Your Heart….

Today’s healing message is about love and healing your heart. All of us have had our hearts hurt at one time or another and it sometimes causes us to retreat and hide. There are those longing for love yet have been so hurt in the past they bury it deeply within the heart. They are no longer able to bare their soul, be who they are and shine from within lest they be hurt again.

Love makes you vulnerable but it is that very love, the love you have in your heart, which has strength beyond measure. Love allows your soul to “crawl out from its hiding place”.  Although we love others and wish to be loved, love is not anything outside of you. Love is within you. You came from love and you ARE love. Your soul IS love!

The best way to heal a sad heart is to find that love within and start loving yourself again. Surround yourself in the love you are. Embrace the love in your heart. Love is never ‘not good enough’. Love is never ‘wrong’. What makes one feel that way is the ego and mind thinking love is outside of you. Love is not a thing to be chased after because it’s already inside you. Love is a vibration that brightens your spirit allows you to shine.

Close your eyes for a moment. Imagine yourself radiating and sitting in the middle of a place of pure love. Breathe in the love that is surrounding you and allow it to transform any pain you feel. Exhale what has now been transformed into love to send love out into the world. If someone has hurt you, allow yourself to bring in the light of forgiveness and imagine them in a bubble of love outside of you then bring your attention back to radiating and surrounding yourself in your own love vibration.

If you are seeking love, you must find it within yourself lest you find yourself in a game of hide and seek. Perhaps it’s not someone else who is “it” in the game. What if the “it” who is seeking is you and what if your soul came out of hiding? Imagine the possibilities of shining instead of hiding. Bare your soul by radiating love! Allow your soul to come out play for awhile!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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