Get Back on the Bike!

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” ~Albert Einstein

In the early morning ‘waking hours’ when I was aware but not fully in the body I clearly saw a bicycle leaning on a concrete wall.

I was a bit confused at the seemingly random image so I asked the question “what’s the bike doing there” and the reply came quickly “get back on the bike”.

Now I should probably explain that many years ago I taught myself to do what I call ‘dream walking’. The general idea is to have awareness in my dreams so I can observe, find meaning and ask questions. The only rules are while I can observe and ask questions I can’t change the direction or outcome of the dream.

The point is to open up to a deep level of consciousness and see what I’m processing and learning. You could say I’m observing and making conscious what is usually unconscious in the dream state. One of the many benefits of ‘dream walking’ is that I remember my dreams and the answers that I receive in those dreams.

In this particular dream seeing the bike leaned up against the wall didn’t seem all that profound. There wasn’t a lot of color in the image. It was just a bike leaning on a wall in what looked like a back alley of some sort. When I asked more questions (of myself) as I observed the scene I saw ‘the bigger picture’.

Around the corner from where the bike was positioned there were beautiful vistas, countless paths, bright orange sunlight glistening on fields and mountains. Everything was wide open. I, of course, asked the next logical question, “what’s this got to do with the bike?” and again I heard “get back on the bike”.

In those early morning hours before I was fully awake I looked back and forth from the dingy alley with little to no color, to the magnificent vistas filled with light. It was only then I remembered turning into the alley, falling off my bike and then propping it against the wall.

I was standing at the corner between the alley and the path for quite some time but all I could see was the small, dirty, grey alley. Apparently I became stuck in that little alley forgetting the bike was not only there to carry me out but to make the journey easier. A bike can surely take you farther with less effort that your legs right? It was a simple yet profound answer. “Get back on the bike”.

There’s a reason for the saying if you fall off a bike get right back on. The same applies if you get stuck in a picture. You don’t have to keep staring at a grey alley with the very means to continue right in front of your eyes possibly propped up against a wall.

Sometimes it simply takes recognizing you’re a bit stuck; then all you have to do is turn your head towards the light, step out of the picture, dust yourself off and “get back on the bike.”

So many answers in those waking hours put a smile on my face. In fact I woke up feeling refreshed and ready to greet the day. I’m not sure what you have planned for your day but me, I’m getting back on the bike. Won’t you join me? Shine Your Light~Debbie

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Please EXcuse the exCuse’!

How many times in your life have you asked someone to excuse you? How many times have you found yourself making an excuse for yourself or someone else?

Asking to be excused is a polite way of asking to be ‘released’ from a requirement.

A few examples: when you were in school and needed to be excused from class, you brought a note from your parents. Others are when you excuse yourself for bumping into someone or you are trying to get someone’s attention when they are doing something else.

What about the other definitions? The english language  is tricky if it is not your mother tongue but it IS interesting that the same word is used to pardon or release someone (or yourself) from blame as well as to offer a “reason” for something you cannot or choose not to do.

How many times a day do you make an excuse or excuse yourself?

Who or what are you exactly excusing and to whom? Are you somehow justifying  or rationalizing something to yourself in the process? Do you find yourself making excuses for someone else? More importantly are you being truthful when you are asking to be excused or are you simply making an excuse?

When you take ownership of the things you do or say there is no need for an excuse! Ownership means taking responsibility for your actions, words, and choices and how they may have affected someone else or possibly even how the excuses (or excusing yourself) affects your life.

Being polite is not just wonderful, it’s the right thing to do. Of course we try to be polite with each other but it’s a completely different energy when we ‘make excuses’  to assign blame,  or we choose not to take ownership of a decision that we (or someone else) has consciously or unconsciously made.

Oh yes. We not only make excuses for ourselves but we make excuses for others and sometimes we do this to assign blame or avoid the truth. When we make excuses for others we are, at some level, healing them but that, my friends, is a subject for another post.

Take a deep dive into “why”!

Don’t ask why, explore why. Exploring WHY you choose a particular word,  an action (or inaction), or why you made a certain choice leads you to learning more about yourself.

Taking an inner journey to explore the “why” opens the door to forgiveness and change.

What you notice in self-exploration is not to be judged. What you did or didn’t do in the past is probably not how you would handle it now. The important steps to this are to see what you see. Acknowledge what you see. Own what you see. Forgive yourself. Taking ownership has a great deal of freedom that comes along with it.

Every thought, deed or action has a learning experience tied to it. Your awareness and ownership of the choices you make (or made) can lead you on an interesting journey of the soul. You may even find that the choices you made in the past were laid on a foundation of programming built by someone else. If that’s the case, it’s time to build your own house on a foundation of ownership and truth.

This is not about being right or wrong in a situation. It’s about owning your choices and taking responsibility for them. If you make a mistake own it and learn from it. Clear the energy. Clear the guilt. Forgive yourself. Once the light of awareness  illuminates an excuse consider it an opportunity to learn and heal.

So please excuse the excuse! Take ownership of your life and stop making excuses! If you find yourself making excuses for someone else in your life forgive them for their lack of awareness. If you make excuses for yourself, forgive yourself.

YOU have the power to transform your life. You have the power to build a foundation without the need to make excuses. If you don’t want to start now, what’s your excuse? ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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To Heal Yourself and Others, Promise Yourself….

umbrellaToday’s post is a healing message. This morning while searching for a quote I came across a wonderful passage that truly captures self-healing as way of healing ourselves and others.

I was profoundly struck by the following words at the end; “To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. 

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”

In order to heal others, the best thing we can do is be true to ourselves and be the best we can be. It is a commitment or promise we must make with ourselves. Here is the full passage:

Promise Yourself

“To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”
~Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

Yes! “Think well of yourself and proclaim this fact to the world not in loud words but great deeds.” Be true to yourself. Be in alignment with your goals. Love yourself in this way and heal others in the process!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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SIMON SAYS! It’s a control game….

simonsaysRemember the game “Simon Says” from when you were a child? Would you like to play? Come on, humor me, it’s just a fun little game.

The rules of the game are simple. You can only do what “Simon” tells you to do.

Simon says raise your left hand. Simon says put your hands on your hips. Simon says touch your toes.

Simon says touch your nose.  Simon says clap your hands. Simon says blink your eyes. Touch your head. Simon says wiggle your toes. Simon says “say HOORAH!”

Wasn’t that fun?! Did you do everything Simon said? Maybe you found it silly or maybe you simply smiled as you reconnected with a bit of your inner child. (If you didn’t play that’s ok, read on anyway.)

Now let me ask you something, did you touch your head? Did Simon say to do it? If you didn’t touch your head you get to stay in the game. If you did touch your head, you’re out. Bye. Don’t feel bad though. You were just humoring me right? It’s just a silly game….or is it?

From the time we are born we are “taught” to follow the rules, do what we’re told, mind our manners, don’t speak until we are spoken to.  We asked permission to do something or we waited for someone to tell us what to do.  Of course, this is good for children but what happens when the control programming carries over into our adult life?

The game “Simon Says” illustrates how easily we can be programmed to follow the rules and allow others to control us. Simon, the control, tells us to do something and we do it. If Simon doesn’t say it…well, we lost. We failed. We’re out of the game and effectively out of the group.

No one WANTS to lose when their FRIENDS are still playing and so, early on, we figure out that the next time we play the game, all we have to do is make sure that we listen intently to “Simon” the control. We don’t do anything unless Simon Says we should.

Do you, or did you, have a “Simon” in your life? Are you waiting for Simon to say you can DO something? Do you find yourself following the leader so you are part of a group?  Do you spend time responding to rules that may not even apply in present time?

Did you, or are you currently, following someone else’s “rules” or, more importantly, are you still following imaginary rules and playing the game therefore allowing yourself to be controlled by them? If you answered “yes” to any of those questions or you recognize there has been a control at work in your life, maybe it’s time to clear the energy.

If you’re not clear on what I’m taking about think back to a time when an authority figure said to you “Stop it! You’re out of control.” (If no one has ever said that to you, or you haven’t felt that way at some point consider yourself lucky.)

Once you remember that moment ask yourself whose control were you out of? (That’s a hint that maybe the person who said you were out of control meant you were out of their control.) When you become aware of and release the control or “Simon says” pictures that are indeed a part of all of us, you begin to heal a part of you that stops you from being who you truly are.

As you release more “Simons” and stop playing the game you find your freedom and become senior in your space. You are present and in charge as the authority and creator. You come alive with possibilities!

We’ve all allowed ourselves to be controlled or programmed at one time or another but when we start living a more awakened life, those controls hinder and instead of help. If you’re having a challenge with this…I’ll help you out. SIMON SAYS find your freedom!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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When Going With The Flow Includes Rest….

Lake Michigan Peace“Sometimes I feel like if you just watch things, just sit still and let the world exist in front of you – sometimes I swear that just for a second time freezes and the world pauses in its tilt. Just for a second.”~Lauren Oliver

Sometimes ‘going with the flow’ means rest for your mind, body and spirit. Last night I went to bed at 9:30pm with every intention of reading. I almost instantly fell asleep with the book in hand.

This morning I noticed all the effort I’ve been experiencing. I was pushing to communicate with clients. Pushing to clear energy. Pushing to get my new website in order. Pushing to make time for meditation and beating myself up for not writing an inspiring blog post.

Lately I’ve been in a place of “hurry up and finish”, “just get it done now”. I’ve been in effort trying to make my lengthy “to do” list into a fully completed “tah dah” list. The problem is that most of the tasks I need to complete could not possibly get finished in one day. Pushing doesn’t help and all the effort (and resistance causing the pushing) is, quite frankly, exhausting!

I constantly hear those tiny but loud voices pulling me in this or that direction. I know you know of the voices I’m talking about. I’d even bet you’ve heard those voices every now and again! The voices are the dialogues in your head that keep you doing and acting instead of finding stillness and taking pause; the voices that tell you, you should be doing something other than meditating, or resting or really anything you are trying to do for yourself.

My tiny, loud voices acted as a control and because I listened to them, I was ungrounded, unbalanced and unable to focus on any task for very long. What happened was I allowed the energy THAT ISN’T MINE to control my experience (set the energy) instead of me taking charge (setting the energy for myself) and FLOWING IN MY CREATIVITY.

I recognized and acknowledged that the “push me, pull you” thoughts did not serve me well. I was exhausted and simply needed space to be. I needed to rest and relax instead of constantly pushing. With that in mind I decided to take a break from my usual morning routine.

One early morning instead of drinking coffee and scrolling through Facebook, I took a chair to the beach to meditate. I didn’t realize it then but my spirit was guiding me to the very thing I needed most. As the sounds of the city turned into the gentle sound of Lake Michigan waves lapping upon the shore I turned my attention within. (Click here to see the video I took.)

In my meditation I saw how much I’ve been controlled and, at times, consumed by the thoughts pulling me in every direction. Sitting in my beach chair I allowed the sound of the waves to envelop me in peaceful repose. I allowed stillness to replace the loud voices.

The 50 minutes I spent at Oak Street beach shifted my reality and it all happened before 8:30am! Right before the end of my meditation I chose the vibration I wanted for the day. (Trust me, if you’ve never done this before it’s a life changer!) I chose to “go with MY flow” instead of pushing or pulling or struggling. I gave myself permission to focus on finishing one thing at a time. Starting with this post!

The world has become loud and angry and it can be overwhelming. Our busy-ness can be overwhelming. Sometimes we need to take a moment to rest and recharge mind, body, spirit and soul.

Notice if the flow you’ve been going with is even yours. Take a moment to come back to yourself and say bye-bye little voices I’m in charge today.  Change things up and take a moment to rest, recharge and reset! I went to the beach. Where will you go to clear, rest and recharge?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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DECLARE YOUR INDEPENDENCE!

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes.

The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them.

About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”~Rob Siltanen

All of us have certain inalienable rights. Each of us is an individual. We have different thoughts, vibrations, and goals. Each of us have the right to create something of our choosing. It’s a beautiful concept that we are all one, because we are, but at the same time our human experience allows us to be  independent thinkers and creators. The creators, yes sometimes they are called the crazy ones or misfits, are the ones who forge their own path for the good of all.

If we didn’t have these creators and independent thinkers the internet would not exist. We would not have amazing books to read, rockets to the moon, cars, or even some of the things we may take for granted like electricity, telephones or running water in our homes.

We came here this lifetime to learn but also to allow others to learn from us. There are energies that we tap into which are part of the universe and the very earth itself. However, when you become dependent on someone or something outside of you in order to walk your path, it is not YOUR path! You have every right to embark upon the path you choose. This is about you declaring your right to be here. Your right to create. To add to whole.

Yes, we can swim in the sea of universal consciousness and allow those waters to flow through us but each of us has an individual consciousness and very unique vibration. It is up to each of us as individuals to choose (or not choose) how to live our lives.

If you are reading this, you have a body and it is your supreme right to make your own choices. You have the right to follow your dreams! You have the right to find what is true for you. You have the right to choose happiness. You have the right to be who you are and you certainly have the right to live and make conscious choices!

So in the tradition of the US Constitution preamble, declare YOUR independence!

“I (insert your name), in order to form a more perfect union with mind, body & spirit establish justice, insure personal tranquility, provide for happiness, promote and secure the blessings of freedom toward myself & others, do hereby declare that I have a right and deserve to live a conscious life filled with love, truth and infinite abundance.”

No one knows better than you what’s best for you so declare yourself! You have a right to your knowledge; your ability to see and communicate and listen to your inner voice. You have the right to create a beautiful life! You have the right to love and do what feels good. You have the right to create your dreams.

You have the right to have and express your emotions! You have the right to use ALL your abilities! Own who you are as a spiritual being in a body. Own that you have a right to be here and you have a lot to offer!  Be who you truly are in thought, in deed and how your live your life.

Will you be one of the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels or the troublemakers that changes and shapes the world in the days to come? If so, declare your independence and….~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Why Not You?

Why Not You?

“Why Not You?

Today, many will awaken with a fresh sense of inspiration. Why not you?

Today, many will open their eyes to the beauty that surrounds them. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to leave the ghost of yesterday behind and seize the immeasurable power of today. Why not you?

Today, many will break through the barriers of the past by looking at the blessings of the present. Why not you?

Today, for many the burden of self doubt and insecurity will be lifted by the security and confidence of empowerment. Why not you?

Today, many will rise above their believed limitations and make contact with their powerful innate strength. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to live in such a manner that they will be a positive role model for their children. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to free themselves from the personal imprisonment of their bad habits. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to live free of conditions and rules governing their own happiness. Why not you?

Today, many will find abundance in simplicity. Why not you?

Today, many will be confronted by difficult moral choices and they will choose to do what is right instead of what is beneficial. Why not you?

Today, many will decide to no longer sit back with a victim mentality, but to take charge of their lives and make positive changes. Why not you?

Today, many will take the action necessary to make a difference. Why not you?

Today, many will make the commitment to be a better mother, father, son, daughter, student, teacher, worker, boss, brother, sister, & so much more. Why not you?

Today is a new day!

Many will seize this day.

Many will live it to the fullest.

Why not you?” ~Steve Maraboli

Many will read Steve Maraboli’s words and take them to heart. They will find a spark, a ray of hope, inner strength and they will make a choice to become the creator of their life. Are you in the “many” who will not only ask “why not me?” but will step up to the plate?

While we would all love to magically snap our fingers and transform, the magic is not in the snapping of our fingers. The magic begins with making a choice. What seems like a small step or a shifting of thought creates ripples of change. Think of it like throwing small pebble into the water. The ripples it causes are much larger than the pebble itself.

Make a choice to seize the day and live it to its fullest. Make your brightest and best contribution to the whole by choosing to show up, to be you, and to always strive to be the best YOU, you can be.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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The Uncomfortable Truth about Truth.

SetyourselffreeAmandaCass“We swallow greedily any lie that flatters us, but we sip only little by little at a truth we find bitter.”~Denis Diderot

We seek the truth but how often do we choose to ignore it because we didn’t like the answer? “Truth” is more like the unfitted sheet we struggle to fold neatly. More often than not, the truth is a messy tangled web because there’s not necessarily one “truth”.

The truth is beautiful and freeing yet sometimes feels like a terrible thing. It is something to be honored and respected but sometimes, we close our eyes and believe what we want to believe despite the truth.

Sometimes uncovering the lies to see, know and accept the truth hurts. It hurts because if someone has lied to you, it means at some level THEY didn’t want to own up to the truth. It also means you made decisions based on a lie.

Lies and omissions are almost ALWAYS about the person lying and those lies are not always malicious. I once had someone tell me they lied ‘out of compassion’; that it was the ‘kind’ thing to do.  At least that’s what he believed.

“But better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.”~ Khaled Hosseini

The reality is, a lie is born from fear. While there are some who lie because they have an agenda and are simply not nice people there are good and nice people who lie out of an underlying fear. Some lies are told because someone feels ‘less than’ or not worthy. They feel they must build themselves up in some way. Others are told because they fear the consequences that come with telling the truth and yet others are voiced out of embarrassment.

There’s the little white lie. The bold-faced lie. Lies of kindness, exaggeration, and broken promises. Lies of omission. Then there are the “programming” lies that say you have to do something a certain way. There are probably hundreds if not thousands of lies and reasons people rationalize lying but, whether conscious or unconscious, all of them have an impact on us.

The reality is, a lie comes directly from the ego mind. It serves as a false protection for the person telling the lie. A lie does not protect, it invalidates everyone involved. Lie=Living In Ego. When vibrating at truth and clearing the lies, be ready as the light illuminates the truth.

“Sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth because they don’t want their illusions destroyed.”~Friedrich Nietzsche

The truth about opening up to truth is that it’s uncomfortable. It’s messy. We don’t always see what we want to see. We don’t always want to know there was a lie in place. We believed what someone told us or what we wanted to see and when the truth comes out, our heads spin. We are potentially disappointed with ourselves and others and much of the time “truth” rocks the core of your being.

While truth can be uncomfortable the beauty is truth has no agenda. Truth is courageous. It is vulnerable and it will set you free. Would you rather live an honest life built upon a foundation of truth or a life built upon the foundation of lies?

The uncomfortable truth about truth is that we need to be just as brave and courageous to hear and receive the truth as we do speaking an uncomfortable truth to someone else. There are always two sides to the equation. BUT the real truth is, truth is not about ‘liking’ an answer or being in effort ‘seeking’ the truth.

In fact, it’s not about an answer at all! It’s about living your life, being who you are, unfettered by illusion. It’s about vibrating at truth, with awareness that a lie is simply an action or spoken word that comes from fear. Let go of the illusions. Let go of the lies. Forgive yourself and others for, at some level, being afraid, and just simply BE. WHO. YOU. ARE.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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April is Stress Awareness Month: De-Stress with a Zen Den!

serenityflower“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.”~Amit Ray

Do we really need a “stress awareness month”? I’m pretty sure we are already aware of how stressed we are! How can we not be? We’re constantly being bombarded with energy, taking on extra responsibility and attempting to meet our various and ever-increasing deadlines.

From the media to friends, family and even those we don’t even know, everything is energy and, at times, we are effected without even knowing the source. Isn’t it interesting that Stress Awareness Month is also the month our taxes are due?

Although each of us could choose neutral, say hello to the energy and simply let it go, most of us have not arrived at that blissful, neutral, non-complicated place. For those of us who are givers we need to remind ourselves it’s important (and OK) to give to ourselves. Even 5 minutes of self-care begins to do just that.

When we really break it down, much of the cause of our stress comes from our attention being outside of ourselves. We are thinking (or worrying about) the past or future. We are trying to control others. We are in resistance (circumstances or people), or we are worrying about others and/or how someone else will react. Of course there are many other stressors but for now, let’s focus on a few things we can do to de-stress.

Eat well

Bodies not only need balanced nutrition but they ENJOY eating! When you eat a healthy, balanced diet your body will be happy. Focus on your food when eating. If you’re at home, eat at the table, use the good dishes. Make mealtime enjoyable. Really taste the food. The more of your senses you use, the more in present time, and less stressed, you will be! Also, a hungry body is a stressed body. Don’t skip meals and DO have something on hand for when you find yourself hungry between meals. It’s ok to add healthy snacks or an additional small meal to your day.

Exercise and Play

Fact: Bodies need to exercise AND play! You might not enjoy exercising in the traditional sense so find something you enjoy doing. Maybe even combine it with play! Go to the playground and swing on a swing. Skip down the street, take a dance class, enjoy a bicycle tour of your city, go to the arboretum or walk the gardens, go on a hike, a climb or try something new like spelunking. Commit to a little “fun movement” every day. If you don’t have much time you can certainly take a 10 minute walk. Whatever you choose to do, be sure to notice your surroundings. Smell the flowers. Listen to sounds and by all means feel your body and breathe!

Hobbies

When was the last time you did something you enjoy for no other reason but you enjoy doing it? What are you interested in? Sometimes we get so caught up in work and/or day-to-day tasks we forget to do the things we like to do. It might be an artistic endeavor, a craft, an activity, learning to speak another language or even reading a book. I just read a study that said reading for only 5 minutes will dramatically reduce stress. If you don’t have a hobby but want to try something new, check out Meetup.com . Scroll through and find something that sounds like fun and by all means check it out. Any shift in your attention and energy will shift your stress level!

Meditation/Mindfulness

Transform Chaos to CalmThere is nothing better for de-stressing than meditation and inner reflection. Create a “Zen Den” for yourself. This is a comfortable “sanctuary” space free of distractions; A safe, anxiety free, zone if you will. If you have a meditation practice great! If not, simply close your eyes, breathe, bring your attention and energy back to you and imagine the stress simply melting away.

Meditation won’t solve all your problems but it will instantly shift your energy and definitely help! I have a couple of guided meditations (free to listen or download) available on my website and I’m working on adding a special stress relieving meditation as well. “Transforming Chaos to Calm” was initially offered as a free meditation workshop and is a very popular download.

Get a Massage

A massage is a great way to unwind and don’t discount the power of the human touch. If you are feeling isolated, alone and stuck in your thoughts, a massage will bring you back to the present. It will not only bring your attention back to your body it feels good! If you have a limited amount of time, check out a neck/shoulder massage. Depending on where you live and what your job is, they might even offer these types of massages at your workplace or close by.

Now that you have a few tried and true ways to de-stress, do you know what they all have in common? With each one you step out of your “thoughts”, shift your perspective and re-center mind, body and spirit in present time! Your energy and attention are on you, for you.

Part of de-stressing lies in the ability to give to yourself. Take a breath, acknowledge you are stressed then stop and get into present time with your surroundings. If you think you don’t have time, think again! There are 24 hours in a day and we’re talking about 10-15 minutes a day at the very least, 1 or 2 hours a day at most, depending on how much time you have and/or need to de-stress.

Take time each day to unwind and bring your attention back to you. Create a “Zen Den” sanctuary. Live in the moment. Live in your breath and transform chaos to calm.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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How to Find Time to Meditate AND Actually Meditate!

MeditateIf you have difficulty sitting down to meditate, you are not alone!

First there’s the time factor. Technology has made it easier than ever to schedule every moment of our day because we’re always connected.

Not too long ago if we were expecting a phone call, we sat at home or at the office waiting for it. Now we can take that call where ever we are.

With an ever-growing list of responsibilities at the forefront of our lives we schedule ourselves silly and unless we schedule in our meditation time or “me time” there won’t be any. We must MAKE the time just to sit down and focus on our breath. Is it just me or is something wrong with that picture? Now before you go thinking I’m some scheduling Guru, I can assure you I don’t always ‘schedule’ time for myself. 

The problem is, the less time I find to meditate, the less time it seems I HAVE to meditate; Or do anything else for that matter. In fact, on the days I make time to meditate I’m not only more effective and less overwhelmed completing my tasks, but I actually have MORE time (left over) in my day. I’m not really sure what this phenomenon is, but I can tell you from personal experience it’s true!

So you’ve scheduled in the time to meditate and now comes an even bigger challenge…actually meditating! I hear all the time from my clients, friends and energy worker colleagues how challenging it is to quiet the mind once you do sit down. I not only hear it from them but for as long as I’ve meditated there are times it’s challenging for me too.

Yes, I know what happens. You settle in, start to calm things down and then suddenly remember some task you forgot to complete or phone call that must be made or something that just has to be done right at that moment. Maybe you need to check Facebook or Twitter one last time…. Or you left the laundry in the washer….or you need to feed the cat or dog. Sound familiar?

We’ve become so used to “doing”, “responding” and not wanting to miss anything, it’s challenging even under the best of circumstances to quiet all of it down. What I’d like you to notice in all of that is the biggest challenge we have is bringing our attention back to ourselves. Tuning in to our breath. Focusing on OUR OWN needs.

One of the reasons (there are several but for the sake of keeping this less than a full novel I’ll only address one or two) it’s so challenging is because all our attention and energy is caught up in those things outside of us. It’s not that WE stop ourselves from inner peace and calm, it’s the energies we answer to that don’t want us to turn our attention inward.

Makes sense right? If we take a moment to get organized around our own energy, thoughts, wants and needs, who will take care of everyone else’s energy, thoughts, wants and needs? Once we start healing ourselves, others cannot control us, or get us to heal them, or give up our space to them so easily. Also, when you meditate consistently, your life begins to change rapidly.

You’ve heard the sayings “misery loves company” or “we love you don’t ever change”? Well, you can choose to be in that company or you can choose to move on. You can choose to stay the same and not change; Repeating the same patterns your whole life or you can acknowledge that when you sit down to meditate there may be other energies trying to stop you.

It’s important to recognize that in taking the path of healing and light, there are some that may not choose to go with you. They may not want to change and it may make them uncomfortable that you do. This doesn’t make them bad or unaware. It just might be they are on a different journey and not ready to step up in the same way, at the same time, you are. Acknowledge and validate where others are in their life. It’s ok for you to be where you are and it’s ok for them to be where they are.

Honor and respect others choices. The journey within is not about judging others or getting them to do it with you. It’s just the opposite. It’s caring for yourself and your needs. It’s about bringing your energy and attention back to you so you can be more of who you are and in doing so, by being around you, others have permission to (choose to) heal and be themselves.

If you find it difficult or downright impossible to sit down and meditate on any given day, try it for 5 or 10 minutes, then come back and do another 5 or 10 minutes later. In other words, give yourself a break. You might just be dealing with SO MUCH ENERGY that’s not yours it takes a while to clear.

So, schedule a meditation date with yourself and honor your “me time”. Although there are times when you need to break up the meditation (time), try to hang in there with a simple “breathe and release”. Break up the energy instead of the length of your mediation. How great is it to take charge of your life and create change on YOUR schedule?~Shine Your Light Debbie

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