Transition – Daily Muse

Love is a vibration that resides within you and lives on forever. It is timeless and has the power to heal. Love, in fact, allows the most powerful healing one can receive to happen. Once you have shared your love with another human being, if it is true unconditional love, it is shared forever whether you are together or not.While your highest vibration of love doesn’t change, the circumstances around how you love and who you love do. For those hurting I want you to know it is possible to use the power of love to heal.

Your expression of love and how you love changes over time. Case in point, you loved your teddy bear when you were three. If you still have that bear it warms your heart and brings you comfort every time you pick it up. At one time you loved that bear so much you wouldn’t let go but now you wouldn’t bring that teddy bear out on a romantic evening with your significant other. You express love differently than when you were in the 3rd grade or middle school or even in college. As you grow older you realize (hopefully) that it isn’t necessary to hold on for dear life for true love endures and never dies. It never dies because it is a part of you and it is in fact who you are. YOU ARE LOVE!

I rarely write in first person because frankly I find it challenging but this is a personal experience which I want to share so that you too can harness your own personal power of love and use it to heal. That said, here we go! I can honestly say that now in this very moment I’ve never been more IN love. No, I don’t have a new boyfriend. I haven’t gotten together with an ‘ex’ either. I am, in fact, still a single woman making her way in this glorious world; And yet I’m completely, unequivocally IN love! What prompted this love moment? Oddly it came after a phone call from an old flame who I haven’t heard from in more than 10 years. Now I admit that I’ve been blessed with ex boyfriends and lovers who still call me but this call was special because it took him 10 years to actually make the call. 🙂 What happened as we caught up with our lives and took a brief trip down memory lane was that despite having fond memories I was still holding on to a whole lot of ‘wrong’ and not acknowledging the ‘right’.

Here’s what I mean by wrong: I always choose the wrong guy. What went wrong? What’s wrong with me? What am I doing wrong? Now I want to be clear that these things weren’t specific to this particular ex but nonetheless it became all to clear to me that I’ve had those pictures for a very long time and although I honestly thought I’d let go of them there was another layer to clear. During that very phone call I realized I don’t choose the wrong men! The men I was with were the perfectly right men for me at the time. The ex who called was the perfectly right man for me back then. We had fun, our love was true and the crazy experiences we shared will be cherished forever by both of us. We learned a lot from each other. I affected his life just as he had affected mine and prior to that phone call I always wondered if he got as much out of it as I did.

Once the realization hit that these were the right men THEN but not the right men NOW my entire perspective changed. All my questions about “wrong” turned into “what did I learn”. I began to see all my past relationships in terms of the LOVE I experienced. I was not wrong; There’s nothing wrong with me! I wasn’t perfect but I wasn’t wrong either. I was learning and loving and reacting based on where I was then. I forgave myself and as I did, every single relationship literally flashed before my eyes. Any lingering hurt disappeared and all I felt was LOVE and appreciation for every relationship in my life. This is what happens in a healing! Finding just one piece of the puzzle can heal years of ‘wrong’.

Now I do realize that not everyone is blessed with an ‘ex’ who will call them and actually verbalize how much a past relationship meant to them but that doesn’t mean you can’t validate the relationship and heal. The healing begins when you stop seeing yourself as unloveable and wrong. Your relationship was not wrong when you entered into it. When you fall in love, you are IN love…. YOUR vibration of love.Validate the LOVE and the fact that you have the capacity to LOVE that much!

Focus on the love and the good instead of focusing on what went wrong. Maybe you were learning and weren’t wrong! Maybe you were the best thing that ever came into that person’s life (or visa versa) but it wasn’t meant to be. Maybe in time they will be able to call you to tell you how much you meant to them but if not, it’s up to you to forgive yourself, let go of any ‘blaming’ and reconnect with your highest vibration of love.

LOVE! Shower in it! Surround yourself with it so you can finally see through filters of LOVE that there’s nothing wrong with you. You ARE loveable when you are IN love. Love is your natural state of being-ness and sharing that love by being IN it is the greatest gift you could ever bestow upon another human being AND yourself!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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The photo on this post is a sculpture called “Freedom” created by Zenos Frudakis. From where I sit, this piece is profound in its perfect depiction of what it looks like to finally break free from whatever is holding you back. Energetically the cement which surrounds us means something different for everyone. It could be programming, invalidation, fear or a myriad of other things including common concepts from the world at large.

To move forward you must chip away at the cement tomb of energy to free yourself and live a life which rings true to who you are. When I speak of freedom I’m referring to releasing the energetic chains which bind so you can uncover truth and break free to live a passionate life of your choosing. It sometimes even means you must release yourself from the confines of your own mind.

Sculptors like Frudakis and the great Michelangelo look at a cement or marble block and chisel away at the outside until a beautiful form is created and emerges as a masterpiece. You are already a masterpiece in your own right and the only way to emerge is to work from the IN-side OUT! Instead of chiseling your way in, you grow and expand therefore releasing yourself by blasting out lies, energy and/or anything else which keeps you from being free.

It’s all about your inner world!

Your connectedness to your inner world is how you experience your outer world. If you are looking from the OUT-side in you may only see the form others have projected upon you. Looking from the IN-side out you first see who you are, your true spiritual essence, and from that vantage point there is clarity about what is NOT you. Perhaps all those times you were made ‘wrong’ or felt like you failed or you didn’t feel like you were good enough, maybe, just maybe there was something else at play; And that something else was NOT coming from YOU!

If you allow someone else’s opinion or energy whether it be parents, friends, employer, significant other or whomever it might be, to affect you and invalidate your creation (or what you’d like to create), take away from your success, or make you wrong, you have taken on their truth. No matter how much they love you and you love them, or how well-meaning they are if you are living from someone else’s truth, you are not free.

Meditation is the best way I know of to re-connect with your inner world and resources. Turning your attention within allows you to find truth. YOUR truth. It reconnects you to your passion and freedom. It helps you expand your creativity and find your answers.

Don’t you think you’ve stared at the cement or marble trying to figure out how to free the masterpiece inside long enough? Step INside, take out your golden chisel and allow your masterpiece to emerge, be free and dance in the light!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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