Validation – Page 8

Did I get your attention with the title of this post? I hope it doesn’t disappoint you to find out that what I’ll be talking about is VALIDATION! Specifically, your ability to validate YOURSELF.

Several years back actor (now Senator) Al Franken did a sketch on Saturday Night Live called “Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley.”

At the end of the sketch Stuart looks into the mirror and says, “I’m GOOD enough, I’m SMART enough and doggone it, people like me!”

Although the sketch was written as a spoof of self-help groups, there may be a great deal of insight in it. When was the last time you VALIDATED yourself like that?

I’ll take it even one step farther and ask; When was the last time someone validated YOU and you said something to the effect of “Thanks! But…..”?

In day-to-day life many people are looking outside themselves for validation. Then when someone finally validates them, they put a negative on it. The minute they say “but”, they’ve completely negated the validation and INvalidated themselves!

I also notice people constantly beating themselves up. They don’t think they have the perfect body or perfect relationship. They feel they are doing something wrong if someone doesn’t like them or someone doesn’t agree with how they are handling a situation.

The reality is that there is PLENTY of invalidation floating around out there and if you don’t validate yourself, guess what? On an energetic level the invalidation sticks like glue and you actually ATTRACT more of it too you!

Have you done something brilliant, won an award or had an amazing breakthrough and you still don’t feel it’s good enough? Do you beat yourself up for one thing or another? Are you constantly looking for validation from another for your creations?

Is there something you’d like to create but have decided you’re not good enough to do it? Do you have a great idea but are concerned you’ll be laughed at or ridiculed if you present it?

Do you beat yourself up because you feel you are too fat, too thin, too tall or short? It may even be that ‘you’ve never been successful at it before’ so you invalidate all the GOOD steps you are taking NOW.

I know this wouldn’t apply to any of you…but then again, there may be a line or two that resonates with you. 🙂 If so….FIND YOUR “V” SPOT!

What do I mean by that? Well, there are several ways to do it. One thing you can do while meditating is to imagine in your mind’s eye the color of your own self validation. It’s OK to make it up, it will still work!

Allow that color to grow & expand then bring the image in through the top of your head until you are sitting in a bubble of it. Feel the vibration throughout your body, filling up every cell.

Notice any INvalidation effortlessly falling away as you do this. Sit and BE in the flow of your own validation! Validate all those wonderful things about you! Your beautiful spirit, loving heart, creative mind and immortal soul!

Now, look in the mirror and smile as you look into your own eyes and say, “I’M GOOD ENOUGH, I’M SMART ENOUGH AND DOGGONE IT, PEOPLE LIKE ME!”

When you do this you have truly found your “V” spot! Your ~V~alidation ~V~ibration! Shine your Light~Debbie

©Debra Taitel 2010

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YOU are a priceless diamond!! You are multi-faceted, have your own unique color, clarity, depth and sparkle! There is no way to put a value on all that is you! YOU ARE PRICELESS!

As you may know, a diamond starts out as a very hard rock and must be cut & polished to become a brilliant shining gem.

There is an art to cutting and the rock is so hard that it must cut with diamond-bladed edges. So, in order to create the shiny diamond, a diamond must be used!

Once the diamond has been cut to its perfect shape, it must be polished to reveal its true depth, clarity and sparkle. Have you caught on to where I’m going with this yet? 🙂

Are you a diamond in the rough surrounded and stuck in what seems like a ‘rock’ of programming and you are waiting to artfully cut yourself out?

Have you uncovered who you are, finding your perfect ‘shape’ and want to polish up so you can sparkle and shine even more brilliantly?

What sometimes can feel like a hard impenetrable rock is energy and you don’t need to be stuck in the middle of it! Much like using a diamond-bladed edge to cut a diamond, your energy, which belongs in your space, can cut through the ‘rock’ effortlessly and the rest falls away!

Although cutting a diamond requires specialized knowledge, tools, equipment, and techniques because of its extreme hardness, a diamond cutter didn’t miraculously wake up with all the techniques and equipment, knowing what to do. They had a little help and direction along the way! 🙂

Meditation is a wonderful tool to help you reveal and bring back your sparkle! Once you let go of the ‘rock’ you’ll shine up quite nicely don’t you think!

You already have your answers within. You already know who you are, what you want to create and how to live from your brilliant self if you choose to!

What can happen is there are times when you get so caught up in the middle of other energies, you can lose a bit of perspective. Your brilliance can get dulled. Even a diamond needs to be cleaned every now and then. 🙂

If you don’t quite feel like a master diamond cutter yet that’s ok! Every skill takes time to master 🙂 If you don’t have the tools, you can learn them and by all means don’t hesitate to ask for some help and direction along the way!

You are a precious gem to behold! Just uncover, polish and shine up your sparkly self! Remember that you are priceless and feeling anything less is not your energy! Shine on you crazy diamonds! ~Shine your light! Debbie

This blog was inspired by Jessica Smith of Story Kraft Kreative and Ask and Allow Online after she created for me what I consider a STUNNING Twitter site! I’m not only grateful and appreciate all the work she did but feel truly blessed to have her in my life as a good friend! Thanks Jess!

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