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If you’re stressed out or singing the holiday blues these days you are not alone.

This time of year it’s common for people to feel lonely, isolated, stressed out or sad.

Here are 6 ways to shift the holiday blues so you can experience the season with JOY!

1. Disconnect

Social media is a wonderful place to connect but the fact is, not everything you see is real. I call it “the face of Facebook”. Everyone is ‘blessed’, ‘grateful’, having an amazing time, happy and joyful. Of course that’s true for some but everyone is human, has challenges, bad days and situations they don’t share. On the flip side there are rants, judgement, anger and downright nastiness. Although we think we are “connected” we are, in fact, disconnected from ourselves. Disconnect from the illusions and the energy on social media that may be affecting you more than you account for and re-connect with yourself.

2. Meditate

Take 5 or 10 minutes (at the very least) to simply breathe, feel your connection with the earth and your energy flow. Check in with yourself. Reconnect with YOU. Daily meditation during the holidays has a cumulative effect. The more you find time to meditate, the smoother your day will be. You could even take it one step farther and actually set the energy of the holidays for yourself. While in meditation, decide what energy vibration you’d like to experience for a particular day and “set” that day. In fact, try doing it today! Set the energy you’d like to experience for today and see what happens. Call it a practice day and we all know, practice makes perfect.

3. Manage Expectations

There is a lot of pressure during the holiday season. We are expected to find the perfect gift, act a certain way, be somewhere on time, be nice etc. There are a plethora of expectations we are supposed to meet and those expectations from others (and the expectations we have for ourselves) put more pressure on us. How you choose to take part in the holidays is totally up to you. To manage expectations check in with yourself and see what YOU need. If you find yourself responding, going to every party, caving to peer pressure to eat drink and be merry when you don’t feel like it, check in with yourself and just notice if you’re answering to the expectations of others or putting undo pressure on yourself with your own expectations.

4. Release the Ghosts of Holidays Past

The holidays can be a challenging, sad and lonely time of year often times because of holidays past. It is inevitable we will be missing a loved one, stressed out by something that happened and remembering fondly, or not so fondly, holidays long past. When holiday memories come up, acknowledge and embrace them. Notice the feeling that accompanies the memory and acknowledge that too. Once you’ve acknowledged the memory allow it to be released. Release the ghosts of holidays past so you are free and have access to all your energy to create beautiful holiday magic in the present.

5. Let Family be Family

Even the happiest of families has its moments. Someone, whether consciously or unconsciously, might invalidate you, compete with you, boss you around or simply push your buttons. Take a breath and find some neutrality. If things get ugly, meet the situation by taking a deep breath, checking in with yourself and remembering they are engaging you because of their own “stuff”. You don’t need to challenge, fight with, prove yourself or engage them. Your neutrality is you taking the “high road” and helps to defuse the situation. You know that saying “peace on earth, good will towards men”? Why not extend a little of that towards family?

6. Find your Magic and JOY!

Connect with your own unique (and powerful) vibrations of magic and joy. Allow the magic and joy to flow through you. Create magical connections and situations. Don’t simply respond to an invitation, do those things that bring YOU joy and are not simply obligations to family and friends. There is a magical, beautiful world out there filled with joy. Allow yours to flow and surround yourself with it.

During the stressful holiday season reconnect with YOU. Take time to breathe. Manage expectations. Allow others to be where they are. Release the ghosts that haunt you. Connect with those you love who may or may not be family and plan a little holiday magic! Sometimes all it takes is to get up close and personal with yourself and others. Cheers to JOY and Magic!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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“It’s not only moving that creates new starting points. Sometimes all it takes is a subtle shift in perspective, an opening of the mind, an intentional pause and reset, or a new route to start to see new options and new possibilities.”~Kristin Armstrong

Today I’m doing a much-needed “energy reorganiziation”. Won’t you join me in creating a new starting point for yourself? Let’s take pause, reset and open our hearts and minds to new possibilities!

As you may or may not know in addition to clairvoyant healing work I’m a Real Estate Broker . Yesterday I closed a real estate deal that took a more than 10 months to complete. Once the transaction was officially ‘closed’ a wave of relief washed over me and it felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. It was at that very moment I realized how much of my energy I didn’t have access to because it was inextricably tied up in the deal.

What happened in those 10 months is a perfect example of what happens when we resist and try to control or heal those who are not only committed to holding on (not letting go), but choose to punish and blame everyone else in the process without taking any responsibility.

Here is a brief timeline of events. Put the 2 flat on the market in February and basically sold it in 7 days. Gave tenant legal notice to vacate even though at that point he didn’t have a lease. Although the tenant initially agreed to move prior to closing in March, he decided to stop paying rent and stay (as a squatter). Due to the tenant using the already lengthy system to extend his holdover it took more than 8 painful months (in court) to evict him.

Once the tenant was evicted, the buyer chose to punish the seller by not communicating for another month. Apparently she was “mad” it took so long to evict the tenant. (Eviction time-frames are up to the courts and totally out of the sellers control.) After finally establishing communication, the buyer cancelled the deal. The crazy part is the seller repeatedly offered to let her out of the transaction yet she decided to move forward until our side was ready to close.

There were challenges and lessons in patience at every turn. I realized that for 10 plus months a lot of my energy was caught up in healing the seller, anger at the tenant for not leaving and abusing what is clearly a broken eviction process and frustration with a manipulative buyer who ignored attempts to communicate.

Yes I was angry, impatient, frustrated and in resistance. So much for my zen, peaceful self!

While in the middle of it, I recognized my frustration, anger etc however I did not realize how much of my energy was tied up. This is very common and most times it takes a step away to finally see it. Once it’s seen we have the opportunity to do a little energy reorganizing; including releasing and calling back energy.

For my reorganization, I’m going to call back all the energy that’s still caught up in the deal. I’m going to look at what else or who else I am still healing. I will look to see where I’m angry at not being able to control circumstances beyond my control. I will ask the questions what am I holding on to and/or how am I using the “system” to rationalize my actions? Am I trying to manipulate and control because I’m frustrated?

When you use your experiences to ask questions, you instantly create a shift in your perspective by making it more neutral. You take ownership through acceptance. Looking at yourself first allows you to understand where others might be coming from. It allows you to forgive others for their actions and to forgive yourself for your RE-actions. It allows you to release the energy and pictures that caused you to try and control people or events and go into resistance.

Is there something or someone in your life that’s taking up your energy? Are you in resistance? Are you healing, punishing or blaming others? Wouldn’t you like your energy back so you have more to create with? If so, do a little reorganizing around yourself!

It’s time to create a new starting point, take pause, reset, and open our hearts and minds to new possibilities!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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