MEDITATION – Page 34

Healing others is a natural ability and something you may have done your whole life. Perhaps you have recently found a technique that not only helps you heal yourself but others as well. VOILA! you’ve found THE answer you’ve been looking for!

You can heal yourself AND someone else! You feel great and want to share what you’ve learned and shed light wherever and whenever because it feels good to help and you CAN! You can’t even imagine why someone wouldn’t want to heal. After all it’s simple, easy and you definitely have the ability to help. Of course, why wouldn’t you want to share and heal those closest to you?

So there you are, shining your light and healing yourself. A friend comes along and is sad, working through a problem, is depressed, sick or even merrily on their way but you can see, sense and feel something’s not right. You are so enthusiastic about healing, that you jump in with both feet. You’re going to help them! It could be an energy healing, reading or just sending out all the light and love you can. Whatever you use you’re going to make them feel better using your healing ability!

This is very noble…it’s also called being a friend 🙂 However, before you jumped in, did you ask if them if they wanted the healing? Did you “read” them without permission? I can tell you from personal experience that when you are a healer and do what comes naturally to you it may not always be welcome.When you ‘come to the rescue’ particularly in matters of the heart, without permission you can get punished on an energetic level. The person will go into resistance, put a wall up and run for the hills.

A very dear friend of mine wrote me the perfect metaphor for describing what happens. If you are an out of control healer like I can sometimes be, I think you’ll find a great deal of information in what he wrote! 🙂

“You know how if you’re in a dark place, and someone turns on a light when they’re not expecting or wanting it, and they feel blinded? And they need the light turned off NOW because their eyes haven’t adjusted yet? Well I think there’s an analogy to be made when it comes to matters of the heart. Sometimes you need to give people time for their hearts to adjust. Sometimes it’s better to knock on the door and open it sloooowwwwly, letting little bits of light in at a time. You may know they’re better off with lots of light, but that’s not always the point. They might need time to acclimate. And you might need to ask why they were in the dark. That might give you lots of information about how to give them light.”~SBS (reprinted with permission)

Each person knows whats best for their own healing and heals in their own time. In fact, as pointed out to me, you can get so attached to the outcome of the healing that you forget there is a very sensitive human being going through something that may be very painful to shed light on all at once.

Shine your light from within and heal yourself. Allow others to come to you to bathe in your light when THEY are ready. Be a good friend and not only listen, but hear what someone is telling you. They may have a very good reason they want and need to go slooooowwwwly. 🙂 ~Shine your light~ Debbie

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Did I get your attention with the title of this post? I hope it doesn’t disappoint you to find out that what I’ll be talking about is VALIDATION! Specifically, your ability to validate YOURSELF.

Several years back actor (now Senator) Al Franken did a sketch on Saturday Night Live called “Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley.”

At the end of the sketch Stuart looks into the mirror and says, “I’m GOOD enough, I’m SMART enough and doggone it, people like me!”

Although the sketch was written as a spoof of self-help groups, there may be a great deal of insight in it. When was the last time you VALIDATED yourself like that?

I’ll take it even one step farther and ask; When was the last time someone validated YOU and you said something to the effect of “Thanks! But…..”?

In day-to-day life many people are looking outside themselves for validation. Then when someone finally validates them, they put a negative on it. The minute they say “but”, they’ve completely negated the validation and INvalidated themselves!

I also notice people constantly beating themselves up. They don’t think they have the perfect body or perfect relationship. They feel they are doing something wrong if someone doesn’t like them or someone doesn’t agree with how they are handling a situation.

The reality is that there is PLENTY of invalidation floating around out there and if you don’t validate yourself, guess what? On an energetic level the invalidation sticks like glue and you actually ATTRACT more of it too you!

Have you done something brilliant, won an award or had an amazing breakthrough and you still don’t feel it’s good enough? Do you beat yourself up for one thing or another? Are you constantly looking for validation from another for your creations?

Is there something you’d like to create but have decided you’re not good enough to do it? Do you have a great idea but are concerned you’ll be laughed at or ridiculed if you present it?

Do you beat yourself up because you feel you are too fat, too thin, too tall or short? It may even be that ‘you’ve never been successful at it before’ so you invalidate all the GOOD steps you are taking NOW.

I know this wouldn’t apply to any of you…but then again, there may be a line or two that resonates with you. 🙂 If so….FIND YOUR “V” SPOT!

What do I mean by that? Well, there are several ways to do it. One thing you can do while meditating is to imagine in your mind’s eye the color of your own self validation. It’s OK to make it up, it will still work!

Allow that color to grow & expand then bring the image in through the top of your head until you are sitting in a bubble of it. Feel the vibration throughout your body, filling up every cell.

Notice any INvalidation effortlessly falling away as you do this. Sit and BE in the flow of your own validation! Validate all those wonderful things about you! Your beautiful spirit, loving heart, creative mind and immortal soul!

Now, look in the mirror and smile as you look into your own eyes and say, “I’M GOOD ENOUGH, I’M SMART ENOUGH AND DOGGONE IT, PEOPLE LIKE ME!”

When you do this you have truly found your “V” spot! Your ~V~alidation ~V~ibration! Shine your Light~Debbie

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Debra is a clairvoyant reader, spiritual healer, coach and teacher helping people heal their spirit so they can create and live the life they choose. She has been a featured guest on Wings of Love and Visible by Numbers radio broadcasts. For more information or to schedule a reading please send an email to Debra@Spiritlightinsight.com or visit her website.