Daily Muse

Best friends are wonderful to have in your life. They are people with whom you confide your deepest darkest secrets, your fears or joys and those you share your experiences with. They are the ones with whom you can go on a rant then forgive, those you laugh or cry with and it’s always fun to go on a new adventure with your BFF.

No matter what it is, you always feel safe telling your best friend something. A true best friend doesn’t judge, criticize and will often tell it like it is whether you like it or not. They love you for who you are and visa versa. There is give and take, you listen to their advice….ok you don’t necessarily take it but you’ll listen to it, 🙂 and you value their friendship.

What do you look for in a best friend?

Would you choose a best friend that you didn’t trust or feel safe with? Would you choose a best friend who lies to you or beats you up? How about a best friend who is negative and criticizes you for everything? Of course you wouldn’t choose a best friend who is like that! You want a best friend who lifts your spirits, dries your tears and is there for you through thick and thin. Now begs the question…

Are you your own best friend?

Being your own best friend is having a forever friend! It means getting honest with and caring for yourself. It is about trusting yourself and owning the choices you make. It is knowing that you have the ability to heal yourself, lift your spirits, go on new adventures and treat yourself kindly. When you are your own best friend you listen to your intuition, follow your heart AND your own council. You forgive your mistakes, and you feel safe & comfortable in your own company and in your own skin!

Believe it or not your best friend in the world, the one who is with you for a lifetime is YOU! Think of how many ‘best friends’ have come and gone out of your life. To be sure there are some that are with you for a lifetime and this is great but some of your best friends are there for a time and then you both move on. It might be that one of you gets married, divorced, one of you moves or you just grow in different directions.

If you are not already your own best friend, it’s never to late to start the process. It all begins with getting to know yourself from the inside out; Who you are now, where you’ve come from and honoring what you’ve been through in life. It means ending the cycle of punishing yourself because you are not perfect; You’ve probably been trying to live up to a picture that someone else handed you at some point in your life.

Becoming your own best friend is a journey of loving yourself and letting go of trying to be someone you are not and never will be. Say hello to being your own best friend. It is a friendship that will truly last a lifetime!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Have you ever noticed that no matter how many good things are happening in your life that your focus and attention still goes to those things that you don’t have? This is easy to spot when there is a BUT that comes at the end of a sentence during your internal dialogue!

What do I mean by that? Well, here are some examples. You just got a promotion or recognition at work and you immediately say ‘wow that’s awesome BUT I don’t have the relationship I want’. You just finished a big project (which could be anything you are working on) and you say ‘great, that’s finished BUT I didn’t get to…’ this, that or the other thing.

What good things are happening or are you bringing in to your life that you acknowledge for only a moment before you ‘BUT’ them? I receive emails all the time asking why nothing is working when the focus is on what they want, thoughts are positive, and that person is dreaming and feeling like they already have it BUT nothing is happening.

One thing to explore for yourself is; Are you having what is already here and how much of it can you have? It’s kind of like going on a shopping spree and letting all the new stuff stay in the bag or box until you have time to wear it, unpack it or set it up. The point here is to HAVE the new things you just brought in!

The ability to HAVE (ie. havingness) expands when you have what you have. If you are looking for a job, can you HAVE and enjoy the time you have not working? In your relationships are there men or women interested in you BUT you still want someone who doesn’t give you the time of day so you don’t move forward with anyone else? Can you have getting out and meeting a potential new friend whether it is the relationship of your dreams or not? What if that person turns out to be your best friend?

Of course continue to do what you need to do to find a job, it’s not going to magically appear, however do take time to enjoy not working. Maybe at some level you created the situation to explore your real passion or to spend time healing yourself. Worrying about and being in effort will not get you a job, relationship, more money, increased abundance, or change your life circumstances. Begin noticing how much you already have! If you are vibrating from a place of havingness guess what the universe will recognize? Yup, you guessed it MORE havingness!

Every BUT at the end of a sentence invalidates whatever you are attaching the BUT to! If you are not getting exactly what you want, can you have what you are getting and consider it a stepping stone toward increasing your havingness?

Take time to reflect on what you have. Have and appreciate MORE of what you already have and then decide to raise your havingness to new heights! I’d be willing to bet that if you begin taking inventory, you have a lot more than you think! No ifs, ands or BUTS about it! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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