How to meditate

How to Meditate Effectively: Hint it’s not about emptying your mind!

How to meditate“Meditation is the tongue of the soul and the language of our spirit.”~Jeremy Taylor

There are many different types of meditation and choosing which technique(s) you prefer is personal.

Some may prefer meditating sitting cross-legged on the floor, while others might choose to meditate standing on their heads

Sitting in a chair with feet flat on the floor is my preference (and what I teach) but I also tend to incorporate other techniques depending on where I am or what I’m doing.

There is no right or wrong way to meditate but there IS a common thread and that thread is going within, connecting more deeply with ourselves and mastering the ability to calm the mind, and acknowledge the magic of our spirit.

It’s a Shift of Focus and Perspective.

There are a lot of meditation techniques which subscribe to “emptying your mind” but have you ever really tried to do that? It’s like telling someone don’t think about a pink elephant. What’s the first thing you did when I said that? You probably smiled and thought of a pink elephant!

“If we know the divine art of concentration, if we know the divine art of meditation, if we know the divine art of contemplation, easily and consciously we can unite the inner world and the outer world.”~Sri Chinmoy

What if emptying your mind does not enter into the equation? What if meditation was less about a silent void and more about shifting your focus inward to connect with that magical, mystical part of you and you are welcoming yourself back home? Meditation really is the language of spirit; the divine art of uniting our inner and outer worlds.

Shifting your focus by turning your attention inward allows you to take a step back from those outer circumstances that often consume the mind while in the middle of experiencing them. As you bring your attention back to you, you “remind” yourself you are not your circumstances. You remind yourself you are a divine, infinite spirit and in doing so, your perspective will change.

What do you do with all those “thoughts”?

The simple answer to that question is let them be there. If you resist the thoughts that come up I guarantee they will stay in your head. Meditation is not about “pushing away” or “trying”. Turn your attention within and from a neutral place, notice the thoughts that come up for you. The mind is a wonderful thing and the moment you stop trying to solve or fix the thoughts in your head is the moment you can release them and fill up with the magic that is you.

When you stop trying to control your thoughts, or anything else for that matter, you are giving yourself a break from “managing” those things you really don’t have any control over, there is a release and, more than likely, a sense of relief. Meditating effectively has less to do with blank thoughts and more to do with the divine art of non-resistance.

Caution! Meditation causes an awakening. 

“Your greatest awakening comes, when you are aware about your infinite nature.”~Amit Ray

As you journey within you become more aware of your divine and infinite nature. You begin to unravel and let go of untruths or negative beliefs (programming)  you may have held about yourself and others. You begin to see the “bigger picture.” You awaken and begin increasing your awareness of what is you and what is not. You awaken to truth.

Why the caution? The caution is because once you start to see the truth you can’t “un-see” it. If you truly want to meditate effectively you must face (and own) what comes up for you. This is not always an easy thing to do but in doing so, you are choosing YOU. You are choosing to uncover and discover YOU. You increase your awareness of yourself and others.

“Half an hour’s meditation each day is essential, except when you are busy. Then a full hour is needed.”~Saint Francis de Sales

Meditating effectively comes down to choosing to meditate. It’s about allowing your thoughts to “be”. It’s about release. It’s about owning and connecting with your magical, and infinite spirit. It’s about stepping out of your circumstances into your own personal and lovely inner sanctuary. It’s about grounding into your abilities and the miracle that is YOU. Welcome yourself back home.~Shine Your Light Debbie

Ready to begin a meditation practice or enjoy a guided meditation? CLICK HERE for meditations currently on my website or email me at and I’ll send you a FREE stress reducing meditation.

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When Life Asks You Questions….

If you've got questions, you've got the answers!“The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge.“~Thomas Berger

As human beings we are full of wonder and curiosity. We ask questions, life asks questions of us, and there really is an art to asking the right ones. How can we find the answers if we don’t know which questions to ask?

Life asks you questions every day in answer to your questions and although this leads to more questions, those questions will point you in the direction of the “right” questions and eventually the answers.

You May Be Asking the Wrong Question…

If there are answers you’ve been seeking that don’t seem to come you are asking the wrong question. It is also possible the answers might be right in front of you in the form of more questions. More questions may indeed BE the answer! There really aren’t “wrong” questions but if you’ve been looking for an answer and you keep asking the SAME question, try changing it up by asking a different question. That said, life asks you questions and if you’re running about looking for an answer to the wrong question you are not paying attention to what your life is asking. It may be that life is answering your question by asking you to explore your inner sanctum.

You ARE Receiving the Answer to WHY… 

It’s important to note that the universe responds to your questions exactly as you ask them. Each time you ask WHY this or that is happening (or not happening) your answer will almost always come back to you with the same situation you’re asking about until you finally decide to “see” the answer you’re already receiving. The next time you ask WHY and you find yourself stuck in a repeating pattern of the same situation, change the question to “what am I learning or need to learn from this experience?”

Ask what (or whom) you need to let go of to move forward. Ask for help releasing the limits placed upon you. Ask to be shown the truth. You can also, and this is profound, ask for guidance to direct you to the real question.

“I’m always asking questions – not to find ‘answers,’ but to see where the questions lead. Dead ends sometimes? That’s fine. New directions? Interesting. Great insights? Over-ambitious. A glimpse here and there? Perfect.“~Lesley Hazleton

What if it’s NOT about finding THE answer but being guided toward growth and expansion as a way of answering life’s questions? What if you are being pointed in a new direction? What if there are great insights within the questions? What if the answers lie not in finding an actual answer but leading you to more detailed and direct questions?

If you’ve got the questions, you’ve got the answers! When life asks you questions, LISTEN.  Step up to the plate and answer from your heart. If the questions lead to more questions, go with the flow. As spiritual beings we came here to learn and to learn we must continue to ask questions. We are curious by nature and it is our questions about life and love and living that keep us vibrant and alive.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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