Forgiveness Divine

Forgiveness is a “giving” space…

Forgiveness Divine

“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”~Alexander Pope

I recently received an email from a client asking how we can energetically ask for forgiveness from others.

The example she cited was about overreacting and using harsh words with a colleague while under pressure. To add to her angst she lost touch with colleague years ago. She wanted to say she was sorry even though she apologized after the incident because she still felt bad about what happened. She was also concerned that even if she did find them they may not want to talk to her at all let alone about something that happened years ago.

We’ve all been there…

What a great question and example! We’ve all been in that position at one time or another, haven’t we? We hold on to “feeling bad” about something we did or said for hours, days or, in some instances, years. We want to talk about it and keep apologizing to that person or for the situation ad nauseam waiting for someone else to forgive us and we just can’t let it go even if they do.

The reason we hold on to that less than loving feeling is not that the other person hasn’t forgiven us (maybe they have or maybe they haven’t…that’s for another blog) but because at some level, we can’t or don’t want to forgive ourselves.

Here’s the thing, on an energy level there is no asking from others. It’s about forgiving ourselves. Once we forgive ourselves it’s even possible that we cross paths with the other person so we can apologize. Isn’t it wonderful when the universe works that magic? If it does happen you see them let’s be clear it is never about “asking” for forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a “giving” space, not an “expecting” or needing a “response” space…

Others don’t have to forgive you. It’s not up to them. If you apologize wanting a particular response that is not forgiveness. That is an expectation which is a form of resistance. Also, why would someone else forgive you for that which you cannot forgive within yourself? Even if they do forgive you or they forgave you long ago that “feeling” will still linger because YOU still have to forgive YOU.

It doesn’t even matter if the other person accepts your apology. Forgiving is a giving space and when and if they choose to forgive they are giving and allowing a space for themselves as well.

I once had an ex who, after 18 years with no contact, called me to apologize “for everything” he ever “did” to me in our relationship. In fact, his first words were “please, don’t hang up.” While I appreciated the call to no end all I could do was laugh.

For the most part, I had forgiven him, and myself, long before that call. He held on to the guilt all those years. I will say it there was deep healing that happened on that call for both of us. I watched his energy and subsequently my energy completely shift as we released the remaining karma that at some level we both held on to.

Forgiveness is not a thing you “do”…

It’s a space you create FOR giving. You’re giving yourself space to make mistakes and to be less than perfect. A space to be where you are. A space to learn and heal. A space to recognize where you are and are not aware. A space to let go. and most importantly you’re giving yourself space to love again.

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”

~Steve Maraboli

The truth is that any “non-forgiveness” is about you. It’s also where your energy is stuck in the past. How can you move forward with your energy stuck in the past? If you’re one of those people who cannot forgive yourself take a moment to really break it down to the bare bones. Why can’t you forgive yourself? Is there guilt or shame or some other emotion that causes you pain? What’s really going on?

It’s important to note that we do not go into a state of harsh words or react in a less than loving way without some sort of picture or energy that got lit up. Maybe you lost your awareness or someone pushed a button and triggered something deep within your psyche. Maybe you experienced fear or a threat. Maybe someone jumped in your space or tried to control you or the situation.

Maybe all of it happened at once but none of it matters. It’s important to recognize what really happened and forgive that too. Not one of us is perfect so let’s stop blaming ourselves and holding on things in the past that hold power over us in the present.

Make your apologies to others and yourself by creating a space of love and forgiveness. That’s the only way to release and clear the Karma.~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2019 All Rights Reserved

Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant, Energy Healer, Spiritual Teacher, Mentor and Guide providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. Her ultimate goal and soul’s purpose is to guide people to connect with their own truth, vision, purpose and spiritual gifts. For more information, please visit her website. To schedule a session: Click Here

Understanding Mercury Retrograde

Have no fear Mercury Retrograde is here…

Have no fear Mercury Retrograde is here

Hey, hey, it’s the first Mercury retrograde of the year! This particular Mercury Retrograde begins March 5, 2019, with the planet of communication going direct on March 28, 2019. Even though those dates are the official starting and ending dates you may feel the effects from to a few weeks before to a few weeks after.

Mercury in Retrograde has gotten a bad rap. It’s amusing to see how many people go into fear and shut down mode with the mere mention of a retrograde cycle. Although we have to pay extra attention to details during this time there is nothing to fear. In fact, during a Mercury Rx, you may not only be more productive but it’s possible to find potential errors or glitches you may not have otherwise noticed during your normal day-to-day busy-ness.

Yes, there are the typical delays, technology malfunctions, communication challenges and feeling a bit off kilter BUT there’s no better time to do a deep dive into the details. The name of the game is AWARENESS and even a little more awareness goes a long way during a retrograde cycle.

Some people blame Mercury retrograde for “bad” things that happen in their lives. Instead, take this time to sit back and review where you put your energy in your life. For example, if family and faith are important to you, are you putting your energies there or just overextended in other areas? Take a moment to reflect. Mercury retrograde can be an excellent time to take a step back and reanalyze who you are and what you are doing—

Old Farmers Almanac

“I’m reviewing, the situation…”

Plan for and embrace the Mercury Retrograde cycle! Use it as a time for resynchronization, review, reflection, reconnection, reassessing, revising AND with great amusement, expect the unexpected. On the other side of the dichotomy use it to refresh, renew, replenish, reawaken, recharge, regroup, reorganize and otherwise fill up with any energy and attention you’ve given away or scattered about.

As you can see there’s nothing in that list that warrants fear. Personally, I relish Mercury Rx cycles. I tend to write more contracts (in my Real Estate biz), reconnect with clients I haven’t heard from in a while and always seem to find something I missed. Just yesterday I was going over some reports and discovered I hadn’t charged a client who “reserved” a (clairvoyant reading) appointment back in November 2018. After contacting the client for permission I completed the charge. There is no coincidence I discovered this during Mercury Rx. I like “found money”!

I enjoy when old friends turn up out of the blue and believe it or not, this is a good time for clearing up old hurts caused by lack of awareness or miscommunications in the past. About five years ago during Mercury Retrograde, an ex-boyfriend called me to apologize for, and I quote, “everything he ever did wrong” in our 3 .5 year relationship. I hadn’t heard from or spoken to him in over 14 years!

Although I thought I’d moved beyond that relationship, my emotional reaction to his apology told me that at some level we still needed to clear the Karma. And so we did. Yes, Mercury Retrograde offers us a plethora of opportunities to heal old wounds and to address and gently forgive ourselves for things we said or did in the past that were seemingly unforgivable.

what does it mean that Mercury retrograde is in Pisces

How we experience a Mercury Retrograde overall depends on which of the 12 Zodiac signs the Earth is in during the retrograde cycle. In this case, it falls in Pisces. While there are many more influences at hand, I want to keep this very simple.

With Mercury Retrograde in Pisces be aware of old emotions and energies you haven’t released. This will truly be a blessing in the form of deep healing but you will need to have compassion and forgiveness for your self and others. We are being asked during this cycle to review things we’ve “pushed away” or haven’t addressed in the past. The best thing to do is to go with it.

As part of the “plan for” there will be a tendency towards muddled thinking or confusion. Mercury is the planet that governs logic and Pisces is all about illusion. Stay awake, be amused, aware and grounded when the brain fog hits.

“Mercury retrograde in Pisces is calling you to focus on your imagination, emotional connections, and how you communicate your feelings to others. Pisces is an infinitely emotional and compassionate sign and Mercury here wants to inspire creativity and love”


The planet Mercury governs all forms of communication. Intuition is high and you may also experience increased awareness. When we talk about communication we’re also talking about your communication with yourself. Listen to what your intuition is telling you. Take advantage of the messages from your inner voice. (As an aside, If you are super sensitive or an empath, pay extra attention to discern if the messages are yours or coming from someone else. It’s sometimes hard to tell.)

Since this cycle is in Pisces, we are also being asked to inspire and be inspired. Start a creative project or finish one you started but never completed. Any creative project will do. Imagine yourself singing, dancing, writing or doing something that brings joy to your heart. After all, we are reconnecting with our highest creative energy as well!

Yes, cross your “t”s, dot your “i”s and, while it’s best not to purchase technology or schedule flights etc, life does not stop. Pay extra attention to detail. Move WITH the flow of Mercury Retrograde not against it.

Take extra time in meditation. If you don’t have a ‘formal’ meditation practice, spend quiet time reflecting while focusing on your breath. Allow your mind to wander (and it will) then gently and effortlessly bring your attention back to your breath. (CLICK HERE for a free stress-reducing meditation.)

Have no fear of this, or any other, Mercury Retrograde. Think of it as a gift from the Cosmos and use the time to your advantage. Do so and shine even brighter in the days to come!~Shine Your Light Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2019 All Rights Reserved

Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant, Energy Healer, Spiritual Teacher and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her readings, healing work and consulting Debra also offers one-to-one mentoring sessions to guide people to their own truth, vision and spiritual gifts. For more information, please visit her website. To schedule a session: Click Here