Creating change in your life

“Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.”~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

There is power and magic in believing but this can also be a double-edged sword. Believing can also keep us stuck or in lower vibrations depending on what it is we believe.

As we move towards healing ourselves, one of the things we want to really get clear on is which of our beliefs are not really ours. How much of what we believe to be true about ourselves is energy, pictures or programming that came from others? If we believe what we’ve been told is true, it is possible we are taking on someone else’s energy as our truth.

Where your beliefs came from doesn’t matter as much as the discovery of what is yours and what is not. Maybe someone once said you weren’t good enough. Maybe someone once said you were too fat, or too thin or called you ugly. Maybe you were so invalidated by someone, it affected your self-esteem. What you were told might be so deeply engrained that you’re no longer sure what is yours and what is not.

As you work towards finding your own truth, you unwind these beliefs or lies. It is then you begin to see yourself differently and, often, more clearly. Self-esteem and self-worth shift in a big way. When you truly believe in yourself magic not only can happen, it WILL happen!

If you have enough people sitting around telling you you’re wonderful, then you start believing you’re fabulous, then someone tells you you stink and you believe that too!”~Angelina Jolie

What we believe about ourselves is exactly how we will be. It’s also how others perceive us. This is why it’s so important to deconstruct our beliefs and make separation with that which is not ours. For instance, if deep down we believe we aren’t good enough, no matter what we do, we won’t connect with it as being good enough. The sad part is, until we release the belief we decided was true, no matter what others tell us or how much validation we receive, it will never be good enough because we believed someone else instead of listening to, feeling or connecting with our own truth.

There’s also an interesting dynamic where someone will tell you exactly how they feel about themselves. Listen to them! If someone tells you they are a “monster” or they are inadequate, or they don’t feel anything they do is good enough, no matter how bright their spirit, believe that what they are telling you is what they believe about themselves even if you see them differently. In essence, they are voicing the negative beliefs they hold about themselves and “feeding” the belief. The belief grows and is strengthened until eventually they BECOME what and who they tell people they are.

Seeing, feeling, thinking, believing – these are the stages of how we change our style on the outside and our self-image on the inside.
Stacy London

Personally I like to “believe” we all want to heal and work on ourselves at some level but if someone continually tells me what a monster they are, or they are not good enough, I’m going to have to believe them until they decide to change that belief or, of course, they ask for help changing it. How we feel and speak about ourselves is critical to our healing.

To be clear, I’m not talking about inflating egos, judging or conceit here. That’s for a different blog. This is food for thought so you can tune in more with yourself. Here are a few questions you can ask….

How do you speak about yourself to others? What do you believe about yourself that no matter how much someone tries to convince you otherwise you still feel bad or wrong deep down inside? Do you often not feel good enough or worthy enough?

The answers to those questions might very well lead you to a healing if you choose to release what is not yours and begin to connect with the magic that is! How will you know if it’s yours? Well, it feels…magical, joyful and more than that, it feels like YOU!

Great and magical things can happen when we live from a place of truth. Let go of being the person others told you you were and embrace the person you KNOW you are! “Magic is believing in yourself.” Bring in the sparkle and allow yourself to shine from the inside out!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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This is a guest post by Salvatore Sciacca.

“I know. I thought you are supposed to make lemonade when life gives you lemons. But then again most people are too busy reacting to the fact that life has given them lemons instead of cream puffs, gold coins or manna from heaven for that matter.

So let’s start by discussing acceptance before we can actually discuss the recipe for Limoncello.

Acceptance

Acceptance is a critical part of life’s journey especially when it comes to transforming one’s life. If you are not willing to accept the situation at hand, it will be virtually impossible to make a sound and healthy decision on how to close the chapter that represents your old self and open a new one representing your new and improved self.

For example, when I was younger, I thought that I would NEVER get divorced once I got married. I was raised as a devout Catholic and divorce was instilled in me as a major taboo and “NO NO”. And as a result, while I was growing up, I thought that people who were married and divorced were failures. I even thought my 1st marriage counselor who was a Jewish Rabbi on his 3rd marriage was not only a complete failure but totally unqualified to offer marriage counseling advice.

Fast forward to today, I have completed changed my perspective and appreciation for people. For starters, I’m now divorced twice and actually believe that “three’s a charm”. I also have a new found appreciation for people who are divorced as I have gone through the shame, guilt and humiliation that is often associated with the process. And I now think my former Jewish marriage counsel was probably highly qualified to help distressed marital relationships because of his experiences.

And I now wake up in the morning knowing that I am not only OKAY but that I now feel better than I have ever felt about myself because I have learned to accept my failed marriages of the past. The irony of the situation is that I probably would have never gotten to this state of greater well being and consciousness had I not gone through the 2 previous marriages.

So Then How Do You Make Limoncello?

My 2 previous marriages gave me more lemons that I could have ever imagined. And trust me when I say this, I like lemonade but am NOT that crazy about it. But many years ago, my cousin Tony invited me over to make Grappa with him which is a main ingredient to Limoncello. In order to make Grappa, you literally transform grape skins into a refined high content alcoholic after dinner drink that Italians have made famous.

Now one of the MOST important steps while making Grappa is the purification process. During this step, the fermented liquid is run through a distillation process that purifies the liquid and leaves the precious Grappa byproduct. This is a very painstaking process and takes quite a bit of time to go through all the steps. Once the Grappa is created, the Limoncello is made by essentially soaking a hand full of lemons in Grappa and sugar for a few weeks.

With this Limoncello making experience, I have come to realize that Limoncello making is symbolic of my life’s journey. I have come to realize how important it is to go through my own purification process which is helping me let go of the past and is helping me shed the impurities that have held me back over so many years of my life. Had I simply squeezed a handful of lemons into a cup and added a few tablespoons of sugar, I would have never gotten to where I am at today.

Summary

Life is not only about turning unwanted lemons into Limoncello but it’s also about creating something more magnificent than you could have ever possibly imagined. And that is what is the most beautiful part of about getting dealt a handful of unwanted lemons.”

About the Author:

Salvatore J. Sciacca aka “Condoboss” is one of the nation’s leading experts in the community property management industry. He is also the President and Founder of Chicago Property Services, Chicago’s #1 community property management company specializing in management and operations of condos/townhomes/HOA’s of 100 units and under.

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