“The real things haven’t changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.”~Laura Ingalls Wilder
Reality is a funny thing. It seems to look different to everyone. As we move through our lives we share experiences that even while we are going through them we see and experience them differently than the person we’re going through them with. Each of us has our own ‘memory’ of an event which may be different from what actually happened.
Our ‘memories’ can help or hinder us in the future depending on how we viewed a particular experience. For instance if you grabbed something hot and burned yourself, you immediately learn not to do it again. That is a helpful and very real learning experience.
If we ‘remember’ a situation as being frightening and hold on to it, the fear grows out of proportion to what really happened. It may stop us, hinder our growth or not allow us to see a situation or another person clearly because we’re seeing it through the filter of what we ‘think’ is our truth.
A good example of how this can hinder us comes from a recent client. He didn’t sleep well or at all most nights. After a rather profound healing session he ‘remembered’ that when he was a young child, he was terrified of the night-time ‘monsters’ and never felt safe at bedtime. Fast forward to him as an adult and this fear literally stopped him from restful and peaceful sleep.
When we attach what we ‘think’ is OUR truth to a person or situation, what we are doing is relying on our memory which may or may not be THE truth of what happened. If there is pain or fear in our memory we may lie to ourselves and others because we do not want to face our own pain.
What if finding truth was more about sharing and communicating our feelings openly and honestly? What if finding truth is trusting our intuition and keeping an open mind and heart? What if finding truth is accepting we are seeing something through our filters?
Speaking our truth honestly and openly is not only courageous, it serves our memory. The truth ALWAYS comes out. It may take hours, days or even years but it ALWAYS comes out and when it does there is inevitably a mess to clean up.
There’s no right or wrong way to approach a situation as long as your remember to keep an open heart and act with kindness. “Real things” don’t change, memories often do. When you are honest today there is no mess to clean up tomorrow.
We each have our own truth and (hopefully) act from that truth knowing we each have our own perspective. The reflections of our memories shift and change and ebb and flow. Speak your truth honestly, with an open heart. Act kindly as you do this because your truth is different from someone else’s and if things go wrong take a breath and have courage.~Shine Your Light Debbie
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