overcoming fear – Daily Muse

Above the clouds — Reflections on a wing photo courtesy of Linda Parris

“The real things haven’t changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.”~Laura Ingalls Wilder

Reality is a funny thing. It seems to look different to everyone. As we move through our lives we share experiences that even while we are going through them we see and experience them differently than the person we’re going through them with. Each of us has our own ‘memory’ of an event which may be different from what actually happened.

Our ‘memories’ can help or hinder us in the future depending on how we viewed a particular experience. For instance if you grabbed something hot and burned yourself, you immediately learn not to do it again. That is a helpful and very real learning experience.

If we ‘remember’ a situation as being frightening and hold on to it, the fear grows out of proportion to what really happened. It may stop us, hinder our growth or not allow us to see a situation or another person clearly because we’re seeing it through the filter of what we ‘think’ is our truth.

A good example of how this can hinder us comes from a recent client. He didn’t sleep well or at all most nights. After a rather profound healing session he ‘remembered’ that when he was a young child, he was terrified of the night-time ‘monsters’ and never felt safe at bedtime. Fast forward to him as an adult and this fear literally stopped him from restful and peaceful sleep.

When we attach what we ‘think’ is OUR truth to a person or situation, what we are doing is relying on our memory which may or may not be THE truth of what happened. If there is pain or fear in our memory we may lie to ourselves and others because we do not want to face our own pain.

What if finding truth was more about sharing and communicating our feelings openly and honestly? What if finding truth is trusting our intuition and keeping an open mind and heart? What if finding truth is accepting we are seeing something through our filters?

Speaking our truth honestly and openly is not only courageous, it serves our memory. The truth ALWAYS comes out. It may take hours, days or even years but it ALWAYS comes out and when it does there is inevitably a mess to clean up.

There’s no right or wrong way to approach a situation as long as your remember to keep an open heart and act with kindness. “Real things” don’t change, memories often do. When you are honest today there is no mess to clean up tomorrow.

We each have our own truth and (hopefully) act from that truth knowing we each have our own perspective. The reflections of our memories shift and change and ebb and flow. Speak your truth honestly, with an open heart. Act kindly as you do this because your truth is different from someone else’s and if things go wrong take a breath and have courage.~Shine Your Light Debbie

Ready to begin a meditation practice or enjoy a guided meditation? CLICK HERE for meditations currently on my website or email me at debra@spiritlightinsight.com and I’ll send you a FREE stress reducing meditation.

SpiritLightInsight.com
Daily Muse Home Page

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”~Nelson Mandela

Does fear rule your decisions? Are you conquering your fears or are they conquering you? Fear is actually an important emotion which helps protect you from legitimate danger. It is an instinctual part of you which gives you present time information for your survival.

Fear is very useful, such as you following your intuition telling you to get out of harms way; BUT useful as it is it’s also an energy which has the power (if you let it) to keep you stuck and stop you from creating or moving forward based on real or imagined “pictures”. Being fear-less does not mean you don’t have fear it means you take time to find out if those fears are real or imagined. It means lessening your imagined fears.

What is it that you fear and why do you fear it? If fear is not being caused by something happening in the present moment it is an energy or picture. According to Wikipedia if you are not in imminent danger ” fear almost always relates to future events, such as worsening of a situation, or continuation of a situation that is unacceptable.” From an energetic viewpoint, you have energy stuck in a picture. It isn’t until you de-energize the picture, call your energy back and clear it that you will break the hold it has on you. Fear is full of resistance and the energy of fear is not in alignment with your playful spirit and it’s possible that the fear is not even yours!

“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.”~Eleanor Roosevelt

There are times when fear is so gripping one can’t move. This is the time to look fear in the face and really examine what’s really going on inside. What is the picture or thought you hold? Are you afraid of not being perfect? Are you afraid of being ridiculed for your choices? Did someone once tell you couldn’t do something or invalidate your creation? Do you feel you don’t deserve happiness, excitement, a wonderful relationship, an abundant life so you’re afraid of creating it or do you fear if you move forward to create it that it might be taken away?

Whatever you fear it’s important to find the picture which gets stimulated to cause that fear. Once you find it, it’s not just about letting the picture or energy go it’s about empowering yourself and standing in your own truth. You will notice if you look at your fears that they are probably based on something someone told you or a painful experience from the past. For instance if you were hurt deeply or invalidated it’s a good thing to look at how those (possibly) deep-set fears effect your current decisions or lack thereof.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.”~Marianne Williamson

Look fear in the face and BE FEAR-LESS! When fear rears its ugly head and stops you in your tracks, look inside and ask yourself if it is based on present time facts or past time pictures. If it is the former, of course listen and do what you need to do for your safety. If it is the latter look fear in the face and say: “HA I laugh at you! You don’t have a hold on me! Be gone!” Amusement goes long way!

You have the power to become the fearless tiger who knows whether to flee or stand up for itself. Do not give in to fears of inadequacy. Like the tiger you are swift, brave, powerful and graceful. Have no fear of your light and creativity! Be fear LESS! Fill up with light and grace and ease. Be the playful, creative spirit you were meant to be and already are!~Shine Your Light Debbie

SpiritLightInsight.com
Daily Muse Home Page