Creating – Page 11

Do you have a Fear of Success?

Posted on September 22, 2011 by Debra Taitel

Fear is a powerful energy that can stop you dead in your tracks. It is an energy that can run in the background without you even knowing it. It could simply be that little doubt in the back of your mind or on a larger scale, cause panic attacks, or self sabotage. Typically we delve into letting go of our fear of failure but there is another side to it; The fear of success.

Rather than focus on failure, it is helpful to focus on success. If you are focusing on failure, guess what’s going to happen? You are probably successful in many areas of your life but there’s this one thing….the one you want most which eludes you. Do you have a picture of what life would be like if you succeeded in that particular area? If you can’t see your success clearly it’s time to begin seeing yourself as successful! 🙂

Fear is a funny thing. Not the haha kind of funny but interesting to look at. If you’ve been unsuccessful achieving your dream there may be an underlying invalidation or a doubt in your mind that says you ‘can’t do it’ because you’re somehow not worthy or good enough to have it. There is also the ‘what will I do then’ thought. Oh yes, that one! If your focus has always been on say losing weight, what will you focus on once you hit your goal? If you’ve spent time and energy trying to ‘find the one’, what happens when you do?

If you succeed at the very thing you’ve wanted most whether it be happiness, love, a successful career, a family, it means life as you know it will completely change and you must focus your time and energy on something else. Many people (maybe not YOU but many people) are so comfortable in the seeking that just when success is in their grasp they quit because they don’t believe they can succeed or can’t picture what life will be like once they get it.

When you create a clear picture in your mind of having the relationship you want, losing weight, visualizing your book being published, painting or putting an idea on paper, a successful career, whatever it is for you, trust me the fear will come up! Just let it bubble up and then send it on its merry way! 🙂

Here’s where it get REALLY interesting=>Is the fear really yours? AH HA! Take everything I just wrote and throw it out the window because more often than not the energy of fear you experience IS NOT YOURS! In fact, any energy that doesn’t feel good, is out of your control or stops you from moving forward IS NOT YOURS!

Take a moment to ponder this. When you are successful in ALL areas of your life, it changes in ways you can’t even imagine. What does that mean for your friends and family? Might one or two of them be uncomfortable because they don’t feel successful in some area of their own life? Are you being ‘nice’ and not taking steps toward your success so others are comfortable?

I now recommend you take a deep breath! Let go of everything that just came up for you. Indeed it might not be a fear of failure that gets in the way but the fear of actually succeeding…and that fear might not even be yours so LET IT GO! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Patience is Not Passive….

Posted on September 7, 2011 by Debra Taitel

“Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength”~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

By definition patience is “Persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; …. Patience is the level of endurance one’s character can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast.” Wikipedia

Strength in character one can take before negativity. What a wonderful trait to have! Energetically true patience creates a sense of inner calm. Patience liberates you in the sense that you trust yourself and your ability to create! When you lose your patience often times an energy has come in that is not yours in the form of doubts or control.

As you patiently wait for your ‘ship to come in’, your dream to manifest in the physical or anything else you are joyfully putting out into the universe to come back to you, it’s important to remember that things take time to materialize and become real. There is a tremendous amount of trusting yourself in being patient but do not confuse having patience with being passive!

When opportunity knocks answer the door!

Follow the signs! Once you put it out there, listen to your intuition and watch for ‘signs’ of which direction you should take. Putting a dream out there doesn’t mean you don’t have to do anything. For instance, if you are looking for a job or relationship and sitting at home ‘wishing’ for it, all the patience in the world isn’t going to help. Get out there! See and be seen! Listen to and follow your inner GPS and by all means when opportunity knocks…ANSWER THE DOOR!

Let go of your ‘mock up’ (the picture you’ve created for what you want.) Re-creating it and focusing on it instead of letting it go locks it in place. Holding on is like you not trusting it will happen if you let it go! Create it, dream it, wish it, be specific and let it go. Have trust and do the things you need to do to make it happen! Once you’ve let it go, get on with your life. Patience is not about sitting around. It takes strength and sometimes a lot of energy.

Don’t patiently wait for the right time! There will never be a ‘right time’ or ‘more time’. If you are patiently waiting for things (or someone else) to change clear out the expectation that those things will change. There are things that need patience and some of them take a lot of strength but expecting something to change that is not within your immediate control is a waste of energy.

Patience is not passive. It takes inner strength, trust, faith and energy. It also takes a bit of gentleness toward yourself and others. Think of it this way, if you want to get to the top of the mountain do you stand at the trailhead patiently wishing to reach it or do you start hiking to the top? Have patience my friends but by all means…keep moving and don’t miss a new opportunity while you are waiting!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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