A Glimpse: The Divine Gift of Awakening to Your Answers

As we move through our lives living, loving and learning we have “glimpses” of awareness; Glimpses of a bigger picture with infinite possibilities.

The committed spiritual seeker works towards expanding this awareness but everyone, whether awareness is worked on or not, will have momentary glimpses as we are guided by our higher selves towards the answers we seek.

Follow the “glimpse” to find the answer and reveal the bigger picture 

None of us can possibly have ALL the answers and while it would be wonderful to be omniscient and omnipotent, the reality is we don’t even know what we don’t know. We don’t have a clue what we don’t know. Sometimes our questions are merely asking for small part of what we want to know. A small part of a bigger and broader picture.

Think of it this way, if you have explored in great detail only a 4 block radius around your home, you will ask questions based on your experience and understanding of that 4 block radius.  What if your answer lies just outside that 4 block radius and you are given  a momentary glimpse of the path that goes there? Will you follow the path or stay safe within your walls, continually asking the same questions over and over, never following your gift of awareness?

Divine gifts of awareness are “snapshots” of the answer but, more often than not, they do not represent the full answer. When we catch a glimpse, the challenge is to not get stuck thinking we understand more than we do or that we are seeing the full picture. When we open up to asking the right questions based on our glimpse of awareness we are expanding our minds, opening up to greater possibilities and finding our answers as part of the bigger picture.

Our glimpses prompt us to look deeper, point us in the right direction and help us ask the right questions. Our glimpses of awareness are snapshots of love and understanding. The more we see, the more we understand. The more we understand, the more we are able to heal and forgive ourselves and others.

Follow your glimpses of awareness so they lead you to ask the right questions. Follow your glimpses of awareness so they lead you to a place of being open and able to receive more glimpses of awareness. Follow your glimpses to see the bigger picture and find answers to your questions…one glimpse at a time.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Stop Blaming. Start Forgiving and Healing

Stop Blaming Start Forgiving and Healing“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.~J. Michael Straczynski

Are you blaming someone or something for your current experience? Of course it’s THEIR fault! It’s the economy, family, your boyfriend or girlfriend, how you were brought up.. .who did it TO you. These are just a few of the “outer” situations or people we tend to “blame” when things become challenging in our lives. The problem is blame will never get you anywhere. Blame means a part of your valuable energy is stuck and holding on to the past. Blame means not taking responsibility for any part of the situation. It also takes forgiveness and healing out of the picture.

Blame is a way of rationalizing and making sense of chaos. It is far easier to blame others than to look inside and take responsibility for our part. The moment we stop blaming and start forgiving is the moment we start healing and moving on with our lives.

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”~Robert Anthony

In order to heal, create change, and move on with our lives we must take responsibility for our part. Now, I hear you saying you had no part in the creation of the problem (challenge or situation).  I may not be very popular the moment I say you ALWAYS play a part in it but it IS the truth. Maybe you were (are) afraid. Maybe you were (are) not fully aware of your impact on the situation. Maybe you saw, heard or felt something through your filters.

Blaming others is not the answer. Blaming yourself is not the answer. These are never the answers because blame holds on to the past. The longer you “blame” the more the past gets embellished and the more energy you have caught up in a past that is no longer truth but an illusion.

Your true power lies in the ability to forgive others for their part and forgive yourself for your part. It may mean you have to forgive yourself for zigging when you should have zagged. It may mean you must forgive yourself for something you did or said in the past. It may mean you have to forgive someone who deeply hurt you. It may mean you must forgive yourself for being afraid or in resistance.

Regardless of what you find yourself forgiving, you’ll know immediately when you are free because it will feel like a weigh is lifted off your shoulders. You are able to look at the situation or other person without anger, fear or blame and you begin creating things and moving forward again.

“Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”~Erica Jong

It’s interesting to note the word “blame”. As written it looks like B Lame or more to the point B (eing) Lame. It takes a strong and courageous person to end the blame game and take their life into their own hands. It takes a strong and courageous person to forgive. One of the bravest things you can do is look in the mirror, accept you played some part and forgive yourself. Look in the mirror! Be brave! FORGIVE!~Shine Your Light Debbie 

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What Touches Us, Changes Our Lives Forever….

myth“It is everyday, a normal day, it is one day that a chance meeting can change, influence and touch your life and send you on a different course. It is a smile, it is helpful hand, a comment overheard at the bus stop that makes you pause and think.”~Excerpt from Touch by Ellyzabeth Adler

Those who cross our path and touch our hearts are a part of our lives forever. Even those who touch our lives in passing become a part of our history and no matter how much time passes, our history remains. Nothing is or can be deleted. Once we’ve been touched, we are forever changed.

The mind may, and most probably will, distort the facts. This is most common when it comes to our closest relationships. Our history is embellished and made more beautiful, romantic, idealistic, perfect; or more horrific, full of blame, disgust or imperfections. However we remember a past event, keep in mind that unless we’re actually watching an unedited video, listening to an unedited recording or reading unedited words, it is all a picture, an illusion.

We may not have heard what we thought we heard. We might have missed something that was said. We might have misunderstood an intent because we were experiencing everything through filters of fear, guilt or even hope. We might have misunderstood because we were not fully present and actually listening.

At times we all have selective “sight” and “hearing”. This is completely natural and only becomes a challenge when we hold on to the past and someone has to be “right”. Distorting the past and having to be “right” is more about not taking ownership for our part. It is us trying to rationalize “why” something happened or didn’t happen; rationalizing why something worked out or didn’t.

Let’s face it, when it comes to ourselves we occasionally experience moments of “willful blindness”. There are just some things we not only don’t want to see within ourselves, but those things we don’t want or aren’t ready to take ownership of. Whether we choose to face them head on or not the energy charge is still there until we release resistance, accept, forgive and allow ourselves to re-connect with love.

All those who have crossed our path and touched our hearts are a part of our history. We cannot ignore, or rationalize and there is no need to be “right”. We must accept and take ownership for our part. We must accept and take responsibility for the history we were fully engaged in creating even if we did not have our full awareness.

It is not how we remember so much as that we HONOR those people and experiences that have shaped our lives and become a part of our history. Those who have touched us.

“Touch is the pure essence to life, to love, to all human beings; to what connects us.”~Excerpt from Touch by Ellyzabeth Adler

Love is what touches us. Kindness is love extended to another. Love is what connects us. Love is also a vibration many fear for love makes us vulnerable. It is fear that causes us to rationalize, get angry or distort the very history that simply because it touched us, gave us a most profound gift.

The distorted memories are what keep us stuck, angry, afraid and unable to receive the gentle touch of a hand or a heart reaching out. Love is what we are and what connects us. Love is so powerful it may very well be the source of fear because when we are touched by it we know everything changes.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.“~Rumi

Seasons Greetings with Infinite Love and Gratitude!

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It is with deep gratitude in my heart I say thank you for your inspiration and support. I write this blog for you and it is my sincere hope that by reading these simple words, you find strength within and love in your heart.

2014 was a challenging year of profound change for many. We experienced love, loss, learning, challenges and letting go. At the same time we rallied around each other to lift up those who needed our love. As we move forward into 2015 let us continue to share and care for each other.

My holiday wish for you and your loved ones is that your hearts find peace and your homes be filled with light, love and laughter during the holidays and beyond.
From my heart to yours with infinite love~Shine Your Light, Debbie

6 Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues!

HolidayIf you’re stressed out or singing the holiday blues these days you are not alone.

This time of year it’s common for people to feel lonely, isolated, stressed out or sad.

Here are 6 ways to shift the holiday blues so you can experience the season with JOY!

1. Disconnect

Social media is a wonderful place to connect but the fact is, not everything you see is real. I call it “the face of Facebook”. Everyone is ‘blessed’, ‘grateful’, having an amazing time, happy and joyful. Of course that’s true for some but everyone is human, has challenges, bad days and situations they don’t share. On the flip side there are rants, judgement, anger and downright nastiness. Although we think we are “connected” we are, in fact, disconnected from ourselves. Disconnect from the illusions and the energy on social media that may be affecting you more than you account for and re-connect with yourself.

2. Meditate

Take 5 or 10 minutes (at the very least) to simply breathe, feel your connection with the earth and your energy flow. Check in with yourself. Reconnect with YOU. Daily meditation during the holidays has a cumulative effect. The more you find time to meditate, the smoother your day will be. You could even take it one step farther and actually set the energy of the holidays for yourself. While in meditation, decide what energy vibration you’d like to experience for a particular day and “set” that day. In fact, try doing it today! Set the energy you’d like to experience for today and see what happens. Call it a practice day and we all know, practice makes perfect.

3. Manage Expectations

There is a lot of pressure during the holiday season. We are expected to find the perfect gift, act a certain way, be somewhere on time, be nice etc. There are a plethora of expectations we are supposed to meet and those expectations from others (and the expectations we have for ourselves) put more pressure on us. How you choose to take part in the holidays is totally up to you. To manage expectations check in with yourself and see what YOU need. If you find yourself responding, going to every party, caving to peer pressure to eat drink and be merry when you don’t feel like it, check in with yourself and just notice if you’re answering to the expectations of others or putting undo pressure on yourself with your own expectations.

4. Release the Ghosts of Holidays Past

The holidays can be a challenging, sad and lonely time of year often times because of holidays past. It is inevitable we will be missing a loved one, stressed out by something that happened and remembering fondly, or not so fondly, holidays long past. When holiday memories come up, acknowledge and embrace them. Notice the feeling that accompanies the memory and acknowledge that too. Once you’ve acknowledged the memory allow it to be released. Release the ghosts of holidays past so you are free and have access to all your energy to create beautiful holiday magic in the present.

5. Let Family be Family

Even the happiest of families has its moments. Someone, whether consciously or unconsciously, might invalidate you, compete with you, boss you around or simply push your buttons. Take a breath and find some neutrality. If things get ugly, meet the situation by taking a deep breath, checking in with yourself and remembering they are engaging you because of their own “stuff”. You don’t need to challenge, fight with, prove yourself or engage them. Your neutrality is you taking the “high road” and helps to defuse the situation. You know that saying “peace on earth, good will towards men”? Why not extend a little of that towards family?

6. Find your Magic and JOY!

Connect with your own unique (and powerful) vibrations of magic and joy. Allow the magic and joy to flow through you. Create magical connections and situations. Don’t simply respond to an invitation, do those things that bring YOU joy and are not simply obligations to family and friends. There is a magical, beautiful world out there filled with joy. Allow yours to flow and surround yourself with it.

During the stressful holiday season reconnect with YOU. Take time to breathe. Manage expectations. Allow others to be where they are. Release the ghosts that haunt you. Connect with those you love who may or may not be family and plan a little holiday magic! Sometimes all it takes is to get up close and personal with yourself and others. Cheers to JOY and Magic!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Reorganizing Your Energy

Energy“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.”~Kristin Armstrong

Today I’m doing a much-needed “energy reorganiziation”. Won’t you join me in creating a new starting point for yourself? Let’s take pause, reset and open our hearts  and minds to new possibilities!

As you may or may not know in addition to clairvoyant healing work I’m a Real Estate Broker . Yesterday I closed a real estate deal that took a more than 10 months to complete. Once the transaction was officially ‘closed’ a wave of relief washed over me and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was at that very moment I realized how much of my energy I didn’t have access to because it was inextricably tied up in the deal.

What happened in those 10 months is a perfect example of what happens when we resist and try to control or heal those who are not only committed to holding on (not letting go), but choose to punish and blame everyone else in the process without taking any responsibility.

Here is a brief timeline of events. Put the 2 flat on the market in February and basically sold it in 7 days. Gave tenant legal notice to vacate even though at that point he didn’t have a lease. Although the tenant initially agreed to move prior to closing in March, he decided to stop paying rent and stay (as a squatter). Due to the tenant using the already lengthy system to extend his holdover it took more than 8 painful months (in court) to evict him.

Once the tenant was evicted, the buyer chose to punish the seller by not communicating for another month. Apparently she was “mad” it took so long to evict the tenant. (Eviction time-frames are up to the courts and totally out of the sellers control.)  After finally establishing communication, the buyer cancelled the deal. The crazy part is the seller repeatedly offered to let her out of the transaction yet she decided to move forward until our side was ready to close.

There were challenges and lessons in patience at every turn. I realized that for 10 plus months a lot of my energy was caught up in healing the seller, anger at the tenant for not leaving and abusing what is clearly a broken eviction process and frustration with a manipulative buyer who ignored attempts to communicate.

Yes I was angry, impatient, frustrated and in resistance. So much for my zen, peaceful self!

While in the middle of it, I recognized my frustration, anger etc however I did not realize how much of my energy was tied up. This is very common and most times it takes a step away to finally see it. Once it’s seen we have the opportunity to do a little energy reorganizing; including releasing and calling back energy.

For my reorganization, I’m going to call back all the energy that’s still caught up in the deal. I’m going to look at what else or who else I am still healing. I will look to see where I’m angry at not being able to control circumstances beyond my control. I will ask the questions what am I holding on to and/or how am I using the “system” to rationalize my actions? Am I trying to manipulate and control because I’m frustrated?

When you use your experiences to ask questions, you instantly create a shift in your perspective by making it more neutral. You take ownership through acceptance. Looking at yourself first allows you to understand where others might be coming from. It allows you to forgive others for their actions and to forgive yourself for your RE-actions. It allows you to release the energy and pictures that caused you to try and control people or events and go into resistance.

Is there something or someone in your life that’s taking up your energy? Are you in resistance? Are you healing, punishing or blaming others? Wouldn’t you like your energy back so you have more to create with? If so, do a little reorganizing around yourself!

It’s time to create a new starting point, take pause, reset, and open our hearts  and minds to new possibilities!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Happy Thanksgiving from My Heart to Yours!

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“Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.”~Henry Van Dyke

Happy Thanksgiving!

Wishing you the best of everything! 

May your heart be filled with love,
your belly filled with food, and your 
soul filled with joy!

It is with gratitude and appreciation I thank you for honoring me and blessing my life with your presence and support. I’m so grateful we can share our journeys because in sharing, no one need ever be alone.

Give thanks to those who are dear to your heart not just on Thanksgiving but every day. Life is so very precious and we need to tell those we love how much we love them. There is no such thing as ‘too much’ love and appreciation.Give thanks for all you have. Appreciating what you already have is abundance. Give thanks with love for when your heart is filled with gratitude and appreciation you will notice an overflowing abundance of love in all that you have and in everything you do.

Happy Thanksgiving!
Thank you for following and reading this blog. Thank you for being in my life! Thank you for providing me with inspiration and continually filling my heart with joyful song as we lift each other up.

Bountiful blessings to you and yours!

Love,
Debbie

Shift Your Attitude to Gratitude!

In honor of the upcoming Thanksgiving Holiday in the USA it is time to explore and tune into the energy of gratitude and giving thanks. Having gratitude for what you have and all that you are is a powerful energy that will change everything in your life!

When was the last time you took a moment to look around and appreciate, I mean REALLY appreciate, all that you already have? How about yourself? When was the last time you sat quietly to appreciate and give thanks to your body for all it does for you? Been a while? If so, it’s time to CULTIVATE your GRATITUDE!

Gratitude and giving thanks allows you to have more in your life  by healing what you wish to heal and creating a space for more! It takes your attention out of the past or future and into the present which is where all creating takes place.  It sends a message into the universe that you are grateful for everything you have NOW.

Think of it this way, if you brought a gift to someone and they didn’t say thank you, then you brought another and they tossed it aside with no acknowledgement, do you think you would continue to give them gifts? You are receiving miracles and gifts on a daily basis. Having gratitude for these gifts sends a vibration into the universe. What message are you sending?

As an energy vibration gratitude can heal a broken heart, clear communication or stuck energy, and brings awareness to the abundance you already have in your life. Gratitude is naturally open and full of forgiveness.

Gratitude and giving thanks is not mutually exclusive to the positive things in your life. It also means finding gratitude for those difficult lessons, people who have hurt, invalidated or annoyed you. It means finding gratitude for those challenging lessons we all face every now and again. These people and experiences help us heal at a deep level in often profound ways.

It may not be easy to find gratitude for someone who broke your heart but give thanks and be grateful for the beautiful moments they brought you. You wouldn’t have had those beautiful moments or the experience if they hadn’t come into your life. There is a lesson you learned and more often than not, you discovered how strong and capable you really are!

How do you begin changing and shifting your attitude to gratitude? Very simply start a gratitude journal and every day for the next 30 days (or longer) jot down at least 5 things you are grateful for. Take time to think about and embody your gratitude as you write. Be sure to include those circumstances or people  you are having a challenge with.

Have gratitude for the lessons you have learned and the people who brought you those lessons. There is always something to appreciate and be grateful for even if it’s a hard lesson. Don’t forget gratitude for all that YOU are and the abundance that already surrounds you. Notice how your mood changes the more you write!

Creating change is a process and initially change is invisible because it happens on a vibrational level.  That said, these changes ARE affecting your life. At first you will notice subtle changes, then as you continue the process, the changes you see and feel are more profound! You hold in your hands the power to cultivate the ATTITUDE of GRATITUDE! Take time each day to appreciate your loved ones, your body & spirit, ALL you are and ALL you have!

In the spirit of Thanksgiving I want to extend my deepest gratitude and appreciation to each one of you.  You touch my life with your light and inspire me to continue doing my work in this world. :-) BOUNTIFUL BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOURS!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Is There Illegal Dumping Going On in Your Space?

wasteIs someone mistaking your kindness for an agreement to dump their problems and/or pain into your space? Do people come into your life, hand you their problems then disappear as if they were never there? If you’ve been dumped on, are you OK with that?

My guess is that your probably NOT ok with someone dumping their pain into your space or running it through you.

The disturbing part of being dumped on is when we wake up to the fact that at some level we were taught (or programmed) to allow it and we, whether knowingly or unknowingly, are agreeing to it. Healers are particularly susceptible to this programming.

These “give me your pain” or as I like to call them “pass the pain” agreements exist between friends, lovers, family members and colleagues. Of course we want to “problem solve”. Of course we want to lend a compassionate ear. Of course we want to help others through difficult times. Of course we are there to support and heal those we love BUT that doesn’t mean we have to take on their pain or run it through us.

Why and When did we Agree?

I know you’re thinking (not because I’m clairvoyant but because I’ve pondered the question myself) “no way did I agree to take on that pain”. I’m their friend, lover, family (fill in the blank) and agreed to help them, heal them or hold their hand but I DID NOT agree to actually take that pain into me. Well my friends, at some level you did and it may simply be you are such a capable healer that you can.

It could be a Karmic agreement or quite possibly you want someone to love or like you. You may have been taught to do this to make others more comfortable or you may have learned it was more comfortable for you. Counter-intuitive I know but sometimes it’s easier for us to clear the pain for others than to actually watch them be in pain. There are as many reasons for the agreements we make as people on the planet. Every one is different and in a lifetime of pasts, presents and futures it’s up to each of us to uncover our truth about why and when.

What About Energy Vampires?

There is a lot of talk about energy vampires and less about getting dumped on although if you really take a long hard look,  those we consider the “Energy Vampires” sucking our energy dry, are the ones doing some of the dumping.

Funny thing is, we wouldn’t allow a stranger to dump on us now would we? Isn’t is interesting that those who “dump” are usually the ones closest to us at some level. The ones who know exactly how to push our buttons and the more we resist, the easier it is for them to dump!

One of the reasons we allow them to do it time and time again is because we love them. We don’t want to see them in pain. Many times I see healers who would rather be in pain themselves than allow another to be in pain. In the case of co-workers, colleagues and bosses we allow it so we are accepted as a part of the team or to keep the peace and our jobs.

Dumping Awareness

The dumpers aren’t necessarily aware they are dumping, and we may not be aware we’ve been dumped on until after the fact. Do you notice people or connections who come into your life then, in the blink of an eye, they leave and you don’t know why? Does your business go up and down or you go through periods of feast or famine? Guess what? Those are PRIME indicators you’ve been dumped on!

Stop the Madness!

It’s time we all stop the “pass the pain” “give it to me” syndrome. We don’t have to run others pain through us. The secret is to simply end the agreement. Clear the programming that says we should allow another to dump or run their pain through us.

Own your space by filling it with you. Fill it with compassion and love. Radiate from a place of your being. Be love and compassion. That, my friends, is what allows others to heal. Clean up the resistance and mess. Plant new seeds to grow. Create new thought processes and consciously decide to do it differently.

Treat those who dump with love and compassion. Just as you learned to allow the dumping, they learned it’s ok to do it AND just by you acknowledging and not taking on their pain, you are teaching them not to dump but to heal. We all have the ability to heal ourselves and we are here to help each other but that doesn’t mean we have to take on the pain of others to do it.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Validate Your Higher Self!

Validate your Higher SelfDo you have trouble validating our own spirit? Do you seek others to confirm (validate) what you know in your heart or sense and feel is true? Have you gone to a medium to speak to spirit yet do not acknowledge your own?

Why is it so difficult to validate (confirm) our own spirit as  powerful and capable? We call on the ascended masters or archangels for healing and sometimes forget WE have lifetimes of information. We have the power to heal ourselves, to transform and to create a new reality.

I have noticed that many people place more importance on messages from the “other world” instead of listening to the council that comes directly from their own spirit.  Our higher selves have answers and, if we choose to listen, will give us the very answer we seek.

Often times our answers are right in front of us but until we step out of the chaos and find stillness we cannot acknowledge or accept those answers that come directly from our higher selves. In finding stillness we acknowledge our eternal spirit. In taking time to listen to our own council we find certainty and little by little begin to trust our instincts; Trust our intuition, our inner voice. We learn to trust our “higher self”.

Our higher selves are silently guiding us. They faithfully and consistently guide us to experiences that, if we are open and aware, teach us valuable lessons. Our most challenging and hellish moments offer the greatest lessons if we choose to breathe, find stillness and listen. Through what sometimes feels like “tough love” our higher selves help us heal.

During trying or challenging periods what makes us so uncomfortable is that we are resisting our growth period. It’s possible we are resisting the answer we see or we are in effort attempting to change an outcome. Oddly, there are even times we are simply resisting the healing being offered from the experience.

Validating your higher self is like finally coming home after a long journey! It’s comfortable, full of truth and brings you certainty. Validating your higher self is a breath of fresh air and all you have to do is ACKNOWLEDGE IT! Acknowledging your higher self is acknowledging your eternal spirit. It is acknowledging you are powerful. It acknowledges the wisdom of many lifetimes you have brought with you.

Take a moment to check in with yourself. Is there a question you’ve been asking? Are you looking for a message? If so, find a place of stillness within, acknowledge your spirit. Welcome yourself home and decide to accept whatever answer you receive. Validate your higher self for holding your hand and guiding you on this very human journey.~Shine Your Light Debbie

Photo/Artwork by Daniel B. Holeman Awaken Visions