Relationships – Page 12

Have you ever noticed that no matter how many good things are happening in your life that your focus and attention still goes to those things that you don’t have? This is easy to spot when there is a BUT that comes at the end of a sentence during your internal dialogue!

What do I mean by that? Well, here are some examples. You just got a promotion or recognition at work and you immediately say ‘wow that’s awesome BUT I don’t have the relationship I want’. You just finished a big project (which could be anything you are working on) and you say ‘great, that’s finished BUT I didn’t get to…’ this, that or the other thing.

What good things are happening or are you bringing in to your life that you acknowledge for only a moment before you ‘BUT’ them? I receive emails all the time asking why nothing is working when the focus is on what they want, thoughts are positive, and that person is dreaming and feeling like they already have it BUT nothing is happening.

One thing to explore for yourself is; Are you having what is already here and how much of it can you have? It’s kind of like going on a shopping spree and letting all the new stuff stay in the bag or box until you have time to wear it, unpack it or set it up. The point here is to HAVE the new things you just brought in!

The ability to HAVE (ie. havingness) expands when you have what you have. If you are looking for a job, can you HAVE and enjoy the time you have not working? In your relationships are there men or women interested in you BUT you still want someone who doesn’t give you the time of day so you don’t move forward with anyone else? Can you have getting out and meeting a potential new friend whether it is the relationship of your dreams or not? What if that person turns out to be your best friend?

Of course continue to do what you need to do to find a job, it’s not going to magically appear, however do take time to enjoy not working. Maybe at some level you created the situation to explore your real passion or to spend time healing yourself. Worrying about and being in effort will not get you a job, relationship, more money, increased abundance, or change your life circumstances. Begin noticing how much you already have! If you are vibrating from a place of havingness guess what the universe will recognize? Yup, you guessed it MORE havingness!

Every BUT at the end of a sentence invalidates whatever you are attaching the BUT to! If you are not getting exactly what you want, can you have what you are getting and consider it a stepping stone toward increasing your havingness?

Take time to reflect on what you have. Have and appreciate MORE of what you already have and then decide to raise your havingness to new heights! I’d be willing to bet that if you begin taking inventory, you have a lot more than you think! No ifs, ands or BUTS about it! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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I’m sure you will agree that it’s important to care for and honor your closest relationships. Whether it is with a friend, a lover, a spouse, or significant other, take time to acknowledge and let those people know how much you value and appreciate having them in your life.

While telling them in words how important they are to you, it is your actions and what you do that are more telling. A kind word, tender touch, a sweet little text or email, an unexpected gift or just listening and not trying to ‘fix’ everything. Perhaps they don’t need fixing as much as they need listening. 🙂

It’s clearly important to care for and nurture every relationship and not take it for granted or that relationship will soon deteriorate and wither away because there’s no energy in caring for it. If not cared for it could become buried under a sea of outer circumstances which takes away from the relationship and shifts your attention on things outside of the relationship itself.

Do you care for and honor your most intimate relationship…the one you have with YOU?

Just as important as your relationships with others is the one you have with yourself! In fact it is THE MOST IMPORTANT relationship in your life. Your mental, physical and spiritual space ARE relationships and need just as much care as your relationships with others. If you are living with someone or in a relationship, you spend time apart but you are with YOU 24/7!

What have you done for YOURSELF lately?

Do you speak kind words to yourself or do you beat yourself up? Do you forgive yourself for your indiscretions and seek to learn from your mistakes? Do you nurture and honor who you are? Do you pamper and give to yourself? Some of the most loving & giving people I know spend so much time giving, healing and sharing their energy with others they feel depleted. In the privacy of their home they wonder why their relationships don’t work or they are not in good health or they always seem to feel stressed out.

Replenish and give to yourself!

Loving and giving to others is wonderful but if you don’t love and give to yourself you won’t have a lot of energy to give! It’s also important to remind yourself that you can give without giving it away. There IS a difference. Replenishing energetically means filling up with your energy! It means calling back all you’ve given away and being in your flow. It means reconnecting with the earth & the God of your heart. It means letting the sunshine in, filling up with joy, happiness and the energy you were born with.

The best way I know how to do this energetically is through meditation. A grounded, in the body, balanced meditation. One that makes you feel present and connected with your body. Next treat your body with kindness! Notice how you talk to and feel about yourself. Do you speak kind encouraging words to yourself? Notice the foods you eat. Are those foods healthy for your body? When was the last time you had a massage and really pampered yourself?

Caring for others is important but so is caring for yourself. Take time each day to give to yourself and care for the person you are inside. Honor all that you know, feel, & do. Honor and love yourself. Nurture your mind, body, spirit and soul.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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