Caring for your most intimate relationship….

I’m sure you will agree that it’s important to care for and honor your closest relationships. Whether it is with a friend, a lover, a spouse, or significant other, take time to acknowledge and let those people know how much you value and appreciate having them in your life.

While telling them in words how important they are to you, it is your actions and what you do that are more telling. A kind word, tender touch, a sweet little text or email, an unexpected gift or just listening and not trying to ‘fix’ everything. Perhaps they don’t need fixing as much as they need listening. 🙂

It’s clearly important to care for and nurture every relationship and not take it for granted or that relationship will soon deteriorate and wither away because there’s no energy in caring for it. If not cared for it could become buried under a sea of outer circumstances which takes away from the relationship and shifts your attention  on things outside of the relationship itself.

Do you care for and honor your most intimate relationship…the one you have with YOU?

Just as important as your relationships with others is the one you have with yourself! In fact it is THE MOST IMPORTANT relationship in your life. Your mental, physical and spiritual space ARE relationships and need just as much care as your relationships with others. If you are living with someone or in a relationship, you spend time apart but you are with YOU 24/7!

What have you done for YOURSELF lately?

Do you speak kind words to yourself or do you beat yourself up? Do you forgive yourself for your indiscretions and seek to learn from your mistakes? Do you nurture and honor who you are? Do you pamper and give to yourself? Some of the most loving & giving people I know spend so much time giving, healing and sharing their energy with others they feel depleted. In the privacy of their home they wonder why their relationships don’t work or they are not in good health or they always seem to feel stressed out.

Replenish and give to yourself!

Loving and giving to others is wonderful but if you don’t love and give to yourself you won’t have a lot of energy to give! It’s also important to remind yourself that you can give without giving it away. There IS a difference. Replenishing energetically means filling up with your energy! It means calling back all you’ve given away and being in your flow. It means reconnecting with the earth & the God of your heart. It means letting the sunshine in, filling up with joy, happiness and the energy you were born with.

The best way I know how to do this energetically is through meditation. A grounded, in the body, balanced meditation. One that makes you feel present and connected with your body. Next treat your body with kindness! Notice how you talk to and feel about yourself. Do you speak kind encouraging words to yourself? Notice the foods you eat. Are those foods healthy for your body? When was the last time you had a massage and really pampered yourself?

Caring for others is important but so is caring for yourself. Take time each day to give to yourself and care for the person you are inside. Honor all that you know, feel, & do. Honor and love yourself. Nurture your mind, body, spirit and soul.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Immediate Gratification?

In this time of fast foods, bigger better and faster I started to wonder what role  immediate gratification has played. You all know what I’m referring to and it’s interesting to look at in terms of creating change in your life.

We want the newest styles, gadgets & toys,  better cars and technology that works at the touch of a button. There is an expectation that the economy can be ‘fixed’ overnight. If we join a WEIGHT LOSS program we expect like magic to lose the excess pounds by tomorrow morning yet if we see something that looks really yummy we eat it to gratify our taste buds on the spot.

People wait in line to be the first ones to get that new cool item using credit cards without a thought about paying for it in the future. Think on that for a moment. If you really want something you go out and get it. OK there might be a passing thought that crosses your mind but by golly you do it anyway!

Our society has indeed become one of immediate gratification whether it is to make us feel better or to take our attention off our day-to-day troubles. Certainly there are things that will truly make life easier and we all want those but the challenge comes in when we not only want those things but we want them TODAY….NOW.

We have gotten used to getting what we want when we want it yet in a not so distant past, we had to make our own clothes and grow our own food. We waited patiently for the seeds we planted to grow. There is no possible way to rush a seedlings growth to HARVEST.  We were all responsible for the essentials we needed. To be sure I’m not saying we should go back to that time! The point is we had no choice but to be patient and trust the process. 🙂

The reason I bring this up is for you to take a moment to look at what you expect from your meditation practice and journey into awareness. Are you seeking immediate gratification? Do you meditate for a few days then give up or move on to the next thing because you don’t notice monumental changes?

In spirit there is no time or space. Things can and do happen instantly! That’s the good news. 🙂 The next part is bringing those spiritual changes into the body and making it real. Although everything begins with your ‘thoughts’ and focus the physical body exists in time and space. It takes time for those changes to manifest on the physical plane.

Becoming conscious of where your energy is and bringing YOU back to YOU is the first step toward creating the change that you seek. It is a continual process in which you grow and expand your awareness. Honor and trust that a process is indeed taking place whether you see it instantly or not.

On any journey it might be best to check immediate gratification at the door. If you question big changes are actually taking place notice the small details. Know that even the smallest change now can shape your future in ways you can’t even begin to imagine!….Shine Your Light!~Debbie

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping to heal the human spirit. For more information, to schedule a reading, coaching or find out about upcoming workshops & events please visit her website or send an email to