Overwhelmed? 4 Ways to Give Yourself More Breathing Room

When life gets overwhelmingBreathing Room sometimes we just need more space to breathe and sort it all out. Despite the deadlines, responsibilities and work that needs to be completed, giving ourselves a little more elbow room makes a huge difference.

Giving ourselves more space allows release and forward motion instead of that stuck, and often times, sick feeling from whatever it is that’s become overwhelming.

Giving ourselves more breathing room is simple although sometimes we become obsessed and in effort “trying” to give to ourselves space. Effort doesn’t work. Trying does not work. ALLOWING things to BE works!

There is no mistake that I mentioned “giving to ourselves” several times because it makes a difference when we take time to GIVE TO OURSELVES.

Here are some tried and true ways to give yourself more space and breathing room:

  1. Make a “To Do” list. Sometimes being overwhelmed comes from trying to ‘remember’ all you have to do. The great part of a “To Do’ list is you can check things off the list but you can also add to the list. Keep in mind you don’t have to finish the entire list at once. Prioritize and complete one task at a time. I know this will be difficult for you multi-taskers out there but the more you focus on one task at a time, the less overwhelmed you will feel and little by little I promise you everything will get done.
  2. Step away from Social Media. Also see multi- tasking listed above! I love my social connections as much as you do BUT it’s amazing how easy it is to get sucked in. How often have you been in the middle of something and decide to take a Facebook or Twitter break? If you need a break from the task there is almost always an energy involved. You may have hit an energy that simply needs to be released so take a break FOR YOURSELF. Step away from whatever you’re doing, bring your attention back to you and reconnect with your body. How you may ask? By sitting down and BREATHING! Focus on YOU for a few moments. Notice how you’re feeling and BE with that feeling. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stuck allow that feeling to bubble up and acknowledge it’s there.
  3. Take a Walk. When you change your environment you change your perspective. The important thing here is to notice your surroundings. You’ve heard the saying “stop and smell the roses”? When you’re stuck in your head trying to reconcile the past or worrying about the future AND you’re trying to get other work done it’s time to bring your conscious awareness to the present. No matter how “busy” you are if you’re head is not in the “game” you won’t get much done. If you’re you can go outside to “see” and be a part of nature, great! If you’re in an office stand up, stretch, look around you and acknowledge your physical surroundings. Of course this is a good time to breathe and see #2!
  4. Meditation. There is a Zen adage that says “You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day – unless you’re too busy;then you should sit for an hour.”  Well, what if I told you that one hour of meditation not only gives you breathing room but gives you more time? Turning your attention inward helps increase mental clarity, awareness AND, in essence, gives you more time because you’ll be able to complete your tasks without resisting or feeling overwhelmed. If you don’t have an hour, see #2 and #3. Once you step away, take a moment to ground and connect with your body. Even 5 minutes will help during a busy day. When you take time to care for what’s going on inside you, you’ll be able to more effectively take care of those things outside of you. If you don’t know how to meditate or would like a guided meditation to transform chaos to calm CLICK HERE for a free meditation gift from me to you.

Giving yourself more breathing room is important for your physical, mental and spiritual well-being. The more breathing room you have, the less overwhelming life will be no matter what’s going on. Take time to smell the roses. You’ll be glad you did!~Shine Your Light Debbie

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When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Limoncello And Transform Your Life

When life gives you lemonsThis is a guest post by Salvatore Sciacca. 

“I know. I thought you are supposed to make lemonade when life gives you lemons. But then again most people are too busy reacting to the fact that life has given them lemons instead of cream puffs, gold coins or manna from heaven for that matter.

So let’s start by discussing acceptance before we can actually discuss the recipe for Limoncello.

Acceptance

Acceptance is a critical part of life’s journey especially when it comes to transforming one’s life. If you are not willing to accept the situation at hand, it will be virtually impossible to make a sound and healthy decision on how to close the chapter that represents your old self and open a new one representing your new and improved self.

For example, when I was younger, I thought that I would NEVER get divorced once I got married. I was raised as a devout Catholic and divorce was instilled in me as a major taboo and “NO NO”. And as a result, while I was growing up, I thought that people who were married and divorced were failures. I even thought my 1st marriage counselor who was a Jewish Rabbi on his 3rd marriage was not only a complete failure but totally unqualified to offer marriage counseling advice.

Fast forward to today, I have completed changed my perspective and appreciation for people. For starters, I’m now divorced twice and actually believe that “three’s a charm”. I also have a new found appreciation for people who are divorced as I have gone through the shame, guilt and humiliation that is often associated with the process. And I now think my former Jewish marriage counsel was probably highly qualified to help distressed marital relationships because of his experiences.

And I now wake up in the morning knowing that I am not only OKAY but that I now feel better than I have ever felt about myself because I have learned to accept my failed marriages of the past. The irony of the situation is that I probably would have never gotten to this state of greater well being and consciousness had I not gone through the 2 previous marriages.

So Then How Do You Make Limoncello?

My 2 previous marriages gave me more lemons that I could have ever imagined. And trust me when I say this, I like lemonade but am NOT that crazy about it. But many years ago, my cousin Tony invited me over to make Grappa with him which is a main ingredient to Limoncello. In order to make Grappa, you literally transform grape skins into a refined high content alcoholic after dinner drink that Italians have made famous.

Now one of the MOST important steps while making Grappa is the purification process. During this step, the fermented liquid is run through a distillation process that purifies the liquid and leaves the precious Grappa byproduct. This is a very painstaking process and takes quite a bit of time to go through all the steps. Once the Grappa is created, the Limoncello is made by essentially soaking a hand full of lemons in Grappa and sugar for a few weeks.

With this Limoncello making experience, I have come to realize that Limoncello making is symbolic of my life’s journey. I have come to realize how important it is to go through my own purification process which is helping me let go of the past and is helping me shed the impurities that have held me back over so many years of my life. Had I simply squeezed a handful of lemons into a cup and added a few tablespoons of sugar, I would have never gotten to where I am at today.

Summary

Life is not only about turning unwanted lemons into Limoncello but it’s also about creating something more magnificent than you could have ever possibly imagined. And that is what is the most beautiful part of about getting dealt a handful of unwanted lemons.”

About the Author:

Salvatore J. Sciacca aka “Condoboss” is one of the nation’s leading experts in the community property management industry. He is also the President and Founder of Chicago Property Services, Chicago’s #1 community property management company specializing in management and operations of condos/townhomes/HOA’s of 100 units and under.

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