SELF AWARE – Page 12

How many times in your life have you asked someone to excuse you? Asking to be excused is a form of politeness and in some cases, like when you were in school and needed to be excused from class, you brought a note from your parents.

The english language is tricky if it is not your mother tongue but it is interesting that the same word is used to pardon or release someone AND to offer a reason for something you cannot or won’t do. Have you ever taken note of how many times you say “excuse me” or how many “excuses” you make each day?

Who or what are you exactly excusing and to whom? Are you somehow justifying or rationalizing something to yourself in the process? Do you find yourself making excuses for someone else? More importantly are you being truthful when you are asking to be excused or making the excuse? If you take ownership of the things you do or say there is no need for an excuse! Ownership means taking responsibility for your actions, words, and choices and how they may have affected someone else…or possibly even how the excuses you make affect your own life.

Being polite is wonderful and I’m sure you’ll agree that we try to be polite to each other but when you excuse and make excuses to yourself you are not taking ownership of a decision that consciously or unconsciously you have made. Exploring WHY you chose a particular word, action (or inaction), or why you made a certain choice leads you to learning more about yourself. Taking an inner journey and becoming aware of the “why” opens the door to change those things you wish to change. Why did you say or not say this or that? Why did you choose that action or inaction? Why did you make that particular choice at all?

Every thought, deed or action has a learning experience tied to it. Your awareness and ownership of the choices you make can lead you on a very interesting journey of the soul. You don’t have to change for others and in fact it’s not a good plan to try to fit in with the status quo because it doesn’t come from your heart; If however there are things you’d like to change about yourself, look within to see the foundation that you built those choices upon.

Did YOU build that foundation? Is it built on your truth? Who was the contractor who helped you build it or have you built that foundation on outdated habits and/or ego? It may be that the foundation of the choices you make excuses for today was laid or programmed by someone else yet you’ve built upon that foundation for so long, it has become a part of your reality!

This is not about being right or wrong in a situation. It’s about owning your choices and taking responsibility for them. If you make a mistake own it and learn from it. Clear the energy, the guilt and forgive yourself. Once the light of awareness illuminates an excuse consider it an opportunity to learn and heal.

So please excuse the excuse! Take ownership of your life and stop making excuses! If you find yourself making excuses for (to) yourself or someone else in your life own them, forgive yourself and meditate on why. YOU have the power to change, heal and create a better YOU when and if you choose to take responsibility! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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“We’re so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it is all about.”~Joseph Campbell

Remember a long time ago when you were promised a prize inside of a box of cereal, cracker jack or your ‘happy meal’? You searched through the box wanting little to do with the food until you found that coveted prize! Although the prizes were little more than cheap pieces of plastic or paper, you not only valued finding them but they had value to you.

As one grows older what you value changes. The ‘prize’ is very different. It could be something like being asked to the prom, spending time with family & friends, owning a home or car, and in this work-a-day world a vacation or adventure. No longer is there excitement about dumping out the box, moving everything else aside to find the cheap, valueless prize inside the box. When you’re 5 there’s a great deal of value in that prize but by the time you’re 35…. not so much!

What prizes do you seek that hold value for you today?

Is it money? Time? Space? A relationship? Fame? Happiness? How do you go about emptying the box of all the ‘stuff’ that surrounds and covers up all that you seek? What is the value and meaning when you ‘find the prize’? More importantly when you get to the prize does it still hold the same value and meaning you thought it would?

Have you ever noticed how sometimes the prize isn’t as great as you imagined it? It might feel like something is missing or it didn’t bring about the ecstatic joy you thought it would. The reason for this happening is that if you are seeking a prize from an external source, it will never have true, infinite value and meaning until you find the real prize.

The REAL and most valuable prize you can find is within you!

You ARE the prize! You have value that goes beyond that which words can describe and until you value yourself and what’s already inside, nothing outside of you will confirm how valuable you really are. Money is nice but it’s not going to bring you value. Fame is great but it will never validate who you are until you do! It’s difficult under the best circumstances to find or even recognize true happiness until you find it within!

Every breath you take has value and meaning in this world!

Everything is energy vibrating at a different speed therefore everything you do, every breath you take, every choice you make has an effect on your inner world AND the one you live in! Your value is not measured by your wealth, how much you have, your status or fame. You value and self-worth is determined by how you see and what you feel and think about yourself!

Empty out the box called your life and find your inner value not based on those things outside of you or what you do but based on the very thing that gives you life…the prize inside…YOU! Appreciate and think of yourself as the prize and watch as things change! Cha Ching! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer and intuitive coach providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. Based in Chicago, Debra also leads meditation workshops that help people awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts. To schedule a session or for more information on readings and workshops please visit her website or send an email request to Debra@SpiritLightInsight.com .