Letting Go

Grief, Sadness and Fear are a Natural Part of Letting Go

Letting Go“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”~Washington Irving

I often get asked after deep reading/healing sessions if it’s “normal” to experience grief, deep sadness and fear. My answer is always the same…yes. The truth is that grief, sadness and fear are a very normal and natural part of the letting go process.

Those emotions may come up only for a moment or, if you’re releasing (letting go) of energies, beliefs, a relationship or a dream you’ve held on to for a long time, it may take some time and a growth period for the process to fully integrate. Everyone experiences letting go in a  different way and each experience will differ with each release.

Letting Go is a Process…

For whatever reason you decide to let go, be it a decision you made consciously by design or out of necessity, the moment you make the choice to let go, various emotions start to come up. Emotions are the body’s way of communicating with you and although you can clear energy instantly in spirit, the body needs time to adjust. It’s important to remember your body needs time to heal in “real-time” and letting go is a process not an event. Allow your body to process whatever emotions come up for you. Letting go can be a major life changing experience and just like grieving a loved one who has transitioned, you are grieving for the self you are leaving behind.

There’s no shame in tears!

Crying is one of the ways to cleanse, release energy and process emotions. It is your body’s natural response to overwhelming emotion.  There is no shame in crying! In fact there’s nothing better than a good cry to make you feel better.  If you feel like crying, go ahead and do so. Allow your emotions to come up. Really FEEL them. Any time you try to “control” what you’re feeling, you’re either in resistance or there’s an energy (usually someone else’s) blocking the cleansing process.

Stay With It!

When we experience overwhelming emotion the tendency is to push it away, not feel it, stop ourselves from crying. Perhaps you were told crying is a sign of weakness? Perhaps you were not allowed to cry. the ability to “be” with our emotions and just ‘let them be’ by acknowledging we are indeed feeling an intense emotion, is the first step towards letting go because we’re not in resistance.

Letting go is not giving up nor giving in! Sometimes staying with it means we have to let go of other emotions like shame, pride and ego. Other times we have to let go of feeling like a failure or trying to control and bend a situation so it fits what we want. No matter what comes up, stay with and acknowledge it because that is when you will be able to release and let go.

Grief, sadness and fear are part of the natural letting go process. It is how you handle those emotions that make the difference in how quickly you will process and move through the energy. Allow your emotions to come up, be with them, acknowledge them and then gently release. Recognize that what you are feeling is a natural part of the growth period and don’t resist. It’ll do your body good. ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra Taitel is a gifted Clairvoyant Visionary, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

Letting go is not about accepting defeat

Letting Go Isn’t About Accepting Defeat….

Letting go is not about accepting defeatHave you ever tried to let go and found yourself stuck in an endless loop of blame or continually asking “why, why, why” then wondering why you’re having difficulty letting go?

If you’re looking to make sense of things or waiting for an apology it simply may not happen. The fact is, it may never make sense and you may never get the apology you deserve.

Why is it so hard to let some things (or people) go?

Letting go has absolutely nothing to do with accepting defeat. It has nothing to do with failing. It’s difficult to let go when you are in resistance and if you truly break it down, trying to make sense of something is a form of resistance. Waiting for an apology or the truth or waiting for anything else you are waiting for, keeps you stuck waiting.

Maybe it’s time to open your heart, mind and soul to the lesson learned. Maybe it’s time to release the resistance and live again. You do have a choice in how you allow people to treat you. Maybe it’s time you forgive and love yourself.

Maybe it’s time to connect with God’s love. A love that “will bring people into your life that will love you, respect you, fight for you, show gratitude for your love and want to be a part of your life mission.”

“You might not get the apology you deserve. You might not get answers to explain the actions of others. You might not get truth that makes sense to you. You might not get people to understand what you went through because of them. You might not get communication.

You might not get maturity. You might not get mercy or even common decency. You might not get respect or the chance to explain your side of the story. However, you do get to choose how people treat you. God loves you enough to bring people into your life who won’t hurt you, abuse you, betray you, lie and gossip about you, psycho analyze you, break your heart or make you an option or choice.

He will bring people into your life that will love you, respect you, fight for you, show gratitude for your love and want to be a part of your life mission. The best part of this is you don’t have to convince them of your worth. They want to be there. They know your value. They know your struggles. They are in touch with their own faults and understand you struggle just like everyone else.

They won’t hold you to a greater standard then they do themselves. They care about you and don’t want to see you cry, feel discouraged or give up on this life. When you know the power of who you are and what you have to accomplish you will scratch your head in disbelief that you allowed other people to dictate who you are based on little knowledge of what God knows about you and your life purpose. Letting go isn’t about accepting defeat or acknowledging you were wrong. Sometimes letting go is realizing that God has something better in store for you.” ~Shannon L. Alder

“Sometimes letting go is realizing that God has something better in store for you.” Open your heart, mind and soul to that something better!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Debra is a gifted Clairvoyant Reader, Energy Healer, Author, and Intuitive Business Consultant providing insight and guidance to clients around the world. In addition to her clairvoyant readings, business consulting and healing work Debra also offers one to one personal empowerment sessions and leads meditation workshops to help people heal and awaken to their own truth and spiritual gifts.

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New Moon, Solar Eclipse, New Beginnings!

Solar Eclipses are profound turning points that bring endings, new beginnings, and major changes.

New moons are all about making a “clean sweep” and creating new opportunities.

Separately these cosmic events pack a powerful punch. When they come together, we’re in for a few life-altering, power packed days!

Ready or not, eclipses have the power to literally ‘eclipse out’ things in your life that no longer serve you. In addition to the instant release, what you want and need is going to come crashing into your awareness with clarity. You can welcome these changes or resist them.

If you welcome the energy and rise to the challenges presented, you will maximize your potential to gently let go of what’s not working, live life on your own terms and flourish; You free up your valuable time and energy sooner. If you resist the challenges, the process could be painful and it’s going to take you a lot longer to move through them.

Everyone is being affected by this cosmic event so you are not alone! While I am not an astrologer I do read energy and in the days leading up to this eclipse I’ve been contacted by many people who are experiencing disturbing dreams, noticing unfounded fears and experiencing seemingly abrupt awakenings. “Instant awareness” can be a bit unnerving and disconcerting.

Since eclipses bring about endings and beginnings you may find clarity about past events. The answers you seek and those people or situations which are not in alignment with your path will become obvious. An eclipse will magnify and, in essence, show you the ‘cracks’ (and what seeped into those cracks) in your foundation.

As you find clarity during this powerful time you may step into your power and decide to embark upon a new path. Be aware that with every “step up” comes letting go and it may feel like you are grieving. This is a natural part of the process so embrace it and be where you are.

One more aspect to be aware of is Mercury begins its retrograde cycle in a few days. We are already feeling the effects of the slow down. There’s no better time for reflection and release. Resolve issues and end past agreements with love and forgiveness for yourself and others. Allow the powerful one two punch of the new moon and solar eclipse to give you strength and propel you into your new beginning!

Clarity is not only about seeing what has passed so you can resolve past issues. It is about seeing with clarity those things you wish to create. Having a clear picture of where you want to go and what you want to do helps you build a foundation for the future and there is no better time than today to harness the power of the eclipse to help you do that!

There are many more astrological aspects to this eclipse in Virgo but I’ll leave those to the wonderful star gazers and astrologers out there. The information presented is for you to know that eclipses cause abrupt awakenings and transformations. Take comfort in knowing the new moon helps you make a “clean sweep” and coupled with the eclipse, you are being offered the opportunity to create new beginnings.

Use today’s powerful conjunction of the new moon solar eclipse in Virgo to fling open new doors. Embrace and enjoy your clarity. Welcome new opportunities and beautiful new beginnings!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Limoncello And Transform Your Life

When life gives you lemonsThis is a guest post by Salvatore Sciacca. 

“I know. I thought you are supposed to make lemonade when life gives you lemons. But then again most people are too busy reacting to the fact that life has given them lemons instead of cream puffs, gold coins or manna from heaven for that matter.

So let’s start by discussing acceptance before we can actually discuss the recipe for Limoncello.


Acceptance is a critical part of life’s journey especially when it comes to transforming one’s life. If you are not willing to accept the situation at hand, it will be virtually impossible to make a sound and healthy decision on how to close the chapter that represents your old self and open a new one representing your new and improved self.

For example, when I was younger, I thought that I would NEVER get divorced once I got married. I was raised as a devout Catholic and divorce was instilled in me as a major taboo and “NO NO”. And as a result, while I was growing up, I thought that people who were married and divorced were failures. I even thought my 1st marriage counselor who was a Jewish Rabbi on his 3rd marriage was not only a complete failure but totally unqualified to offer marriage counseling advice.

Fast forward to today, I have completed changed my perspective and appreciation for people. For starters, I’m now divorced twice and actually believe that “three’s a charm”. I also have a new found appreciation for people who are divorced as I have gone through the shame, guilt and humiliation that is often associated with the process. And I now think my former Jewish marriage counsel was probably highly qualified to help distressed marital relationships because of his experiences.

And I now wake up in the morning knowing that I am not only OKAY but that I now feel better than I have ever felt about myself because I have learned to accept my failed marriages of the past. The irony of the situation is that I probably would have never gotten to this state of greater well being and consciousness had I not gone through the 2 previous marriages.

So Then How Do You Make Limoncello?

My 2 previous marriages gave me more lemons that I could have ever imagined. And trust me when I say this, I like lemonade but am NOT that crazy about it. But many years ago, my cousin Tony invited me over to make Grappa with him which is a main ingredient to Limoncello. In order to make Grappa, you literally transform grape skins into a refined high content alcoholic after dinner drink that Italians have made famous.

Now one of the MOST important steps while making Grappa is the purification process. During this step, the fermented liquid is run through a distillation process that purifies the liquid and leaves the precious Grappa byproduct. This is a very painstaking process and takes quite a bit of time to go through all the steps. Once the Grappa is created, the Limoncello is made by essentially soaking a hand full of lemons in Grappa and sugar for a few weeks.

With this Limoncello making experience, I have come to realize that Limoncello making is symbolic of my life’s journey. I have come to realize how important it is to go through my own purification process which is helping me let go of the past and is helping me shed the impurities that have held me back over so many years of my life. Had I simply squeezed a handful of lemons into a cup and added a few tablespoons of sugar, I would have never gotten to where I am at today.


Life is not only about turning unwanted lemons into Limoncello but it’s also about creating something more magnificent than you could have ever possibly imagined. And that is what is the most beautiful part of about getting dealt a handful of unwanted lemons.”

About the Author:

Salvatore J. Sciacca aka “Condoboss” is one of the nation’s leading experts in the community property management industry. He is also the President and Founder of Chicago Property Services, Chicago’s #1 community property management company specializing in management and operations of condos/townhomes/HOA’s of 100 units and under.

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When Your Spirit is Willing are You?

Is there an easier way?Is there something you’ve wanted your whole life? Are you in effort yet know the thing you want is just outside of your grasp?

Have you ever wondered if there’s an easier way to energetically set a series of events in motion so you get the very thing you’ve wanted?

What if I told you that getting what you want is as simple as letting go of what you don’t have. Perhaps all that wanting, dreaming and not having is getting in the way of your receiving, manifesting and having.

All of us, me included, have something we’ve always dreamed of having. We try to “figure out” how to get it and in the figuring out, we often discover we have to “let go” of something. It could be an energy or past experience but what if the real answer lies in letting go of our situation in the present?

We’re constantly cleaning out, trying to think positively and removing negativity but when you still find yourself in the same place of “wanting” this or that,  maybe it’s time to look deep inside your soul to see what you are ready, willing and able to let go of!

Are you willing to let go of….

  • Are you willing to let go of being single to bring in the relationship of your dreams?
  • Are you willing to let go of being broke so you can bring in money?
  • Are you willing to let go of wanting and start having?
  • Are you willing to let go of self-loathing and love yourself?
  • Are you willing to let go of what you think you know to grow and expand your horizons?
  • Are you willing to let go of your past and acknowledge who you are now?
  • Are you willing to let go of being overweight so you can  lose the weight?
  • Are you willing to let go of perfection and begin to accept imperfection as a beautiful part of being human?
  • Are you willing to let go of who you think you are to discover who you really are?

Are you willing to let go of all you’ve ever known and experienced for a new adventure?

Believe it or not you may be all too comfortable wanting.  After all, what would you have to focus on if you actually succeeded in getting what you want? The reason it’s difficult to let go of where we are is because we tend to give in to fear. We’re afraid of failure, defeat or that somehow it will be taken away and we will once again be in the same place we were.

Letting go is a process not an event and if there’s something you seek or you’ve wanted all your life perhaps the discovery lies in exploring if you are willing to let go of your present circumstances. Your spirit is willing!  How do I know your spirit is willing? Because you are dreaming of something more!

What if the easier way is letting go of the situation you’ve been trying to change for so long?  What if the easier way includes accepting where you are so you can finally let it go? Spirit is a part of you. It is the divine part of you that knows what you need. You have the ability to change your situation when you open up to what it is you really need to let go of. When the spirit is willing…go with it! ~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Having trouble letting go? LET IT BE!

PurpleFlower“The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday.”~Steve Maraboli

Have you ever had trouble clearing an energy or letting something or someone go? If so, you are not alone!  My email box is filled almost daily with letters from clients and colleagues alike asking why it’s so hard to let go of certain things. Whether it is an emotion, an energy, a memory or a person sometimes we focus so much on letting go and pushing it out we forget what’s holding it there in the first place; Resistance and control.

Resistance in the form of not wanting it there and “working” to move it out; Control in the form of trying to control the energy, the outcome or the emotion that comes along with having to look at whatever it is you want to let go of. You may not even realize resistance or control is in play but if you can’t let go of something you can be sure there is. It’s important to remember that if you can’t let go you are holding on and what you hold on to takes up space and keeps you stuck. There are several steps you can take to clear the energy, pictures or programming taking up space and the first step is….


Let the energy be and let yourself be. Give yourself the space to feel what you feel and see what you see. Many of our memories are full of pain or fear. In real life if you don’t want to see something you can scrunch your eyes tightly shut. When you are trying to clear energy you must face all of it and it will, not maybe, it WILL bring up a lot of emotion. Give yourself space and give the memory, picture or energy a space to be. Just notice it. See it for what it is, acknowledge it, forgive yourself for your part in it, give it a space then….

STOP thinking of it as “letting go” and start thinking of it as RELEASE!

I admit in the past I’ve been a big proponent of letting go but in a recent workshop I attended I learned and experienced first hand how easy it is to clear energy when you shift from ” letting go” of energy to “releasing” it. This subtle shift in how one thinks of it is not only quite powerful but simple. Thinking of clearing as a release allows it to be. Release sets the energy free. Release sets YOU free!

During the workshop I pictured everything I was ready to clear as butterflies. When I released those butterflies and watched them fly away it brought me a sense of joy. Whatever image you choose to use to help you clear, put the energy and pictures into those images and release them to free up more space in your world.

Letting it BE and Releasing puts YOU in control!

Isn’t it interesting how much time and energy we spend trying to control what is outside of our control? Isn’t it interesting how much time and energy we spend trying to bully or blame or push out the energy in our space? If you’re struggling to let go of something keep in mind you are trying to control it and it’s taking up space; Space you no longer have  available for creating. The more you struggle the more power it has over you! Letting an energy be is very much like saying “Hey I see you there and you have no power over me!” Letting it be allows you to take ownership of the energy you’ve held on to and therefore gives you the freedom and, in essence, the power to release it!

“Speaking words of Wisdom LET IT BE…”

As Paul McCartney sang “speaking words of wisdom, let it be…” Listen and read the words to that song in the video below. They are a true and beautiful reminder of how “letting it be” helps in the healing process. Let it be, release it and create more space for YOU to be YOU!~Shine Your Light 

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Earth Day: Going Green Every Day

Officially Earth Day is on April 22nd and we are dedicated to celebrating the earth, cleaning up and raising awareness of what we can do to honor and care for our most valuable resources. As we show our appreciation for the Earth and our environment we “go green” to create an environmentally sustainable society to lessen our impact of living on this beautiful planet.

As we celebrate the earth it serves as a reminder that GOING GREEN is not only for the EARTH! You are OF and connected TO the earth. YOU are a valuable resource on this planet and you also have access to inner resources which are just as valuable.  As you honor our beautiful mother earth, do you honor yourself as a valuable resource as well?

By honoring yourself, connecting with the earth and turning your attention within you are becoming more aware of who you really are. Your most valuable resource is your energy flow and when you allow your valuable energy to flow through you (letting go of all that is not) you create tremendous growth and change for yourself. The more often you do this, the more you are growing and expanding your awareness. Did you know that when you are creating change and growth in your life, your AURA actually turns GREEN!

It’s true! Much like the trees begin to bud in the spring, you are budding with new growth; And with this new growth comes a change in the landscape! So are you GOING GREEN these days? One way to find out is to ask yourself; How have you been treating your body, spiritual and physical environments? Just as you honor the earth, you must honor your own environments.

Take a moment to check in with yourself and the space around you.  Are you eating healthy foods, caring for and giving to your body? Are you taking time in your daily life to nurture your spirit by allowing yourself to BE? Is your physical space clean and in order? If you notice things are messy and out-of-place in your physical surroundings it is a sign that your inner world looks the same. If you don’t feel good there is a state of dis-ease. If you find your attention on everything and everybody except YOU it is time to honor and care for yourself.

All the aforementioned are ‘signs’ and indicators that it’s time to do a little clean up. If you have picked up negativity or toxic energy, time to get out the hazardous materials suit and begin cleaning out any waste that may have accumulated. Let go of the garbage you’ve become responsible for carrying around. Your connection with the earth helps you cleanse. If you want to know what it feels like to connect with the earth, focus your attention on your feet and the feel the flow of energy from the earth. Go outside, hug a tree and imagine being connected just as the tree is rooted into the earth.

Once you’ve cleaned things up a bit, it’s time to shine it up! Take a deep breath, bring your attention back to you and feel your connection with the earth. Then allow the biggest, brightest most illuminating sun you can imagine to shine on you! Feel its warmth on your face! Feel the rays permeate every cell in your body! Allow yourself to bud, grow and expand! Honor & celebrate all the natural resources you hold within. YOU ARE your own personal most valuable resource……!

It is time to celebrate and honor the earth. It is time to celebrate and honor YOU! There is only one earth and we must all care for her diligently. There is only one YOU that lives on this beautiful planet we call earth and you must also care diligently for YOU!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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It’s not about what happened; It’s what you hold on to….

Our lives are made up of all the experiences we’ve had to date. How you approach life and your general outlook is based on information gained in the past. How many times have you said “if I knew then what I know now…”? If you did know then what you know now would your choices have changed? Maybe yes, maybe no, but keep in mind that the choices you make now are affected by the energy and pictures of the past that are difficult to let go of.

Why is it so hard to let go?

Whether they are considered positive or negative, many past experiences are ‘super-charged’ with energy. Some of it is yours and some is not. If you’re not sure what I mean try thinking about something that really affected you in the past. When you think about it does your heart beat a little faster or is there a strong emotion that comes along with it? Do you shift uncomfortably in your chair or feel the need to go do something else immediately when you think of it?

If you experience a reaction, no matter what it is, the “picture” in your mind is still “charged” and it’s time to de-energize it so you can clear it. The experience will stay in your memory and in the case of a beautiful moment will still make you smile but your energy will be in the present and there will be more space to have and create many more beautiful moments! In the case of what you consider tragic or negative experiences you bring your energy into present time to create a renewed sense of comfort and safety.

One of the most common things I see in reading sessions is that it’s not the super-charged picture people have trouble letting go of, it’s the resistance. Once you clear the resistance you begin to de-energize the picture in your mind; Then you take your energy back and the letting go becomes effortless. If you are truly in a space of wanting to let go and make separation try focusing on letting go of the resistance instead of the thing you want to let go of. You might be surprised at what you resist and you may even find the resistance isn’t YOURS. Yes, you may actually be resisting someone else’s resistance. Is there someone you’d stop healing if you clear the picture and take back your power and energy?

What did you learn from your experience?

What happened to you happened and what is happening now is happening now. The good, the bad and the ugly are all a part of you but your experiences are not who you are; They are learning experiences which help you grow and expand as spirit. What you hold on to quite possibly colors your decisions in the present and you have a choice not just move on but to learn from the experience, de-energize what keeps you stuck in the past and create more space for yourself. In this year of rapid and great change it’s even more important to be grounded and have your energy with you in the present.

It’s time to let go effortlessly! It’s time to allow difficult memories and pictures from the past to transform into learning experiences. It’s time to give yourself a moment of peace by clearing resistance, forgiving yourself and others. It’s time to let go of what previously defined you. You are spirit and you are learning in a very human way. It’s time to let go of those things that happened in the past and take back your energy and power so you can once again dream in the present to create beautiful future.~Shine Your Light Debbie

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Letting Go is a Process, Not an Event

Letting go in many ways is the same as planting seeds for success. It has its own growth period which, not unlike planting a tulip bulb months in advance takes time to process. It might take hours, days, months and in some cases even years to process the growth you put in motion by even merely thinking of letting go!

There is always a growth period that accompanies letting go so it’s best to be ready for the growth process. It’s not advisable to resist the process as it will take longer if you do. Just be aware that the ‘events’ which occur before you actually let go, while you are letting go and after you’ve already let go are all a part of the natural process of growth and expansion as a being.

You wouldn’t hold on to something if it was causing a great deal of pain would you?

Letting go is difficult because there’s always a reason you held on in the first place. It’s important to get to the root of what you’re really letting go of. Many times the reason it’s so challenging to let go is because of resistance. If you are holding on to painful thoughts, energies or false hopes it’s a good idea to get to the bottom of it. What are you really letting go of? I can tell you with a great deal of certainty that there’s always another reason you have difficulty other than the one you see on the surface. Delving deeper into your psyche and why you hold on to energy not your own more often than not  uncovers more to let go of. All letting go is a process of cause and effect. Once you discover the real cause or reason it changes your perspective and directly affects your life because of the growth period that ensues. Many times it can feel like your whole life has gone topsy turvy.

 If you hold on to something for long enough won’t it turn out the way you want it to?

When you begin to see letting go as a process for growth and not as an event that happens in one fell swoop you will indeed become aware of things you weren’t aware of before. Those things were always there but you might not have been aware of them. If you really get honest with yourself (and it takes a lot of courage to do this) you may find that what you have difficulty letting go of is an expectation or outcome. I see this most often when I work with women letting go of relationships. They just can’t seem to let go of that guy (or gal) they fell madly in love with even though the relationship itself was miserable.

What do you use to fill up the emptiness?

The process and growth that goes along with letting go is different for everyone but there is usually some form of grief in the beginning. Be extra gentle with yourself. When you’ve had an energy taking up space for a long (or even a short) time there is a feeling of emptiness. When what you thought you wanted really isn’t what you wanted, you may have to let go of a dream that no longer applies. Fill up those empty spaces with YOUR ENERGY and new dreams! Your energy feels good to you and having more of your own energy allows you to shift gears, expand as a being and move forward with your life. Letting go and filling up with YOU brings joy and a sense of feeling alive to body and spirit!

Although letting go of energies takes milliseconds, your body needs time to process these spiritual changes and you will experience a new awareness of the growth you’ve probably already been going through. In other words, it starts to make sense. 🙂 In the process of letting go give yourself time to grieve. Allow it to BE a process and not a one time event. Allow the process to happen without resistance or fighting it. Keep in mind you are IN a growth period but you are NOT your growth period. Once the energies have cleared, like the tulip bulbs planted in the cold bare days before winter you will once again feel alive as you experience a beautiful blooming in spring!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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A Lesson on Letting Go

Let go!

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The words ‘letting go’ are thrown about as if it’s an easy thing to do. Letting go is never easy but if you shift your perspective and take time to first clear the energy that might be holding it there the process becomes a lot easier!

Letting go doesn’t mean wiping it clean from your memory banks. It is about is de-energizing an experience and taking back your energy from something you’ve given it up to.  Letting go means freedom for you and whatever (whomever) you’ve held on to. You’ve heard of smothering? Well, holding on tightly feels that way so at the very least breathe!

If you are holding on to a picture or energy, all your energy  is in the “holding on” and you are right in the middle of it. Not letting go takes your valuable energy away from other things like creating. It also takes up space which could be used for bringing in something wonderful. Here are a few tips for letting go…

Clear the effort: If you find yourself in effort “trying” to let go remember there’s a bigger picture. What does the situation represent? What are you or did you learn from it? Is holding on comforting because it’s so familiar? Don’t worry about what you’re actually trying to let go of. Create the intention of letting go of the EFFORT.

Say hello to fear: Let’s face it there’s fear in letting go so while in meditation identify what you are afraid of if you let go. Fear comes up when you don’t feel safe. Grounding & centering brings you into present time and makes your body safe. It also helps to find neutrality; Let go of the wanting to know why or why not.

Clear the resistance: It is common to resist an energy picture or difficult memory. If you find yourself resisting letting go of something in particular, don’t concern yourself with whatever it is. Let go of the resistance. Resistance acts a bit like glue and what you resist persists!

It might not be YOUR energy: If you find yourself trying to solve or fix an energy and it seems impossible to clear no matter what you do, it’s not YOUR energy. You can’t solve or fix energy in your space. Your energy feels good to you. It is comforting and familiar. Once you recognize an energy isn’t yours shift your focus and attention back to you. Ground and simply allow anything that isn’t you to move out.

Ask for help: There is a tendency to isolate when your inner world is in turmoil. This is precisely the time to get out there and make things real. Don’t sit at home swimming in it! Take a meditation class, get an energy healing or get a reading! (I know shameless plug 🙂 )

These are only a few of the things you can do to help in the process of letting go. There is a big bright world of possibilities in both your inner and outer world to experience so GROUND, BREATHE & LET GO of the small piece your holding on to!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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